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Karol G And Anuel AA Announced On Instagram That They Will Definitely Be Married In 2020

If you haven’t been living under a rock, you probably know that Karol G and Anuel AA were major players in the 2019 Latinx music game. Both artists (as well as Maluma) were listed as the most streamed Latinx artists of the year.

Separately, they have made serious names for themselves. Karol G is killing it as 2019’s most listened-to woman in urbano. “Tusa,” her latest—and possibly most celebrated—song of the year debuted at the top of Billboard’s Hot Latin Songs chart, making history as the first female collaboration to do so. As for Anuel AA? He won Billboard’s 2019 Latin Music Award for New Artist of the Year, though he’s been on the scene since the early aughts and is considered a major pioneer of Latin trap music.

Although both Karol G and Anuel AA are independently famous, they’ve been making headlines together since they first started collaborating late in the summer of 2018, shortly after Anuel AA was released from prison for unlawful possession of a firearm. Their debut came in the form of the straight bop “Culpables,” and though fans everywhere speculated that they must be a thing, the artists insisted for months that they were just close friends. (At the Latin GRAMMYs in November of 2018, Karol G told Billboard: “We have a great friendship. Anuel is all yours, ladies.”)

But have you heard “Culpables?!” Not only is it an absolute jam—it recounts the story of two people who fall in love while they are dating other people (though these other people are also fooling around), and the lyrics (paired with chemistry shared by Karol G and Anuel AA in the music video) seemed to confirm back then that they were, for sure, a couple. But they continued to play with the public, staying silent in the face of rumors and avoiding any real PDA (during their first live performance of “Culpables” in Miami, Anuel went in for a kiss, and Karol seriously dodged him, causing people to think that what she’d said about them being “just friends” must actually be true).

But then it happened—on Anuel AA’s November 26 birthday, the couple made their relationship Instagram official, posting precious messages that (finally!) declared their love to the world.

Since then, they have assumed true power couple status. Three of their collaborative singles topped the charts in 2019: in January, “Culpables” peaked at No. 8; “Secreto” hit No. 4 in April; and “China” debuted at No. 2 in July. When they appeared together at Billboard’s Latin Music Awards in April, the world got their first red-carpet glimpse of them as not just a hyper-successful collaborative pair, but as an official romantic couple. That was also the moment we realized how serious of a couple they were. Because Karol G was wearing something very shiny on a certain finger—a jewel that had started many engagement rumors in the months prior to that awards show.

Although the couple didn’t speak much about their wedding plans last year, Karol G did share some ideas about how she envisioned her big day.

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“I think I want something super simple, something natural, something small,” she shared. “To be honest, I haven’t thought about the specific things because I want everything to be super simple and natural as possible.” She added, “In reality, what I want is for people not to stress about how they’re going to look and what they are going to wear. Or by the fact that there might be news outlets around, and we might feel restrained from having a good time.”

Though, of course, the superstar also mentioned some of the most necessary ingredients for a picture-perfect wedding: “I want there to be cakes and pastries all over the place, meats and pastas and sweets,” she said. “So my family, a super DJ and lots of food. And obviously the groom.”

And after an almost year-long engagement, Karol G’s vision will become a reality! Because the power pareja has announced via Instagram that they are definitely getting married in 2020.

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Este año hay boda 👰🏼

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An exact date has yet to be shared, but Anuel AA captioned his Instagram post with the words “Este a año hay boda,” so fans everywhere rejoice! According to Entertainment Tonight, Anuel AA also wishes for a simple wedding, just like his wife-to-be.

“As long as I have the beach, we good,” he said. “All the family [there].”

So superfans of the “prince and princess of Latin music” can rest easy (and get excited!) knowing that wedding bells are on the horizon. Let’s hope that their union comes with some more hot releases to top the charts of 2020!

Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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If you’ve had the unique, and very very special, experience of being raised by a single mother, you know that it comes with all kinds of lessons. Amidst the struggles of single parenthood, you learn at a young age what true strength and perseverance mean. And above all, you learn from la jefa de jefas what it means to not only run a household but be a leader.

Recently we asked Latinas on Instagram to share what they valued most from their years being under a single-parent roof run by their mother. The responses proved to be touching, reflective and all at once unique.

The woman who helped raise eachother.

“My mom was a single mom, but my grandma raised me and my Nina influenced me. My grandma was a single mom too, so it came naturally for her to raise me herself. She’s the strongest woman I know💕 she always made sure I had food to eat and clothes on my back, she took me everywhere she could. Our weekends were filled with “browsing” and we’d be out from sunup to sundown no más en la calle 😁 she would start conversations with everyone anywhere. She was able to be a grandma to my baby and the only person I could fully rely on 100% to help me raise my own. There will never be words to say how much that meant to me. She’s turning 94 this year and still my heroe.” – moneekers

The mom who never let her children be home alone.

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“One thing I learned to appreciate as I became an adult is that my mom never let my sister and I be home alone; she made us play every sport offered at school so that she could be out of work and waiting in the parking lot when we got out of practice.” –just_phdcounselored

The woman raised by Wonder Woman herself.

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“My mother is Wonder Woman in the flesh and it is an honor to be her child my mother is the most amazing pain in my ass but absolutely best person in my life. I love her so much and value her for all her sacrifices and that she still stands by my side and my sisters through thick and thin. Proud to say I am my mother’s daughter. Single moms are warriors.” – ladycinnamon_90

The mama who had something to say.

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“I was a single mom to my oldest who is now 28. For the most part of her life. I have been single to my youngest now 14 for the last 11 years. I’ve had decent relationships with their fathers. I never stopped to think about how, as a single mother I helped to shape their world. I see myself in the comments on here as a single mama. Single moms just it it done!” –mimarria

The mom who found a way to give everything when she didn’t have a lot herself.

“My mom raised me and my 2 siblings since we were under the age of 5. She always made sure we had everything, even when we didn’t have a lot. Her hard work and dedication have made me the resilient woman I am today.” – gaby_armenta23