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The Difference Between The Confederate And Pride Flag? One Represents Hate The Other Represents Love And Inclusion

Some kids do the darnedest things. Others… commit acts that are just plain stupid. 

In a recent story, high school students from a town in Missouri acted against several displays of the Pride flag at their school by displaying a Confederate flag in their cafeteria. 

Yawn.

After a group of students at West Plains High School in Missouri passed out pride flags to show solidarity with LGBTQ students, some conservative students apparently took issue.

In response to the flags, several students hung up a Confederate flag in their school cafeteria area. The display ultimately sparked a heavy debate on social media and amongst the people of West Plains. According to a report by Buzzfeed students had posted the Confederate flag incident to Snapchat accounts. One post had captioned the images of the flag with the words “If they can fly their queer flags, others can fly their rebel flags. Butt hurt?”

The incident which occurred on December 9th is reportedly under investigation by the West Plains School District. As of Monday, the school has yet to take disciplinary actions against any of the students involved according to a district spokesperson who spoke to BuzzFeed News. 

In a statement issued by the West Plains School District the school views the incident as unacceptable. 

“Last week groups of high school students chose to bring banners to school, and while we respect student’s first amendment rights, however, we became aware the banners were used by some members of the groups to taunt other students, and that is not acceptable,” the statement read. “Rather than deal with this a disciplinary matter, we chose to deal with it as a learning experience. No disciplinary actions were taken. Our hope is to teach our students to respect each other and to respect different viewpoints on a variety of societal issues. Since that occurrence, rumors have sprung up from the most part from people who were not affiliated with the school district, but we want our community to know what the true facts are and set aside any rumors that are being heard.”

According to Buzfeed, the “banners” that were referred to in the statement are actually addressing both the Confederate and Pride flags. (Insert world’s most massive eye roll.)

In an interview with BuzzFeed New, two students who had taken part in passing out the Pride flags have said they are currently experieing hateful comments online. 

“A lot of students don’t have parents who support them,”  Marianne, a 15-year-old sophomore from the school where the incident took place told BuzzFeed. The sophomore took part in passing out Pride flags to students at the school before the Confederate flags were strung up. “We were just trying to show that we’re proud of who we are.”

According to students who interviewed with Buzzfeed, 60 Pride flags had been bought and passed around to other students. Distribution of the flags had been done without Mal intent and many students stuck their flags out of their backpacks or carried them by hand around the school’s campus. Students had said that they wanted to share the flags to show LGBTQ+ students at their high school that they were never alone. 

According to the students who had talked to Buzzfeed, it wasn’t until their lunch period that they had noticed two or three male students string up a Confederate flag in the seniors café.

“To us it was just like retaliation to people who were holding their own [pride] flags,” Taylor, another 15-year-old who spoke to Buzzfeed said. “The worst part is that others were backing them up.”

Some students claimed that anti-gay slurs were used against students who had passed out the flags while they were in the cafeteria. The incident piqued when kids ran from the cafeteria upset and phoned their parents so that they would be picked up.

Eventually school administrators took down the flag away.

While a superintendent for the Missouri school district said that the school recognizes students’ First Amendment right to freedom of speech and expression, they had to ask students to put the banners away when it became a disruption.

“But when it became a point of disruption, we had to eliminate the disruption and we simply asked students to put the banners away,” said the superintendent. “It doesn’t matter what the banner consists of.”

The images of the incident have circulated online, often with comments that are homophobic and against the LGBTQ+ community.

Students involved in the incident have argued on Snapchat that they were expressing their equal right to practice freedom of speech. Still, their true intentions were clue. As one FB user who had read the commentary wrote in response, “One is for love and acceptance and the other represents hatred! Sorry, schools should not allow that!”

Here’s What My White Husband Has Learned About The Latino Culture One Day At A Time

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Here’s What My White Husband Has Learned About The Latino Culture One Day At A Time

My husband and I have been married for a little over three years now and he is still learning so much about myself and what it means to be Latino. I’m not talking about me having a big Cuban family all stationed in Miami (3-0-5 🙌🏽) or the fact that the best jokes in Netflix’s “One Day At A Time” are in Spanish. I’m talking about the little things that to me have always been a normal part of life. This is what has continuously caught him off guard…

If you ask him, I’m already turning into my abuela because of the things he is finding out, which to me is a compliment. Here are just a few of the things that he is starting to understand about our future together.

1. Seasoning your beans is hard AF but abuela makes it look easy.

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No matter how many times I try or how many techniques I use, my bean always turn out bland AF. This wouldn’t have been a problem if he didn’t have my abuela’s frijoles negro because now he has a reference point as to what beans are supposed to taste like. Though, he doesn’t cook so my bland beans will have to do.

2. That whole personal space thing is a white construct.

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One of the first things he realized about being married to a Latino is that all that personal space he once had is gone. I even go into the bathroom to talk to him when he’s in the shower because that’s 👏🏾 how 👏🏾 I 👏🏾 was 👏🏾 raised. 👏🏾

3. Family obligations cannot and will not be avoided.

Even if it means that you have to spend $800 to travel 3,000 miles back home for a weekend for your nephew’s first birthday, there is no getting out of family events. #BasedOnTrueEvents

4. My family raised me to be super eco-friendly (and very frugal).

The first time my husband saw me washing a Ziploc bag he asked if we had run out and that he could get some from the store. My response: “But, like, why do you want to waste money like that?”

5. Selena was and will always be La Reina.

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I know. I know. How did he not know this before is what you’re thinking, right? But you can’t hold it against him. I don’t think Selena had a very big following in West Virginia. There was no way he could have known that she is more relevant now than ever. Not to mention that she still wins Latin Billboard awards and I play her music nonstop.

6. My abuela’s obsession with reusing containers has been passed down.

After he came down from the initial shock of thinking that I left the sour cream in the Tupperware cabinet overnight, he made a joke about me becoming my abuela. I’ve never been so proud.

7. Calling a loved one “gordo” is not offensive.

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Because, you know, someone calling you “my little fatty” is not okay. Imagine his shock when he heard a family member call me “gordito” in front of him. He was shook.

8. Every chore I do is just an excuse to put on Celia Cruz and dance.

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Sure, I can cook in silence but nothing makes my time in the kitchen more enjoyable than some “La Negra Tiene Tumbao” or “La Vida Es Un Carnaval” blaring in the background. Plus, he is starting to learn some of her greatest hits.

9. Seventy-five percent of Latino cooking is just making that sabor.

To quote my husband: “Oh. So ropa vieja is like making pot roast then you make the flavor (sofrito). Yeah. White people are too lazy to make all that flavor.”

10. Being extra and loud is just in our blood.

I still have that trophy on our desk in the living room and he has mentioned moving it a couple times. Then I stubbed my toe, fall to the floor in tears, and he remembers why it is so prominently displayed.

11. Hot Cheetos are life.

He didn’t know they were so versatile but he’s not upset that we get to eat them all the time.

READ: 14 Things That Happen When A Gringo Marries Into A Latino Family

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Michelle Obama Just Released Her Workout Playlist And It’s Got Some Mean Music

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Michelle Obama Just Released Her Workout Playlist And It’s Got Some Mean Music

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When it comes to workout sessions and the beats she conducts them to, Michelle Obama has got quite some taste. The former First Lady recently shared her own workout playlist and revealed that some of her favorite songs come from today’s biggest Black queens. Cardi B, Lizzo and Beyonce among them.

In a recent post to her Instagram page, the former First Lady shared that she’s a big fan of working out to Cardi B.

“It’s about that time when New Year’s resolutions get a bit harder to stick to,” Michelle Obama shared Sunday to her Instagram page. “To offer a little inspiration, I want to share my go-to #WorkoutPlaylist with you. These songs always seem to give me that extra boost to get through my toughest workouts. What’s on your playlist?”

Obama revealed that songs like “Soulmate” by Lizzo, “Show Me Love” by Alicia Keys, and “Press” by Cardi B are among some of her favorite tunes to listen to.

Of course, it didn’t take long for Cardi B to flip out over the news that our very own version of an American royal loves her music. 

“I’m tellin ya Michelle Obama not the one to play with,” Cardi B wrote in a follow up Instagram post about Michelle Obama’s workout playlist.

Even though she shares her life openly on Instagram and Twitter, there’s still a lot to learn about Cardi B. From her recent feud with Nicky Minaj to her early start as a member of the Bloods in the Bronx, Cardi has always been open about her life- you just need to dig deeper to find out all the juicy details. Keep clicking to find out more wild facts about this stripper-turned-rapper social media star.

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1. Her real name isn’t Cardi B

This seems pretty obvious, but Cardi B is just a cute name that she picked up from her parents. Her full legal name is Belcalis Marlenis Almánzar. The fact that her sister’s name is Hennessy led to the nickname Bacardi, then Cardi, then the rest is history. The ‘B’ alternately stands for bully, or beautiful, depending on her mood.

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2. She grew up in the South Bronx

And she’s always been proud of her roots. She recently donated $8,000 to the family of a 15-year-old boy who was a recent victim of gang violence in her old hood.

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3. She joined the Bloods at the age of 16.

Growing up in the Highbridge neighborhood in the South Bronx, Cardi joined the Bloods at the age of sixteen, something that she proudly admitted on Twitter in 2017 after she was called out for being a poser.

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4. She doesn’t hide the fact that she started stripping at 19.

After working at a grocery store in Lower Manhattan for a few years, Cardi switched to the more lucrative career of exotic dancing at the age of 19. She says that she started stripping to gain independence after being caught up in an abusive relationship, and credits her career switch with saving her life.

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5. Her next formal job was on the VH1 reality show Love and Hip-Hop New York

She appeared on the sixth and seventh seasons of the show, and allowed the cameras to follow her budding music career, as well as all the drama associated with her relationship with Tommy Geez, a rapper who at the time was serving a four-year prison sentence. She left the show in 2016 to pursue her music career full-time.

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6. Since her appearance on Love and Hip-Hop New York, Cardi hasn’t stayed off the airwaves for long.

She followed up her two seasons on LHHNY with a stint on the BET show Being Mary Jane, and guest appearances on Hip Hop Squares, and Kocktails with Khloéwhere she talked about what happened when she told her mom that she had become a stripper.

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7. After “Bodak Yellow” bumped “Look What You Made Me Do” off the charts, T. Swift sent Cardi a big bouquet of pink flowers. Cardi’s response?

“Like, damn, why’d it have to be Taylor Swift? I like her, I like that damn song.”

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8. She isn’t afraid to talk about her plastic surgery

She credits it with helping her stripping career, and says that she first started thinking about it early on. Her rationale is that people don’t come to the club to see dancers who look like they just walked off the street.

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9. Tired of people making fun of her crooked smile, one of the first things that Cardi B did after appearing on LHHNY was pay big bucks to a dentist to fix her teeth.

There’s a major difference between her early Instagram videos and Cardi today- her straight, white smile cost about the same as a luxury SUV.

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10. The loud, hilarious personality that made her a social media icon was part of the reason why she had trouble in school.

Her loud, stream-of-consciousness videos on Instagram made her a household name, which in turn helped raise her profile enough that studios paid attention when she started dropping tracks. In school, Cardi says that she was often disruptive- not because she was a bad kid, but because she could never stop telling jokes.

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11. Even Cardi B’s romantic life is open for her fans to see.

Her fiancé, the rapper Offset, proposed onstage during Power 99’s Powerhouse at the Wells Fargo Center in Philadelphia. The couple had started publicly dating earlier that same year.

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12. She confirmed rumors of her pregnancy by performing live on Saturday Night Live on April 7th 2018

Although she had earlier denied reports that she was pregnant, she stepped onstage to perform “Be Careful” in a curve-clinging, high-necked Christian Siriano gown that showed off an obvious baby bump.

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13. Her daughter’s name is as unusual as her own.

On July 10th 2018, Cardi gave birth to her daughter, who she named Kulture Kiari Cephus. She announced the birth on her Instagram page, and later explained the meaning behind the name on Twitter by tweeting “Kulture. anything else woulda been basic. Okrrrrr”

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14. She’s been careful about sharing photos of little Kulture.

Even though her Instagram account gives her fans 24/7 access, she doesn’t plan on doing the same with her daughter’s life. While she’s posted a few photos of her daughter bassinet, the only photo she’s made public is of Kulture’s tiny hands, which was posted on Instagram on September 2nd.

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15. Cardi B plans to be a strict parent.

Her daughter is only a few months old, but Cardi recently told People that she’s planning on being a very strict parent with daughter Kulture. “Like, you can have whatever you want, but you can’t do whatever you want,” she says.

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16. Cardi was raised Catholic, and has a deep faith in God.

She speaks openly about her faith, and says that she regularly receives guidance from God. Even though she’s religious, she wasn’t afraid to slay at the the 2018 Met Gala when the theme was ‘Heavenly Bodies’.

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17. She’s the first female rapper in 19 years to debut at #1

There hasn’t been a female rapper that has made a successful bid to top the charts since Eve’s Let There Be Eve in 1999. “Bodak Yellow” was the first song by a female rapper to make it to #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 List in 19 years.

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18. It’s rumored that her wedding to Offset could be televised

It’s not often that rap royalty weds rap royalty- rumor has it that both BET and VH1 are vying to secure exclusive rights to the couple’s eventual wedding ceremony.

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19. She spends way more money on her blinged-out nails than she does on her outfits.

She isn’t afraid to admit that her looks often don’t cost that much. “$100,000 on the wrist but my outfit costs like $60,” she brags. She still likes to shop in the Fordham area of the Bronx, which is full of shops selling cute clothes for cheap.

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20. It’s rumored her net worth is around $4 million

Just in 2017 alone, her net worth increased by over $2 million- that’s double her total income.

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21. She considers herself a feminist

“If in order to consider someone a feminist, they have to had gone to college, got degrees, own companies, then that’s not real,” she told Latina magazine in 2016. “Why can’t someone who came from the bottom, who has a dark past, not achieve? I used to be a dancer and did what I did. I don’t have a perfect vocabulary. But I do influence people.”

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