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Meghan Markle Reveals She Had a Miscarriage Earlier This Year

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In a heartbreaking essay titled “The Losses We Share” written for The New York Times, Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, revealed that she had a miscarriage earlier this year. It was not public knowledge that she was pregnant.

The essay describes where she was and what she was doing the moment it happened.

“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib,” she wrote.

“After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right. I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”

Markle went on to describe the “almost unbearable grief” that she and her husband, Prince Harry, experienced in the aftermath of her miscarriage.

“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, “Are you OK?”

The essay goes on to talk about the trauma of loss that so many have experienced in 2020–first through the coronavirus pandemic, then through witnessing on onslaught of racial violence in a tumultuous summer, then through an acrimonious, divisive election cycle.

“This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points,” she wrote. “Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating.”

She ended the piece on a hopeful note, describing the bittersweet unity that humankind is experiencing in the face of such shared hardships.

“We are adjusting to a new normal where faces are concealed by masks, but it’s forcing us to look into one another’s eyes–sometimes filled with warmth, other times with tears. For the first time, in a long time, as human beings, we are really seeing one another. Are we OK? We will be.”

Meghan Markle’s is now part of the growing movement of female public figures destigmatizing pregnancy loss.

In September, Chrissy Teigen revealed on social media that she was going to the hospital due to pregnancy complications. Hours later, she shared with the world: “Driving home from the hospital with no baby. How can this be real?”

Teigen went on to write an essay on Medium about why she took pictures of her pregnancy loss experience and chose to share them with the world: “I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these photos aren’t for anyone but the people who have lived this or are curious enough to wonder what something like this is like,” she said. “These photos are only for the people who need them.”

Teigen went on to ask women who have had similar experiences to hers to not be afraid of sharing their stories with the world: “The worst part is knowing there are so many women that won’t get these quiet moments of joy from strangers. I beg you to please share your stories and to please be kind to those pouring their hearts out. Be kind in general, as some won’t pour them out at all.”

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New Mom Dies Of COVID-19 Before She Could Even Hold Her Newborn Baby

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New Mom Dies Of COVID-19 Before She Could Even Hold Her Newborn Baby

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As the COVID-19 pandemic spirals out of control across the United States, we are hearing more and more heartbreaking tales of devastes families mourning the loss of loved ones.

In what can only be described as a tragedy, a 33-year-old mother gave birth to a healthy son only to die before even having the chance to ever hold him. Her untimely death has devastated her family, but her brother is using her death to remind all of us of the very real dangers this virus poses.

A mother gave birth to a healthy son as she battled Coronavirus but died before she got to hold him.

Erika Becerra, 33, had visited the hospital in November for contractions but was sent home in good health shortly after. Unfortunately, shortly after retuning home she started having difficulty breathing and was taken to the hospital in an ambulance. There she was diagnosed with COVID-19 and her condition quickly deteriorated.

Upon suffering extreme difficulty in breathing, doctors decided to induce labor on November 15. Her baby boy, Diego Antonio Becerra, was born healthy and Covid-negative, however, Becerra never had the chance to hold her newborn baby. She was immediately intubated and died weeks later on December 3.

“She had a normal labor, she gave birth to her son but didn’t get to hold him because right after she gave birth, that’s when they put in the tube and then from there she just started declining,” her brother Michael Avilez told CBS LA through tears.

Avilez and the rest of his family traveled to Michigan from Los Angeles to be with Becerra in her final moments. “Towards the last moments, she was tearing up. I know she heard us as we prayed for her, we talked to her, we comforted her in the last moments,” he said.

“I know God needed her more than I did and with open arms, we gave her to God last night,” Avilez added.

Becerra’s brother has taken to the airwaves to shine a light on his sister and to warn Americans of the real dangers we face.

Becerra is described as “a very caring individual” who was “never biased, never critical, always accepting and joyful. Erica was the most wonderful person you could ever meet,” Avilez told CNN’s Anderson Cooper. “For her, other people’s happiness was her happiness.”

“All my sister wanted was the best for everybody and she cared about lives. She didn’t deserve to go through what she went through,” Avilez told CBS LA, adding that he doesn’t understand why some people are not taking the virus seriously.

“It’s is a real thing,” he said of COVID-19. “I don’t know why people don’t comprehend that.”

GoFundMe campaign has been set up for the family to cover their travel expenses and funeral costs.

Becerra was one of the victims of what was the deadliest week for the U.S. since the pandemic began.

Even before the Thanksgiving holiday, the U.S. was seeing startling trends in the pandemic. Numbers have been rising to the highest levels since the initial days of the pandemic back in March.

But the past week has been the deadliest week for the Coronavirus since April in the U.S. And Erika Becerra was one of the 15,658 Covid 19 deaths over the last seven days. For the sixth day in a row, more than 100,000 people are being treated for the virus in hospitals across the country.

Medical experts are worried about what the future holds for the state of our healthcare system as it’s already overwhelmed. Yet we’re about to head into the busy Christmas and New Year’s holidays when families will be gathering despite pleading from public health experts.

It’s more important than ever that each of us reevaluates are holiday plans and stay at home if possible. We each play an important part in containing this pandemic and we each hold the key to saving someone’s life, someone like Erika Becerra.

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California Elotero Man Is Murdered In a Drive-By Shooting; Fresno Community Is Distraught

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California Elotero Man Is Murdered In a Drive-By Shooting; Fresno Community Is Distraught

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On Friday, an elotero man was killed while selling corn on the street in Fresno. His name was Jose Luis Rivera and he was 53-years-old.

According to witnesses, Rivera was working, riding his tricycle and selling snacks when an unmarked, dark-colored SUV pulled up to him and open-fired.

According to his family, Rivera died on the way to the hospital. The police and Rivera’s family do not know what motivated the killing.

Well known in the Fresno community and affectionately known as “Corn Man”, Rivera’s death death was immediately met with immense grief and outpouring of support for Rivera’s family. Local artist Omar ‘El Super’ Huerta even created a mural dedicated to Rivera. The mural has become a vigil with candles and flowers.

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As for Rivera’s family, they are still in shock. The family set up a GoFundMe page to help pay for the funeral expenses and medical bills, but the family is still coping with the aftermath of this tragic and unexplained event.

“My family is grieving as we’ll never get to see him again,” wrote his son, Jose Rivera Jr., on their GoFundMe page. “We don’t know why he has taken from us.”

Rivera’s death is not the first assault against a street vendor this year.

According to Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Deputy Eric Ortiz, violence against street vendors has risen in LA County since the onset of the pandemic at the beginning of this year. Although Fresno is not in LA County, it is worth noting that the rise in violence against street vendors is not an isolated incident.

Recently, a community activist named Marcos Navarro based in National City, California, began fundraising to provide paleteros, eloteros, and other street vendors with pepper spray to protect themselves from possible assailants.

“I wanted to put up some sort of protection so that way they can have a chance to run,” Navarro told CNN. “It’s not illegal to carry pepper spray and you can use it in self-defense.”

Unsurprisingly, the city of Fresno is grieving the loss of a beloved community figure.

Many people in Fresno have personally bought corn from Rivera before. It makes his death all the more shocking.

People can’t comprehend the continued and escalating violence against eloteros across the country.

Like every other person in the world, street vendors are simply trying to provide for their families by making an honest living.

Some people are calling for some larger systems to be put in place to protect elotero workers.

We hope this is the last we hear of such terrible and tragic violence against an innocent member of our society. Rest in Peace, Jose Luis Rivera.

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