Make This New Year Different By Making Active Positive Changes Instead Of Overwhelming Resolutions

You will probably hear the word resolution like a million times in the next couple of weeks. I am here to say: f*ck that! The word “resolution” alone makes me cringe. It makes me want to steer clear of it. What’s really depressing is hearing that word makes me feel guilty, and I haven’t even done anything. That’s probably where the guilt comes from. I feel guilty for not doing enough. Making resolutions puts pressure on me that I don’t need. Here’s what I can offer you is some simple words of wisdom in the New Year. If you’re wondering what gives me the authority to provide advice, all I can say is that I am in a better place than I was a year ago. So perhaps what helped me can help you.

Do you want to be happier? It’s all about perspective.

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We always want more. We know that if this one thing were different in our lives, we’d be happier. But when that one thing comes and goes, we’re back to square one. Partying and drinking aren’t going to make you happy, and neither is overworking or posting a ton of images on social media. Happiness isn’t something that is attained. Happiness is a perception. It’s something that we can achieve with our minds and our hearts. Happiness is about being content, and I don’t mean settling, but rather understanding that your life is good and you are blessed, even when it gets tough, you will always be okay. 

Want to lose weight? Making small changes can go a long way.

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Resolutions are all about losing weight, eating better, and exercising more. If you’re already doing all of those things, then more power to you, but I am not obsessed with a healthier lifestyle. I do, however, care about being healthy, but that doesn’t mean I am giving up Five Guys or ice cream. In the past year, I lost ten pounds, and I don’t even know how I did it. That may not be a lot of weight for some people, but for me, it’s a big deal, and I don’t want to gain it back. So here’s what I did, from what I can tell that made a difference. I attempted to work out at least 30 minutes a day. I took my dog for more walks. I only had alcohol when I went out. I tried to cut back on bread and did so by attempting to cut it out from my meals at home alone. I took more vitamin supplements, and I also incorporated apple cider vinegar into every glass of water I had. That’s it! 

Learn to be less selfish. 

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Some people are all about self-care and loving yourself. Yes, you should love yourself and take care of yourself, but are you good to others? We’re not talking to parents who are already spread thin, but to people who are consumed with their personal happiness 24/7. In the spirit of giving during the holidays, we should take that kindness and spread it year-round. If you make peace with the fact that this life isn’t all about you, will you undoubtedly become a better person for it?

How to be proactive in 2020 without feeling like a failure.

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If you have one (or a million) goals for yourself in 2020, do not kill yourself over trying to finish them quickly. Give yourself some time, breath, it’s going to be okay. I am a master overthinking, making lists, and having numerous planners, and that doesn’t always work for me. What does work is being aware of your days and staying active about what you want to accomplish? 

Each day, after you’ve had some coffee, hop on to your computer and email yourself a list of things you want to get done that day. This way, you are at least aware of your goals. If by the end of the day, you didn’t complete those things, there’s always tomorrow. 

Rest a little more.

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I know I just said that it’s essential to be active, but it’s also crucial to sleep. I’ve been getting more sleep lately, and it’s helped me out so much. I sometimes go to bed at 9:30 p.m. — typically, I go to bed around 10:30 p.m. — and I am ready to go by 6 a.m. I’m a morning person. Everyone is different, so what matters is that you get at least eight hours of sleep. 

So how do you sleep when it’s hard to sleep? Don’t have caffeine after 4 p.m., have some chamomile tea, which will help you unwind, and get off your phone while you’re in bed.

Get offline and experience the wonders around you.

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Speaking of getting off your phone before you go to bed, try to get off your phone as much as possible. I’m on my phone always, whether for work or just because I’m bored. But I’m learning that is such a sad way to live. I am missing out on the beautiful things that are around me. Yes, our country is in great despair. People all over the world are suffering immensely, but consuming myself with that information isn’t helping matters. You will never be able to truly be off-the-grid but attempting to not be on your phone or on social media will give allow you to talk to people face-to-face, to take in your environment, and overall be more present. At the end of the day, it won’t matter how many followers you have, but about how well you lived your life.

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Here Are The 2021 Fashion And Style Goals To Expect


Here Are The 2021 Fashion And Style Goals To Expect

Funny to think that around this time last year so many of us were all eagerly pouring over the Spring and Summer fashion lines in anticipation of what to wear. So young and naive. So far away from the world of COVID and quarantine and sweat pants. And this year it shows! In 2021, designers have turned out lines inspired by our new work-from-home routine. Here are some 2021 Fashion And Style Goals. You must follow

It’s not just designers aiming for WFH safe fashion.

Redditors also have their minds filled with fashion on their mind.

Check them out below!

“My goal is to only buy pieces I actually love. No shopping because I’m sad or bored. Secondary goal is to donate or throw away things that I don’t wear. Some clothes is super old and only holds up as pyjamas, some clothes is just …not me anymore, idk? Also learning about how to care for expensive pieces!” –friendlyRaven98

“Learn how to dress a body that is 90 pounds lighter. I’ve never shopped in straight sized stores and I don’t even know what brands I’d like. Up until now I’ve been forced to make do with what was available at torrid, lane Bryant, etc. and always felt pigeon holed into a certain “style” because that’s all that was available or thats what was expected for plus size people to wear.” – threeswordstyle

“2021 I’m making an effort. I can be a middle-aged mom, and not be frumpy. 2020 I started out fine, but working from home and covid I sort of gave up. I stopped doing my hair, and stopped putting on makeup. I stopped exercising (yoga pants and hoodies are so forgiving. Not to mention sports bras and cotton undies rather than sexy lingerie that made me stand up a little bit straighter and smile that secret smile to myself. ) I can be chubbier than I’d like right now, and still have nice style that makes me feel sexy and attractive and good about how I present myself. I can wear cute shoes and accessorize again, even if I have a mask that covers my smile. I can also take care of myself and enjoy exercise and healthy foods, and get to a place where I feel better about my body in a swimsuit.” –LittleBunnyF00f

“I decluttered A LOT this year , several garbage bags full of clothes I don’t wear / don’t like wearing , so my goal is to do a slow but carefully thought out overhaul. I’m going to start with super basic pieces and replacing my jeans for higher quality ones then move from there. This is likely going to take place in the second half of the year though because I’m currently paying off credit cards, so we’ll see!” –Sweatypotatosack

“My style goals for 2021:

  1. Be more creative with my style. I want to wear my more funky and unique pieces more often, and to make some of my pieces more personal by embroidering them with cool designs.
  2. Shop my closet. I probably have about 60 pieces all together including accessories (I know this from my Stylebook app) and I’ve realized that I can combine them in all sorts of new ways to create many different kinds of outfits.
  3. Take videos of my crafted outfits. This has helped me a lot in seeing what is working on me and what needs a few tweaks. For example, I took a video of myself wearing a tucked in fitted turtleneck with high-waisted jeans and a belt. I felt it looked very nice in the mirror, but for some reason, it looked off in the video. I quickly realized that due to my height, my high-rise jeans weren’t hitting me at my natural waist, but were instead fitting closer to a mid rise. After noticing this, I experimented around with what I had, and settled on adding a unique 80’s jacket which made it look a lot more styled and proportionate.” –AppleGirl341

“I’m going on a super low buy for 2021. There’s a chance that I have to move at the end of the year so I want to pair down my stuff (less boxes to pack). I’m allowed one item per month in the following categories (with exceptions carved out). This is one item PERIOD, not one shirt and one lipstick. I can either get the shirt or the lipstick. Makeup, clothing (including bras, underwear, and socks), accessories, shoes (can replace only worn out athletic shoes), tech including headphones/charging cables (can replace my laptop or phone should they die), books, craft supplies (unless I get a custom Etsy order and need something for it), stationary/office supplies (I can only buy a 2022 planner). I’m really trying to fast-track the “financial goals’ portion of my budget and I’m hoping this low-buy shifts my habits and diverts money from “wants” to financial goals.” –crazycatlady331

“I’m pretty much always torn between different aesthetics and I don’t really see that changing, but I definitely only want to buy things that I 100% like and that fit me. I usually thrift and I have some items that are lovely, but just one or two sizes too big, I’ll keep them and wear them with belts or get them altered, but I don’t wanna keep buying things that are pretty, but not my size.” –kirisakis

“My realistic goal is to not shop new at all and really limit shopping secondhand. I’m going to not shop when bored or stressed (not too hard to do, since I’m not really going out at the moment due to covid, obviously, and online shopping doesn’t give me the same boost). I almost set a no-buy for myself, but I know myself well enough to know that if I slip once, I’ll consider the whole thing a wash and go crazy. So I’m “allowing” second hand purchases, but I really intend to try and limit even those. Dream goal is to take sewing lessons and learn how to make my own clothes. I realize I need actual in-person help with this, as I’ve tried youtube and other online tutorials and I just can’t. I need to be able to ask questions and get feedback. So if things get better, I’m looking at this summer finding a class or teacher to start. This has been like a fifteen year goal, though. I am somehow making it happen in 2021!!” –violetmemphisblue

“Contrary to others I’m actually trying to buy more! I’ve always been super picky with my clothes and have had a barebones wardrobe since high school. This is the first time I’ve had a job where I have a lot of freedom in what I can wear, and it just feels like I’m wearing the same stuff all the time (I am).” –toa2tcat

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These Are The Top YouTube Workouts To Try At Home To Help Keep Those Resolutions


These Are The Top YouTube Workouts To Try At Home To Help Keep Those Resolutions

With the official start of 2021 – which will hopefully be so much better than 2020 – the desire to be physically fit and achieve that “beach body” (whatever that is) is at a seasonal high. Whether due to a new year’s resolution to get in shape, stay active, lose weight, or simply be more healthy, people are looking for ways to feel and look good despite being under stay-at-home orders.

Across the country, gyms are still closed thanks to the pandemic and many of us are looking for new ways to follow those fitness goals. Enter YouTube: it’s full of incredible, free workouts that are sure to get you motivated. Here are some of our favorites:

The Fitness Marshall

If you’re like me and hate working out, then The Fitness Marshall may be your answer. Fitness guru Caleb Marshall combines hit pop songs — like “Heat” by Kelly Clarkson and “Pony” by Ginuwine — with dance moves that help you break a sweat and have fun doing it. 

Fitness Blender

Run by husband-and-wife team Daniel and Kelli, Fitness Blender is a simple yet great channel. All of their videos are filmed with a white background so you can actually focus on what they’re doing. They have more than 600 full-length workout videos, and more than 150 of those are HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) to get your body moving and blood pumping. All workouts range from 5- to 45-minutes. While some videos require some basic equipment, many can be done with your body weight alone.

Popsugar Fitness

Filmed in a fitness studio with at least three people, the channels feels a bit like an old-school ’80s workout video, without the signature fashion and hair of course…but it does bring that fun group attitude right to you. The channel has different categories: beginners, HIIT, dance cardio, plus workouts targeted at different body parts. You can also choose a class based on length (10 minutes, etc.) Plus, they have a section full of no equipment cardio workouts so you can get your heart rate up without leaving the house

The Body Coach

The Body Coach (aka Joe Wicks) believes that everyone should be able to work out, no matter their fitness level or budget. The channel has more than 250 videos, including challenges, time-based workouts, and workouts for specific body types. There’s a new HIIT workout every week. One of the coolest parts of the channel is that it also has workout for kids, including a daily P.E. class that might be very helpful for any parents who have basically started homeschooling their kids.


No list of YouTube fitness channels is complete without Blogilates. This widely popular channel has close to 4.5 million subscribers and focuses on POP Pilates, PIIT28 and Bootcamp Sculpting. If you have no clue what those are, don’t worry. You don’t need to understand it to enjoy these workouts.  

Certified fitness instructor Cassey Ho’s friendly demeanor makes laying on a mat and working your core, legs, arms and butt almost enjoyable.

Flightmaster Yoga

This channel is not about being a perfect yogi. The motto of the channel is “It’s not about the pose.” All Lesley Fightmaster wants from you is to show up and do your best. She has a number of full-length yoga practices for anyone at any level. You can start with the for beginner videos and then work your way up to 30-minute practices45-minute hatha practices, and full 1-hour practices. The tone is supportive, comforting, and non-judgemental. Show up and try your best to see what happens.

Roberta’s Gym

Think of Roberta’s Gym as the Alexa of exercising. This animated trainer doesn’t really have a personality, but her on-screen timers and rep counters help you keep track of what you’re doing better than any humanoid.


Despite the name, this instructor isn’t a bully at all. He offers up super motivational videos that anyone can do from the comfort of their home. And he keeps it simple: 20 minute full body workouts that require no equipment. Yes, some of the workouts will kick your ass but what do they say? No pain, no gain!

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