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17 Things That Happen When You Date A Latino Man

You might be a Latino or a non-Latino man or woman who is suddenly dating a cute Latino guy. If you are not familiar with the ways of the Latino men, you have a whole new world to discover.

Here’s our ultimate but non-comprehensive list of things that you will experience in your new caliente relationship. You will find many more, we are sure… but here’s some of the key delights of dating someone of proud Latino heritage.

1. You date the whole family!

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Think My Big Fat Greek Wedding. This is simultaneously a blessing and a curse. You will have a whole bunch of new tíos, primos and even abuelitas that will pamper you as one of their own retoñitos. But you will also find that for many of us privacy is not necessarily a rule. You will have to be firm but loving.

2. You discover the benefits of caballerosidad (Old World chivalry)

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Many Latino men are old fashioned in their manners. You will soon find that your galán opens the door for you, says por favor and gracias and gives you his seat. If you feel uncomfortable tell him. If you sorta like it just go with the flow and enjoy some chivalry. 

3. Your palate becomes more sophisticated (chili is a whole new world…)

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Latin America is a diverse continent when it comes to food. Your gringo idea of Hispanic food will be broadened: arepas, tacos, tinga, pozole… your tastebuds are the limit. Just for the record: Tex-Mex food is a no-no.

4. Stereotypes fall like a house of cards

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Popular culture in the United States has generated dozens of stereotypes regarding Latinos. Truth is there are rural and urban latinos, cultured and uncultured, queer and straight… Latinos are not made with a cookie cutter you know? Mexicans, Colombians, boricuas, Dominicans, Argentines… we are all different and sometimes we can’t even understand each other!

5. You discover that Spanish is romantic as hell

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Good old Español is a multifaceted language that gives ample room to metaphors. Your beau will surely whisper some suave phrases to your ear. Those rodillas will buckle even if he whispers the lyrics to that annoying song “Despacito”. When Latino men apologize for being a jerk you will listen…

6. Your views on world history might change a bit

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Latin America is the product of histories of abuse and colonization that indigenous populations were subject to. Later, US and European influence in the continent has had good and bad repercussions. Your man will likely be well versed in history and broaden your perspective, making you question who the good guys and the bad guys truly are.

7. Your geography improves

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Latin Americans are proud of their heritage and of the place their family comes from. We can provide details on the different landscapes of our homeland. You will find out, for example, that Mexicans get really cross if you think their homeland is in Central America when it is actually in North America.

8. Your sense of humor gets sharper

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Latin American men have a knack for double entendres or doble sentido. Many jokes are buried in layers of meaning and often seem tame at first, but are actually fun in a dirty kinda way.

9. You accept that the world should be a matriarchy

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Even if popular culture leads us to believe that Latin American society is ruled by men, the true bosses are the mamás, abuelas and tías who discretely rule the household. You will see how your man turns into a humble little boy in front of them.

10. You get to know a whole bunch of new pop culture references

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Latino pop culture goes well beyond Shakira and Ricky Martin. You will suddenly discover the guilty pleasure of telenovelas and the sinuous rhythms of the continent (see our guide here). Figures like Don Francisco are part of daily conversation and you will keep track of Thalia’s whereabouts. Walter Mercado’s horoscopes will be a topic of scorn and adulation in equal measures.

11. You will realize that Latin America has produced amazing painters

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Art history is told by hegemonic cultures such as Western Europe and the United States, which is probably why you think of Warhol and Van Gogh when you think about painting. But beyond the amazing Frida Kahlo there are Latino painters like Francisco Toledo, Remedios Varo or Rufino Tamayo who are among the best humanity has produced. You might spot a poster or two at your in-law’s.

12. And amazing writers

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Yes we sure love old García Márquez and Neruda, but others like Guadalupe Nettel, Ricardo Piglia, Juan Rulfo and many more are also absolutely fantastic. Make sure your chiquito reads some out loud. A true aphrodisiac.

13. Social justice will be key in your understanding of the world

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Latinos in the US have struggled for decades to assert their rightful place in society, which makes us fierce combatants when it comes to social justice. At one point in your relationship you might discover how politically involved latino men are. The man on the picture: César Chávez, the legendary chicano activist.

14. You will stop whispering

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Latinos are proud and proud of what we say… so we say things clear and sometimes loud. No need to whisper your opinions: yell them, let the world know who you are and what you stand for. Also, you will have to SCREAM at family dinner sometimes as the whole clan will talk over each other.

15. Yes, it is true: you will learn (or at least try) to dance

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Good or bad, most Latino men bust a move when required. For Latinos dance is part of the everyday and a form of physical, emotional and sexual individuality. Un pasito palante!

16. You will own a Che t-shirt

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Ernesto Che Guevara has become a cultural and hipster icon worldwide. Unless your pololo is a conservative Latino (they exist, believe us) chances are he thinks El Che is cool and will gift you some paraphernalia. It is sort of an initiation ritual.

17. You will find out that contrary to popular belief, many Latinos are very conservative when it comes to sex

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Most Latinos are very religious, mostly Catholic and evangelical. So contrary to the popular belief that Latinos are all sex thirsty sensual machines, you will find that many take things easy and promise eternal love before reaching third base… or even second. Don’t be fooled though, some will try to charm their way into your love.

 

 
 
 
 
 

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Exclusive: Luis Fonsi Talks Working with Rauw Alejandro, Christina Aguilera, and Demi Lovato

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Exclusive: Luis Fonsi Talks Working with Rauw Alejandro, Christina Aguilera, and Demi Lovato

Luis Fonsi is kicking off 2021 with a new single. The Puerto Rican superstar premiered the music video for “Vacío” on Feb. 18 featuring rising Boricua singer Rauw Alejandro. The guys put a new spin on the classic “A Puro Dolor” by Son By Four.

Luis Fonsi throws it back to his románticas.

“I called Omar Alfanno, the writer of ‘A Puro Dolo,’ who is a dear friend,” Fonsi tells Latido Music. “I told him what my idea was [with ‘Vacío’] and he loved it. He gave me his blessing, so I wrote a new song around a few of those lines from ‘A Puro Dolor’ to bring back that nostalgia of those old romantic tunes that have been a part of my career as well. It’s a fresh production. It sounds like today, but it has that DNA of a true, old-school ballad.”

The world got to know Fonsi through his global smash hit “Despacito” with Daddy Yankee in 2017. The remix with Canadian pop star Justin Bieber took the song to new heights. That was a big moment in Fonsi’s music career that spans over 20 years.

There’s more to Fonsi than “Despacito.”

Fonsi released his first album, the fittingly-titled Comenzaré, in 1998. While he was on the come-up, he got the opportunity of a lifetime to feature on Christina Aguilera’s debut Latin album Mi Reflejo in 2000. The two collaborated on “Si No Te Hubiera Conocido.” Fonsi scored multiple Billboard Hot Latin Songs No. 1s in the years that followed and one of the biggest hits was “No Me Doy Por Vencido” in 2008. That was his career-defining romantic ballad.

“Despacito” remains the second most-viewed music video on YouTube with over 7.2 billion views. The hits did not stop there. Later in 2017, he teamed up with Demi Lovato for “Échame La Culpa,” which sits impressively with over 2 billion views.

He’s also appearing on The Voice next month.

Not only is Fonsi working on his new album, but also he’s giving advice to music hopefuls for the new season of The Voice that’s premiering on March 1. Kelly Clarkson tapped him as her Battle Advisor. In an exclusive interview, Fonsi talked with us about “Vacío,” The Voice, and a few of his greatest hits.

What was the experience like to work with Rauw Alejandro for “Vacío”?

Rauw is cool. He’s got that fresh sound. Great artist. Very talented. Amazing onstage. He’s got that great tone and delivery. I thought he had the perfect voice to fit with my voice in this song. We had talked about working together for awhile and I thought that this was the perfect song. He really is such a star. What he’s done in the last couple of years has been amazing. I love what he brought to the table on this song.

Now I want to go through some of your greatest hits. Do you remember working with Christina Aguilera for her Spanish album?

How could you not remember working with her? She’s amazing. That was awhile back. That was like 1999 or something like that. We were both starting out and she was putting out her first Spanish album. I got to sing a beautiful ballad called “Si No Te Hubiera Conocido.” I got to work with her in the studio and see her sing in front of the mic, which was awesome. She’s great. One of the best voices out there still to this day.

What’s one of your favorite memories of “No Me Doy Por Vencido”?

“No Me Doy Por Vencido” is one of the biggest songs in my career. I think it’s tough to narrow it down just to one memory. I think in general the message of the song is what sticks with me. The song started out as a love song, but it turned into an anthem of hope. We’ve used the song for different important events and campaigns. To me, that song has such a powerful message. It’s bigger than just a love song. It’s bringing hope to people. It’s about not giving up. To be able to kind of give [people] hope through a song is a lot more powerful than I would’ve ever imagined. It’s a very special song.

I feel the message is very relevant to the COVID-19 pandemic we’re living through.

Oh yeah! I wrote that song a long time ago with Claudia Brant, and during the first or second month of the lockdown when we were all stuck at home, we did a virtual writing session and we rewrote “No Me Doy Por Vencido.” Changing the lyrics, kind of adjusting them to this situation that we’re living now. I haven’t recorded it. I’ll do something with it eventually. It’s really cool. It still talks about love. It talks about reuniting. Like the light at the end of the tunnel. It has the hope and love backbone, but it has to do a lot with what we’re going through now.

What do you think of the impact “Despacito” made on the industry?

It’s a blessing to be a part of something so big. Again, it’s just another song. We write these songs and the moment you write them, you don’t really know what’s going to happen with them. Or sometimes you run into these surprises like “Despacito” where it becomes a global phenomenon. It goes No. 1 in places where Spanish songs had never been played. I’m proud. I’m blessed. I’m grateful to have worked with amazing people like Daddy Yankee. Like Justin Bieber for the remix and everyone else involved in the song. My co-writer Erika Ender. The producers Mauricio Rengifo and Andrés Torres. It was really a team effort and it’s a song that obviously changed my career forever.

What was the experience like to work with Demi Lovato on “Echáme La Culpa”?

She’s awesome! One of the coolest recording sessions I’ve ever been a part of. She really wanted to sing in Spanish and she was so excited. We did the song in Spanish and English, but it was like she was more excited about the Spanish version. And she nailed it! She nailed it from the beginning. There was really not much for me to say to her. I probably corrected her once or twice in the pronunciation, but she came prepared and she brought it. She’s an amazing, amazing, amazing vocalist.

You’re going to be a battle advisor on The Voice. What was the experience like to work with Kelly Clarkson?

She’s awesome. What you see is what you get. She’s honest. She’s funny. She’s talented. She’s humble and she’s been very supportive of my career. She invited me to her show and it speaks a lot that she wanted me to be a part of her team as a Battle Advisor for the new season. She supports Latin music and I’m grateful for that. She’s everything you hope she would be. She’s the real deal, a true star, and just one of the coolest people on this planet.

What can we expect from you in 2021?

A lot of new music. Obviously, everything starts today with “Vacío.” This is literally the beginning of what this new album will be. I’ve done nothing but write and record during the last 10 months, so I have a bunch of songs. Great collaborations coming up. I really think the album will be out probably [in the] third or fourth quarter this year. The songs are there and I’m really eager for everybody to hear them.

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Lifestyles Of The Rich And Dangerous: Cartels Are Using TikTok To Lure Young People

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Lifestyles Of The Rich And Dangerous: Cartels Are Using TikTok To Lure Young People

If you’ve ever wondered what someone with a bulletproof vest and an AR-15 would look like flossing — the dance, not the method of dental hygiene — apparently the answer to that question can be found on TikTok.

Unfortunately, it’s not as a part of some absurdist sketch comedy or surreal video art installation. Instead, it’s part of a growing trend of drug cartels in Mexico using TikTok as a marketing tool. Nevermind the fact that Mexico broke grim records last year for the number of homicides and cartel violence, the cartels have found an audience on TikTok and that’s a serious cause for concern.

Mexican cartels are using TikTok to gain power and new recruits.

Just a couple of months ago, a TikTok video showing a legit high-speed chase between police and drug traffickers went viral. Although it looked like a scene from Netflix’s Narcos series, this was a very real chase in the drug cartel wars and it was viewed by more than a million people.

Typing #CartelTikTok in the social media search bar brings up thousands of videos, most of them from people promoting a “cartel culture” – videos with narcocorridos, and presumed members bragging about money, fancy cars and a luxury lifestyle.

Viewers no longer see bodies hanging from bridges, disembodied heads on display, or highly produced videos with messages to their enemies. At least not on TikTok. The platform is being used mainly to promote a lifestyle and to generate a picture of luxury and glamour, to show the ‘benefits’ of joining the criminal activities.

According to security officials, the promotion of these videos is to entice young men who might be interested in joining the cartel with images of endless cash, parties, military-grade weapons and exotic pets like tiger cubs.

Cartels have long used social media to shock and intimidate their enemies.

And using social media to promote themselves has long been an effective strategy. But with Mexico yet again shattering murder records, experts on organized crime say Cartel TikTok is just the latest propaganda campaign designed to mask the blood bath and use the promise of infinite wealth to attract expendable young recruits.

“It’s narco-marketing,” said Alejandra León Olvera, an anthropologist at Spain’s University of Murcia, in a statement to the New York Times. The cartels “use these kinds of platforms for publicity, but of course it’s hedonistic publicity.”

Mexico used to be ground zero for this kind of activity, where researchers created a new discipline out of studying these narco posts. Now, gangs in Brazil, Colombia, El Salvador, and the United States are also involved.

A search of the #CartelTikTok community and its related accounts shows people are responding. Public comments from users such as “Y’all hiring?” “Yall let gringos join?” “I need an application,” or “can I be a mule? My kids need Christmas presents,” are on some of the videos.

One of the accounts related to this cartel community publicly answered: “Of course, hay trabajo para todos,” “I’ll send the application ASAP.” “How much is the pound in your city?” “Follow me on Instagram to talk.” The post, showing two men with $100 bills and alcohol, had more than a hundred comments.

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