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Do You Combine Finances With Your Spouse? Latinas Answered!

Whether you’re married or in a long-term relationship, being open and honest about finances is essential to keeping things equitable between you and your partner. When it comes to merging or keeping finances separate this truth goes double. After all, having a long-term partner and living under one roof together means you’ll take on the task of sharing costs.

To get a better understanding of how Latinas are tackling this we asked them whether they keep their finances together or separate from their spouses.

Boy, were the answers enlightening.

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Check them out below!

This chica does separate and combined.

“We have a house account where we both contribute a certain same amount every pay period. This account Pays for all our Bills ie: mortgage, utilities , groceries, house stuff ,credits cards, student loans etx. We have a combined savings , separate savings and separate checking . Separate checking we can do whatever we want.” – ertip

“Overall, different things work for different people, the key is communication and comprehension.”- johannag._

“Separate, except a bank account that’s meant for home expenses.” –lalalala.29

This chica is all about just separate.

“Separate! You never know what could happen. If you really want to make it joint, my abuela always taught me to have an account on the side for yourself no matter what.” – sabrinaenyc

“Juntos pero no revueltos.” –bellakindaya

“We have the same checking but, different savings and credit cards.” – tejanatraveler

Sometimes his & hers can be about money too.

“We both work. I have my own account and so does he. We also opened a joint account where we both deposit money only for savings. We both contribute on bills and rent.” –betty_luv20

“We have our own accounts & then 1 joint account for expenses & savings.” –leylajuana

“Separate (his & hers) and one joint account.” – luna_720_

But it’s important to recognize that sometimes every couple is different.

“Every couple is different. If you trust someone enough to marry them, you should be able to trust them with your money. If I have to worry about him doing me wrong, I don’t even want to be there lol. We’re equals, a team, partners, I don’t see it as an issue to join accounts. We share a checkings & have separate accounts to spend.” – meylinnaomi

“Depends how spendy either is. Could be a good or bad idea depending but We prefer joint.” – lizamarie408


“Split joint bills equally, but keep the rest separate.” –natashagbeachside

“We agreed to have a joint account for our hijos/hijas (God wiling), when we’re married and also our own separate accounts.” –lsf_curvy_chica

“We have a joint checking and savings. And we also both have our separate accounts for our personal use. Like I read a comment if you trust your partner to get married why not with your money. I feel like having a joint account keeps us accountable. The joint account if for rent, bills, gas, food. Separate is for our personal wants.” – chitaxo_

Especially if there are feelings involved.

“No, absolutely not. If I’m the higher earner what business does my partner have spending my money? It’s not OUR money. It’s mine, and they need to equally be pulling the same weight and operating at the same level as I am financially. I don’t need or want dead weight being reckless with my financial security. Bills/home/food is different that is a collective fund that should be equally supported by both people, but you’re not gonna be out here ballin with my bills when you didn’t work as hard as I did for it. Sorry 12 years a slave not I.” – guacaflaca__

“Our checking accounts are separate but we have a joint savings and we been married 8 years works so far.”- eveelin1988

“Personally, I keep mine separate. Its my money, I worked for it. I make sure that I put in my part.” – theresalwayzplanz

But nothing to judge here.

“Joint accounts since we married, 26 years ago. Not to flex, but to each their own. Whatever works for each pareja, is what works for them, not my business to judge it.” –luz_g_cruz

“Unfortunately, I learned the hard way from my first marriage, separate personal accounts work best for me in my second marriage.”- miss_piggy007

“LBH I’m combining but I’m also paying all the bills so I know what’s going in and coming out and making sure there’s security stack at the end of the day.” –valemadre85

Different strokes for different folks, ya know?

“Both. We combined maybe 2/3, and the rest we kept separate for our own use. How else could I surprise him with a vacation, and he surprise me with jewelry?” – aliciarichardson711

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Latinas Share Why They Wanted To Teach Their Children Their Native Language

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Latinas Share Why They Wanted To Teach Their Children Their Native Language

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In a world with so much rising intersectionality and access to language tools, many still feel that passing along the traditions of their languages is necessary. Studies have shown for decades that children who grow up in an environment where they’re exposed to different languages have a pathway ahead of them that is full of promise. Particularly when it comes to education and career opportunities.

But why else do some parents find it essential to teach their children their family’s native languages?

Recently, we asked Latinas why learning their native language is important to them.

Check out the answer below!

“So they can be a voice for others in their community .” –_saryna_


“Besides the fact that bilingual kids use more of their brains. I’d like to teach my baby my native language so they can feel closer to our roots and be able to communicate/connect with our community not just in the US, but in Latin America too.” –shidume

“So that when the opportunity arises they can pursue their endeavors with nothing holding them back!” –candymtz13


“It not only helps them be multilingual, but also reminded them of their ancestry. Their roots. It builds a certain connection that cannot be broken.”-yeimi_herc


“So they can communicate with their grandparents, so they have double the opportunities growing up so they know their roots. So many reasons.”
elizabethm_herrera

“Know where you came from, being bilingual for more job opportunities later, being able to communicate with family members.”- panabori25

“I don’t have children but I think a language is tied to the culture. For me Spanish is a direct representation of how romantic and dramatic and over the top in the most beautiful way latin culture is. Also I’m Dominican and we just blend and make up words which really represents how crazy my family is.” –karenmarie15


“If I don’t and they lose ties to their people meaning my family who only speaks Spanish and Italian than I myself am harming them. As a preschool teacher I always tell parents English will happen eventually that’s the universal language but teach them their home home language the one that grandma/pa and the rest of the family speaks. They lose their identity. Sure they make up their own eventually but they must never forget where they come from.” –ta_ta1009


“So he doesn’t lose the connection to his grandmother and great grandfather who only speak spanish. So if he ever hears someone struggling to communicate he can help and feel a sense of pride in his roots/culture. 🇸🇻 plus 🤞🤞 I want him to pick up a 3rd language too!” –cardcrafted

“To give them more opportunities in life. I feel that some stories can only be told with authenticity when they’re in their native language. If you have the opportunity to do so, please do.” –titanyashigh

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Michelle Obama Recalled A Moment When Chicago Cops Accused Her Brother Of Stealing His Own Bike When He Was Just 10

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Michelle Obama Recalled A Moment When Chicago Cops Accused Her Brother Of Stealing His Own Bike When He Was Just 10

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As most Black families in the United States know, growing up as a Black person is seen as a great threat in and of itself.

In a country where the rate of fatal police shootings among Black Americans is higher than that for any other ethnicity, it’s no wonder that this is true. Or, why learning to handle the police while Black is a lesson taught so prominently beneath the roofs of Black households.

In a recent episode of her podcast, Michelle Obama revealed that she and her brother Craig Robinson learned this lesson years ago in a confrontation with the police.

Speaking with her brother in her podcast, Obama recalled the day Robinson was accused of stealing his own bike.

Speaking with her brother, a former basketball coach, and her mother Marian Robinson about childhood and parenting, Obama brought up a moment in which Craig was stopped by a couple of police officers while riding his bike.

At the time, Robinson was about 10 or 11 years old and had been gifted the yellow ten-speed Goldblatt by his parents. While riding the bike, a police officer grabbed hold of it and refused to let go despite Craig’s pleas and protests that the bike was his.

“I was like ‘Oh, you got this all wrong, this is my bike. Don’t worry, this isn’t a stolen bike,’ and [the cop] would not believe me, and I was absolutely heartbroken. And I finally said to him, ‘Listen, you can take me to my house, and I will prove to you, this is my bike,” Robinson recalled.

Fortunately, Obama’s mother was home at the time and ushered Craig inside of the house, while she dealt with the police. As her son recalls, “she had that tight lip” as she confronted the officers who had accused her son of stealing his own bike.

Robinson revealed that she discovered the officers were friends with the people who had made the complaint about Craig stealing the bicycle and demanded they come to her house so that they could “admit [they] made a serious mistake.”

Robinson described the experience as a “heartbreaking” one at various times throughout the interview.

“I could tell [the cops] were trying to ask me questions that would trip me up,” he recalled. “If I wasn’t so sure that that bike was mine and showed any kind of reticence, I could see them taking me off to the police station, not calling mom until after I’ve been, you know, booked or whatever they do.”

At one point, Obama remarked that the story is particularly familiar with ones being experienced across the country, even today. “Nobody thinks about, you know, the fact that we all come from good families that are trying to teach values, but when you leave the safety of your home and go out into the street, where being Black is, is a crime in and of itself, we have all had to learn how to operate outside of our homes with a level of caution, and fear, because you never know,” she recalled

Obama’s mother also described the experience as being “part of a culture” among police.

“Because those two policemen were Black. And they were acting exactly the same as any other policeman,” her mother remarked. “It’s almost like, this is what they thought they were, how they were thought they were supposed to act.”

All three family members noted how the incident is so familiar today. Despite the fact that decades have passed. “That’s the perfect example of what all of these young, Black people are dealing with now, because this was, almost fifty years ago?” Craig Robinson said.

Listen to the clip from the podcast here.

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