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Kehlani Welcomes Baby Girl After “Hard But Powerful” Unmedicated Home Birth

R&B star Kehlani is a mommy. The singer welcomed her first child, baby girl Adeya, over the weekend.

In an Instagram post on Monday, Lani disclosed that she had an unmedicated home birth, describing the experience as both strenuous and beautiful.

“This weekend our angel arrived healthy & perfect in every way in our bathroom at home,” the 23-year-old crooner captioned a photo of a baby blanket with colorful pine trees. “Unmedicated home birth was the absolute hardest yet most powerful thing I’ve ever done. Thankful beyond words. In love beyond comparison.”

Lani, who had her first baby with guitarist Javie Young-White, talked more about her decision to have a home birth on Twitter.

“All birth is extremely hard and transformative,” she said. “Home birth is a medical decision as is hospital birth, all birth is mind blowing & powerful. … it’s a next level journey whichever way.”

While emphasizing the splendor and power of childbirth, she didn’t deny the physical pain that accompanies it.

“But I hope everyone knows no one can tell me SHIT after that because LORD…next level, no words!”

Lani said she wouldn’t be posting on social media much in order to rest and spend time with her new family but sent her gratitude to her fans for their love, support and well wishes.

Days before the birth of her child, Lani released the music video for “Butterfly,” which appears on the singer’s While We Wait mixtape that dropped last month.

Watch the video for “Butterfly” below:

All Of The Times Our Mamas And Abuelas Taught Us What Love And Fun Were In 2019

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All Of The Times Our Mamas And Abuelas Taught Us What Love And Fun Were In 2019

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Abuelas and mamas are the best. They’re wise, fierce, cranky, and, if you’re lucky, they are so loving. That is why it’s so important to pay them the respect they’ve earned, while also celebrating their incredible life. People should honor their grandparents each year as if it’s their last — and in a way that they’d love. In 2019, there’s no denying that they delivered!

Here’s a look at all of the abuelas and mamas who killed it in 2019.

This abuela who did a Mariachi howl after getting surprised on her 93rd birthday

A family in Arizona surprised their 93-year-old abuela on her birthday and holy hell was it sweet. As soon as nana opened the door, her family started playing mariachi music, and she loved it! We have no idea how many people were in that house, but by the sounds of it, there was a lot. Her stunned face clearly showed she had no idea a birthday party in her honor would be behind the door.

This mama who threw a lowrider birthday for her baby boy.

One Twitter user, who goes by the name of @whoissd, went viral when she had a birthday celebration for her son that emphasized just how much teaching the old to the new is vital. For her son, Silas Cash’s, first birthday, SD threw an authentic lowrider party — complete with the recognizable cruisers in attendance. For her son, Silas Cash’s, first birthday, SD threw an authentic lowrider party — complete with the recognizable cruisers in attendance.

This mom who hosted a job fair for her kids to teach them about life.

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One mom’s Facebook post went viral after she shared that she hosted a makeshift job fair for her children after they kept asking for a higher allowance. “My children continue to ask for a new cell phone, an allowance, and to go places,” the mother, Shaketha Marion McGregor wrote in her Facebook post. “Yesterday I told them that I’ve heard their requests and that I’ll have a surprise for them today when they get home from school. SURPRISE!!! It’s a whole hiring event. If you want it, work for it, earn it!”
And yes, she even had an in-home credit union (wait, what even is that? These kids are about to be ready for when #adulting hits them). McGregor’s Facebook post has already gotten over 212K likes, 35K comments, and over 130K shared on the social media platform.

This mom who still crushes on the father of her kids after all of these years.

Earlier this year in May, Rocio Andujo tweeted about her parents’ love story. The 21-year-old from Texas shared that her mom and dad, Rosalia and Robert, have been together for 27 years. Like any good romantic drama, their love affair started with friction. Dad, the playboy of the block, was head over heels for mom, who knew better than to give the player any play — until she did. “My mom always knew my dad was a ladies’ man & wouldn’t really take any girl serious so she always rejected him… because she didn’t want to be just another girl on his list (her words),” Rocio, who works as a server while attending college, said, according to BuzzFeed. “After a year & months of my dad chasing after my mom & trying to get a chance with her she finally gave him a chance since she saw that he kept insisting and insisting even after she would reject him.”

Apparently, her pops was sprung, and everyone around them took notice.
“Everyone could see how in love my dad was with my mom and everyone would get surprised because they had never seen my dad so in love with a girl before,” Rocio wrote. But Robert wasn’t the only one all heart-eyes in the relationship. Rocio discovered something recently that proves that her mom has been equally enamored all these years: a collection of all the flowers that Robert gave Rosalia during all the years they were boyfriend and girlfriend. “No one knew my mom had kept those flowers. She also still has the first bouquet of roses he gave her,” Rocio said.

According To Experts, Breastfeeding Changes Your Body And Can Even Affect Your Sex Life In Really Weird Ways

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According To Experts, Breastfeeding Changes Your Body And Can Even Affect Your Sex Life In Really Weird Ways

Having a baby is arguably the greatest miracle of life. Rumor has it, breastfeeding your baby takes second place. Extensive research has revealed that breastfeeding can provide mother and infant all kinds of benefits including providing her with proteins that stimulate against allergies and eczema. What’s more, it can make vaccines more effective and make babies smarter. But what ways can it affect your body?

Here’s what you can expect.

1. While you breastfeed, your body releases oxytocin and prolactin, which means you’re going to feel *really* good.

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Breastfeeding your baby is an emotional experience. Your body becomes flooded with oxytocin when you breastfeed, which is nature’s way of ensuring mom wants to breastfeed. Every breastfeeding mammal produces is laden with casomorphin, which has a sedative effect on your baby. Your body does this to solidify the bonding experience between you and your baby.

2. That means that most moms experience mood dips when they stop breastfeeding.

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Of course, some moms are very happy to scrap their nursing bras, while others can suffer from hormonal mood swings once they wean. One way to help prevent a severe mood dip is by weaning very slowly. An abrupt stop to breastfeeding might feel like whiplash to your body, which has been flooded with oxytocin and prolactin for months at this point.

3. You lose 5 to 10 percent of your bone mass within the first six months of breastfeeding.

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University of Pittsburgh’s own associate professor of endocrinology, Mara Horwitz, says that, in order to ensure the baby is getting enough calcium, the body takes it directly from the mother’s own bones.

4. You have a higher risk of gum disease.

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While you’re pregnant, your hormones change, and you lose the estrogen that is typically there to protect your bones, so once you start breastfeeding, you start leeching calcium like crazy. That lack of calcium also leads to an increase in risk for gum disease. In order to combat this lack of calcium, it’s important to take at least 1,000 milligrams of calcium daily. Think dark leafy greens, fortified orange juice or fortified almond milk, and it will help.

5. The good news is that you’ll eventually have stronger, healthier bones than you did before.

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According to a 2012 study by Osteoporosis International, women who breastfeed for 33 months or longer eventually have stronger, larger bones than moms with less than 12 months of breastfeeding.

6. Your boobs are about to hurt way more often.

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Except, this time, it won’t be your body’s monthly warning that your period is on its way. For the first few weeks of breastfeeding, when your boobs start to ache, it means you need to wake up Bebé and feed her. You can take a warm shower before nursing to help with milk flow and will have to apply cool compresses to your breasts between feedings.

7. You may notice hard, marble-sized lumps in your breasts.

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That’s also normal. If you’re breastfeeding still, it may be a clogged milk duct, resolved by massaging the area as you breastfeed until that side goes dry. If you’ve already weaned, it’s likely your body absorbing its own milk.

8. Your boobs are going to deflate after weaning, pero no te preocupes–they’ll perk up in six months.

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If you’re starting to feel at all anxious about the entire breastfeeding process, remember that everything is temporary. Once you “dry up”, it might feel like your boobs are hangin’ low, but that’s just a natural temporary loss of fat. As your body comes back to equilibrium, fat will return to your boobs.

9. While breastfeeding, you may experience vaginal dryness, tightness or tenderness.

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That’s because your body has produced lower estrogen levels while breastfeeding. Some women experience a lower libido while others experience a higher libido while breastfeeding. Either way, you can absolutely use a lubricant to relieve the symptoms and go about your business.

10. Your breasts might leak while you have sex.

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Don’t fret. It’s the most normal thing in the world for you to squirt breastmilk when you’re feeling aroused. It’s also far more common to not want to have sex at all, given the body’s production of prolactin, which you need to produce breastmilk, but which also decreases the libido.

11. The longer you breastfeed, the longer break you’re likely to get from a period.

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Some women get their period immediately after birth, though they aren’t typically ovulating until six months later. Far more often, while mothers are breastfeeding, they’re also delaying their period. Breastfeeding is high energy work.

12. You’ll probably lose weight while breastfeeding.

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Breastfeeding burns an average of 200 to 500 calories per day, and you’ll want to make sure you’re eating as often as you’re hungry to ensure optimal nutrition to the Bebé.

13. For mothers with a history of carpel tunnel, you may need extra support while breastfeeding.

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Make sure you relax your grip on Bebé and have enough pillows to support your arm (one under the arm), your back and even between your legs. Stretch your fingers and circle your wrists between feedings.