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18 Things Latinos Who’ve Moved Out Know To Be True

Did you grow up with strict parents? Now, did you grow up with strict Latino parents? It’s ok, bb. Come here, hug it out. Having very, uh, intense parents can be tough. And at no point did that become more evident than when we moved away from home. So let’s talk about it:

You grappled with how to break the news to your parents.

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“I’m moving out” will basically inspire the same reaction as “I ate the family dog.”

…And to your extended family, too.

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Especially your abuela. Oof.

You wondered whether you were ready to live on your own, given you’d never even been allowed to sleep over friends’ houses.

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How were we supposed to cope?!

When you finally got your own place, you were proud to show it off to your parents.

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“This apartment is mine, mine, miiiine! I mean, it’s a rental and I share it with five other people, but, it’s mine!”

(This feeling lasted for about five seconds.)

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Wait, you actually expected your parents to be thrilled about this?

Because the SECOND your parents set foot in your place, they’d point out how it needed to be fixed.

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Ughhhhh.

…And cleaned.

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UGHHHHH. (Actually, this is fine. Let ’em clean it.)

Your family would find a way to get you “little things” they thought you needed.

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Thank you for the 18 sets of Tupperware.

And you’d get daily calls asking if you were ok and whether you were at home.

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Yes, you were fine when they called twenty minutes ago and you’re fine now.

If you went out after 9:07 at night, your parents would freak out.

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But they’re not the boss of you no more. (Actually, we both know that’s not true. They’re the boss of you forever.)

And you’d constantly be asked whether you were eating.

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Like. Have your parents ever known you to skip a meal? Or a snack? Or a third helping?

And they’d insist that pizza and instant noodles “no son comida.”

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Eventually, you’d have to remind your parents that you are, indeed, an adult human.

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Technically, anyway.

No roommate would ever be good enough in their eyes.

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“¿Y esa gringa? Where are her parents? What are they like? What’s her religion, IQ, blood type and second favorite color?”

If you ever moved in with someone you were dating, well…

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You strongly considered the possibility that you’d NEVER tell your parents about it.

You’d hear about all the “good kids” back home who were still living with their parents.

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Whatever.

But you’d know that, at the end of the day, your parents were proud of you.

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Like, extremely proud.

And maybe even more importantly, you were proud of yourself.

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READ: 14 Tweets About The “Latina Struggle” That’ll Make You Laugh (And Cry)

How was your moving out experience? Let us know!

A Mother Was Hospitalized After Her Daughter’s Bullies Attacked Her

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A Mother Was Hospitalized After Her Daughter’s Bullies Attacked Her

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A Latina mother was hospitalized after her two of her daughter’s bullies beat her up outside James Logan High School in Northern California. Maria “Lupita” Guadalupe Jimenez and her husband, Eder Rojas, are choosing to transfer their 16-year-old daughter to another school after their entire family was targeted by a group of bullies outside James Logan High School. On Tuesday morning, Jan. 7, Jimenez arrived with her husband, 16-year-old daughter and 3-month-old daughter for a scheduled appointment to meet with the school’s principal about her daughter’s bullies. Two girls ganged up on the family as they were getting out of the car. Rojas did everything he could to protect his daughter, so the girls began beating on his wife. Even after they knocked her unconscious, they continued to kick her in the head. Jimenez was recovering from a C-section just a few months prior and had to be hospitalized for two days. She underwent surgery to repair three fractures in her nose.

Police were called to the scene and one girl has been arrested. As Jimenez’s family plans to hire a lawyer, her friends are raising money for her medical expenses like true Americans: through a GoFundMe.

“I thought we were safe on campus,” Maria Jimenez told a local news station.

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Jimenez and Eder Rojas knew that their daughter was being bullied, but they never imagined that her bullies would go on to physically assault them both. They decided that they wanted to go inside and speak with the principal as they were dropping their daughter off at school. Their daughter had spoken with the principal several times over the last year but her concerns weren’t taken seriously. It got to the point where she was afraid to go to school and wanted to just stop altogether. That’s when Jimenez and Rojas decided to step in and inadvertently prove just how dangerous these “bullies” were.

Jimenez recalls how one of the teen girls brought her to the ground by her hair and started dragging her. “The girl was very furious, they grabbed me by the hair and dragged me,” she told ABC7 NewsI just wanted to talk to the principal, you’d never imagine a kid would hit an adult, I thought we were safe on campus,” Jimenez added. 

Jimenez was released from the hospital two days later with orders to return for surgery.

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Jimenez’s nose is fractured in three places and had to undergo surgery in order for her nose to heal properly. Jimenez reportedly saw the girls approaching ready to hit her daughter but she told them, “No te metas,” or “don’t mess.” That’s when she dragged her to the ground by the hair and hit her so hard she became too dizzy to even stand up again. 

Rojas wouldn’t allow them to hurt her daughter anymore. “They want to hit my daughter but I cover a lot that they didn’t they couldn’t get there so they grabbed my wife,” Rojas told KRON4. “She has the bones broken right here, she has the eyes all red a bump here.” The family may have not been outnumbered but they weren’t prepared to fight a group of aggressive teenagers. “I feel really angry, sad at the same time,” Rojas added about the whole situation.

One of the teens has since been arrested on charges of battery with serious bodily injury.

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Union City Police arrived at the high school at 8:44 a.m. along with paramedics. Because the suspects are minors, their names will not be released to protect their privacy. Police say that the suspect has been released under adult supervision and was assigned a court date. “The case continues under investigation and the names of the people involved will not be released at this time. We don’t believe there are more suspects related to the case, ” Lt. Steve Méndez said in a statement.

Thus far, the school has only responded by sending a mass email to parents to publicly state: “We are investigating and following up on this incident working directly with the Union City Police Department, and taking disciplinary actions. We believe this incident to be between the two Logan students and does not appear to involve any other Logan students.”

A friend of the family has raised nearly $10,000 to help the family with medical costs.

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The physical assault all happened while their 3-month-old baby was inside the car. Because Jimenez was recovering from cesarean surgery, her medical needs were more pressing. In less than a week, a friend of Jimenez has raised $9,154 dollars through GoFundMe to help the family pay another long list of medical expenses, just months after the hospital expenses associated with having a C-section.

READ: This Texas Teen Silenced Bullies With His Shirt, And This Is How People Responded

Here’s How To Maintain A Long-Lasting And Healthy Relationship According To Advice From Reddit Grandmas

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Here’s How To Maintain A Long-Lasting And Healthy Relationship According To Advice From Reddit Grandmas

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When it comes to relationships, there’s no doubt that some good advice can go a long way. Whether you’re in your early days or headed down the aisle, we found the best advice Reddit could give for you to apply for your blossoming relationship.

Check it out below!

Do two tasks for your partner and don’t make a big deal out of it.

“For me, my grandfather gave me the best advice. He said, ‘choose two things to do around the house that she never has to ask you to do. Do the best job you can do and take pride in it but never draw attention to or complain about it. Just do it and expect nothing in return.’ I cook dinner and do the dishes/cleanup cooking messes. It took my wife almost a year to notice. When she did however I would find my laundry was magically done on its own, folded and put away. When I told her she doesn’t have to do my laundry she stated “you always cook and clean for me! I figured it was the least I could do!” – u/Ironwolf9876

Be selfless between the sheets

” I feel like this same goes for sex – do that little bit extra to make your partner feel sexy and special every time. A little bit of selflessness on both sides adds up to a world of extra pleasure for each.” – philipjeremypatrick

Don’t always go for 50/50.

“The one I heard is “healthy relationships are not 50/50. Each person should be putting in 100%.” – reddit user

Give your S.O. the benefit of the doubt.

“The best relationship advice I have heard came from an interview Michael J Fox did where he talked about how his marriage had lasted so long. He said ‘We give each other the benefit of the doubt.’ If your SO does something thatakes you worried, angry or sad, ask them to tell you their side of the story before you let your emotions run wild. There is probably a reasonable explanation and a good reason for how he/she acted. That will help avoid a lot of conflicts and foster trust.” – Loive

If you’re arguing to win you’ve already lost.

“You shouldn’t be arguing trying to prove that you’re right or that she is wrong. You should be communicating what you each see the situation as and come to a mutual understanding or agreement. Relationships aren’t a competition. Even if you guys end up not agreeing, at least you’ll know why it upsets the other person and will know not to do that because it negatively affects them.” – cdotace

Be sure they’re the one.

“My mother asked me the night i proposed to my wife if i was sure i wanted to be with her. It made me mad in the moment, but i realized she made a valid point. 6 years and twin boys later, I have never been more sure about a decision in my life. Thanks mom.” – sillysimon12

Get married when you’re poor.

“I was fortunate enough to be invited to a party where there were several elderly couples. At the time, I was in my early twenties, and decided to take advantage of the opportunity. A couple in attendance had been married for over 60 years. I asked them, “What advice do you have for a young person like me? The woman said, ‘Get married when you’re dirt poor…’ My mind was blown. I thought to myself, “Wow, that is some incredible advice. Literally start a life together, and build it up from nothing. That would create an unbreakable bond and friendship.’ Then she finished with ‘… so you can’t afford to get divorced!'” – MutantCoach

Say I love you before you leave for work in the morning.

“1. Say I love you (and mean it) every morning before you leave for work. You may not see them again. 2. If they regularly do something small that annoys you, first see if you are able to stop being annoyed by it before asking them to change.” – Reddit user 

How do you do the little things.

“To achieve an amazing relationship, you need to consider what you do in the little things. What your girlfriend/wife is like when she greets you at the front door, over the table at breakfast, etc. These little things add up to 80% of the success of your relationship. Dedicate yourself and be focused completely in the moment in these little moments and you will achieve the best relationship that you have ever had.” – ImpulseTee

Carry the load. Know it’s like moving a sofa.

“I heard a comic once say a relationship is like moving a heavy, awkward sofa up 3 flights of stairs. The whole time you’re talking to the other person, and you wonder if they’re carrying their load, and it can be tough. But its easier than doing it alone.”  – beingtwiceasnice

Be on the same page before you get married.

“Being in love with someone is a good reason to date them, but not necessarily marry them. People fall in love all the time but if the two of you don’t agree on the important life decisions (kids, religion, fiscal responsibility, etc.) then your marriage is likely to face some serious challenges.” – bdd1001