Eva Mendes Sparks Discussion About Spanking After Comparing It To Spousal Abuse

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Eva Mendes has always been honest about her home life and her ongoing parenting journey. The 47-year-old Cuban-American actress is mother to 6-year-old Esmeralda and 4-year-old Amada with husband, Ryan Gosling.

On Monday, Eva Mendes posted a controversial Instagram post where she compared spanking a child to spousal abuse.

“I’m often asked what my favorite red carpet dress is. This @versace is definitely up there,” she wrote, along with a beautiful picture of her on the red carpet. “I’m not often asked what my favorite parenting quote is, but I’ll post it anyway. Please slide if you care.”

The quote was as follows: “Spanking does for a child’s development what hitting a spouse does for a marriage.” The quote is credited to children’s rights advocate and parenting blogger, Racheous.

Especially in Latino communities where chanclas are a common form of punishment, corporal punishment like spanking is a hot-button topic.

Eva Mendes’s followers quickly took to the comments section to debate over whether they agreed with the spanking comparison.

“That quote is so true. I love how you are so protective of your family and so thoughtful about what you post. It’s refreshing,” wrote one follower.

Another wrote: “Love you but completely disagree. The goal in raising kids is not to have to spank, but it’s correcting before they can reason behavior out with you. Completely different than hitting someone. That’s not correcting behavior. We raised 5 respectful loving kind kids that were a joy to be around. Good fruit shows from loving correction.”

Spanking has long been a controversial topic in parenting circles, and it seems like Eva Mendes touched a nerve with the quote she posted.

Parents–and especially mothers–are extremely sensitive about being judged as “bad” parents. And contrary to laws banning child abuse, there are no laws that ban “spanking” (which is defined by Merriam-Webster as “to strike especially on the buttocks with the open hand”).

Mendes, for her part, was quick to de-escalate the conversations happening on her Instagram page. “I totally respect you. Thank you for a respectful comment,” she wrote to one of the commenters that didn’t like her quote. “So nice to disagree with respect. I found the quote powerful and wanted to pass it on. Lotsa love to you and yours [heart emoji].”

“This didn’t come with a manual,” Mendes wrote. “So when there’s something that resonates with me, I pass it on. Lotsa love [heart emoji].”

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Eva Mendes Shared An Instagram Post About Age and Insecurity and Her Fans Were Here For It


Eva Mendes Shared An Instagram Post About Age and Insecurity and Her Fans Were Here For It

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For anyone with eyes, Cuban-American actress Eva Mendes looks like one of the most beautiful women in the world. After all, she built her career on playing bombshells, seductresses, and love interests. But even a sex symbol like Eva Mendes struggles with body image and insecurity.

Last week, Eva Mendes took to Instagram to share a powerful message about insecurity, body image, and how your thoughts about yourself change over time.

Mendes posted a picture of her face, albeit 20 years younger, with the caption: “Just came across this picture from a movie that was almost 20 years ago. I remember seeing this photo back then and thinking my face looked “weird “ and that my bone structure was odd …yadda yadda know all those insecurities that a 26 year old can have.”

She continued: “Meanwhile 20 years later and now I wish I still had that ‘weird’ face and odd ‘bone structure.’ Why’s my point? I’m not sure. Maybe it’s if you hate a photo of yourself wait 20 years then you’ll love it.” She concluded the caption with a quote from the famous Oscar Wilde: “Youth is wasted on the young.”

Mendes’s fans, young and old, took to her comments section to express their gratitude at her transparency.

“Feel the same way all the time!” wrote one Instagram user. Another wrote: “That’s literally what I’m going through now as I am 25 years old. Thank you for sharing this. [heart emoji]”.

Mendes’s post is a perfect illustration of how negative thoughts, insecurity and self-consciousness affect everyone–including beautiful celebrities. Not to mention, her post perfectly coincides with Mental Health Awareness month, a time when the entire nation bands together to bring awareness to mental health issues which affect millions of Americans.

Later in the comments, Mendes explained that she doesn’t want to be young again, she just wishes she had had the wisdom she has now when she was younger.

In response to a friend who wrote, “The growth and wisdom chica…I can fully relate!”, Mendes wrote, “Verdad?! And it’s not like I want to be young again, it’s just like I didn’t realize certain things at the time! And as young chicas we can be so hard in ourselves.” She finished that comment with “Besitos reina.”

After one commenter wrote, “Oh to be in your 20s and have the wisdom of your 40s! If only,” Mendes responded. “And yes, agreed,” she said. “That’s why I love this quote so much! But let’s think of it this way…we’re in our 40’s and it can feel daunting but think when we’re 60 and we look back to today we’ll think ‘we were babies in our 40’s!'”. She qualified, “Ok maybe not babies but still young is what I mean. It’s all relative”.

We love hearing Eva Mendes publicly share her thoughts and life, beauty, and aging. We hope she continues to be so transparent on social media!

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Eva Mendes Shared A Shocking Photo Of ‘Being Tortured’ While Receiving Mono-Thread Treatment For Her Neck


Eva Mendes Shared A Shocking Photo Of ‘Being Tortured’ While Receiving Mono-Thread Treatment For Her Neck

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When it comes to aging and beauty, Eva Mendes is proving she has nothing to be ashamed of.

The forty-six-year-old actress and mother to two gave fans a look into her beauty routine. Shocking followers on Instagram, the actress shared that she maintains her look with a pretty unique, non-invasive injectable procedure. The image proves that whoever thinks “beauty isn’t pain” might have it wrong…

In a post shared to Instagram, Mendes shared a photo of a jawline-tightening treatment known as “mono-threading.” 

The graphic image shows Mendes with her neck tilted backward and tiny syringe pins sticking out from the curve of her jawline. In a caption of the post, Mendes gave more context to the shocking image and writing “This spa-home away from home is incredible! No office with bad fluorescent lighting. No sterile office vibe. This is my go-to for all things beauty. A home where you can relax while being tortured by the best of the best. This is my happy place! Here I am getting some Mono-Threads. Ayyyy Dios!”

Mendes went on to credit Beverly Hills-based esthetician Mariana Vergara and her new office for cosmetic injectables called Beauty Villa Vergara. “So excited to support her as a skilled beauty technician opening her own Latina owned business!” Mendes finished the post. “Pa’lante reina!”

Beauty Villa Vergara shared details of Mendes’ treatment on their Instagram page.

“Mono threads activate collagen synthesis, which produces a gradual skin thickening, skin tightening and rejuvenation effect,” Vergara wrote. “Acupuncture is used mainly to relieve discomfort associated with a variety of diseases and conditions (…). The threads shown are mono threads, which stimulate collagen.”

Vergara went onto explain that the procedure Mendes received is not a face or neck-lifting procedure. Instead, it’s apreventative skin-tightening treatment. “These particular threads do not lift a saggy neck,” Vergara explained in response to questions posted in the comments section of the post. “She doesn’t have a saggy neck. These threads stimulate collagen production and prevent a saggy neck.”

Though Mendes joked that the procedure is “torturous,” Dr. Vergara promised that it’s not as painful as it looks.

“The procedure is minimally invasive and patients usually have mild discomfort. I use numbing cream before placing them,” she explained. “It provides immediate results, but even better results are seen after three months as your body produces collagen. These threads will start to dissolve within six to nine months, but due to the collagen and elastin stimulation the effect will last up to eighteen months.”

Vergara explained that the procedure can be done to more than just a jawline.

“They can go in the cheeks, nasolabial folds, jawline, marionette lines, décolleté, arms, thighs, knees or abdomen,” she explained. “Basically, anywhere collagen stimulation is intended.”

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