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Here’s What My White Husband Has Learned About The Latino Culture One Day At A Time

My husband and I have been married for a little over three years now and he is still learning so much about myself and what it means to be Latino. I’m not talking about me having a big Cuban family all stationed in Miami (3-0-5 🙌🏽) or the fact that the best jokes in Netflix’s “One Day At A Time” are in Spanish. I’m talking about the little things that to me have always been a normal part of life. This is what has continuously caught him off guard…

If you ask him, I’m already turning into my abuela because of the things he is finding out, which to me is a compliment. Here are just a few of the things that he is starting to understand about our future together.

1. Seasoning your beans is hard AF but abuela makes it look easy.

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No matter how many times I try or how many techniques I use, my bean always turn out bland AF. This wouldn’t have been a problem if he didn’t have my abuela’s frijoles negro because now he has a reference point as to what beans are supposed to taste like. Though, he doesn’t cook so my bland beans will have to do.

2. That whole personal space thing is a white construct.

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One of the first things he realized about being married to a Latino is that all that personal space he once had is gone. I even go into the bathroom to talk to him when he’s in the shower because that’s 👏🏾 how 👏🏾 I 👏🏾 was 👏🏾 raised. 👏🏾

3. Family obligations cannot and will not be avoided.

Even if it means that you have to spend $800 to travel 3,000 miles back home for a weekend for your nephew’s first birthday, there is no getting out of family events. #BasedOnTrueEvents

4. My family raised me to be super eco-friendly (and very frugal).

The first time my husband saw me washing a Ziploc bag he asked if we had run out and that he could get some from the store. My response: “But, like, why do you want to waste money like that?”

5. Selena was and will always be La Reina.

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I know. I know. How did he not know this before is what you’re thinking, right? But you can’t hold it against him. I don’t think Selena had a very big following in West Virginia. There was no way he could have known that she is more relevant now than ever. Not to mention that she still wins Latin Billboard awards and I play her music nonstop.

6. My abuela’s obsession with reusing containers has been passed down.

After he came down from the initial shock of thinking that I left the sour cream in the Tupperware cabinet overnight, he made a joke about me becoming my abuela. I’ve never been so proud.

7. Calling a loved one “gordo” is not offensive.

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Because, you know, someone calling you “my little fatty” is not okay. Imagine his shock when he heard a family member call me “gordito” in front of him. He was shook.

8. Every chore I do is just an excuse to put on Celia Cruz and dance.

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Sure, I can cook in silence but nothing makes my time in the kitchen more enjoyable than some “La Negra Tiene Tumbao” or “La Vida Es Un Carnaval” blaring in the background. Plus, he is starting to learn some of her greatest hits.

9. Seventy-five percent of Latino cooking is just making that sabor.

To quote my husband: “Oh. So ropa vieja is like making pot roast then you make the flavor (sofrito). Yeah. White people are too lazy to make all that flavor.”

10. Being extra and loud is just in our blood.

I still have that trophy on our desk in the living room and he has mentioned moving it a couple times. Then I stubbed my toe, fall to the floor in tears, and he remembers why it is so prominently displayed.

11. Hot Cheetos are life.

He didn’t know they were so versatile but he’s not upset that we get to eat them all the time.


READ: 14 Things That Happen When A Gringo Marries Into A Latino Family

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Dwayne Wayde Talks About Supporting Trans Daughter

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Dwayne Wayde Talks About Supporting Trans Daughter

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Former NBA baller Dwayne Wayde just made a major score in our book.

The father of four and husband to actress Gabrielle Union has gained quite a bit of clout as a Five Star dad thanks to his parenting know-how. In particular, the basketball phenom has in recent years gained attention for his support of his 12-year-old daughter Zaya on social media, particularly when she began to display hints of being part of the LGBTQ community.

Recently, Wayde opened up about his process of understanding his daughter’s gender identity.

Speaking with Robin Roberts on “Good Morning America,” Wayde confirmed that she is trans. “This is her life every day. This is no game to us,” Wayde told Roberts on Tuesday. “We’re all about protecting her heart, we’re about protecting her joy and to do that, we have to support her.”

According to Wayde, Zaya– who has been aware of her gender identity since she was 3– gave her father permission to share her story on the show.

“‘I don’t think I’m gay,'” Wayde recalled his daughter saying in a conversation when she was younger. “‘This is how I identify myself. This is my gender identity. I identify as a young lady. I think I’m a straight trans (girl) because I like boys.'”

According to Wayde, he knew early on that to properly support his daughter he’d have to evaluate himself.

Admitting that he himself had never known or been aware of someone who had come out as a member of the LGBTQ community, Wayde decided to sit down with Union and research as much as they could. They even reached out to members of the LGBTQ community to better understand how to support Zaya. On her own, Union reached out to members of the FX show “Pose” for help. 

“I’ve been a person in a locker room that has been a part of the conversation that has said the wrong phrases and the wrong words myself,” Wayde admitted during his interview. “And as I got older and as I watched my daughter grow, I had to go and look at myself in the mirror and say, ‘Who are you? What are you going to do if your child comes home and says, “Dad, I’m not a boy … I’m a trans girl.” What are you going to do?’ That was my moment of real.”

Speaking about Zaya, Wayde said that he feels it is his responsibility to help support others in the LGBTQ community.

“We know there’s other families out there dealing with their kid finding themselves and learning who they are,” Wayde explained. “I’m not going to sit here and act like we have all the answers. I’m not going to sit here and act like before our child came home and sat us down, that we weren’t ignorant parents when it comes to the world. When I say we’re learning from our 12-year-old, we’re literally learning from our child.” 

Watch the full interview here.

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez Is Going To Be A Guest Judge On The New Season Of ‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’

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Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez Is Going To Be A Guest Judge On The New Season Of ‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’

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The new season of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” will be here before you know it and finally know who the guest judges will be this year. RuPaul has a knack for bringing some of the best guest judges to the show. We finally know the new list of guest judges and one of them is none other than “RuPaul’s Drag Race” fan Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez.

The new season of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” is premiering on Feb. 28 and we finally know the guest judges.

We can also expect to see Chaka Khan, Daisy Ridley, Daniel Franzese, Jeff Goldblum, Jonathan Bennett, Leslie Jones, Nicki Minaj, Normani Kordei, Olivia Munn, Rachel Bloom, Robyn, Thandie Newton, Whoopi Goldberg, and Winnie Harlow to take their place at the judge’s table.

“RuPaul’s Drag Race” fan AOC is obviously thrilled to be on the show.

“RuPaul’s Drag Race” has been around for 12 seasons and the popularity of the show has never been higher. Drag has taken over mainstream pop culture and the excitement of AOC and “RuPaul’s Drag Race” fans is proof of the show’s power.

This isn’t the first time a member of the United States’ Congress appeared on the drag competition show.

Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi joined RuPaul in the workroom on All-Stars Season 3. Trixie Mattel went on to win that season but Pelosi’s visit to the workroom left the queens and audience members gagging. Pelosi, who was the Democratic leader of the Republican-controlled House of Representatives, shared her message about the importance of voting.

It’s a fitting time for AOC to be included as a guest judge on the show.

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One year before AOC was sworn in as a member of Congress, she was celebrating Pelosi’s appearance. The then-candidate for Congress even offered to host a viewing party of an episode of All-Stars Season 3.

Wigs are still missing after the news broke on Twitter.

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It was just a little unexpected. It is also so exciting to see politicians participating as guest judges on a drag competition show. It is more than just someone judging drag queens, it means more. It represents progress within our society that has created a safer and more accepting world for members of the LGBTQ+ community.

The season hasn’t even aired and there are already stans.

That’s the power of politics + drag. Drag is inherently political. Drag queen culture is a counter-culture that has pushed the envelope for the LGBTQ+ community. “RuPaul’s Drag Race” is expanding that tradition and responsibility and bringing drag into homes all over the world normalizing LGBTQ+ and drag culture.

Way to go, AOC.

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Everyone who judges on “RuPaul’s Drag Race” brings the looks. AOC is no exception and her look is giving us every emotion. Get it, AOC.

READ: AOC Went To A Drag Show And It Is The Most Beautiful Moment Captured On Social Media