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Amidst SNL Skit, Gorilla Glue Woman Says She Is Still Recovering From Her Sudden Internet Fame And Cyberbullying

Updated Feb. 22, 2021.

We can all appreciate the diversity and spring backness of Black hair. Typically curly or kinky in texture, Black hair allows women and men alike the ability to style their hair in just about every which rich way. From sporting a thick and out there afro to tresses that are layed and slayed, Black hair can do it all. So much so that some consider Black hair to be a superpower.

However, Black hair isn’t all-powerful. When it comes to glue in particular, a very sad TikToker recently figured that out.

TikTok user im_d_ollady, real name is Tessica Brown, explained that she got herself into a pretty sticky situation thanks to Gorilla Glue.

In early February, Brown posted a video to her TikTok page and revealed that her hair has been stuck in the same slicked-back style for a month now. Explaining the situation, Brown started off sharing that she often turns to a glue spray product called göt2b when styling her hair “just to keep it in place.”

But when she ran out of göt2b glue spray she turned to a can of Gorilla Glue spray adhesive.

The Gorilla Glue advises that the product is “heavy-duty.” According to the Gorilla Glue’s website, “Gorilla Spray Adhesive forms a clear, permanent bond that is moisture resistant and can be used on projects both indoors and out. This spray adhesive is also photo safe. Its wide pad nozzle and controlled, fine mist spray provide an even application on the project you are working on.”

Gorilla Glue’s FAQ advises “wiping adhesive with a dry cloth and then washing the area with soap and water,” to remove the product if it gets on your skin or body while still wet. “Once cured, rinse well with water.”

No doubt the commentary on her hair has been overwhelming for Brown. Recently her attorney sent a cease and desist letter to a blogger who is described as having gone “way too far” in an online campaign that accuses Brown of being a “liar.”

Brown says what has been particularly difficult to deal with however are the comments by Black women who she once admired, including Wendy Williams and LisaRaye McCoy. Recently, her hair incident inspired a sketch for Saturday Night Live.

In her “Hot Topics” segment of the Feb. 8 episode of The Wendy Williams Show, Williams suggested Brown “might have something wrong with her, like mentally.”

“The thing is, I used to like Wendy,” Brown told Buzzfeed news. “We just had a whole watch party to watch her Lifetime movie. I mean, I really liked it, but, I mean, then it made me very angry.”

The Louisiana woman recently got her first new hairstyle since having her hair fixed.

Brown headed to Below Zero Salon in Violet Louisiana for her Valentine’s Day hair appointment and left with a shorter, cuter look. Not only does it look good on her, but it also pairs well with her new level of clout. Along with a new merchandise line, Brown also recently partnered with manager Gina Rodriguez of Gitoni, an agency that represents celebrities like Blac Chyna, Lamar Odom and Tommy Lee.

Brown headed to L.A. earlier last week to have procedure to remove the hair operation by a plastic surgeon.

Dr. Michael Obeng  successfully removed all of the “Gorilla Glue out of her hair” with the help of a special formula he created.

Video taken at Dr. Obeng’s office show’s Tessica sitting on an operating table after the procedure running her hands through her liberated tresses and tearing up with relief. Dr. Obeng used a custom mix of chemicals and natural products to dissolve the glue.

Speaking to TMZ., Dr. Obeng said that he “looked up the compound, the main active ingredient in Gorilla Glue: polyurethane” before figuring out the science of how to break it down.

Brown’s circumstance highlights the lack of general understanding of Black hair care and the extremes Black women go through to obtain even just sufficient products.

Many users have questioned and criticized Brown’s use of Gorilla Glue asking how she could do this to herself.

“Gorilla Glue isn’t even on the hair aisle in the hair store or the grocery store. Gorilla Glue is located in the hardware section. She knew better,” one user commented about the situationTwitter. But in reality, Black women are often forced to search outside of the hair care aisles to get products for their hair. Black women, and other women too, use products like avocados, olive oil, honey, eggs and even mayonnaise to make their hair healthy.

As one Twitter user pointed out often times hair products are packaged to purposefully resemble food products.

The truth is , as user @_knotURfrend_, pointes out if Brown’s Gorilla Glue use had actually worked, it likely would have gone viral as a new product go-to. “So many are being dismissive of #gorillagluegirl. Given the history of how black women are targeted and still battle the pervasive belief that our natural hair is unprofessional, unkempt, or in some way ‘a statement’ pls show her some grace and understanding,” The View’s Sunny Hostin tweeted.

Brow’s hair looks amazing in the video but it’s clear it was heavily sprayed and shows no sign of letting up.

“Bad, bad, bad idea,” Brown says in the video..

“My hair don’t move,” Brown goes on to share while she scratching at her hair and noting that she washed her hair 15 times to no avail.

Brown finishes her video saying “So if you ever run out of Göt2B glue spray, don’t ever, ever use this,” she says, holding up the Gorilla Glue can, “unless you want your hair to be like that.”

Brown’s video has garnered over 2 million views on her TikTok page.

Many users were quick to point out that the old trusty Moco de Gorila could have been confused for Gorilla Glue. The woman did make a point of noting that she’d run out of Göt2b Glued Blasting Freeze Hairspray before opting for the Gorilla Glue.

In a follow-up video posted to her account on Thursday morning, Brown shows herself attempting to wash her hair with shampoo while fighting back tears. So far TikTokkers, Twitter users, and Instagram users are attempting to help give Brown solutions.

The official Gorilla Glue Twitter page even chimed in “Hi there, we are sorry to learn about your experience! We do not recommend using our products in hair as they are considered permanent. You can try soaking the affected area in warm, soapy water or applying rubbing alcohol to the area.”

On Feb. 6, Brown posted photos of herself seeking medical treatment for the glue on her head.

In one image Brown can be seen lying on a hospital bed. The other image shows an emergency room entrance to St. Bernard Parish Hospital, in Chalmette, Louisiana. The final image to the post is a video of a friend applying a treatment provided by the hospital to Brown’s scalp who clearly appears to be in pain.

Now Brown might be considering a lawsuit according to the New York Post.

According to New York Post “Brown hired an attorney and is weighing litigation against Gorilla Glue, because while the product’s label warns against using on eyes, skin or clothing – it does not mention hair – the outlet reports.”

Gorilla Glue tweeted a statement in response to suggestions of a lawsuit saying “We are very sorry to hear about the unfortunate incident that Miss Brown experienced using our Spray Adhesive on her hair. We are glad to see in her recent video that Miss Brown has received medical treatment from her local medical facility and wish her the best.”

In response to Brown’s story, a Gorilla Glue spokesperson told Newsweek in an interview that “We saw the video as well, and we do not recommend using our products in hair, as they are considered permanent” and recommended, “soaking the affected area in warm, soapy water or applying rubbing alcohol to the area.”

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We Found The Looks Rocked By Ariana Grande, Megan Thee Stallion, And Doja Cat In The Sexy ’34+35′ Remix Video

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We Found The Looks Rocked By Ariana Grande, Megan Thee Stallion, And Doja Cat In The Sexy ’34+35′ Remix Video

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In a gift to lovers, Ariana Grande dropped her “34+35” remix music video last Friday. The trending video featured Doja Cat and Megan Thee Stallion and some slamming tunes, extraordinarily glam sleepover gear. To booth, the video already racked up 21 million views, served up, alongside some slamming tunes, extraordinarily glam sleepover gear.

From ultra sexy to supersensuous, Ari, Meg, and Doja wore beautiful and luxurious lingerie ensembles. Fortunately, they’re here for you to rock yourself!

We looked around for the ensembles online and found them! Check out the looks below!

Ari’s Charlotte High Waist Bottoms and bodysuit.

Fleur de Mal / Charlotte High Waist Bottom– $45

Victoria’s Secret/ Lace Plunge Teddy- $79.50

Meg’s pink lace bra worn with mini shorts and a matching robe.

Milena Plunge Underwired Bra– $145

Milena Full Brief– $70

Doja’s peach-colored lace corset, with suspender bottoms.

Doja also wore outfits from Agent Provocateur.

Essie/ Waspie– $195

Essie/ Bodysuit– $465

Check out the video remix below!

So there they are, the extremely sultry and iconic lingerie looks to recreate the 34+35 remix music video on your own time!

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If You Had A Friend Speak To You The Way You Speak To Yourself

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If You Had A Friend Speak To You The Way You Speak To Yourself

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It’s a hard reality to face: the fact that we often treat our friends and spouses better than we do ourselves. After all, this might be because it’s a little bit easier. When we see our friends, we don’t necessarily always see the flaws. In fact, it’s easier to see how beautiful their flaws are and we shower them with compliments and praise about their appearances.

But what if our friends spoke to us the way we speak to ourselves.

See someone of the sweet replies to the question, below.

“Not long at all. In fact, I routinely remind myself to talk to myself like I would to a friend. We are our own worst critics.” –Irritabl

“That bit of advice really changed how I talk to myself when I’m alone. Like, if my best friend were telling me “well you probably aren’t good enough anyway. You should put more effort in to being prettier/being funnier/acting like [insert other person]” I’d be so, so hurt.

That kind of talk is nasty and not constructive! So don’t put up with it from anyone—including yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someone is constantly tearing you down, right?

And yes, it’s easier said than done. But the tricks that helped me curb the negative self-talk are:

  1. Recognize when it’s happening. Learn the difference between self-criticism and self-hatred. There’s a difference between saying “Ugh, I really should have done better on that work assignment. Those careless mistakes add up.” and “Everyone thinks you’re stupid now, why didn’t you do a better job on something so simple?”
  2. Get to the bottom of those thoughts by asking questions. I still fall victim to the “people think you’re…” thoughts, and every single time I have to ask myself “Who actually said that? Do you know that for sure? What’s making you feel defeated/nervous/inferior without any evidence? And even if someone DID say it—do you care what they think?!”

Those answers usually help me reframe whatever I’m feeling. Bc 9 times out of 10 it boils down to me fearing the worst and creating a situation where my insecurity gets the best of me.

Sorry for the Ted Talk, just feel rly passionately about this.” –NOTORIOUS_BLT

“Exactly. I always try to put myself in “best friend shoes” when I catch myself criticizing inwards.” –bradynelise

“I would be like ‘damn sister you do NOT shut up and you contradict yourself a LOT.’” – throwra_sillyinquiry

“Love this! Me too, but a few years ago, that couldn’t have been further from the truth. I have been changing the way I speak to myself and I feel so much better… and now I am so glad I stuck with it/me!” –formidableegg

“They would be out the door, kinda sucks being a self aware mentally ill person cause you know it’s not true yet convincing yourself otherwise feels impossible.” – annonforareasonduh

“Haha, this is exactly what I do with my kids. If they say something mean about themselves, I say, ‘I’m sorry, NOBODY is allowed to talk to ____ like that!’ If they say, ‘But I’m saying it to MYSELF,’ I say, ‘I would never let anyone say something like that to you. Why should I let YOU say it to you?’

Hoping to raise my kids to be a little nicer to themselves than I am to myself.” –JoNightshade

“Well… not very long. For the most part I’m pretty nice to myself but on hard days I often think things like “you’re not good enough. You’re such a failure.” And if someone said that to me even once I’d cut them off. I try to be nice to me though.” –owthrayaway3

“Ideally? Not long at all. In reality? Probably a very long time – years, or maybe even decades. Part of struggling with crippling depression is letting people treat you really horribly.” –clekas

“Yeah, me too tbh Or well, I’d end up not talking to them Because I’d isolate myself in my room for a couple of months and even they’d grow tired of me, but ya know I’ve had some really shitty friends in my short, short life and honestly seek out ppl who will criticise me more than they compliment me bc it makes me less uncomfortable.” –HelloThisIsFrode

“I agree with this. I just realised this and lament to myself that I wasted 20 years on such a ‘friend’. The pandemic isolation helped in bringing these thoughts to clarity and limited my availability. Thankfully I have a friend who’s really supportive and understanding so I’ve been redirecting my energy towards her.” –CheesecakeGobbler

“Along with the depression, throw in being raised by a parent with narcissistic personality disorder and you’ve got me too. I’d love so say I would kick my toxic ass to the curb, but I know I’d just take the abuse. I’ve got a recording of my mother’s greatest hits playing all the time in my head.” –LesNessmanNightcap

“Yeah, I was going to say “where do you think that voice in my head came from?” I’m no longer the person who would stay friends with someone who was mean to me, but it took awhile to get to that place. But I am still my mother’s daughter and I learned negative self-talk at her knee, listening to her guilt trip and shame herself. I think I’m much better, but I do wonder what my son will hear that I don’t even realize I’m doing.” –ElizaDooo

“The way I used to self-talk? Not for a second. It was pointed out to me by a therapist in one session–she told me one time to stop it. I stopped. I didn’t realize how much I was driving myself insane. I have an inner monologue that drones on anyway, but add in insults and barbs and it was quite brutal.

I’m glad I kicked that negativity out. Now, to address the earworms….make it stop.” –Roscoe_cracks_corn

“Not long at all. Now realizing this doesn’t magically make all my self-hate go away or build a desire to treat myself better.” –Neravariine

“I have such a friend. Over a decade so far, hopefully forever. I love her to the moon and back. She knows me truly, I can rely on her, I can trust in her honesty, I don’t have to filter sugarcoating to get down to her true opinion. She’s like a mirror, showing me all my flaws but also all my best sides. She made me a better person without ever trying to change me. She taught me better awareness towards myself, my actions and surrounding, and with this also better self-reflection and self-love. She kept me down on earth but also pulled me out of the darkest places. Everyone should have a friend like this.” –Fitzgeraldine

“Great timing for this question! I’ve been working on self compassion and trying to soften my inner critic. One thing that often I’ve been trying to remind myself is to treat me the way I treat my friends – so after a few months working on this with total awareness, I can proudly say I would be a longtime friend of mine.” –Lila007

“I kept her around for almost 2 years before I realise the way she talks to others is actually how she sees herself, which is saying a lot more than she would admit. Since she’s too stubborn to get therapy but very willing to act as a therapist (she sucks, all she ever did was doling out “tough love” cuz thats how she wants herself to be but she failed, so she expects everyone else to be tough), I cut ties w her. For good. Went to therapy myself to rid of internalized hatred I developed from being around her. She reached out once, I wasnt very keen to reconnect especially now she’s even worse after joining a church and trying to get every part of it into her life. 2 years of my life wasted on someone like that. Dont repeat my mistake.” –

micumpleanoseshoy

“I am and always will be my own biggest hype person. If I can’t believe in myself, how can anyone? How can I achieve my goals? Internal me is also very dubious of the intentions of others. Which preserves myself, even if it does keep me distanced from others until I can truly trust them. My parents were shit. I was, by far, the most resilient of my siblings and maybe my self hype is the reason why.” –cuddlymammoth

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