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Naya Rivera’s Memoir Talks About Abortion And Anorexia

Actor Naya Rivera is getting very real and personal in her upcoming memoir, “Sorry Not Sorry: Dreams, Mistakes and Growing Up.” The former “Glee” star opens up about her personal struggles and triumphs in the tell-all book, including her abortion in 2010 and her battle with anorexia after her parents’ divorce. For Latinos, the topic of abortion is something that can be very divisive, which is why people on social media are praising the Puerto Rican star for being so candid and open about her personal life.

Rivera took to Twitter to explain why she was releasing the memoir.


And she is really opening up in a way very few people actually do.

One of the major points is her battle with anorexia.


“By the time I was a sophomore, I started feeling that what had begun as a game had maybe gone too far. I just avoided food at all costs,” Rivera writes about her eating disorder, according to PEOPLE. “If my mom had packed a lunch for me, I’d either trash it or find some excuse to give it away.”

Rivera reveals that her eating disorder stemmed from the pain of watching her parents’ relationship deteriorate.

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Rivera’s frustration with her stalled acting career compounded her problems, but she wasn’t quite sure how bad her disorder had gotten. “I was so young and it just seemed to be the norm. Everyone was going through similar stuff. I had no way of knowing if I was going through it worse,” Rivera told PEOPLE. “I was juggling my feelings and it makes me sad that there are girls still going through that 15 years after I went through it.”

She also admits to having an abortion in late 2010 after breaking up with her then boyfriend and now husband Ryan Dorsey.

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Rivera took her one day off from shooting “Glee” to secretly get her abortion with Dorsey’s knowledge.

“It was very scary to open up about everything,” Rivera told PEOPLE. “It’s not something a lot of people talk about, but I think they should. I know some people might read it and say, ‘What the Hell?’ But I hope someone out there gets something out of it.”

And people are offering Rivera all kinds of praise and support, from the president of Planned Parenthood…

…to fans that have also had abortions and faced the stigma.

All Rivera is looking to do is share her story, which is more common than most people are willing to admit.

(H/T: PEOPLE)


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Naya Rivera’s Ex-Husband Responds to “Illogical” Rumors About His Relationship With the Late Actress’s Sister; ‘I can’t believe this is real life’

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Naya Rivera’s Ex-Husband Responds to “Illogical” Rumors About His Relationship With the Late Actress’s Sister; ‘I can’t believe this is real life’

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In a video posted to Instagram on Tuesday, Naya Rivera’s ex-husband Ryan Dorsey offered insight into his life after Rivera’s tragic death in July. He also explained how difficult it has been for him to raise a grieving child in the midst of his own battle with grief.

In the emotional video, Dorsey also responded to the haters who have criticized his decision to move in with Naya Rivera’s sister, Nickayla Rivera, in order to help care for his son, Josy. He condemned the “ill-advised, illogical, misinformed” rumors that painted his relationship with Nickayla as anything but platonic.

The video came in the wake of several salacious headlines and quotes from “sources” who dubiously claimed that Dorsey and Nickayla Rivera were “fooling around”, “chatting” and “obviously helping lift each other’s spirits.”

In his Instagram video, Dorsey offered further insight into his decision to move in with Nickayla Rivera.

“[Josey] asked me if Titi can live with us…because she’s now the closest thing that he has to a mom,” he said. “Because you’re going to need all the help you get as a single parent, trying to build your career, and navigate this disaster with your child. You deal with it every hour of every day for 80-plus days now.”

 “After all he’s had to go through, how could you deny him that? And because of what? What some strangers might think or say?” he asked.

Dorsey explained how he has had to help his son cope with the death of his mother.

“You tell him [Naya is] an angel now and she’s with God and she’s in heaven, and he says ‘I wanna go there. How do I get there?’ I wouldn’t wish that upon any of your ears to have to hear that. To hear those words come out of the sweetest soul you know.”

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Dorsey also explained how his grief has been magnified by photographers hounding him, trying to spin photos of him with Nickayla into a “false narrative”.

Initially, the negative press subsequently prompted a group of trolls and critics to leave a slew of hateful comments and messages on his social media. In Dorsey’s video, he revealed that he’s receiving “terrible messages” from strangers who are “wishing death” upon him for what they perceive to be inappropriate behavior.

But Dorsey explained to his followers that a romance is the last thing on his mind. “Talking about ‘relationships’?” he asked incredulously. “S—t man, I wish I was worried about a relationship right now, not thinking about this and living with this everyday.”

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Nickayla herself has also taken to her Instagram stories to defend herself from the trolls who are peddling a false narrative about her relationship with Dorsey.

“In the darkest time of my life, the only thing that is important is my friends & family,” she wrote. “I’m not concerned with the way things look because no one can see each agonizing moment we all endure.”

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Study Says 95% Of Women Don’t Regret Having Abortions

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Study Says 95% Of Women Don’t Regret Having Abortions

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Across the country, many states require a woman seeking an abortion to undergo waiting periods and counseling. The assumption behind the regulation is that ultimately women looking to have an abortion will regret their decision in the long term. A study published this past January in Social Science & Medicine, however, found that over 95 percent of the women who took place in a UC San Francisco study revealed that they had no regrets about their decision five years later.

The finding not only completely debunks the notion that most women who have abortions suffer from regret and guilt over their decision even if the decision was a hard one to make.

Out of interest, we researched online forums like Reddit to see what women had to say about their decision to terminate their pregnancies.

“I’ve had… more than one abortion. It was never a thought. Immediately after finding out I was pregnant, I bee-lined to the clinic. BEST decision I have ever made. No regrets at ALL! I’ve been called names, “baby killer”, etc. but I laugh at these people. I’m open about it, not that I had the choice because my ex SIL went around town telling everyone (thanks, stupid fuckhead ex-husband). The people that give me a hard time about it are parents themselves and are probably just bitter and jealous, anyways.” – Reddit user

“I had one when I was 21 (almost 39 now). Not once, for a single second, have I ever regretted that decision. I was dating a complete shitshow of an excuse for a human being (a heroin dealer, which I didn’t find out until later) who was abusive and promiscuous, and I knew the second I found out I was pregnant that I wasn’t keeping it. In addition to already knowing I was childfree for life, there was no way would I have brought an unwanted child into that kind of situation. So my very supportive mom took me to the PP appointment, where the staff was wonderful and only gave me a brief counseling session in which they made sure I was making the right decision for myself. The rest was pretty cloudy for me, because they gave me a Valium beforehand, but I do remember that when they did the ultrasound, they couldn’t find a heartbeat but still wanted to do the procedure because the pregnancy test was positive. After that, mom drove me back home, and the guy I was dating didn’t even seem to care about much of anything. We broke up just over a year later, and I heard through the grapevine that he was in jail for grand theft auto a few months after that. Today, I’m super well-adjusted and in a happy relationship with a really awesome guy who is as childfree as I am!” –Shanashy

“I’ve told people when it has come up in conversation.”

“I had an abortion recently. Mid-20s, stable relationship and good income. IUD failure. I’ve told people when it has come up in conversation. We don’t want children so we won’t have one. No regrets here.” –meinkampfyjumper

“When I was 17, I had an abortion. I’m 30, and have never once regretted it, nor ever felt guilty either. I knew, even after telling my parents and grandma about it I was certain. The guy was a nice guy, we talked about keeping it (because he was almost aborted himself when his mom got pregnant with him), but in the end he was already in the process of joining the Army. I would have been alone, a senior in high school, with my family’s help. That was not how i wanted it to happen, if at all, amd neither did he. He helped pay for half the procedure and when he took me home, my mom was supportive. I was scared yes, but relieved. She was amazing (still is). My grandma called me cold hearted for not thinking of the baby, when in my head(and heart), thats all I was doing. I learned later that my mom, grandma and great grandma had all had an abortion, but still had kids later. And its been great for them. Im on my second IUD now and have no plans for kids. Every so often I would get back in contact with the guy, and every time he brings up the kid we could have had (I was the one that got away). I would have had a 12 year old by now. And I breath a sigh of releif every time that I dont. I can barely take care of myself, hanging on by a thread and know I’m happier and better off. To some it may be cold, but I did the best thing for me, and made sure it never happened again, but also know i have the option and support in whatever i decide. And when i go for a check up or any Drs visit and its asked, i have no shame, no guilt, no regret in my decision. (Bracing myself each time for backlash, tho it never comes, true pros). Im happy other women have the same relief. There should be no negativity for our choices, but when it comes, bottom line, we know we did the right thing. And its not up to them for shaming us. Edit: my dad even told my brother and I years later ‘thank you for not making me a grandpa before I was 45.’ And gave me a pointed look. It was a small weight lifted I didnt know I carried. Especially after his reaction after i told him I was pregnant. (Explosive).” –bubblymayden

“I would have an 8 year old son right now if I hadn’t gotten an abortion. The thought of having a kid, a son, creeps me out. I have 0 regrets.” –Jens0485

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