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Some Guy is Trying to Make Money With Two Incredibly Sexist Books About Latinas

Yes, there’s a guy out there trying to sell people two of the most sexist, offensive, and ridiculous books about Latinas you’ve ever seen. His name is Joe Bovino, an attorney who fancies himself an expert on women. Despite it being 2016, Bovino doesn’t realize he’s still living decades — we mean decades — in the past.

He’s the author of “Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States” and “Why Latinas Get The Guy” and yes, they are as horrible as they sound.

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Credit: Joe Bovino / Chicaspotting / Why Latinas Get the Guy

Here are 10 actual excerpts from his books. Points if you manage to not puke while reading them!

First, he identifies each “species” of Latinas:

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 Credit: Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States

Good to know all Latinas are their own “species,” which include fun things like “Bumbshell” and “Taco Belle.”

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Credit: chickspotting.com

How is this man a real person? Like, how?

Then, he breaks down each “species” by appearance:

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Credit: Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States

“Not to be confused with Taco Bell.”  This guy must be a real lady killer.

He also includes highly “scientific” charts and graphs:

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Credit: Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States

Seriously, what year does this guy come from? Is he actually using clip art in his book? 

And he LITERALLY breaks down a woman by her body parts:

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Credit: Joe Bovino / Why Latinas Get the Guy

And, of course, he has plenty of words to describe breasts and butts.

He generalizes a whole lot, too:

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Credit: Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States

Bet this guy’s abuela is real proud of him. Actually, bet his primas, hermanas and tías are just over the moon to be related to him!

Oh, and he uses super classy visual aids:

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Credit: Chicaspotting: A Field Guide to Latinas of the United States

This SO accurately depicts Brazilian women! Wow, it’s really crazy how smart and on point this guy is.

He pits Latinas against non-Latinas and it’s as disgusting as it sounds.

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Credit: Joe Bovino / Why Latinas Get The Guy

Ahhh, yes, the “cold manly way” that American women sleep around. Totally okay for men to sleep around, but ladies?! NO! You’re crazy if you want to have sex with more than one guy! “Men lose respect for women who sleep around or have sex too quickly, especially on the first date.” Gotta love this guy’s ability to be a jerk so many times in just a few paragraphs.

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He makes sure you know Latinas are just sitting around, waiting for a man:doesnt-feel

Credit: Joe Bovino / Why Latinas Get The Guy

“If he doesn’t feel like a man, he won’t act like one.” Right – and never forget, there’s a Latina just lurking around, waiting for her validation through a man! Joe Bovino just really gets it, yanno?

He really understands how women feel and what goes through their minds:

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Credit: Why Latinas Get The Guy

Yes, all Latinas can be lumped together into one category of women who only care about how we look because it makes us feel better about ourselves. Riiiiiight.

He’s also an expert on how Latinas have sex:

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Credit: Joe Bovino / Why Latinas Get The Guy

And he’s encouraging American women, in general, to have sex like Latinas! Bravo, Joe, you’re really a smart dude who totally “gets” women.

Overall, this guy is the worst. But it all make sense if you see his other books. Here’s one of ’em:

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Credit: The Joe Bovino Field Guide to Chicks of the United States

Forget the horrific books themselves – why didn’t anyone stop the cover of the books?! The only thing worse than the words inside are the heinous illustrations.

Have you encountered sexism as a Latina? mitú wants to know. Leave a comment below. 

It’s Romance Awareness Month And These Latino RomComs Are Perfect For Your Next Netflix And Chill

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It’s Romance Awareness Month And These Latino RomComs Are Perfect For Your Next Netflix And Chill

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Did you know that August is Romance Awareness Month? We’re guessing that, even if you didn’t, you probably felt it in your gut – and that’s what led you here. To get into the spirit of things, we’ve put together a list of ten latino rom-coms for you to watch through the dying days of summer. Just don’t blame us if you end up on a movie binge, babes.

1. Maid in Manhattan

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Jennifer Lopez captures our hearts in this 2002 fairytale-like movie that would put the original Cinderella story to shame. Lopez stars as a hard-working single mom stuck balancing parenting duties with her long hours at a ritzy hotel in, you guessed it, Manhattan. Ralph Fiennes – the guy who is actually Voldemort in the Harry Potter films – plays JLo’s rich, handsome, and effortlessly charming love interest. 

2. Doña Herlinda y Su Hijo (Dona Herlinda and Her Son)

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Would it be possible to have a list of Latino rom-coms without a movie about a mother overly invested in her child’s love life? Welcome to the kitsch 1985 film, Doña Herlinda y Su Hijo. Dona is determined to see her son give her the grandchild she so desperately wants. The catch? He’s gay. And, not only that – he’s head over heels for a student in Guadalajara. So what happens when Dona arranges a marriage, to a woman, for her son? Guess you’ll just have to watch to find out.

3. Hitch

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If you haven’t had the pleasure of watching this one before, then don’t be surprised to find out that Will Smith hasn’t even aged since this 2005 banger of a romance. Smith plays Alex “Hitch” Hitchens, who’s basically a dating coach crossed with every sleazy pick up artist you’ve feared swiping right on. His smooth game is disrupted when he meets Eva Mendes’ Sara, a career-driven, sassy Latina. Hijinks ensue as both of them eventually discover the value of a real, connected relationship.

4. Tan de repente (Suddenly)

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This 2002 black and white film begins with what seems like the start of just another workday for salesgirl Marcia. Of course, it’s anything but. She somehow ends up propositioned by two aggressive, dagger-wielding lesbians – Mao and Lenin. Even though Marcia isn’t interested, she’s abducted by the two, and is spirited away to the Lenin’s estranged aunt’s house. It’s there that Marcia learns that the two women aren’t as tough as they originally seemed.

5. From Prada to Nada

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Loosely based on Jane Austen’s classic novel, Sense and Sensibility, From Prada to Nada revolves around the trials and tribulations of two spoiled sisters left penniless from their father’s sudden death, who are forced to live with their estranged aunt in East Los Angeles. The two girls figure out pretty quickly that they’re going to have to work hard to get their standing back – whether it be by chasing careers, or chasing boys. 

6. Chasing Papi

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This 2003 rom-com, starring Roselyn Sánchez, Sofía Vergara, and Jaci Velasquez, centers around three women who discover that they’ve all been dating the same man. Surprise surprise, they’ve all affectionately nicknamed him “Papi”. The movie twists and turns into not only chasing Papi, but also avoiding the cops and some shady criminals.

7. Elura, Te Daría Mi Vida Pero Lo Estoy Usando (Elvira, I would give you my life but I am using it)

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Released in 2014, this film follows 40 year old mother of two, Elvira, in her quest to find her husband, Gustavo. Even though all signs point to the likelihood of Gustavo having an illicit affair, Elvira doesn’t rest until her husband is found.

8. ¿Qué Culpa Tiene el Niño? (Don’t Blame The Kid)

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Our fave Karla Souza from How to Get Away With Murder stars as Maru in this Mexican film about a one-night stand that goes awry. After discovering she’s pregnant after a drunken night of fun, Maru decides the only way to move forward is by moving in with the father of her soon-to-be child. Naturally, things ramp up after she decides to move in with a complete stranger – but isn’t that the beauty of a classic rom-com?

9. Fresa y chocolate (Strawberry and Chocolate)

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Considering this was the first Cuban film to be nominated for an Oscar for the best foreign language film, this 1994 gem begins with hints of a cute gay rom-com, before transforming into something else. The romance in this film is set against the political complexities of the Castro regime.

10. Corazón de Leon (Heart of a Lion)

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This 2017 rom-com starts with the protagonist, León, discovering a lost cell phone. Naturally, he decides to call the owner, Ivana. Feeling their mutual attraction, León asks her out on a whim. But, he’s left out an important detail: he’s 4.4 feet tall. From there, Corazón de Leon explores how their mutual attraction could overcome shallow societal expectations.

So which movie are you going to watch first? Or, have you already seen them all? Tell us about it on our Facebook page – you can find it by clicking on the logo at the top of the page.

Parents Are Debating Whether Or Not It Is Harmful, Even Perverted, To Call A Baby A ‘Heartbreaker’ Or ‘Ladies Man’

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Parents Are Debating Whether Or Not It Is Harmful, Even Perverted, To Call A Baby A ‘Heartbreaker’ Or ‘Ladies Man’

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Ever since Michelle Obama pointed out the ways in which parents inflict gender biases on children, we’ve been a lot more conscientious of the ways in which these impacts occur. In particular, we’ve become more concerned with how to teach young boys how to respect women and treat them responsibly. Recently a discussion on the site LipsickAlley about the use of terms like “ladies man” reminded us of another way that our culture and words can hinder these efforts.

LipstickAlley user Curlista93 recently asked users “who refer to their sons as “heartbreakers” and “ladies man” at a very young age” whether or not they thought using such terms were “more likely to encourage or allow fuckboi behavior” when their children get older.

It didn’t take long for women to come forward with all kinds of opinions and for us at FIERCE to nod our heads in approval.

Mostly because, as one user pointed out when terms like these are applied to young boys they often simply imply a “code for he ain’t gon be shit.”

Of course, comments like these are well-meaning. They’re intended really to tell parents that their child is attractive and even sweet maybe. Still, in a lot of ways messages to children, ones that they are “ladies men,” or “heartbreakers” indicate that these are admirable traits to beheld. Moreover, being defined by these characteristics is the goal.

As one user in the thread pointed out, it’s also extremely sexist. “Fathers/Mothers posting pics of their 2-year-old son calling them these names, and they usually never refer to their daughters as heartbreakers. I assume these parents are more likely to groom or allow certain behaviors during adolescence and young adulthood.”

Also, It’s oddly sexual

Some users on the thread strongly disagreed with this sentiment. As one user wrote, “It’s not that serious. It’s just another way to say he’s a handsome young man. Don’t think too hard about it. But there IS something oddly sexualizing about the comments. “I think it’s weird and inappropriate. Sexualizing underaged children, particularly infants and toddlers, reeks of pedophilia/grooming to me,” another user said in response to the question.

It’s a road map for a bad boyfriend.

“Some of y’all don’t understand the power of these messages we give to our children,” another user pointed out. “Telling the boys that they will be heartbreakers and telling the girls they will break a lot of hearts is all putting those thoughts into their minds that that’s what they should do and it’s fine. Just like telling them that they ain’t shit or just like Their sorry ass daddies.”

It sets the bar low.

As one user pointed out “Its code for he ain’t gon be shit.” Why tell boys they’re “heartbreakers” when you could call them “future feminists” and “activists in-the-making”?

It makes for an entitled man in the future.

“I think it sets up destructive and entitled mindsets and behaviors surrounding social and dating dynamics. I loathe anything and everything that sexualizes or fetishizes kids and promotes highly questionable and problematic behaviors, attitudes, and complexes.”

Sure, as some users pointed out, in the end, comments like these might not aim to be so serious.

Often times, admirers of your children might just be trying to implement a compliment. But words have power (have the last 4 years not taught any of us this??). No doubt, comments like these might be coming from well-meaning people but they are comments that stem from some pretty problematic cultural norms about male behavior.

Identifying whether or not we’re dating a man or a little boy can be hard enough as it is. Let’s avoid making it worse.

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