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Does This Karen Really Deserve To Be Accused Of Being A Karen?

Is “I have a Black husband” the new Karen battle cry?

On Tuesday the line began trending on Twitter after video of an unidentified white woman screamed the line at a man she had a traffic dispute with and who claimed she used a racial slur against him.

The video which reached 8.9 million views shows an unidentified white woman being confronted by a man after a traffic incident.

The video was posted to Twitter by Karlos Dillard, an actor, author, and personality who has been featured on the Seattle site Cut, the reality show “Divorce Court,” and whose website says he is “More than just a viral video star.”  

In the video, Dillard confronts the woman and accuses her of cutting him off when they were on the road. Dillard claims that she raised her middle finger at him and later he accused her of using the N-word. He also claimed that she began following him but stopped when she realized that he was recording video of her on his phone. In retaliation, Dillard followed after the woman and confronted her outside of her home.

The video, which was taken in Seattle, follows Dillard as he confronts the woman and attempts to share video of her home and license plate. It also shows the woman screaming, covering her face, and attempting to block Dillard from sharing her license plate, claiming that she is in fear of him labeling her a Karen. Assuming this fear comes in light of the cancel culture around Karens.

“You don’t understand,” the woman yells throughout the video.

The video, which lasts two minutes, shows passersby trying to understand the situations.

Dillard, who has begun to sell shirts using the “I have a Black husband” line, posted the video to his Instagram stories and Twitter page.

In an interview with Insider, Dillard said that he and the woman were driving in a two-lane street that merged into one lane. When he merged ahead of her, she swerved in front of him and slammed on her brakes. Dillard claims that she then yelled at him through her car window. After he got ahead of the woman and turned right, she allegedly followed him.

Dillard said that after the woman continued to follow him, he got out of his car and confronted the woman. “She was angry, upset, screaming racial slurs, obscenities,” Dillard told Insider.

Dillard took out his phone to film the interaction and the woman drove away. “I just went into the general direction that her car drove. And I happened to literally drive right behind her,” Dillard said. When the woman pulled into her driveway, Dillard pulled up and continued filming.

Dillard’s video has sparked conversations about the culture of labeling people Karens and has been accused of being a professional attention seeker.

With Karen content taking over our news feeds and exposing white women for bad or racist behavior, it might be time to question ourselves about what qualifies a Karen. After all, so many of these videos are leading to real-world consequences with many of these “Karens’ being fired from jobs.

In this current case, users on Twitter have attempted to track Dillard’s alleged verbal attacker by using her license plate.

Dillard’s history of recent racist claims and attention-seeking motives are also coming into question.

As Newsweek reported, it’s not Dillard’s first time going viral for a video allegedly displaying racism. Last month, on May 28, Dillard accused an Asian restaurant worker on Twitter of using a racial slur when he went to pick up a Postmates delivery. At the time, Dillard accused the woman of being “racist” for asking to see his license to show that he was the correct Postmates driver. Similar to his current video, the person did not use a racial slur while being filmed.

Users on Twitter are accusing Dillard of being dishonest.

People have also been quick to point out Dillard’s voting record and previous behaviors on Cut. In 2017 Dillard admitted to voting for Donald Trump. Speaking to Insider, Dillard said that racism isn’t a bipartisan issue. “It doesn’t matter if I voted for Santa Claus yesterday,” he claimed. “So I really just think that it’s really fascinating to see that my character is being picked apart.” 

A Black Transgender Woman Was Killed On The Last Day Of Pride

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A Black Transgender Woman Was Killed On The Last Day Of Pride

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We’re now almost halfway through 2020 and the statistics tallying the number of murders that have occurred this year in the trans community are alarming. Sadly when it came to the sacred month of Pride the trans community did not receive a break in these numbers, unfortunately.

A community in Dallas, Texas is currently coming to terms with the death of 22-year-old Merci Mack a Black transg woman whose body was discovered in Dallas on the final day of Pride.

Mack, whose body was discovered in a parking lot, is at least the 18th trans person to be killed in 2020.

According to reports, Mack’s body was discovered at 6:15 a.m and had sustained gunshot wounds. She was found in a parking lot of the Rosemont Apartments located in South Dallas. After her body was discovered, residents at the apartment claimed to police that they heard shots fired an hour beforehand. According to the Dallas Police Department, they never received a 911 about the incident. By the time an emergency response team came to the scene, Mack was dead.

Despite being an openly trans woman, reports by law enforcement and the local media deadnamed her.

The lack of support in using the deadnames of trans people has earned the ire of The Associated Press Stylebook  GLAAD and the Human Rights Campaign (HRC). AP urges reporters to use “use the name by which a transgender person now lives” and HRC has published trans reporting guidelines for police and members of the media. In a statement to BuzzFeed News, a spokesperson for the department has said that their “hearts go out to the grieving family who are trying to cope with the loss of their love one… Our detectives, as with all murders, are working diligently to find the perpetrator to this horrible crime.”

In response to Mack’s tragic death, LGBTQ+ groups have released statements honoring her life and legacy.

“Another Black transgender woman has had her life stolen from her,” Tori Cooper, a director of community engagement for HRC’s Transgender Justice Initiative stated an interview. “We cannot become numb to the fact that our community has learned of more killings of transgender and gender non-conforming people in the past few weeks than HRC has ever tracked in the past seven years.”

Mack is at least the 11th trans person to die since 2017 in Texas because of violence. Almost all of them have been Black women. Most recently, in May of this year, Helle Jae O’Regan was stabbed to death while at a barbershop in San Antonio.

Latinas talk “Imposter Syndrome”

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Latinas talk “Imposter Syndrome”

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Imposter syndrome. It may happen when you finally got accepted to college and have found yourself overwhelmed by the student body, or when you accepted that dream job, or even while doing your job. It can happen in relationships, in friendships. Basically anywhere and amongst us Latinas too. Even despite our hard work and much-earned credentials.

We wanted to talk about Imposter’s Syndrome and how to deal with it, so we reached out to our FIERCE audience on Instagram for their thoughts.

Latinas got real with their responses about feeling as if they were undeserving.

Check them out below!

Remind yourself that you’ve worked hard and are deserving.

“Thank you for posting this! I actually just got hired on as a school counselor and I’m feeling this intensely right now. I have to keep reminding myself that I worked so hard for this and that I AM WORTH IT!” – adelitafamania

Understand that anything can trigger it.

“It happens to me every single day on so many levels. It’s been holding me back my whole life and I keep pushing against it, some days it gets the better of me but I won’t give up on myself even when I really feel I’m not capable. I get so stressed all the time thinking someone is going to discover that I’m not smart, or fun, or whatever it is at that moment that I shut down. It’s so good to openly discuss it with friends or even professional help.” – pinatapink

And it can lead to social anxiety.

“This is so hard, I feel like this nearly every day. Lately, it’s been getting in the way of my entire purpose and whether or not I want to work hard at all. I tend to think, “Like for what? I don’t deserve to have the things I want because I didn’t work hard enough.” Yet, I did. Probably more than anyone else in my programs, jobs, teams, even my friend group. This is so tough and often it leads to my social anxiety which affects a whole multitude of behavioral patterns like procrastination and chronic lateness.” –curlsofroses

But you can battle it by not shrugging off your achievements.

“Happens to me all the time. And when people give me praise I tend to say “oh it’s not a big deal.” But I’m trying to remember that I’m enough and hell yeah I’m a big deal.” – erika_kiks18

Because it can happen to brain surgeons and Fortune 500 CEOs too.

“Our country and our community has been through a lot since the middle of March. Now more than ever is the time to nourish our goals and inspirations. In my podcast, I bring together some of the highest achieving Latinos that our country has to offer: Dr. Quinoñes-Hinojosa: who went from migrant farm worker to a world-renowned brain surgeon
Hector Ruiz: one of the very few Latinos to be a Fortune 500 CEO of an American Company Louis Barajas: the #1 financial Latino expert in the USA. (He is most likely your favorite Reggaeton artist’s to-go financial guy.)
Cesar Garcia: an actor who has seen. dozens of times in music videos, shows, and movies. He’s known for his roles in Fast and Furious and Breaking Bad. Chef Aarón Sánchez: The most well-known Latin Chef in the country. Find an episode that catches your attention or share an episode to a friend of loved one that would like to hear from other Latinos on how they achieved their dreams and goals.” – trailblazinglatinospodcast

And you can cure it by not reminding yourself to not give weight to other people’s thoughts.

“I cured mine by not giving a fck! The enemy is a LIEEEE.” –stephaniesaraii

And last but not least, know that it can be hard to defeat but you ARE worthy.

“This was me on the first day after I transferred to University. The feeling still follows me sometimes. It hard to defeat.” – dianalajandre