Jeannie Mai’s Comments About Dating Black Men Are A Reminder That Some People Might Date Us But Don’t Value Us
In 2019, it is a truth universally acknowledged, that any problematic thing you have said on the internet will come back to bite you.
Host of “The Real” and TV personality Jeannie Mai is learning that lesson the hard way after her relationship with African American rapper Jeezy, Jay Wayne Jenkins, went public on Instagram. In response to the couple’s great news, the internet was quick to resurface an old clip of the television host proudly and enthusiastically claiming that she might date Black men but prefers to marry men who are white.
By the way, this “old” clip aired in 2014, a time when anyone dating a Black person who had access to the internet and friends ought to know better
The clip from 2014 of Mai saying that she prefers her “dark meat on the side” is making the rounds once again.
During a segment on “The Real” in which Mai and her co-hosts spoke about their “types,” Mai made a comment in front of her three Black co-hosts (Loni Love, Lamar Braxton, and Tamera Mowry-Housley) and all things holy that she “loved Black guys!”
And ayayay because that’s already a risky thing to enthuse but she didn’t stop there. “I did, I did,” she went on to say. “But for me, dark meat on the side. White keeps me mean and lean, you know? That’s why I married white. That’s what I like.”
The comments shocked her co-hosts at the time and at one point, Tamar Braxton, replied. “Before I get offended, I’m going to just hush.” When Mai realized she had upset her co-workers she immediately demanded to know what they thought she meant and Mowry-Housley countered that she ought to explain herself.
“What I’m saying is I really do think Black men are attractive,” Mai said again. “When I think about men, I like dark men. I used to date Black men. I think they’re attractive. But when I decided to stick to – because it just kept me happiest – was my man Freddy, who just happens to be White.”
Mai’s sentiment highlights a common sentiment from women outside of the Black the community that Black men are fine to play with but not hang with.
The comments implied that Black men are fine to date but never good enough to settle down with. A Black man could offer a non-Black woman the world but he’d be too “lowly” in their eyes for them to hitch their wagon too. Comments like these not only fetishize Black men and Black people, they dehumanize them as well.
Truth be told, when it comes to race, no one’s being quick to put Jeannie Mai at the helm of the racial conversation.
Mai has made a point on her show of stating her belief that race is not an issue. During various segments of the show she has asserted that Black women are more or more distinctly disparaged in our country.
In actuality, studies have proven time and again that when it comes to domestic abuse, sexual assault, and abuse when it comes to obtaining jobs, education and higher salaries, even proper healthcare Black women are particularly disenfranchised against.
During a conversation about R Kelly and the way his Black victims have been overlooked Mai protested the notion that white victims would have been treated differently. While discussing the issue Mai’s co-host Adrian Bailon asserted that if the girls had been white, the national guard would have been involved. Mai was quick to reply that “women of ALL color” are not being taken care of.
Of course, we’re not mad that Mai is dating Black men. We wish them well and for Jeezy’s sake she’s not sticking to her 2014 ways.