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Users Shared The Best Sex Advice They Ever Got And Get Ready For Some Fun!

So you’re in quarantine, holed up at home all day, and the sex (either with your partner or quarantine buddy) is getting tedious. Likely this has nothing to do with your mate but a whole heck of a lot do with your current pandemic stress. And we get it, having sex under pressure (particularly when every day is uncertain) can be kind of a hard thing to do.

Fortunately, we came across a few threads on Reddit with some helpful tips not only on how to spice things up, but also how to do things the right way.

Check out some of the best pieces of sex advice Reddit users have received below.

“Sister in-law told us to ditch the PJs and sleep naked. Frequency of sex increased almost immediately.” – Smartyandfarty

“There was a story on reddit where this guy said a girl his dad pointed out was out of his league abd the dad said something like ‘Son, let her decide if she won’t fuck you.’ Pretty good advice.” – Pakyul

“Cut your finger nails.”- Reddit user=

“Making it fun is usually the answer to whatever happens in bed.” – TalkingFromTheToilet

“70-year-old give-no-fucks biology teacher at a Catholic High School: ‘Ladies never trust the man. Use a diaphragm.'” –kalechipsyes

“I tell my kids, “If you think getting a condom ruins the mood, imagine what a crying baby will do for it.” – AFuddyDuddy

“Tell him exactly what you want him to do – a guy I was casually seeing. After two long term relationships (3 Years & 4 years) with 0 orgasms, this little tip made orgasms regular with my current BF. Seems obvious, but I know lots of other women who have experienced something similar.” – FluffyRadcliffe

“Always use a condom, otherwise you have an accident and have to name it.” –Drulock

“Stop trying to **** **** like they do in porn. Find your own style and comfort level and it’s a win/win. I used to be so awkward and now I actually enjoy doing it. Also enjoying it is half the battle. Men like it much more when there’s some enthusiasm!”- Daisy716

“No teeth, lots of slobber, make it look really fun, and do it for him regularly.” – Girlwhofliesoften

“Don’t be afraid to discuss what you like and don’t like in bed, including weird kinks. Never gonna live that fantasy out of your partner doesn’t even know about it.” – EpicBlinkstrike187

“Strap on. Get one.” – pancakemixes

“Yo, imma let you finish, but the spiderman finger position is the best fingering position of all time!” –FlowersOfSin

“I suggest looking at the lyrics to the song “lick it” by God-des and She. Have fun.” – sugartea

“I’m a woman and I recognize this might seem self explanatory to others but to me it took some talking out. Move! Literally just move! Friction feels good and a lot of men will be very surprised and impressed if you actively participate in the sexing, by moving your hips back and forth, touching them, etc. Surprise! Men like a partner that doesn’t lay there like a fish! I regrettably used to lay very still and let him “have his way with me”. While sexy in theory, no one wants to fuck a dead fish. My ex-boyfriend gave me this advice while we were fucking.” – ExoticNoodle

“Start very slowly and look at her the whole time.”- IngridDruslan

“You have to feel it out. There is no tutorial for sex. It’s practice. The best thing that you can do is to do what you might want done to you, at the same time take in how she’s enjoying it. The no.1 thing that’s horny about sex is the getting to know each other. I’ve been in situations where I had no clue what I was doing when I was young but my energy was enough to make them cum, if not my skill. Just feel it out.”- gemaliasthe1st

“My only tip is to not take it so seriously. If you fumble or feel awkward, just laugh about it. Have fun and take it easy. Even if neither of you orgasm, the important part is that you both enjoy it.” – astroboletos

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Have A Virtual Hot Date? Here’s How To Make Sure It Doesn’t Suck

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Have A Virtual Hot Date? Here’s How To Make Sure It Doesn’t Suck

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For the single introverts among us, lockdown might seem like the perfect opportunity to re-charge our social batteries and have some much needed alone-time. But no, thanks to the wonders of technology and just how damn adaptable human beings are, virtual dating has totally become a thing. 

For better or for worse, people are dating just as much as ever – albeit through a screen. So if you’re using dating apps during lockdown, arranging video dates and looking for virtual date ideas, here’s a handy guide on how to stay safe and how to ace virtual dating.

Make a damn effort

Act as if the date was in person and get ready accordingly. Shower if you haven’t already that day — it’ll make you feel a lot better — and put on your favorite outfit. Even if it’s not seasonally appropriate, who cares? Wear the sundress pushed all the way back in your closet. Put on makeup if that’s your thing, and do your hair. 

It makes all the difference not only in how you present yourself but by how you perceive yourself. You’ll feel better on the date, more like your “usual” self. 

Figure out your camera setup beforehand

Pro-tip: Do all this the day before, or at least an hour before, the date starts. That way you’re not scrambling and worrying about your angles. Decide if you’re going to use your phone or computer. Put it at eye-level, if possible. If you’re using a laptop, you can place it on a stack of books, but you can also DIY it by leaning your phone against your laptop screen (which can have its own book stack setup) or anything else you can find. 

And…lighting…lighting….lighting! Set yourself up with some good, flattering lighting before you start the call. Find a place that’s the most flattering in your house. Be sure you’re not backlit by a window which can wash out your face.

Simulate real date ideas

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Although you obviously can’t “grab a drink” together, you can simulate that. Text before the date and decide if you’ll be drinking wine, coffee, or eating dinner “together.” You can even do a twist on “Netflix and chill,” simultaneously using Netflix’s “party” function; if you go that route, choose something campy or that you’ve both seen before so you can chat easily during it.

Trust your instincts

“A nip slip may not be appropriate for a date with a new person,” Moraya DeGeare, a licensed marriage and family therapist, joked to Refinery 29. “It’s modern times, so I think there will be the temptation for people to be really bold and ask about FaceTime sex. People are horny and trapped in their houses. On one hand, that’s okay, but on the other, you’re risking someone taking screenshots,” she cautions. “Listen to your intuition and don’t do something you don’t feel comfortable with.”

She adds that you shouldn’t take the call from bed, because “you’re immediately sending all these other signals unintentionally.” Generally, she says you should conduct the date as you would in person.

Expect awkwardness to happen, because it will happen

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Awkwardness isn’t necessarily a bad thing and, when dating is involved, it’s inevitable. First dates in real life have their own clumsy moments, so don’t beat yourself up if your camera freezes for a moment, or if you talk over the other person. It’s going to happen! Just laugh about it and move on.

Stay safe and comfortable

Although it may seem like common sense, being cooped up inside for so long has left many of us lacking some of the most basic people skills. Remember to not give out any of your personal details – think home address and bank details – and watch out for any suspicious links that might come through in the chat.

Before the date, it’s also a good idea to do some recon on your date’s social media to make sure they are who they say they are. Also, don’t show your face on camera if they’re not showing theirs, that’s a serious red flag.

And lastly, know that you can end the date whenever you want to. You don’t owe anybody anything and it’s totally fine if you’re feeling uncomfortable or in danger to just end the call. But remember, basic dating etiquete also still remains so don’t just close your computer screen without saying goodbye because you’re just not feeling the vibe.

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5 Tips So You Can Succeed At Your 2021 Resolutions

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5 Tips So You Can Succeed At Your 2021 Resolutions

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Your resolutions are your goals and aspirations. This means you can’t leave it up to anyone else. That is a surefire way to fall behind and not accomplish everything you put your mind to. Here are some tips to help you get through the new year and achieve your goals.

Don’t feel bad about being seflish.

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You are trying to better yourself. That is the point of making resolutions. This means that sometimes you have to be selfish and think about yourself and only yourself. If you want to get in better shape, you might have to tell your friends you can’t go eating with them all of the time. Or you want to follow your passion and need to create time to do you and block off time to do it. You deserve the investment so take the time to invest.

Your mom will love to keep you accountable.

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Latina moms are always here for you for anything. This also definitely absolutely goes for keeping you accountable. This is something that she already does naturally. You never have to remind her of a goal of yours because she will always remember and she will always follow up. She wants to know that her baby is getting everything they want out of life. Let them know your resolutions and you will get weekly check-ins to be held accountable.

Don’t go for those fad diets.

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Be good to yourself and your body. Make better food choices. We all have some kind of healthy food that we like. If you are trying to lose weight, let yourself enjoy the journey Find those foods that you already love that are good for you and your goal. Now, find ways to introduce more of that into your life. Those foods and replace the not-so-good foods to give you a better food option. Don’t go to the place of scarcity and famine. That won’t do you any good.

Light a candle to Saint Anthony, the Saint of Lost Causes.

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We have seen abuela and mami light candles to Saint Anthony so many times. At this point, he is legit a part of our family and there is a reason that he is so beloved in our homes. If you find yourself really struggling, go ahead and give this a trick. You might be surprised by the results of putting your faith in him.

Visualize the moment you are working towards.

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Take the time to see this through first. Don’t just jump into it without knowing where you are going. This will give you a roadmap that will lead you right to where you want to go. It is so important to visualize our goals if you want them to become realities.

READ: Reddit Users Are Sharing Their Craziest New Year’s Eve Stories And I Can’t Believe Some Of Them Didn’t Make The News

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