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All Of The Instagram Trends That Drove Us Nuts In 2019

Anyone who uses Instagram understands the Instagram “aesthetic.” There’s a certain look that people aim to achieve with their photos, an aura of beauty and coherence, and even though everyone has a relatively unique approach to their social media pages, there’s a common sense of what is and is not “Instagrammable.” Of course, this unspoken (yet universally understood) rule is dictated by certain trends, many of which become super obvious when you follow people who travel.

Through the medium of carefully curated photography, one can craft a very specific narrative about what their life is like—and for literally millions of people, Instagram is an ideal way to convey a life full of adventure and exploration. It’s one of the most powerful tools of persuasion (think about it: professional “Instagrammers” are called “Influencers”), and a single exceptional Instagram photo can inspire a whole generation to visit even the most obscure places.

In a recent WeSwap survey of 2,000 18-34-year-olds, 37% of respondents said their vacation destinations are influenced by social media, and 31% said that posting vacation photos online is just as important as the vacation itself.

In addition to impacting how we choose our destinations, Instagram even affects how these destinations look to begin with. Hotel designers are now taught how to create Insta-friendly layouts, going so far as to choose lighting based on how it would translate to a photo. Cavo Tagoo, a luxury boutique hotel in Mykonos, Greece, became the most followed hotel on Instagram this year due to its adherence to this trend—with its elegant, minimalist design and beautiful beachside aesthetic, it fits the Instagram vibe perfectly.

The problem with this is that certain Instagram travel pictures can draw immensely large crowds to otherwise unknown places (or, even worse, attract even larger crowds to already-bustling tourist sites around the world). Imagine a twee hillside in Florence being flooded with people all vying to replicate a photo they saw online. Or think about literal fights breaking out at the Eiffel Tower as tourists compete for the perfect selfie spot.

With all of this context in mind, here are some of the most typical Instagram #travel trends, which you’re sure to have seen at least a dozen times during your last scrolling session.

Holding The Hand Of A Loved One In A Beautiful New Place

We all remember Murad Osmann—back in 2015, Osmann’s photos went viral, culminating in a years-long photo series in which his wife leads him by the hand around the world. With the wild popularity of these photos, people have started recreating their own versions. It’s a quintessentially Instagrammable idea.

Coffee and Coffee Shops

There’s something so cool about coffee shop vibes, and when it comes down to it, coffee is one of the most Instagram-friendly things imaginable. Not only does it evoke a sense of coziness and comfort, but it’s a staple of the travel lifestyle—it’s the fuel that keeps the adventure going.

Capturing the Sun or a Holding up a Building

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We all know it’s just an optical illusion, but it sure does make for a cute shot.

Celebratory Cheers on the Beach

Well, cheers-ing delicious beverages doesn’t just happen on the beach, but there is something so inviting about a tropical cocktail with the ocean in the background.

Doing Yoga Postures in Pretty Places

If you practice yoga, it only makes sense that you would do so in the most far-reaching corners of the world. This trend will probably exist on Instagram forever: pretty yogis doing pretty poses in pretty places.

Posing With Exotic Animals

When traveling to the jungle or the savannah or the rainforest, what better evidence of your excursion than a selfie with a wild beast? Well, the truth is that taking selfies with wildlife can actually be super harmful to them—the desire to take these photos has also led to an unethical form of tourism that draws these creatures out of their natural habitat and places them in distressing situations. Fortunately, Instagram has taken action to draw attention to this phenomenon when users search for hashtags like #slothselfie or #koalaselfie, ultimately encouraging its users to take wildlife photos that are cruelty-free.

Skylines and Sunsets

There’s nothing quite like a beautiful sunset, nor a stunning skyline. And when the two collide, a perfect photo is born.

Instagram’s influence will likely continue to spread its reach around the world over the next few years. When you’re on the hunt for that perfect travel photo, make sure to pause and enjoy the real world around you, too. A picture may be worth a thousand words, but the real thing might just leave you speechless.

You Can Still Watch Kobe And Gianna Bryant’s Tearful Memorial Service

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You Can Still Watch Kobe And Gianna Bryant’s Tearful Memorial Service

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It was a sad and reflective day at the Staples Center today as fans and friends of the late basketball player Kobe Bryant gathered to celebrate his life as well as that of his daughter Gianna Bryant. The memorial held in their honor saw guests speak about their lives, passion for the game of basketball and love for the people they left behind.

Here’s a look at the top most emotional moments from the memorial today.

Christina Aguilera’s “Ave Maria” performance

The six-time Grammy Award-winning singer Christina Aguilera took the stage at Staples to perform “Ave Maria” for Kobe and Gianna Bryant’s memorial service.

Shaq reflected on his rivalry with Kobe.

Shaquille O’Neal, Kobe Bryant’s long time competitor, opened up about life as his teammate.

“We fought and we bantered back and forth with offhanded remarks, but make no mistakes, and you folks thought we were on bad terms, and when the cameras were turned off we would wink at each other and said, ‘let’s go whip some ass.'”

O’Neil also shared a sweet anecdote about their relationship as teammates. “Kobe and I always maintained a deep respect and love with one another. The day Kobe gained my respect was when the guys were complaining, and they said, Kobe’s not passing the ball. I said I will talk to him. I said, Kobe, there’s no “I” in team, and he said, I know, but there’s a “Me” in that m**********r.” Shaq recalled he returned back to his other teammates and said “Just get the rebound, he’s not passing.”26 min ago

Michael Jordan described Kobe’s death saying “a piece of me died.”

Michael Jordan had long been attributed to being Kobe Bryant’s inspiration for his successful basketball careers. Speaking about learning about Bryant’s death, Jordan said “When Kobe Bryant died, a piece of me died.”

Kobe’s wife Vanessa brought the stadium to tears with her speech.

Though Kobe’s wife Vanessa gave her speech early on during the memorial, her’s was by far the most sentimental and emotional. Speaking about her daughter Giana, Vanessa recalled how she was “very thoughtful and always kissed me good night and kissed me good morning. There were a few occasions where I was absolutely tired from being up with Bianka and Capri, and i thought she had left to school without saying goodbye. I text and say, ‘No kiss?’ And Gianna would reply with, ‘Mama, I kissed you. You were asleep and I didn’t want to wake you.’ She knew how much her morning and evening kisses meant to me, and she was so thoughtful to remember to kiss me every day. She was daddy’s girl, but I know she loved her mama, and she would always show me and tell me that she loved me. She was one of my very best friends.”

Speaking about her husband Kobe, Vanessa recalled how “A couple weeks before they passed Kobe sent me a sweet text and mentioned how he wanted to spend time together, just the two of us, without our kids, because I am his best friend first. We never got the chance to do it. We were busy taking care of our girls and just doing our regular everyday responsibilities. But I’m thankful I have that recent text. It means so much to me. Kobe wanted us to renew our vows. He wanted Natalia to take over his company and he wanted to travel the world together. We talked about how we would be the fun grandparents to our daughters’ children. He would have been the coolest grandpa..”

Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.