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How Do You Cope When You Think Things Like ‘I Hate My Body’?

Sadly, and unfortunately, sometimes we unexpectedly catch sight of ourselves and find that we don’t really like what we see at the moment. Whether it’s the shape of our nose, our bodies, or hair, unfair body expectations can wear on us and make us feel ugly one day despite feeling beautiful on other days.

Recently, we stumbled across a Reddit post that asked users how they manage to cope when they have negative thoughts about their bodies. Beyond being helpful, the answers were invigorating.

Check them out below.

Try saying three nice things about yourself each day.

“I look in the mirror and don’t look away until I say 3 nice things I like about my body. Eventually, it became second nature and now I’m vain af.” –not_doing_that

“Ummm… this may not be helpful to you. But to be totally honest with you, what’s helped me more than any sort of self-love type of approach was just realizing that, to be blunt, I have two options: I can either change what I dislike or else accept that it doesn’t matter. I spent years working on my physical self-esteem with, honestly, limited success. At some point, though, I realized that it doesn’t actually matter. I’m not important; details about my appearance are even less important; and me spending time agonizing over it is a pointless self-indulgence. The more I thought about that, the more I found it to be kind of liberating. I’m one person in six billion. Nobody cares about my looks or my self-image but me, and I have other things more worth my time worrying about. I’ve changed a few things I didn’t like. I fixed my teeth, for instance, and I get some Botox and fillers these days. The rest of it, it’s just like… meh, time to move on. I still have my insecurities for sure, but I no longer wallow in them the way I did.” – user

Think of your future self.

“Two things I have adopted in all the many many years of abysmal body image and eating disorders and all that shit:

  1. Remember nobody notices/cares about my “flaws” as much as I do. I am literally deciding their importance. So instead of saying “ugh I’ve got rolls when I sit/my thighs touch because I’m lazy and disgusting and nobody will ever love me,” I can instead start saying “I have rolls when I sit because I have fat in my stomach, which is necessary for my body to function correctly. My thighs touch because that is how my legs look when I am at a healthy weight.” etc etc and then it goes from an assignment of value to just an objective fact about me, like my blood type or my shoe size.
  2. Remember that when I am 80 I am not going to lose sleep over not being 10 lbs lighter or two inches taller or blessed with a nicer bum. I’d be far more likely to regret a pattern of avoiding social situations because I don’t feel pretty enough, or to regret not having many pictures with my loved ones who are gone because my hair was messy or I wasn’t wearing a flattering outfit. Like, I never look at photos of my loved ones and think “damn, she should have avoided the camera, she looks bloated and tired.” I’m like “Oh I remember that trip to visit my auntie, and how good her cooking was, and how cool it was to learn that she loved the same author I did and that conversation we had when I couldn’t sleep and she told me about being my age and I realized she understood me…”

I frequently have to check myself to make sure I’m focusing on the shit that matters and not hiding who I am just because I don’t think the package I come in measures up.” – glorioid

Work hard on making yourself feel happy with yourself in the ways that you can healthily control.

“I’m heavier than I ever was when I hated my looks. These days I think I’m pretty fab, I work hard to be a pretty cool person, and I work reasonably hard to look good and stay in decent shape. I’m nowhere near physically perfect, but I love myself holistically and I figure life is way too short not to eat chocolate, put my butt on display in a pencil dress, and any number of other things my 18-year-old twig of a self would have been mortified about. Turns out there’s more to life than obsessing about how I look in a negative way. If I’m going to obsess about how I look, I at least try and do it in a positive way now. I also realized that if you’re a healthy weight, confident, and well dressed, you’re basically going to be attractive. Perfect is not a requirement in any other area of life so there’s no point making it one of my own.” – grittex

“I remind myself of how incredible the human body is and try to think of the amazing things my body does to keep me alive and let me enjoy the world. Who cares if I don’t look like a model? My heart pumps around 2,000 gallons of blood every day and my bones are as strong as granite. How cool is that? Also, I try to remember that I don’t owe the world attractiveness for daring to exist. It’s not my job to be visually pleasing.” – tomorrowistomato

“It depends on how I hate it. If it’s something about my body screwing up (getting sick, tripping and breaking something, not being tall enough to reach something) I sulk and get over it. I’m lucky enough that my body is mostly healthy (no chronic illnesses to deal with, or things like that) and I have to accept that sometimes it’s not going to cooperate. But when it comes to appearance: I try to remind myself that my looks are just one part of me. I step away from the mirror. I focus on some aspect of my looks that I can control (maybe my face is covered in acne, but I can put my frizzy hair in bun to manage that issue) and ideally try to remember the things I like about my body. While it’s not uncommon for me to look into the mirror and frown at how gross I look (the scowl really doesn’t help), it personally only bothers me for as long as I’m looking at it. So I usually try to make it look a bit better (brush my hair, do makeup, etc.) if I can, or else I just try to focus on something else. I have ADD though, so my attention span doesn’t usually allow me to dwell on it any longer than 2 minutes after I finish looking in the mirror.” –BundleofAnxiety

Stop comparing.

“I stopped judging other people. I grew up in a very judgmental family, struggled with an eating disorder for years, and constantly compared myself to others or even silently picked out things on other people I didn’t like to try to make myself feel better. As soon as I stopped doing that, I felt infinitely better. Instead of thinking “wow, that shirt/dress etc are too for him/her” I thought ” wow, they look good in that color” or “props to them for wearing something they’re told they ‘shouldn’t'”. When I made that change it became easier to apply that same way of thinking to myself.” –hanchan21

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Chrissy Teigen Has Been Hospitalized After Experiencing Bleeding During Her Current Pregnancy

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Chrissy Teigen Has Been Hospitalized After Experiencing Bleeding During Her Current Pregnancy

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According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, bleeding can occur at every stage of pregnancy. This occurrence, while in it’s most extreme instances can be a sign of a miscarriage, can also be chalked up to minor spotting related to sexual intercourse or pelvic exams. Still, there’s no doubt that the occurrence can be alarming as well as severe for some and that when model Chrissy Teigen realized she was experiencing such bleeding her fans became rightly worried.

Over the weekend, reports revealed that the model and mother of two had been hospitalized after experiencing heavy bleeding during her pregnancy.

Months ago Teigan shared with fans that she was expecting her third child with her husband, singer John Legend. Yesterday, she confirmed reports that she had been taken to Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles on Sunday afteer experiencing bleeding.

Just hours before she’d complained to fans on Instagram of being “so bored” while stuck on bed rest after her pregnancy was determined to be high-risk, the “Lip Sync Battle” host revealed that she was in the hospital. Opening up to fans, Teigen revealed that she had been bleeding a “little bit less than a month.”

“We all know I’ve been on bed rest for a few weeks and that’s like super serious bed rest. I get up to quickly pee and that’s it. I would take baths twice a week, no showering, just as little as possible,” she explained in a post shared from the hospital. “But I was always, always bleeding. I’m about like halfway through pregnancy and the blood has been going on for like a month. Maybe a little bit less than a month. We’re talking about more than your period girls. It’s definitely not spotting. A lot of people spot and it’s usually fine. Mine was a lot.”The 34-year-old Teigen went on to explain that she was admitted to the hospital after the bleeding worsened comparing it to ‘like if you were to turn a faucet onto low and leave it there.”

The model went onto assure her followers that she had “very good doctors who know the entire story” of her pregnancy and were taking care of her. She further explained that part of her issues with her pregnancy are related to the fact that her “placenta is really, really weak,” and added “So I feel really good, the baby’s so healthy. Growing stronger than Luna or Miles. He moves a lot, so much earlier than they ever did.”

“He’s so strong and I’m just so excited for him because he’s so wonderful and just the strongest little dude,” she exclaimed.” I can’t wait for him.” Teigen has been open about her struggles with her pregnancies in the past even sharing that her two children Luna and Miles were conceived through in vitro fertilization (IVF).

During her pregnancy, Teigen has shared the support she has been recieving from friends and family.

In posts shared to her Instagram page, the mother revealed that her daughter Luna has been giving her daily warm baths and washing her hair.

Earlier this month, Teigen accidentally revealing the sex of her baby (it’s a boy!)e while on Instagram. She has also been vocal about her pregnancy complications saying “My placenta sucks… It’s always been kind of the bad part of my pregnancies.”

“With Miles, it just stopped feeding him. It stopped taking care of him. I was stealing all his food because I was getting huge but he wasn’t getting big at all,” she noted “So he had to come out early and Luna had to come out early. I was induced both times.”

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Sistahs!! ColourPop x Hocus Pocus Is Coming Just In Time for Halloween And I Suggest We Form A Calming Circle

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Sistahs!! ColourPop x Hocus Pocus Is Coming Just In Time for Halloween And I Suggest We Form A Calming Circle

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If you were around in the immediate years following the 1993 release of the Halloween classic Hocus Pocus you know how much power the movie has. The Disney film starring Bette Midler, Kathy Najimy, and Sarah Jessica Parker gave just about every child watching thrills and chills and followed a trio of evil and hilarious witches who are accidentally raised from the dead by a teenage virgin on the night of Halloween.

Over the years Hocus Pocus has proven to be more than just a movie obsession but also a lifestyle. After all, what is Halloween if you haven’t binged the movie more than once during the month of October?

ColourPop knows the story and that’s likely why they’ve come up with a Hocus Pocus makeup collection that will haunt your dreams until you get your hands on it.

Get ready for some tricks for your at-home Halloween treats this year because ColourPop x Hocus Pocus is almost officially here.

The brand’s latest Halloween collection is inspired by the classic 1993 movie and launches at 10 AM PST on September 30. The limited-edition collection line is made up of false lashes, and an eyeshadow palette with 15 bronze hues. It also comes outfitted with a glitter creme gel eyeliner!

What’s more, the makeup kit comes complete with eyecatching packaging that serves as a shoutout to the three Sanderson sisters and the beloved noble black cat called Thackery Binx.

Perhaps the best part of it all is that the make-up kit includes products with names that heavily reference the best lines in the movie including “Amok! Amok! Amok” and “Gather Round Sisters.”

The new line also includes very Sanderson Sister-chic shades of red lipstick.

The best part? The collection is pretty dang cute AND affordable.

The palette retails at $22, the lipsticks go for $16 each, and at $130, the entire bundle is quite a steal!

Sure, you might be stuck at home this Halloween but there’s no doubt this new collection will enchant the little children in your lives and make you the ball of your COVID-friendly Halloween bash!

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