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Honduran Father Whose 13-Year-Old Daughter Committed Suicide After He Wasn’t Granted Asylum Wants Her To “Help Another Person Live”

Heydi Gámez García, 13, took her life on July 2nd after her father’s asylum request was denied for the third time. Heydi’s father, Manuel Gámez, sent her to the U.S. after his father was gunned down by MS-13 for refusing to pay a “war tax” to the gang. He didn’t expect that Heydi would be granted asylum, but that he would be deported.

Manuel certainly didn’t envision that his goodbye hug and kiss four years ago would be the last time he would hug and kiss his daughter while she was still alive.

The Gámaz family was broken by MS-13 and failed again by the U.S. immigration system.

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Heydi’s mother walked out on her and her dad when she was less than two months old. By the time Heydi was a year old, Manuel left for New York as an undocumented immigrant to make money to send back home to his daughter. After his father was killed by MS-13, and his mother’s health started failing, he worried about who would care for Heydi and his younger sister, Zoila.

Manuel’s sister was granted asylum and cared for Heydi in his absence in New York.

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A year after his father’s death, he sent Heydi, Zoila and his brother to the U.S. Heydi and Zoila were granted asylum. Heydi learned English within a year and started teaching her father, via phone calls, how to correctly pronounce English words. They spoke every day, always asking when he’d come.

After two failed attempts to gain asylum, Heydi lost hope for being reunited and started cutting herself.

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He never wanted to make promises he couldn’t keep, like being there for her quinceañera. Heydi watched her classmates complain about their parents’ visiting their school and fell into a depression. In December, she was brought to the hospital for a psychiatric evaluation after cutting her wrist at school. She was seeing a therapist until two months before her suicide.

“Please forgive me for failing you,” Manuel wants to tell his daughter.

“I’m sorry I couldn’t be there… I never meant to leave you,” he says to her. Heydi was Manuel’s only child. Heydi’s aunt is coping with impossible guilt. She told CNN, “I was supposed to be protecting her. I would never send her to Honduras. But I never thought something bad would happen to her here.”

Manuel was released on a two week ‘humanitarian’ visit to release Heydi from life support.

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He finally got to hold her hand and comfort her as she left this life behind. “We love you,” he whispered to her. “Don’t leave us.”

The last thing Heydi told anyone was that she lost hope in being reunited with her father.

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She was crying as she told her aunt that she feels hopeless and that one day, she’ll become a lawyer to help her dad’s case. She then said she wanted to be alone and was found two hours later in a closet. She didn’t leave a note.

She was declared brain dead a week later at Cohen Children’s Medical Center in Queens.

Dr. Charles Schleien told CNN that she was in a “neurologically devastated state” upon arrival with “no hope for recovery.” He went on to disclose that the Gámaz family “chose to turn tragedy into the gift of life. Heydi is an organ donor and her final act will be to save others.”

The mental health impacts of family separation at our borders can only be told one story at a time.

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Every story is important. Every life lost to policies that don’t incorporate the most visceral human desires, like growing up with your father by your side, is one life too many. 

What on earth are we doing?

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Update:

On July 18, Heydi was taken off life support. Her family told The New York Times they decided to donate her organs. “She was so young, so healthy, maybe she can live in another person, she can help another person live,” her father told The Times.

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Pablo Escobar’s Opens Up About Being Rescued By An MI6 Agent During A Shootout That Killed His Mom

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Pablo Escobar’s Opens Up About Being Rescued By An MI6 Agent During A Shootout That Killed His Mom

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Pablo Escobar is one of the most notorious drug lords to ever be. Years later, his story continues to unfold and this time it is because of his first-born son who was adopted by an MI6 agent.

A man in Europe has come forward as Pablo Escobar’s long-lost first-born son.

Roberto Sendoya Escobar, who lives in Mallorca, Spain under his adopted name of Phillip Witcomb, first found out that he was Pablo Escobar’s son in 1989. His adoptive father, an MI6 agent, told him when he was 24. Since then, Roberto Escobar has been trying to figure out how to absorb this identity into his life.

In an interview with BBC Newsnight, Roberto admitted to never really knowing who Pablo was at first.

After his adoptive father told him the news, Roberto had to do some research to figure out who Pablo was. However, Roberto did spend time going back to Colombia with his dad and met Pablo. The reason was that his adoptive father was still trying to keep Pablo close for his own undercover work.

“I just remember the smell of the guy and I also remember, to be honest with you, a bit intimidated,” Roberto recalls. “I was quite a young child and I didn’t really understand what was going on.”

While he barely remembers, Roberto’s adoptive dad rescued him after a shoot out that killed his mom.

In his interview with BBC Newsnight, Roberto says he doesn’t remember the shoot out because he was an infant. However, he does have random moments of remembering big flashes of the gunfight but nothing of a coherent memory of the shooting.

It was during that shootout that Roberto’s adoptive father discovered him and adopted him. When Roberto was older he was sent to boarding school in the U.K. and grew up as part of the Witcomb family.

You can watch the rest of the interview and learn about the series of events leading to the revelation.

Realy goes to show that some people have a lot to learn about their own pasts. Some times things are not close to what they seem.

READ: Pablo Escobar Once Had Four Pet Hippos, Now There’s More Than 80 And They’re Destroying Colombia’s Ecosystem

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‘Glee’ Creators Have Announced A College Fund They Are Creating For Naya Rivera’s Son

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‘Glee’ Creators Have Announced A College Fund They Are Creating For Naya Rivera’s Son

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There are still a lot of questions surrounding Naya Rivera’s sudden and tragic death. The 33-year-old actress is survived by her young son Josey and the creators of “Glee” are coming together to help his future.

“Glee” creators Ryan Murphy, Ian Brennan, and Brad Falchuk have announced a college fund for Naya Rivera’s son.

Josey Hollis Dorsey, who is 4 years old, was with his mother when she tragically died on Lake Piru in Ventura County, California. Since the discovery of Rivera’s body, the cast and creators of “Glee” have shared touching tributes to the actress and singer.

“Our hearts go out to her family, especially her mom Yolanda, who was a big part of the ‘Glee’ family and her son Josey,” reads the statement by the three creators. “The three of use are currently in the process of creating a college fund for the beautiful son Naya loved most of all.”

The statement comes with the backdrop that Rivera sacrificed her own life to save her son.

According to the official autopsy, Rivera’s cause fo death was drowning in Lake Piru. The actress had rented a pontoon boat for her and her son to enjoy some time together on the lake around the 4th of July holiday. According to officials, Rivera made the ultimate sacrifice for her son.

“She mustered enough energy to get her son back onto the boat, but not enough to save herself,” Ventura County Sheriff Bill Ayub said in a press conference, according to CNN.

Her former “Glee” classmates remember Rivera as a loving and kind person.

It is clear that Rivera left an indelible mark on everyone she worked with. Her passion for life and her craft is evident in the constant outpouring of love from friends, family, and costars as they continue to try to make sense of the tragedy.

Rest in peace, Naya.

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