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This Son Of Immigrants Posted A VERY Honest Tweet About The Loneliness Migrant Parents Feel And It Will Make You Want To Hug Your Mom

Immigration is a topic that is on the news daily but do we really understand the kind of hardships that migrants go through when adapting to our culture with their migration. We know that traveling across the border ⁠— whether legally or without documentation ⁠— can be a dangerous and emotional venture. We also know that living in a xenophobic society like ours is also highly risky for immigrants who seek a life in the United States.
However, the change from one community to another is an issue that makes a large impact on these lives but is not often discussed.

One issue that comes from this situation is the depression and loneliness that accompanies immigrant parents when they build new lives in the United States.

Twitter / @the_levantist

A viral Twitter thread posted on July 28th by @the_levantist brought to light a very important discussion about immigrant parents and depression. As the tweet points out, many migrant parents go from growing up in a very tight-knit community with a strong base of supportive friends and family to being in a new world that feels isolated from uninterested neighbors and co-workers.

While immigrant children are able to go to school to make new connections and friends, adults usually find that the stigma of being an immigrant stifles their ability to branch out. Broken English, a valid mistrust of government officials and programs and separation from their mother communities is common. It makes it that much harder for immigrant parents and adults to find the kind of human support needed to function in this world.

This loneliness results in depression. Mental illness is already a greatly stigmatized issue in most minority communities but is made even worse when a person experiences a distancing or cutting off from friends and family. As such, it makes it even harder to confront these problems and improve the situation.

Twitter really felt this thread and it soon received over 34k retweets, 125k likes and hundreds of comments.

Twitter / @dknyjade

This Twitter user explained that she has seen the same sort of struggle first hand. She tells about how difficult it was when her mother came to a new country, with no connections, no English proficiency and with a newborn baby. This a common picture of immigration in America and the loneliness of this situation is easy to feel.

This tweet suggests that the best way to handle this loneliness is for adult children to become counselors to their parents.

Twitter / @MHus66

Completely uprooting one’s life does take a huge toll on a person’s heart and mind. This tweet suggests that adult children of immigrants should remain conscious of this heartache. Of course, immigrant children have a lot on their plates already but helping a parent to get the mental attention they need is important to minimize depression and mental illness in the immigrant community.

Let’s not forget that these parents deserve big props.

Twitter / @BojorqueSophia

As this Twitter user expresses, we have to give it up to any immigrant parent who has gone through this transition and remained strong and determined. It takes a lot of bravery and dedication to decide to change your life for the better ⁠— even in the easiest of circumstances. To do so when everyone is rejecting you is an incredible act of courage.

Migrant mothers have an extra obstacle in their way when it comes to connecting with their communities.

  Twitter / @cazwithbeans

When immigrant mothers come to the United States and become stay at home moms ⁠— either by choice or necessity ⁠— it limits the number of adult interactions they are able to have. Without the immersion of daily conversations with other adults, it can stifle language fluency. That combined with a lack of time to socialize without children greatly impacts their ability to form important connections.

Of course, since it’s the internet, not everyone felt bad for immigrant adults and parents.

Twitter / @the_levantist

The human reaction to this painful reality would be empathy. Unfortunately, not everyone is capable of this. Some of the responses to this thread were ugly Nationalist talking points telling immigrant adults and parents to “Go back to where they came from.” The grossly racist sentiment is another problem that adult immigrants experience that add to the depression and anxiety they develop.

Luckily, not everyone feels this way about adult immigrants.

Twitter / @daavid_prhys

Most people realize that being an immigrant isn’t a free ride. It doesn’t come with easy access to the things one needs and it’s often very lonely if one doesn’t have a support system. Let’s not allow this conversation to end here. This is something that we as a community need to take seriously so that we are there to build support for those who have had to live without it.

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Google Is Pledging $250K To Help With DACA Applications And Renewals

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Google Is Pledging $250K To Help With DACA Applications And Renewals

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Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals, or DACA, is not a contentious topic among Americans. The program offers young adults who entered the U.S. as children relief from deportation and a chance to live out of the shadows. Now that it has been reinstated, Google wants to help some people achieve the dream of being a DACA recipient.

Google is pledging a quarter of a million dollars to help people apply for DACA.

The Trump administration did everything in their power to end DACA. The constant uncertainty has left hundreds of thousands of young people in limbo. The war waged against Dreamers by the Trump administration came to a temporary end when a federal judge ruled that Chad Wolf was illegally installed as the head of the Department of Homeland Security. It invalidated a member from Wolf stating that no new DACA applications would be approved.

Kent Walker, the SVP of Global Affairs, laid out the case for DACA in an essay.

Walker discusses the uncertainty the hundreds of thousands of DACA recipients currently face after the tumultuous time for the program. He also touches on the economic hardships that has befallen so many because of the pandemic. With so many people out of work, some Dreamers do not have the money to apply or renew their DACA due to a lack of financial resources. For that reason, Google is getting involved.

“We want to do our part, so Google.org is making a $250,000 grant to United We Dream to cover the DACA application fees of over 500 Dreamers,” writes Walker. “This grant builds on over $35 million in support that Google.org and Google employees have contributed over the years to support immigrants and refugees worldwide, including more than $1 million from Googlers and Google.org specifically supporting DACA and domestic immigration efforts through employee giving campaigns led by HOLA (Google’s Latino Employee Resource Group).”

People are celebrating Google for their decision but are calling on Congress to do more.

Congress will ultimately have to decide on what to do for the Dreamers. There has been growing pressure from both sides of the aisle calling on Congress to work towards granting them citizenship. DACA is a risk of being dismantled at any moment. It is up to Congress to come through and deliver a bill to fix the issue once and for all.

“We know this is only a temporary solution. We need legislation that not only protects Dreamers, but also delivers other much-needed reforms,” writes Walker. “We will support efforts by the new Congress and incoming Administration to pass comprehensive immigration reform that improves employment-based visa programs that enhance American competitiveness, gives greater assurance to immigrant workers and employers, and promotes better and more humane immigration processing and border security practices.”

READ: New DACA Applications Were Processed At The End Of 2020 For The First Time In Years

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From TV-less Weekdays To Cereal Bowls, People Are Sharing The Strangest House Rules

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From TV-less Weekdays To Cereal Bowls, People Are Sharing The Strangest House Rules

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If you’ve ever spent the night at someone else’s home, you know that there are people in the world who have house rules that can be very different from your own. From rules about drinking all of your milk cereal to not raising the volume of the television to a hearable level, different households have them all. Now, some of these crazy house rules are being shared in the comments section of an AskReddit. Not only are some of the stories and rules shared wild, some are also even a little sickening.

Check them out below!

“I had a friend who instead of washing the dishes after a meal just put them straight back in the cupboard. I thought his parents would freak out but it turns out it was just something they did in their house. Whenever I went over I always made sure to eat beforehand.” Reddit User

“Family who babysat me when I was young had a rule of “no drinking during meals” and I don’t just mean soda, juice or milk, no water until your meal is done. This was insane to me because we would be called in to supper/lunch after playing outside in the summer and weren’t allowed to drink anything until we sat down and finished our plates. Also, this rule didn’t apply to the father of the family who would often drink beer during meals.

My great-aunt had a parlor room in which all the furniture was covered in plastic and never used, it also had a plastic walkway going through the middle (just a strip of plastic cover) which was the only path you could walk on (she would flip out if you touched carpet).” –Random_White_Guy

“I wasn’t allowed to put extra salt on my food, had to be in bed by 8pm (all the way through middle school), and had to ride my bike to school everyday even though my best friends parents offered to take me.” –willwhit87

“No fighting over the heel of the bread. The father once off hand told his oldest children that the heel of a loaf of bread was the best and made them want it instead of the regular pieces. By the time there were 4 kids sometimes fist fights would break out over the heels. Loaves had been opened on both sides, or loaves were a mess because someone reached through the sack and pulled the back heel out. For a while there was a turn system where the heels were promised to a child for each loaf, but that fell apart when one went to summer camp and lost their turn. One time my friend wasted an afternoon waiting for his mother to come home with a fresh loaf of bread instead of going out and playing. I witnessed fist fights over the bread most people throw away.” –DarrenEdwards

“In college I had a friend that lived with his grandparents when he went to school. Before they’d let him leave the house his grandmother would say ‘nothing good happens after midnight’ and he would have to repeat it. If I was there, I would also have to repeat the phrase.” –iownalaptop

“I slept over a friends house in grade school one time. He prepared us a bowl of cereal the next morning for breakfast. Not thinking ANYTHING of my behavior, I didn’t finish the milk. I just never used to. I don’t know.

He was like “You uh…gonna finish that?”

“Uhhh oh…I uh…I don’t think so? Does that matter?”

He panicked. Absolutely panicked. I think he put it down the toilet before his parents came back into the room.

I don’t know what the rule was, exactly, but FINISH YOUR MILK OR DIE would be my guess based on his reaction. I still feel bad about it. I was like 8 and didn’t think.” –soomuchcoffee

“When I was a kid. I spent the night at one of my friends house. And you were allowed to drink a soda like sprite before bed. But you had to stir it till all the carbonation was gone.. Don’t ask me why…” –newvictim

“I had a friend in middle school, and his dad worked for Pepsi. No one was allowed to bring any Coke products into the house. The first time I went there his mom told me I could not come in the house because I had a Dr. Pepper. I thought she was joking and tried to walk in, but stopped me and said that if I don’t throw that in the garbage outside that I would have to leave. They were fucking serious about that shit.” – SlowRunner

“During college years, I used to visit my friend during summer months at his parents’ house, where he lived at that time. They had two odd “house rules” I’ll never forget:

  1. We couldn’t open any window in the house (even the bathroom window) – ever! Even if it was far cooler outside than inside during the summer.
  2. We weren’t allowed to close our bedroom doors at night, so that his parents’ cat could have free access to all rooms at all times. (This made it difficult to sleep, without a breath of air from the windows, and the cat walking over us in bed while trying to sleep.)” –Back2Bach

“I knew this family that would share the same bathwater as a means to cut down on their water bill. So when one person took a bath, they ALL took a bath that day. The waiting list was about 4-5 people deep. From what I understand, a lot of families do this, however, I just couldn’t see myself washing off in someone else’s soapy leftovers =( If that were the case, I got first dibs on getting in the bathtub first lol”- __femme_fatale__

“My ex’s family would throw all their left over food over their balconey instead of putting in the trash can. I asked them why they did that, they replied it keeps bugs away……..and didnt think rotted food right outside their door would bring bugs.” –PimemtoCheese

“I had a friend whose mom required her to sit on the floor. Never a chair, couch, bed, or other piece of furniture. I went to her house once and sat down on her bed and she flipped out, made me get off it and spent several minutes smoothing the sheets to make it look flat again. I think her mom thought “kids are dirty” but the rule was in place even after bathing and wearing clean.” –knitasha

“Went over to a school-mates’s house for dinner when I was in elementary school…his mom cut everyone’s good into little tiny bites before giving you the plate and only let us eat with a spoon… Her oldest daughter apparently choked on something once when she was a teenager and it became a rule…even on hamburger and hotdog night.” –GRZMNKY

“I was doing a project with a classmate at her house and on our way to her house we stopped at a store and picked up some snacks. We did our schoolwork and then just kind of played and messed around while eating those snacks. Then her mom came home and lost her absolute shit about the snacks. It wasn’t so much that we had eaten them, it was because the snacks had crumbs that had contaminated their otherwise purified home.

My friend had to stop everything and vacuum the entire house to get every crumb of snack, then take the nearly empty vacuum bag, the empty snack bags, and the half-empty but “contaminated” bag of kitchen trash outside and ask one of the neighbors if she could put it in their garbage bin because not a crumb of that kind of food was allowed on the property in any form after sunset. My mom picked me up and as I was leaving they were doing some additional purification ritual and my friend was praying for forgiveness for having potentially defiled their home.

Turns out they were 7th Day Adventist and it was against their code or whatever to have leavened foods in their house/property during a certain period of time? I don’t remember the exact details, but I remember it was a pretty big thing about how every crumb had to be removed from the property ASAP.” – alexa-488

“My neighborhood friend and I would hang out almost every day of the summer. We would go out exploring in the woods with a bunch of our friends and would usually come back all muddy and tired. My friend was very nice and would offer me water and food. His parents would take those away from me if they saw me with them saying they were only for their children. He was always allowed to eat at our house yet I’d have to walk back if they started having any type of meal. The worst though was his next door neighbor who had a daughter our age and when we were hanging out we all got muddy (we were 10) the girls mom proceeded to take her daughter and my friend into her house to clean them up and told me I wasn’t allowed to enter and that I could use the hose. Some people just know how to ruin a kid’s self esteem.” –boomsloth

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