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This Father Is Giving His Trans Son A Beard Trim And Twitter Can’t Stop Ugly Crying

Sometimes our familias can really surprise us. We want and expect them to understand everything we do and all that we are as individuals. And, of course, family should accept you for who you are. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.

Whether you come out as gay or maybe you’re in an interracial relationship, sometimes family disappoints us. Sometimes they hurt us by not allowing us to be happy.

But, often enough, there are stories of immense change and progress. Stories of “it gets better” permeate the Internet and give hope to countless others who may be facing the same family crisis.

One man is seriously pushing us to the verge of a full blown cry fest with their heartwarming story of acceptance. 

In a Tweet that has since gone viral, one trans man shares a video of their dad giving them a fade and trimming their beard in the backyard.

In the tweet, they explain that when they first came out as trans, their family didn’t know what to do with them. But that after three years of a not always easy journey, things have gotten better for them and their family

They remind us all that family acceptance isn’t the only way in which things can get better though. 

For some, family may never come around. This twitter user notes that they’ve lost a lot of family and friends on their journey. But as queer people often point out, it’s also about your chosen family. 

They also point out the true significance of self love and surrounding yourself with a support system no matter what that looks like.

And yea, ok, their dad may not be the best barber.

They point out that yea maybe the dad messed up the haircut, but whatevs, that’s besides the point. The point is…get yourself a support system that cuts your hair in the backyard because they love you. 

As so many trans people know, being a trans person in this country is not only dangerous, it can mean the end of family and important friendships.

While a recent Ipsos survey suggests people around the world are becoming more tolerant of transgender people, one expert warns the “encouraging” results are not inevitable. They take work.

And many in the community have real world experience in losing the people who once meant the world to them.

And for trans women of color, in particular, the US is a very dangerous place.

The average life expectancy of a black trans woman in the US is thought to be 35. Most of this year’s victims were still in their twenties.

Federally, trans people have also seen cutbacks in protections in shelter, health care, and incarceration under the Trump administration.

In a statement, the Human Rights Campaign said, “It is clear that fatal violence disproportionately affects transgender women of color, and that the intersections of racism, transphobia, sexism, biphobia and homophobia conspire to deprive them of necessities to live and thrive,” the organization said.

“This epidemic of violence that disproportionately targets transgender people of color — particularly black transgender women — must cease.”

But right now, Twitter was absolutely loving for this heartwarming story.

Gurl, saaaaame. As a queer person, it’s incredibly powerful to hear stories of family acceptance. And to see and understand the journey that some families take — it’s proof that change and progress is possible. Sometimes in those people from whom we’d least expect it. 

Many couldn’t hold back their ugly tears.

But like don’t worry. Pretty much all of Twitter is ugly crying right there alongside you. 

Some on Twitter wanted to share their own similar experiences.

This person wanted to point out that they have a step child who is in transition and that’s she’s fully supportive of her child. 

While another tweet wanted to keep things real.

For some, family and friends may never come around to your authentic self. Unfortunately, this is a reality that many trans and queer people constantly face. 

Because, sadly, for many, things don’t get better with their family.

Many people commented that they were happy and moved by this story of acceptance and progress. However, for many other people that moment of acceptance hasn’t come yet and many feel that it may never. 

But we’re gonna leave it on a feel good note…

We’re happy for you @transtramposo and can’t wait to hear more about your journey with your accepting family. Keep sharing these heartwarming moments!

Hate Crimes Remained Stable In 2018 But Crimes Against Latinos And The Transgender Community Skyrocketed

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Hate Crimes Remained Stable In 2018 But Crimes Against Latinos And The Transgender Community Skyrocketed

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Violent hate crimes in 2018 were the highest they have been in 16 years, according to a report released by the Federal Bureau of Investigation. While hate crimes in general slightly decreased, the number of violent crimes significantly increased. Moreover, Latinx and trans people increasingly became targets of hate crimes. 

The FBI collected data from over 16,000 police departments and law enforcement agencies which found 7,120 hate crimes logged. This was just a 1 percent decrease from 2017. However small, being just a difference of 55 incidents, it is the first time the total number of hate crimes has gone down in four years. 

Violent hate crimes increase, while total hate crimes decrease.

Violent hate crimes, which differ from hate crimes that involve property, jumped from 4,090 to 4,571. The 12 percent jump reveals white supremacists have become increasingly emboldened. 

“This is really significant,” Brian Levin, the director for the Center for the Study of Hate and Extremism who analyzed the data told The Guardian.  “The more we have these derisive stereotypes broadcasted into the ether, the more people are going to inhale that toxin.”

Levin implied the popular hateful rhetorics of our time have violent outcomes for the targets of such ire. Hate crimes against Muslims and Arab-Americans, Jewish people, and Black Americans (although still the most targeted group)decreased in 2018. While hate crimes increased for Latinxs and trans people who are more frequent subjects of condemnation during the Trump administration era. 

The disabled, Latinx and trans people face higher rates of hate crimes in the Trump era.

Anti-Latinx hate crimes, the Walmart El Paso shooting being one example, increased by 14 percent jumping to 485 reports in 2018, and increasing 48 percent over five years. 

“The number of crimes targeting Muslims cratered,” Levin said. “Anti-Semitic crimes dropped. But the ones targeting Latinos increased for the third year.”

Meanwhile, trans and gender-nonconforming people saw an increase of 41 percent with 168 hate crimes reported. People with disabilities saw a 37 percent surge to 159 reports as well. 

“We’re seeing a leaner and meaner type of hate crime going on,” Levin told NPR. “Homicides were up and crimes against persons were up and that’s an important thing to look at.”

Even with this many, experts still say the FBI’s number is a “significant undercount” according to The Guardian. 

“[The President’s] white supremacist rhetoric and talking points that vilify people” are encouraging violent attacks, Jorge Gutierrez, the executive director of Familia: Trans Queer Liberation Movement, told The Guardian. “Every day, people are afraid to come together in public spaces. People are afraid to be proud of who they are.” 

Another report by the Guardian found that Latinxs were changing their behaviors as they grapple with anti-Latinx attitudes. 

“Every day when I take my daughter to school we pray. I ask God to protect her,” Lidia Carrillo, an immigrant from Mexico, said “I don’t know if I’m going to see my daughter or my husband at the end of the day.”

Other Latinxs said they went out at night to run errands when fewer people were out, they avoid crowded places, and tried to be aware of the nearest exits at all times. Others were so traumatized from hearing about the El Paso shooting they didn’t leave the house for days.

Trump’s hateful rhetoric is a part of the problem according to experts. 

Trump spread misinformation about Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA) saying some of them were “no angels” and many were “hardened criminals,” on the very same day the Supreme Court began to weigh in on whether to keep the program. 

“Trump has also repeatedly pushed anti-LGBT policies, and he and other Republicans have aggressively targeted trans rights and advocated for discriminatory laws,” according to the Guardian. 

What is known as the “Trump Effect” has become a solid theory with mounting evidence. The Washington Post reportedthat in 2016, counties that hosted Trump rallies saw a 226 percent increase in hate crimes. Recent academic research found that just hearing Trump’s offensive rhetoric against a group of people made individuals more likely to write offensive things about such targets. It is naive to think Trump will stop when it’s the reason he garnered his support in the first place. 

“While some observers have explained Trump’s success as a result of economic anxiety, the data demonstrate that anti-immigrant sentiment, racism, and sexism are much more strongly related to support for Trump,” Vanessa Williamson and Isabella Gelfand wrote for the Brookings Institute

“Trump did not do especially well with non-college-educated whites, compared to other Republicans. He did especially well with white people who express sexist views about women and who deny racism exists.”

These High School Soccer Players Are Going Viral After Choreographing A Quince Dance And It’s Actually Pretty Good

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These High School Soccer Players Are Going Viral After Choreographing A Quince Dance And It’s Actually Pretty Good

We all know that having a perfect quinceañera takes a hell of a lot of effort. And also, that Murphy’s Law is a thing, hindsight is 20/20 vision, so there’s probably many things that you think you would probably do differently if you were doing your quince a second time around. Chances are, the first thing you would do would be get this soccer team on the case for designing your quinceañera routine, since it’s pretty much the definition of fire.

First, let’s start with the soccer team in question.

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How long does it take a bored soccer team to create a quince routine? And no, this isn’t the start of a joke, or a riddle. This particular boy’s soccer team took only two minutes to choreograph a full routine! We’re pretty sure there’s gotta be some real proper teamwork coming from these guys, to put together a dance so quickly. Our other theory is that at least one person on the team knows how to dance. But, we digress.

A video of the routine surfaced on Twitter earlier this week, and it’s already been viewed more than 500,000 times.

It shows the boy’s soccer team dancing to “El vals de las mariposas,” taking us through the quinceañero dancing with everyone on the court. And while they’ve definitely got skill, the real draw was the boys’ enthusiasm for the dance. At the end of the day, it’s not really a proper celebration without happy partygoers, right?

The reactions on Twitter said it all: the team definitely impressed.

Some knew that the team was onto something – and wanted to know why they just saw something that was better than most quinces they had attended.

Some on the team were upset they missed the now viral sensation.

One team member was left out of the whole affair, since he had decided to go home before the real fun started. Clearly he missed out! Here’s hoping the team can adjust the routine and include their last team member. Or even better – that all of them get to use their routine at an actual quince.

One word: flashback!

Other Twitter users had flashbacks to the days when their mom was yelling at her and her friends. Apparently the quince practice sessions were a bit too much for that family!

Others pointed out the strong message of confidence and security being shared in this video.

One sharp Tweet pointed out that this is exactly the sort of thing that we should be seeing from boys who are secure in themselves. We love a little commentary on gender.

Is there any way we can hire this soccer team to make a quince routine for us?

If you’re really starved for choice, then you could always review their version of a quinceañera dance floor after a few drinks! Which, okay, still doesn’t solve the problem of putting together a fire quinceañera routine. At this stage, we haven’t seen any offers from the guys to turn their dancing abilities into a fully-fledged business, but who knows! It may be just a matter of time. 

That being said, there are a bunch of different ways you can mix it up at a quinceañera!

This father-daughter duo took the chance to show their waltzing skills to a haunting, mystical Enya tune. It definitely gave the impression of princess dancing in a fairytale! It’s definitely one way to keep quinceañera guests entranced.

Seriously, YouTube is full of Quince inspiration!

This crew knew one hundred percent what they were doing when they came up with this quince choreography. We can easily envisage the birthday girl getting in on a routine like this one – although the quinceañero in this case decided to sit it out and watch the show in this video.

Umm…can I go back in time and celebrate a quince like this, please?

It doesn’t get much more extra than this quinceañera routine! We’re guessing that everyone involved must have been either part of a hip hop dance crew, a cheerleading team, or spent hours putting together the dance!

So what was your quinceañera routine like – and how long did it take for you to learn it? Tell us about it on our Facebook page!