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Valentine’s Day Gifts For The Man In Your Life Based On How Long You’ve Been Together

So there’s a man in your life. A man you actually really like. No matter how well you know him, it’s always a challenge to figure out what would make the best Valentine’s Day gift for him. If you only recently started seeing each other, you don’t want to terrify him into thinking you already have names picked out for your future three kids. And if you’ve been together for years, you don’t want to give the impression that you are uninterested.

Worrying causes our youthful Latino genes to deteriorate, so leave the stress for something that actually vale la pena because we have the solution below. Here is a breakdown of what to get your man for V-Day based on how long you’ve been together.

— 3 Months

So there’s this cute guy who’s been hanging out in your friends’ group. You started flirting, maybe even texting, so you hope think there’s something there. Get him a gift that lets him know you acknowledge him. Something that says you pay attention to what he likes but not in a crazy, stalkerish way. You don’t even have to present this as a V-Day gift. I would just play it cool, like, “Oh hey, I saw these and I thought you’d like them based on the amount of Tapatío you douse on your pizza.”

6 Months

You didn’t get ghosted. You’ve gone on a few dates and you feel strongly that this is going somewhere and you want to give him something that tells him you enjoy being with him and want to keep this thing (whatever it’s called) going. A shirt that matches his cool, urban style will surprise him and it’s guaranteed to 100% make him smile. Plus, you can plug in a line like you’ve enjoyed your taco dates and can’t wait for more of them.

1 Year

So you made the infamous one year mark. It was terrifying at times trying to guess whether or not you would actually make it. But congrats, you both did it. Now it’s a little more solidified that this is getting serious. You need to step up your gifting game because how disappointed would you be if you get a crummy box of chocolates on V-Day after being with this guy for a year? Get him something that is cheeky while at the same time lets other people know he is happily taken. This shirt does all of that and more.

2-5 Years

By now you might live together (unless you’re like me; I was with my mans for 8 years and still lived at my parent’s, because Latino parents). You spend all your time together, you cook for one another and you do all that cutsie stuff. This will remind him how much you appreciate all these moments… and that you want him to keep cooking for you 😉.

5+ Years

Just when you were starting to think both of you were over it, you can surprise your partner with a super cute gift that is still within budget. This will let him know that no matter how much time passes, he will always be a papi chulo in your eyes.

Anthony Ramos Recalls Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Advice About Not Having To Change How You Speak

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Anthony Ramos Recalls Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Advice About Not Having To Change How You Speak

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The 92nd Academy Awards were filled with unexpected wins and losses. However, the red carpet was home to some of the most memorable moments of the night. One moment that really stood out was Anthony Ramos telling Ryan Seacrest one of the first bits of advice Lin-Manuel Miranda gave him.

Anthony Ramos dazzled on the red carpet at last night’s Academy Awards.

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Ramos and his fiancée Jasmine Cephas Jones stunned on the red carpet with their looks. Ramos and Jones got engaged in December 2018 after knowing each other for three years as costars on the wildly successful “Hamilton.”

During his interview with Ryan Seacrest, Ramos recalled a touching moment he had with Lin-Manuel Miranda.

Seacrest asked the rising star about his time spent working with Miranda and Ramos had a touching story ready to go.

“Lin told me a quote one time,” Ramos told Seacrest. “I cracked a joke and I was like, ‘Ah. That’s kind of hood. I should probably change the way I speak.’ Lin said, ‘Papa, you never need to change the way you speak. You just have to make sure that people understand you.’ I’ll never forget that quote.”

Ramos added about the authenticity Miranda draws from him: “Just be honest. Just be who you are and be honest and he just kind of let me do my thing on set.”

The advice is something so many people of color can relate to and appreciate.

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Whether it is sounding hood like Ramos said or speaking with an accent, our voices have been made to feel less than. Miranda’s advice is something so many people could have used when they were younger. There is nothing more empowering than owning every part of your identity and your voice and accent are part of that. There is nothing wrong with sounding like your background as long as you make sure everyone else can understand you and who you are.

The moment is reminding fans how much they care for Ramos’s and Miranda’s relationship.

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A quick search on the Internet will show you the kind of friendly love between the two entertainers. Miranda has spent time in his own career to uplift the upcoming actor. During the awards ceremony, Miranda called Ramos a movie star giving a nod to the highly anticipated performance by Ramos in the upcoming “In The Heights” film.

Who else is excited to see this bromance grow this year?

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It is these kinds of those friendships that we want more of. Thank you for showing off that Latin excellence while uplifting each other. That’s the kind of energy we need to take into 2020.

READ: Trailer For ‘In The Heights’ Is Finally Here And It Looks Like A Latino Fairytale

Shakira’s Song ‘Whenever, Wherever” Reaches No. 1 After Her Super Bowl Performance But Latinos Have Always Adored Her

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Shakira’s Song ‘Whenever, Wherever” Reaches No. 1 After Her Super Bowl Performance But Latinos Have Always Adored Her

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As the youngest in five, I rarely had the chance to travel alone.

How could I? With a paranoid mom and a closed-off dad, it was hard to ask for permission to venture out on my own. Sure, I had traveled a lot including abroad but I was either always with a family member or close friends. One year, my friend Sandra and I ventured throughout Mexico — a country I had never discovered on my own. When I was younger, I mostly stayed in the state of Nayarit because that’s where my family is from. So I never had a reason, or the courage, to learn more about the surrounding states in Mexico.

That was until my friend Sandra introduced me to a magical city, right in the center of the country.

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She had studied in Queretaro, Mexico, as part of her study-abroad program in college. I felt a little ashamed that someone like me — a proud Mexican Latina — had never been there, let alone any other state outside of Nayarit.

She took me there years later when I was 25 and fell in love with this incredible historic city — and sequentially someone else too.

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One night — at a club — I saw a man, unlike anyone I had ever seen before.

Think of a Mexican version of John F. Kennedy Jr. He was dapper, preppy, and totally hot.

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Completely out of my league too — or so I thought.

I didn’t think I’d ever see him again, but the following night we returned to that same club and there he was, but this time at the table next to ours.

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I coyly started dancing with him because why not? We ended up dancing the entire night together and I felt like I was literally floating.

Being there, in Queretaro, among local Mexicanos, listening to their music — unfiltered and unAmericanized, I had never felt that alive in my life.

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This is when I discovered so much incredible Latin music like FobiaCafe Tacuba and Shakira.

I should rephrase that. I discovered Spanish-speaking Shakira years after she had released her 1998 album “Dónde Están los Ladrones?”

The album catapulted her into a Latin superstar and I was in awe of her rocker chick vibe.

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While I loved my individuality as an alternative Chicana, I sure didn’t embody the independent woman I longed to be.

Even though I expressed a love for Spanish rock music, I was in a lot of ways very shy.

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But Shakira’s album made me feel different.

The song that truly moved me on that album is called “Si te vas.”

At first listen the song comes off as a ballad but it’s much more of a painful rock song that happens to be about a loss of love — as most songs are.

However, in this track, Shakira’s angst is infused throughout it just by the way she vocalizes certain aspects of the words.

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But this is my favorite part:

“Si te vas si te vas si te marchas

Mi cielo se hará gris

Si te vas si te vas ya no tienes

Que venir por mi

Si te vas si te vas y me cambias

Por esa bruja pedazo de cuero

No vuelvas nunca mas, ya no estaré aquí.”

But back to my imaginary love story. His name was Antonio.

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And he was an architect that lived in Queretaro. I was infatuated, to say the least. After our night of dancing, we went on a couple of dates, and one, in particular, that is too steamy to get into.

Soon after I returned to California soon after still on cloud nine.

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But that’s all it took.

I really thought I was in love with this Mexican heartthrob.

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When I returned to my real life, Antonio and I kept in touch.

We emailed, talked on the phone, and in my head, I was already scheming about how to go back to see him.

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I didn’t know how I would go back to Queretaro, but I knew that I had to. What I felt for Antonio was undeniable and I wasn’t going to let anything get in my way.

I didn’t tell anyone about my plan.

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I would just sit in my room — yes, I was a 26-year-old that still lived at home — and listened to Shakira’s album and think about Antonio.

One day it hit me. I would save money, enough for three months’ worth of rent, and move to Queretaro.

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I talked to my parents about it and simply said: “I need to get away and just write.”

My parents didn’t fight with me over the plan.

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I secretly think they just wanted me out of the house. And so I saved, and saved, and saved, every penny I could get my hands on. When I finally had enough, I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico City. I don’t even remember being scared.

I just remember having a direct plan and listening to my Shakira playlist.

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It didn’t feel like I was alone either. When you’re traveling alone and listening to music, it’s like your famous friends are there right there with you.

I stayed at the most picturesque house in Queretaro and didn’t even tell Antonio that I was coming to town.

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Yes, that was probably a mistake, but I didn’t care to hear anything negative. I guess underneath I knew what I was doing was kind of nuts, but love makes you do crazy things. When I did tell Antonio that I was in town, he said what I was dreading:

“You didn’t come here for me, did you?” he said.

“No! Of course, not. I came to write,” I said quickly.

“Oh, that’s good, because I have a girlfriend,” he said.

I think at that moment my body went numb because I don’t remember feeling sad or angry, just kind of in shock.

“How long have you been with her?” I said. I should note that it had only been a few months since I had last seen him.

“Always,” he said. “I’ve always been with her.”

The next couple of hours were a daze, but I cried myself to sleep that night. Here I was in Queretaro, all alone, and three more months to go. The next morning, I got up early, turned on my Shakira playlist and went for a run.

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Even though I was sad about the fact that Antonio had a girlfriend the entire time we were together, I realized how special it was that I was in this amazing city.

For the next three months, I did write.

I wrote a lot in fact, and I also met someone else.

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That relationship didn’t go beyond my time in Queretaro, but I loved knowing that heartbreak would not be the end of me.

The joy of being alone in Queretaro and doing exactly what I had envisioned all on my own was all I needed.

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Even now when I listen to “Si te vas” I never feel sad about Antonio, just pure happiness that I did something pretty extraordinary and have memories that will last me a lifetime.