This Father Is Giving His Trans Son A Beard Trim And Twitter Can’t Stop Ugly Crying
Sometimes our familias can really surprise us. We want and expect them to understand everything we do and all that we are as individuals. And, of course, family should accept you for who you are. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.
Whether you come out as gay or maybe you’re in an interracial relationship, sometimes family disappoints us. Sometimes they hurt us by not allowing us to be happy.
But, often enough, there are stories of immense change and progress. Stories of “it gets better” permeate the Internet and give hope to countless others who may be facing the same family crisis.
One man is seriously pushing us to the verge of a full blown cry fest with their heartwarming story of acceptance.
In a Tweet that has since gone viral, one trans man shares a video of their dad giving them a fade and trimming their beard in the backyard.
In the tweet, they explain that when they first came out as trans, their family didn’t know what to do with them. But that after three years of a not always easy journey, things have gotten better for them and their family
They remind us all that family acceptance isn’t the only way in which things can get better though.
For some, family may never come around. This twitter user notes that they’ve lost a lot of family and friends on their journey. But as queer people often point out, it’s also about your chosen family.
They also point out the true significance of self love and surrounding yourself with a support system no matter what that looks like.
And yea, ok, their dad may not be the best barber.
They point out that yea maybe the dad messed up the haircut, but whatevs, that’s besides the point. The point is…get yourself a support system that cuts your hair in the backyard because they love you.
As so many trans people know, being a trans person in this country is not only dangerous, it can mean the end of family and important friendships.
While a recent Ipsos survey suggests people around the world are becoming more tolerant of transgender people, one expert warns the “encouraging” results are not inevitable. They take work.
And many in the community have real world experience in losing the people who once meant the world to them.
And for trans women of color, in particular, the US is a very dangerous place.
The average life expectancy of a black trans woman in the US is thought to be 35. Most of this year’s victims were still in their twenties.
Federally, trans people have also seen cutbacks in protections in shelter, health care, and incarceration under the Trump administration.
In a statement, the Human Rights Campaign said, “It is clear that fatal violence disproportionately affects transgender women of color, and that the intersections of racism, transphobia, sexism, biphobia and homophobia conspire to deprive them of necessities to live and thrive,” the organization said.
“This epidemic of violence that disproportionately targets transgender people of color — particularly black transgender women — must cease.”
But right now, Twitter was absolutely loving for this heartwarming story.
Gurl, saaaaame. As a queer person, it’s incredibly powerful to hear stories of family acceptance. And to see and understand the journey that some families take — it’s proof that change and progress is possible. Sometimes in those people from whom we’d least expect it.
Many couldn’t hold back their ugly tears.
But like don’t worry. Pretty much all of Twitter is ugly crying right there alongside you.
Some on Twitter wanted to share their own similar experiences.
This person wanted to point out that they have a step child who is in transition and that’s she’s fully supportive of her child.
While another tweet wanted to keep things real.
For some, family and friends may never come around to your authentic self. Unfortunately, this is a reality that many trans and queer people constantly face.
Because, sadly, for many, things don’t get better with their family.
Many people commented that they were happy and moved by this story of acceptance and progress. However, for many other people that moment of acceptance hasn’t come yet and many feel that it may never.
But we’re gonna leave it on a feel good note…
We’re happy for you @transtramposo and can’t wait to hear more about your journey with your accepting family. Keep sharing these heartwarming moments!