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People Are Sharing Tough Pills To Swallow And It’s A Massive Dose Of Abuelo Realness

From “not everyone is going to like you” to “you can’t always get what you want” we’ve all heard some practical pieces of advice that have brought us down to earth. But what about those pills that are tough to swallow and that no one ever talks about? Like… “your parents are dying” and you don’t “deserve” anything?

Users on Reddit recently got together to share some realness that are on one hand kind of a bummer but on the other hand pretty enlightening.

Check out the realness below!

“It may start out as butterflies and they can never do anything wrong, but that period may be short for some couples and that can also be ok. Depending on past relationship experience, it may be important for one or both people to hash out issues with the other early on as a way to determine is this even possibly going to work. If a dealbreaker personality trait presents early and the person doesn’t want to change or feels like they don’t need to change it, it’s important to know that at month 3 rather than year 3. Give them good faith opportunities to work on it (edit: and ask for those opportunities for yourself), but if it doesn’t happen it may never and it’s okay to move on. I feel like people get too caught up in “but this is the beginning it’s supposed to be a honeymoon phase,” when in reality maybe you are both being your realest selves (edit: or slowly revealing this real self) and it’s important to know that before you’ve spent years with someone. Speaking from experience on both ends of this spectrum and definitely both sides of the relationship. I strongly believe people have a great capacity to change, but it takes effort, honest introspection, and self-awareness. Some people can, some people will, some will choose to find someone okay with them as-is or will find out a need to do these self-renovations with someone else.”- bwa236

“You can’t keep everyone you love around you forever.” –SiepieJR

“This one’s for parents: Your children do not owe you because you decided to bring them into this world. They are not your personal slave. Let them live their lives. Don’t have your hand in their pocketbook. They don’t owe you anything. You are supposed to teach them how to be independent and be able to start their life on their own. By making them rely on you and having you rely on them, you’re only making it harder for them to spread their wings. They are your children, not your property. Raise them with the same respect you’d want your own parents to treat you.”- musicallyours01

“You can’t make someone love you.” –Charming_Preference

“A significant subset of the population will behave as shitty as they are allowed to or can get away with.” –StorkSlayer

“Fairness, Justice and Karma are not a given. They happen less than you expect. Be the change you want to see in the world but dont expect a just reward for it.” – Jacksinyourbox

“There are people with fundamentally different world views and you will never be capable of seeing eye to eye with some of them.”-joemamma474

“The world is brutally unfair. Even if you bust your ass working on something, you can still fail and see someone who barely works gets everything you want. Even so, the world does not owe you anything. You can still fail the next time, but you’ll only have a chance on succeeding if you try.”- Pandaonthego

“Life isn’t against you, It’s simply it’s simply ignorant to your existence. People are going to get sick and die, people who don’t deserve shit are going to get ahead of you, greed pays off and you are going to struggle. But the beauty of it all is that you don’t have to let that affect you. If you live your life feeling grateful for the little things like being around people you like, having a roof over your head, good meals and new experiences then you’ll have a better life. Make your own happiness and don’t let the context of other people’s lives effect yours.”- coniferous-1

“It doesn’t matter how compatible you are with someone sexually (or how attractive they might be), that’s not enough to sustain a healthy and happy relationship.”- nuhtty

“People don’t get what they deserve, they get what they get. There is nothing any of us can do about it.”- Witness_me_Karsa

“Marry a stable person you find attractive physically and psychologically, communicate both good and bad, don’t let your sex life slide…. hell, I just got lucky in my choice.” – pope_schist

“Physical changes will happen over time, but you will start paying less attention to those things as your ever-increasing knowledge and love for you partner grows and your perception of them expands beyond what you see. My wife will often lament that she’s not in as good a shape as she used to be or her hair is getting gray or she’s fattened the curve a bit during this quarantine, but I always reply by saying that she wouldn’t feel any of those things if she could see herself how I see her. It’s been 25 years and a lot of joy and pain along the way, but I still want to lovingly fuck the shit out of her every single day. Maintaining the sex life is also important, as is recognizing that there are so many ways to be sexual without good ole PIV. For example, my wife is recovering from a back injury right now, and we haven’t had PIV for a few months, which of course is totally understandable! However, she can still use her hands, and I’ve often requested such attention because I know she likes being seen as a sexual being even if she’s not always feeling sexy. I think she enjoys being able to give me pleasure, and the last time I asked for a vigorous hand-holding, she wanted her vibrator afterwards. It was really nice, and it made us feel more intimate and connected, which is something that we both needed very much. Sex and love will ebb and flow, but if you’re both working on yourselves and each other, the balance will remain strong.” – xenobuzz

“Someone told me once that love isnt a feeling its an action, you love someone, you dont feel love for someone, that implies work, and its hard, and sometimes you wont feel that feeling, but you still gonna love them.” –YouAreNotMeYet

“If you are a smart kid in a small town: You aren’t as smart as you think you are. This will come as a big pill to swallow if you get a scholarship or make it into some sort of academic program where the rest of your classmates are “smart kids” too. Edit: Wow this is starting to gain some traction so I’ll clarify a bit. I was speaking from personal experience when I got out into the real world finally. Based on what I saw, one of two things happen: You either come to terms with it and step up your work ethic, or you fizzle out and accept mediocrity. For reference my program was nuclear engineering. Lots of smart people and it was a tough pill to swallow for a guy fresh from a small town in AL, that never had to try academically before then. If you can come to terms with it though, everything will become way less stressful. Just have to accept that new norm.” –Echo5even

“Being happy long-term isn’t about doing whatever you feel at any given moment, sometimes you have to make a conscious, serious effort over a period of days, weeks, even months or years, to form good habits and increase your quality of life in order to have a positive disposition instead of intermittent periods of joy with a general negative disposition.” – everyischemicals

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Study Says 95% Of Women Don’t Regret Having Abortions

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Study Says 95% Of Women Don’t Regret Having Abortions

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Across the country, many states require a woman seeking an abortion to undergo waiting periods and counseling. The assumption behind the regulation is that ultimately women looking to have an abortion will regret their decision in the long term. A study published this past January in Social Science & Medicine, however, found that over 95 percent of the women who took place in a UC San Francisco study revealed that they had no regrets about their decision five years later.

The finding not only completely debunks the notion that most women who have abortions suffer from regret and guilt over their decision even if the decision was a hard one to make.

Out of interest, we researched online forums like Reddit to see what women had to say about their decision to terminate their pregnancies.

“I’ve had… more than one abortion. It was never a thought. Immediately after finding out I was pregnant, I bee-lined to the clinic. BEST decision I have ever made. No regrets at ALL! I’ve been called names, “baby killer”, etc. but I laugh at these people. I’m open about it, not that I had the choice because my ex SIL went around town telling everyone (thanks, stupid fuckhead ex-husband). The people that give me a hard time about it are parents themselves and are probably just bitter and jealous, anyways.” – Reddit user

“I had one when I was 21 (almost 39 now). Not once, for a single second, have I ever regretted that decision. I was dating a complete shitshow of an excuse for a human being (a heroin dealer, which I didn’t find out until later) who was abusive and promiscuous, and I knew the second I found out I was pregnant that I wasn’t keeping it. In addition to already knowing I was childfree for life, there was no way would I have brought an unwanted child into that kind of situation. So my very supportive mom took me to the PP appointment, where the staff was wonderful and only gave me a brief counseling session in which they made sure I was making the right decision for myself. The rest was pretty cloudy for me, because they gave me a Valium beforehand, but I do remember that when they did the ultrasound, they couldn’t find a heartbeat but still wanted to do the procedure because the pregnancy test was positive. After that, mom drove me back home, and the guy I was dating didn’t even seem to care about much of anything. We broke up just over a year later, and I heard through the grapevine that he was in jail for grand theft auto a few months after that. Today, I’m super well-adjusted and in a happy relationship with a really awesome guy who is as childfree as I am!” –Shanashy

“I’ve told people when it has come up in conversation.”

“I had an abortion recently. Mid-20s, stable relationship and good income. IUD failure. I’ve told people when it has come up in conversation. We don’t want children so we won’t have one. No regrets here.” –meinkampfyjumper

“When I was 17, I had an abortion. I’m 30, and have never once regretted it, nor ever felt guilty either. I knew, even after telling my parents and grandma about it I was certain. The guy was a nice guy, we talked about keeping it (because he was almost aborted himself when his mom got pregnant with him), but in the end he was already in the process of joining the Army. I would have been alone, a senior in high school, with my family’s help. That was not how i wanted it to happen, if at all, amd neither did he. He helped pay for half the procedure and when he took me home, my mom was supportive. I was scared yes, but relieved. She was amazing (still is). My grandma called me cold hearted for not thinking of the baby, when in my head(and heart), thats all I was doing. I learned later that my mom, grandma and great grandma had all had an abortion, but still had kids later. And its been great for them. Im on my second IUD now and have no plans for kids. Every so often I would get back in contact with the guy, and every time he brings up the kid we could have had (I was the one that got away). I would have had a 12 year old by now. And I breath a sigh of releif every time that I dont. I can barely take care of myself, hanging on by a thread and know I’m happier and better off. To some it may be cold, but I did the best thing for me, and made sure it never happened again, but also know i have the option and support in whatever i decide. And when i go for a check up or any Drs visit and its asked, i have no shame, no guilt, no regret in my decision. (Bracing myself each time for backlash, tho it never comes, true pros). Im happy other women have the same relief. There should be no negativity for our choices, but when it comes, bottom line, we know we did the right thing. And its not up to them for shaming us. Edit: my dad even told my brother and I years later ‘thank you for not making me a grandpa before I was 45.’ And gave me a pointed look. It was a small weight lifted I didnt know I carried. Especially after his reaction after i told him I was pregnant. (Explosive).” –bubblymayden

“I would have an 8 year old son right now if I hadn’t gotten an abortion. The thought of having a kid, a son, creeps me out. I have 0 regrets.” –Jens0485

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These $1,200 Gucci Jeans Are Designed With Grass Stains Around The Knees And Are Not Worth The Joke

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These $1,200 Gucci Jeans Are Designed With Grass Stains Around The Knees And Are Not Worth The Joke

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In these tough times, Gucci’s latest line proves that you might be able to get a fortune out of the jeans you use as workwear in the yard. The upscale label recently launched a new line of jeans and overalls featuring a grass stain effect on their knees. But these are not your father’s cutting the lawn jeans.

The oversized pants retail for a cool $1,400 and feature large pockets and side buttons…

Users on Twitter were quick to question whether or not the new jeans were a joke by Gucci or a reflection of just how tone-deaf the high-end label is.

“How did it take so long for this to become a thing? My entire wardrobe just became more valuable!” one user tweeted in response. A second user commented, “Yeah not a Good Look!!! Wouldn’t buy those Jeans at the Thrift Store for a Dollar!!!”

It wasn’t long ago that the designer brand received criticism for selling warn-in sneakers that were “treated for an all-over distressed effect.”

The kicks were valued at $870. The brand’s description of the shoe design boasted that it was inspired by “vintage” 70s styles.

“The Screener sneakers — named for the defensive sports move — feature the Web stripe on the side and vintage Gucci logo, treated for an allover distressed effect,” the website explained.

Takeaway? Money sure can’t buy good taste.

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