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Another Anti-Gay Church Leader Caught Paying For Sex Through Grindr But This Time He Tried Paying With An Arby’s Card

We love Five Guys, In N’ Out, McDonald’s (if there’s nothing else available), and pretty much anything from Starbucks. We love these places so much we’d do anything to score free stuff from them. BUT, we’d never do that. Oh, hell, no! We have some dignity. At least some of us do, anyway. 

A professor, and elder at a Missouri church, was charged by police for soliciting an 18-year-old boy and propositioning him for sex. But he didn’t offer to pay him in cash but rather an Arby’s gift card and gas money.

Oh, dear lord! This story does sound like an episode of To Catch a Predator. If you’re not familiar with that old show on NBC, it’s basically this: a creepy ass white man (typically) tries to pick up a young kid for sex and has no idea the whole thing is a setup. He is being filmed by cops, and right when the culprit enters the house, ready to get laid, bam! Cops arrest him. 

That’s pretty much what happened with 57-year-old Barry Poyner, a communications professor at Truman State University in Missouri. Poyner was on the online hookup website Grinder that is reserved for gay men. He was attempting to hook up with an 18-year-old student that goes to the school he works at. 

Well, you may be thinking about what is wrong with a college professor dating an 18-year-old. It’s two consenting adults, and some schools don’t care if a teacher dates a student as long as they are both of age. That rule doesn’t apply to all schools. And what makes this matter even grosser is that he was trying to solicit sex for an exchange of goods — now, that is where he went wrong.

Police got wind that the teacher was trying to hit up other male students and seeking sex. In exchange, he was offering an Arby’s gift card and gas money. Now, soliciting sex is illegal. But providing an Arby’s gift card? That’s just insulting?

As we noted before, we love fast food to the next person, but Arby’s really? Arby’s is not my jam and probably not the jam of a lot of the male students at this university who were on Grindr. 

But back to the story. So police set up a fake profile on an 18-year-old and the name “DILF”. Click here if you don’t know what that means because we don’t have the heart to tell you. Once Poyner saw that name, he hit him up fast, and the dude, we mean, older man, was caught with his pants down. Well, almost. 

According to the Columbia Tribune, when police found him at a gas station, where he was waiting for the teenage college student, Poyner told officers that he “was not doing anything with a minor.” The officer then said something to the likes of him wanting sex from the Grindr app, Poyner said he “was not going to do that” and was only going to “him some gas.” Oh, is that what they’re calling it these days. 

His employer has banned him from the school, but they didn’t say whether or not he would be investigated or fired. 

According to KYOU TV, the university said in a statement: “The university is aware of the situation regarding Barry Poyner. He has been placed on suspension and informed that he is not allowed on campus, cannot have any contact with student organizations or participate in any campus events or activities.”

But this story gets even worse, or shall we say humiliating. 

Poyner, as we said, was an elder at a Christian church in Missouri who feels the need to go on and on about how homosexuality is wrong. 

Oh, the hypocrisy. Poyner’s name is no longer on the Kirksville Church of Christ website. But the good news is that Poyner can now live as a free gay man, right? He just needs a new job, maybe a new place to live, and a new Grindr profile. And here’s a tip to Poyner, in case he is reading: if something looks too good to be true online, run the other way. 

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This Man’s Family Speaks Out After Discovering He Was Killed And Eaten By The Man He Met On Grindr

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This Man’s Family Speaks Out After Discovering He Was Killed And Eaten By The Man He Met On Grindr


A 25-year-old Michigan man was allegedly killed by his Grindr date 50-year-old Mark Latunski, according to court documents. Kevin Bacon was found stabbed in the back and hanging upside down from a ceiling with his testicles cut off. According to BuzzFeed News, the incident occurred during Christmas week after Bacon reportedly went missing for three days following a meet up with Latunski on Christmas Eve.  

Authorities discovered Bacon’s naked body after police showed up at Latunski’s home in Bennington Township.  

Court documents reveal the gruesome details of this tragic death.

According to BuzzFeed News, Bacon was already deceased when Latunski allegedly began castrating him.

“Mr. Latunski stated he used a knife, stabbed him in the back one time, then slit his throat,” Det. Sgt. James Moore testified in court. “Afterwards, Mr. Latunski stated he wrapped rope around the ankles of Mr. Bacon, and hung him from the rafters on the ceiling.” 

According to M Live, Latunski had a well-documented long battle with mental illness. In August, his ex-wife filed a court motion to limit the suspect’s time with their children. In the motion, his wife claimed, in 2010, he was diagnosed with depression, paranoid schizophrenia, and personality disorder but was not taking his medication. 

Latunski’s husband of three years, Jamie Arnold, told M Live he had only learned of Latunski’s mental health issues in July when Latunski was arrested for failure to pay child support. 

“To my knowledge, I couldn’t force him to see a therapist or take medication,” he told M Live. “Never in a million years did I think he’d be capable of doing such a horrendous crime.”

Bacon’s parents speak out about their tragic loss. 

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When Bacon went missing family and friends began to organize search parties online and offline.

“He said he was meeting someone in Swartz Creek and that he would be back later that night, but he has not returned home. His phone has been off since approximately 6:20pm. It is unusual for him to turn his phone off when he’s out and also not like him to not have his car with him when he meets people. We have reason to believe that he is not safe and is trapped,” his friend Kaylee Jo Mitchell wrote on Facebook. 

After police discovered what had unfolded and revelations about Bacon’s tragic end were revealed, his parents held a press conference urging people to be careful when using dating apps. 

“He obviously got into something he was not prepared for,” his father, Karl Bacon, said in a press conference. “Evil does exist, and it touched us. It’s gut-wrenching to hear the details, and we’re beside ourselves. I don’t think we’ve had the time … to process everything.”

Bacon’s parents feel that Latunski is playing the “mental health card.” 

In a court arraignment, according to M Live, when asked if Mark Latunski was his real name, Latunski responded that his real name was “Edgar Thomas Hill” and that Mark Latunski was actually his nephew. For the Bacon family, who just lost their beloved son, they speculate that Latunski is using his history of mental illness to evade consequences.

“He has used the mental health card to get out of situations in the past and he’s attempting to use it again,” Karl Bacon said. “I would like to see him locked up for the rest of his life in some form or another.”

Arnold said what his husband has done was not something he had imagined ever possible. However, he did acknowledge that his mental health began to spiral in February when he was fired from his job for erratic behavior. 

“I knew something wasn’t right, but I didn’t know it was to that extreme,” Arnold said. “He was progressively saying stranger and stranger things like the neighbors were polluting our water supply. They were all nonsensical. All I knew was I had to get out of the situation.”

Arnold conceded that he knew things were heading in a bad direction, but he could not get Latunski to take his medication nor was there a viable legal option to do so. 

While Latunski’s fate remains uncertain, Bacon’s fate has already been sealed. The case highlights the failures of dating apps to protect their users and how the mental health system in the United States fails its citizens. What is most important is how 25-year-old Kevin Bacon, a hairstylist working toward becoming a clinical therapist, is remembered. 

“Kevin was a colorful, vibrant being both inside and out. He did what he wanted to, when he wanted to, and let very little hold him back,” Michelle Myers, his best friend, said. “He was attentive and could remember all the small details – even all the ones that you forgot. I really could not have asked for a better friend. I was incredibly lucky to call him my friend,””

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Italy and Mexico Partner Up to Bring Hundreds of Stolen Paintings Back To Mexico—Because Art History Matters


Italy and Mexico Partner Up to Bring Hundreds of Stolen Paintings Back To Mexico—Because Art History Matters

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March marked a major cultural win for Mexico in regards to its art history.

Earlier this month, it was announced in Rome that hundreds of paintings by unidentified artists in Mexico between the 17th and 20th centuries will be returned to Mexico. The works of art were illegally sold on the black market and taken to Italy in the 1970s.

An example of one of the painting (shown below) were often inscribed with prayers in Spanish and painted on pieces of fabric or wood.

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At a private ceremony, Italy’s minister of culture Alberto Bonisoli returned the paintings to Mexico’s secretary of culture, Alejandra Frausto Guerrero. Guerrero emphasized the need for countries to partner and return works of art to their original country of origin. For decades, we have seen art stolen from people during wars and times of strife returned to their rightful owners around the globe.

The Italian government wants to be a leader in the restitution of art stolen around the world depriving citizens of their culture.

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“Today we have the opportunity to return something to the Mexican government and to send a message to the rest of the world that this type of restitution marks a direction we should all take,” Bonisoli said.

Spanish newspaper El Pais reported it took almost two years of investigation and diplomatic relations to return the paintings back to Mexico.

The newspaper reported agents from the Carabinieri body for the protection of cultural history became suspicious during an exhibition in Milan and thus began a meticulous search to trace back where those art pieces had originally come from.

The Italian government had to use technology to analyze the images to determine that they were from places of worship in Mexico.

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According to El Pais, the Carabinieri body partnered with techs from the Italian ministry of culture, began to analyze the iconography and inscription of the paintings, eventually finding that the pieces were taken from different places of worship in Mexico between the 1960s and 1970s and then sold to a wealthy Italian art collector who donated the pieces to two Italian museums after his death.

The 594 paintings are in the ex-voto style of art—a miniature painting or votive offering to a saint. / Instagram

Often showing the person offering this type of painting overcoming a type of physical distress, these types of paintings are common throughout much of Mexico and Latin America.

Mexican artists have been painting this type of intricate paintings for centuries and continue to do so up to today, typically using pieces of small wood or tin (materials readily available) to paint their mini obras de arte and thank the saint they want to praise.

The ongoing cultural partnership with Italy and Mexico has not only helped return these hundreds of paintings to its rightful country, but Italy is also helping Mexican art curators learn how to best preserve Mexican works of art for museum and history collection.

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