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At 15 She Attempted Suicide: I Felt Like I Wasn’t The Ideal Mexican Daughter

Latina teens have just topped the worst kind of chart. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention did a study on high-risk behavior in youths and found that 15 percent of Latina adolescents in the U.S. have attempted suicide. That’s compared to 9.8 percent and 10.2 percent for white and black female teens, respectively. More than a quarter of Latina teens contemplated suicide. The struggle is officially real. But part of the problem might also be that no one is talking about it.


While it’s hard to say exactly why the struggle exists, researchers think it has something to do with being caught between two cultures, lack of communication and craving independence. Apparently, 14 to 15 is the peak age for suicide attempts among Latinas. That’s the age when most want to come into their own – and it takes more than a quinceañera for that to happen.


“The want for independence rubs up against their parents, who often have more traditional values that they try to put on their children,” said Dr. Luis Zaya, dean of the School of Social Work at the University of Texas at Austin. Zaya’s research focus is on this very topic.


Those who were born to immigrant parents in the U.S. struggle because their parent’s culture has no or very little history for processing mental illness. “This is a very clear, but very overlooked trend.”


A lot of it comes down to Latinas bridging that vast cultural gap, “Can the child create their own bicultural identity?” Dr. Zaya asked.


States at highest risk for Latina teen suicide are those with the smallest Latino community. In 2015, some of the highest number of Latina suicide attempts happened in Hawaii, Idaho, Maine and Montana. Wyoming tops the list with 21.7 percent of Latinas attempting suicide last year. About 57,000 — or 10 percent — of Wyoming’s population is Latino, but that’s just 0.1 percent of all U.S. Latinos.


Writer Erika L. Sánchez has opened up about her own suicidal thoughts as a teenager. “I just wanted to be independent,” she said. “I felt like I wasn’t this version of an ideal Mexican daughter that they expected.” She’s now 32 and one of the leading voices on this subject. Or, let’s be honest, one of the only voices.


When Sánchez was hospitalized at 15, her parents finally realized this wasn’t teenage girl melodrama, but genuine mental illness.


“Finally, they began to really see me,” says Sánchez. “And that’s when we began to have more honest conversations.”


Sánchez is fiercely honest about her depression in those days. Her first young adult novel “Brown Girl Problems” comes out next year, which confronts the theme of Latina teen depression. At least someone’s talking about it.


Read more here.


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It’s Romance Awareness Month And These Latino RomComs Are Perfect For Your Next Netflix And Chill

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It’s Romance Awareness Month And These Latino RomComs Are Perfect For Your Next Netflix And Chill

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Did you know that August is Romance Awareness Month? We’re guessing that, even if you didn’t, you probably felt it in your gut – and that’s what led you here. To get into the spirit of things, we’ve put together a list of ten latino rom-coms for you to watch through the dying days of summer. Just don’t blame us if you end up on a movie binge, babes.

1. Maid in Manhattan

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Jennifer Lopez captures our hearts in this 2002 fairytale-like movie that would put the original Cinderella story to shame. Lopez stars as a hard-working single mom stuck balancing parenting duties with her long hours at a ritzy hotel in, you guessed it, Manhattan. Ralph Fiennes – the guy who is actually Voldemort in the Harry Potter films – plays JLo’s rich, handsome, and effortlessly charming love interest. 

2. Doña Herlinda y Su Hijo (Dona Herlinda and Her Son)

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Would it be possible to have a list of Latino rom-coms without a movie about a mother overly invested in her child’s love life? Welcome to the kitsch 1985 film, Doña Herlinda y Su Hijo. Dona is determined to see her son give her the grandchild she so desperately wants. The catch? He’s gay. And, not only that – he’s head over heels for a student in Guadalajara. So what happens when Dona arranges a marriage, to a woman, for her son? Guess you’ll just have to watch to find out.

3. Hitch

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If you haven’t had the pleasure of watching this one before, then don’t be surprised to find out that Will Smith hasn’t even aged since this 2005 banger of a romance. Smith plays Alex “Hitch” Hitchens, who’s basically a dating coach crossed with every sleazy pick up artist you’ve feared swiping right on. His smooth game is disrupted when he meets Eva Mendes’ Sara, a career-driven, sassy Latina. Hijinks ensue as both of them eventually discover the value of a real, connected relationship.

4. Tan de repente (Suddenly)

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This 2002 black and white film begins with what seems like the start of just another workday for salesgirl Marcia. Of course, it’s anything but. She somehow ends up propositioned by two aggressive, dagger-wielding lesbians – Mao and Lenin. Even though Marcia isn’t interested, she’s abducted by the two, and is spirited away to the Lenin’s estranged aunt’s house. It’s there that Marcia learns that the two women aren’t as tough as they originally seemed.

5. From Prada to Nada

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Loosely based on Jane Austen’s classic novel, Sense and Sensibility, From Prada to Nada revolves around the trials and tribulations of two spoiled sisters left penniless from their father’s sudden death, who are forced to live with their estranged aunt in East Los Angeles. The two girls figure out pretty quickly that they’re going to have to work hard to get their standing back – whether it be by chasing careers, or chasing boys. 

6. Chasing Papi

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This 2003 rom-com, starring Roselyn Sánchez, Sofía Vergara, and Jaci Velasquez, centers around three women who discover that they’ve all been dating the same man. Surprise surprise, they’ve all affectionately nicknamed him “Papi”. The movie twists and turns into not only chasing Papi, but also avoiding the cops and some shady criminals.

7. Elura, Te Daría Mi Vida Pero Lo Estoy Usando (Elvira, I would give you my life but I am using it)

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Released in 2014, this film follows 40 year old mother of two, Elvira, in her quest to find her husband, Gustavo. Even though all signs point to the likelihood of Gustavo having an illicit affair, Elvira doesn’t rest until her husband is found.

8. ¿Qué Culpa Tiene el Niño? (Don’t Blame The Kid)

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Our fave Karla Souza from How to Get Away With Murder stars as Maru in this Mexican film about a one-night stand that goes awry. After discovering she’s pregnant after a drunken night of fun, Maru decides the only way to move forward is by moving in with the father of her soon-to-be child. Naturally, things ramp up after she decides to move in with a complete stranger – but isn’t that the beauty of a classic rom-com?

9. Fresa y chocolate (Strawberry and Chocolate)

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Considering this was the first Cuban film to be nominated for an Oscar for the best foreign language film, this 1994 gem begins with hints of a cute gay rom-com, before transforming into something else. The romance in this film is set against the political complexities of the Castro regime.

10. Corazón de Leon (Heart of a Lion)

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This 2017 rom-com starts with the protagonist, León, discovering a lost cell phone. Naturally, he decides to call the owner, Ivana. Feeling their mutual attraction, León asks her out on a whim. But, he’s left out an important detail: he’s 4.4 feet tall. From there, Corazón de Leon explores how their mutual attraction could overcome shallow societal expectations.

So which movie are you going to watch first? Or, have you already seen them all? Tell us about it on our Facebook page – you can find it by clicking on the logo at the top of the page.

This 11-Year-Old Latina Has Thousands Of Followers On TikTok And The Most Hilarious Sense Of Humor About Latinidad

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This 11-Year-Old Latina Has Thousands Of Followers On TikTok And The Most Hilarious Sense Of Humor About Latinidad

Of the new class of TikTok talent that has cropped up since the app’s boom in popularity, no one is as relatable or as hilarious as adorable superstar-in-the-making Oliva Olivarez. Daughter of one of the reigning queens of TikTok, Ashlay Soto, Olivarez started out as a co-star in her mom’s viral short movies and quickly upgraded to scene-stealer. The videos were so popular because they riffed on the old “mother knows best” adage and playfully acted out the consequences of what would happen if alternate-reality Olivia rebelled against her Mom’s good (if strict) intentions.

Now, this little Latina upstart of Mexican descent has her own TikTok account that boasts over 1 million followers–not a shabby number for a girl who isn’t even 12-years-old yet! Needless to say, Olivia has an incredibly bright future ahead of her and we can’t wait to see more of it. In honor of Olivarez 12th birthday coming up on July 29th, we’ve compiled a list of Olivia’s top TikTok videos that illustrate precisely why she’s the reigning Princess of TikTok. 

Here is a round-up of Olivia Olivarez’s top Tik Toks!

1. Olivia Stealing the Spotlight

One of Soto/Olivarez family’s best videos because of how candid it is, Ashlay is getting really into her performance when Olivia pops in and does a sassy hair flip, completely stealing her mom’s spotlight.

2. The “No Boys Ever” Video

Ashlay makes it no secret that she’s not a fan of the idea of her daughter growing up and dating. This is one of many videos where she makes her feelings known.

3. When Olivia Reveals the Man Behind the Curtain

Olivia is not afraid of calling out her mom for her online shenanigans when they’re misleading. This is why we love Olivia–she’s all about keeping it real.

3. When Mom finds out you’ve been lying about boys…

In another hilarious video of Ashlay’s reactions to Olivia talking to boys, Olivia denies she’s talking to one before her mom catches her in the act and chases her off screen. This is an ongoing bit for the mom-daughter duo that, frankly, never gets old.

4. The Adorable #TBT of Young Olivia

Here’s a #TBT to when Olivia was super young and super adorable. As her mom and her brother sing One Direction’s “Olivia” on a split-screen, Olivia dances and sings before her hair suddenly turns into colorful braids. 

5. Mama Knows Best!

Both Olivia and her mom lipsync the lyrics to the song “Weak”–an ode to resisting the temptation of vices like drugs, alcohol, and sex. In the end, as usual, Olivia hilariously rebels against her mom making for comedic gold.

6. Me: “Momma, I’m a big girl now”. Momma: “Not if I have anything to do with it”.

Another hilarious “no boys” Tik Tok, Olivia sings Hairspray’s “Momma I’m a Big Girl Now” song and when she gets to the line “now I’d rather play around with teenage boys”, Ashlay cuts in and tells Olivia “You better run”. 

7. When the tables have turned

In a hilarious turning of tables, while usually, Olivia is the one to run away from Ashlay, when Ashlay tells Olivia “I don’t care about Fortnite”, she ends up being the one running!

8. Instant Regret.

The family drama continues! We’ve all been in the situation where we talk back to our madre and then immediately regret it. This Tik Tok illustrates that feeling of instant regret perfectly.

9. Potty Mouth

We know that if we had Ashlay as a mother, we’d be terrified to step out of line. Like in this video when Olivia is about to sing along to a song with the f-word and Ashlay steps in and makes her think twice about cussing.

10. Relatable AF

“Mom, I just want to tell you that I love you.” “What do you want?” How many of our moms have responded EXACTLY like that when we say those words to them? As usual, Ashlay and Olivia are spot-on with their interpretations of everyday life. 

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