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21 Reasons Why Latina Moms Shouldn’t Spank Their Kids

I’m what they call a millennial Latina mom. That means growing up I still ended up in the wrath of the old school Hispanic parenting era. What does that mean? That meant the era of the spank. Preferably the popular discipline of chanclas. When you saw that chancla in the hand of your mom, she means business. That’s just how it was. In turn, having to deal with a different set of rules when being disciplined or disciplining your child. It was more about fear than anything. But, is that really necessary. I get it, kids think everything is a joke. But c’mon now.

Here is the list of 21 reasons why Latina moms shouldn’t spank their kids.

1. It doesn’t teach them anything

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We both don’t learn anything. Why go through the aggravation if you’re just going to go in circles.

2. It hurts more

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Literally hurts. That chancla really can do some damage. It’s almost like a take away on how bad it is but also humorous. Pick up the first thing you see.

3. Recollection

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They may forget why they are being spanked in the first place. They’re doing so much to avoid #lachancla that they can’t even fathom why they are in trouble.

4. Fear

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Kids are resilient and remember everything. Why let them think of you like that? Once they see these things they are fearful. When it gets pushed to the limit it’s hard for them to see you as someone else.

5. It may turn into abuse

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I don’t want to be that parent that gets so wound up that there’s no return. I’m not looking to be on the 5’o clock news. I’ve seen it so many times. The only one that suffers is the child.

6. You may not get the reaction you are looking for

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When spanking a child you may not get any satisfaction. It actually makes you crazier than ever. You know Latina’s can get when they don’t feel things haven’t gotten done.

7. You become the bully

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Kids are resilient and remember everything. Why let them think of you like that? After so long they will start to remember. Why become the bully instead of the parent?

8. Disrupting their self-confidence

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It’s almost like being in a relationship and feeling like you are emotionally being tortured. That’s what it’s like for kids. Even though they lose to test you and think everything is funny. Doing this constantly just is not.

9. You’re bullying a future bullied

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Then parents wonder why their kids are being bullied. Even being yelled at furiously. Many kids end up becoming the bullied from being bullied at home.

10. They won’t be a leader

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Growing up I was always taught the future of a Latina is being a leader. When you instill bullying or fear how is your child going to be a leader when you aren’t?

11. You’re not strong

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Spanking your kids can cause kids to think about all the pain they have to endure instead what they should focus on.

12. It’s really not that funny

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La Chancla is classic even to Latinos. All in all, it’s not as funny as many people put it.  Realizing this is not a funny way to discipline will help in the long run.

13. Older peers aren’t that powerful

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Every generation is different. It’s okay to give teachings your parents or grandparents gave you. Have your own form of parenting to make your own mark.

14. I don’t want to be that parent

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As a mother I don’t want to be pushed so using positive reinforcement is the way to go or you do end up feeling like spanking is the way to go.

15. Our world is already full of violence

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Fueling to the fire isn’t what Latinos are about. We want peace even within our families. We don’t want to be the stereotype on why the world is the way it is. This all starts at home.

16. I’m not the reason why mental health is out of control

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Our kids are the future. This means their mental health can become at stake when spanking as a form discipline.

17. I’m not their friend but I am their role model

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This is the main part of being a Latino mom. Uplifting to do better than what you had. Even if you had a great life before motherhood.

18. I’m raising an influencer

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Making sure your child knows their worth is important. By spanking your kids you may instill a notion that they aren’t.

19. Are you really self-controlled?

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Raising your hand to someone may look like you have no self control. Like you can’t control your actions. No matter how mad you get.

20. It’s the 2000’s, not 1950!

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Things have changed. That even includes parenting. It was okay to spank your kids but after all this time look at what it has put on our society and our future. What does it really teach you as a Latina Mom. Be strong and better than that.

21. Latinos aren’t spoiled

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We really aren’t. We are willing to empower our future to be better. That is why with everything mentioned above spanking your child just shouldn’t be in your cards.

11 Spanish Words That Will Trick You

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11 Spanish Words That Will Trick You

English and Spanish have a long history together. Today, more people than ever are sitting down in the U.S. to learn Spanish in schools and casually. But things are not as simple as they might seem. The Spanish language is full of false cognates that can easily trick you if you don’t look closely enough. We’ve got some of the trickiest Spanish words to use as an English-speaker together here. You might want to keep this before your next slip up!

11. Embarazada

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What it sounds like: Embarrassed

What it actually means: Pregnant

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There you are in Spanish class, reading from some written exercise your teacher assigned you, and you stumble. You describe being embarrassed at something your mother said or did in public, but instead, the classroom hears something else: you became pregnant. Don’t let the way the word sounds fool you: the real word you should use is “avergonzada” if you want people to know you were embarrassed. And of course, you’ll have plenty of chances to use the word to describe how you feel in the near future.

10. Éxito

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What it sounds like: Exit

What it actually means: Success

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Sure, sometimes getting out of something is a form of success, but we’re guessing that’s not always what you mean to say. Having great “éxito” in your Spanish language journey will require knowing the difference. The word you really want is “salida.” You’ll need to find that shortly.

9. Excitado

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What it sounds like: Excited

What it actually means: Aroused

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You might be very excited to see someone, but you very much do not want to sound like you’re that kind of excited to see them. The word you are looking for is “animado” to describe your feelings of excitement that are distinctly not sexy. 

8. Actualmente

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What it sounds like: Actually

What it actually means: Currently

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We all know someone who loves to start their sentences with “Actually – ” before launching into a definition or factoid that we didn’t know. Now it’s our turn. Actually – “actualmente” does not mean actually, it means currently. The phrase you are actually looking for is “en realidad,” which roughly translates back to “in reality.” 

7. Decepción

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What you think it means: Deception

What it actually means: Disappointment

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It’s easy to feel deceived by this false cognate. Deceptive as it might be, the word you are looking for is “engañar.” It’s a standard mishap but you’ve got this – and we’ll make sure you remember especially since you’ll be really disappointed with the response you get from Spanish speakers if you keep misusing this tricky word.

6. Constipación

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What you think it means: Constipation

What it actually means: A cold

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Now trying to explain to your doctor why you’ve had a cold for several days while he asks if you are sure that’s the word you mean to use may sound funny, but it probably won’t be when you realize you’re getting more vapor rub instead of prune juice. If you really find you’re stuck, the word you’re looking for is “estreñimiento.”

5. Fábrica

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What you think it means: Fabric

What it actually means: Factory

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One of these is where the fabric is created, and the other is the fabric itself. Why must these words sound so similar? You’ll be able to keep them separate in your head by remembering that the Spanish word that you’re looking for is “tela,” which is (somewhat) closer to the English word for textile. If you’re still feeling stuck, just remember you often find yourself wrapped in fabric (if you get dressed regularly) but might not want to be in a factory every day.

4. Delito

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What you think it means: Delete

What it actually means: Felony

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Trying to undo something you didn’t mean to type isn’t that complicated, but if you find yourself surrounded by people shaking their heads and looking frightened when you talk about how you deleted something last week and need help, it might be because everyone thinks you just told them you committed a felony. Save yourself the awkwardness and learn the word for “erase” which is pretty close to the English word “delete”: “borrar.”

3. Molestar

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What you think it means: To molest

What it actually means: To bother

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Imagine this:

You approach a cashier at a store and say “sorry to bother you, but does this store carry paperclips?” The cashier stares at you and shakes their head asking you to leave them alone. What’s the matter? Is it not okay to ask for paperclips? Oh wait, maybe you just suggested that you were molesting the cashier and they handwaved you away because they’re not getting paid enough to do all that. Bothering someone is infinitely less serious. If you really want to describe something as serious, the word you are looking for is “abusar.”

2. Pisar

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What you think it means: To piss

What it actually means: To step

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Step right up and learn the difference! Taking yourself to the bathroom? The word you are looking for is “mear.” “Pisar” is to pace or step on something, like a floor. It’ll be a huge difference to the owner of the floor you are talking about, especially if they don’t want pee on their carpet.

1. Esposas

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What you think it means: Wives

What it also means: Handcuffs

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This one is especially frustrating because it’s not even a false cognate. Esposa is wife. Esposas? Many wives. But esposas are also handcuffs, and handcuffing someone is “esposando.” So the guy who thought just got “wifed up”? Yeah he got arrested. Better make sure you get to county jail before you head to the chapel if you think you got it wrong.

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