Make This New Year Different By Making Active Positive Changes Instead Of Overwhelming Resolutions
You will probably hear the word resolution like a million times in the next couple of weeks. I am here to say: f*ck that! The word “resolution” alone makes me cringe. It makes me want to steer clear of it. What’s really depressing is hearing that word makes me feel guilty, and I haven’t even done anything. That’s probably where the guilt comes from. I feel guilty for not doing enough. Making resolutions puts pressure on me that I don’t need. Here’s what I can offer you is some simple words of wisdom in the New Year. If you’re wondering what gives me the authority to provide advice, all I can say is that I am in a better place than I was a year ago. So perhaps what helped me can help you.
Do you want to be happier? It’s all about perspective.
We always want more. We know that if this one thing were different in our lives, we’d be happier. But when that one thing comes and goes, we’re back to square one. Partying and drinking aren’t going to make you happy, and neither is overworking or posting a ton of images on social media. Happiness isn’t something that is attained. Happiness is a perception. It’s something that we can achieve with our minds and our hearts. Happiness is about being content, and I don’t mean settling, but rather understanding that your life is good and you are blessed, even when it gets tough, you will always be okay.
Want to lose weight? Making small changes can go a long way.
Resolutions are all about losing weight, eating better, and exercising more. If you’re already doing all of those things, then more power to you, but I am not obsessed with a healthier lifestyle. I do, however, care about being healthy, but that doesn’t mean I am giving up Five Guys or ice cream. In the past year, I lost ten pounds, and I don’t even know how I did it. That may not be a lot of weight for some people, but for me, it’s a big deal, and I don’t want to gain it back. So here’s what I did, from what I can tell that made a difference. I attempted to work out at least 30 minutes a day. I took my dog for more walks. I only had alcohol when I went out. I tried to cut back on bread and did so by attempting to cut it out from my meals at home alone. I took more vitamin supplements, and I also incorporated apple cider vinegar into every glass of water I had. That’s it!
Learn to be less selfish.
Some people are all about self-care and loving yourself. Yes, you should love yourself and take care of yourself, but are you good to others? We’re not talking to parents who are already spread thin, but to people who are consumed with their personal happiness 24/7. In the spirit of giving during the holidays, we should take that kindness and spread it year-round. If you make peace with the fact that this life isn’t all about you, will you undoubtedly become a better person for it?
How to be proactive in 2020 without feeling like a failure.
If you have one (or a million) goals for yourself in 2020, do not kill yourself over trying to finish them quickly. Give yourself some time, breath, it’s going to be okay. I am a master overthinking, making lists, and having numerous planners, and that doesn’t always work for me. What does work is being aware of your days and staying active about what you want to accomplish?
Each day, after you’ve had some coffee, hop on to your computer and email yourself a list of things you want to get done that day. This way, you are at least aware of your goals. If by the end of the day, you didn’t complete those things, there’s always tomorrow.
Rest a little more.
I know I just said that it’s essential to be active, but it’s also crucial to sleep. I’ve been getting more sleep lately, and it’s helped me out so much. I sometimes go to bed at 9:30 p.m. — typically, I go to bed around 10:30 p.m. — and I am ready to go by 6 a.m. I’m a morning person. Everyone is different, so what matters is that you get at least eight hours of sleep.
So how do you sleep when it’s hard to sleep? Don’t have caffeine after 4 p.m., have some chamomile tea, which will help you unwind, and get off your phone while you’re in bed.
Get offline and experience the wonders around you.
Speaking of getting off your phone before you go to bed, try to get off your phone as much as possible. I’m on my phone always, whether for work or just because I’m bored. But I’m learning that is such a sad way to live. I am missing out on the beautiful things that are around me. Yes, our country is in great despair. People all over the world are suffering immensely, but consuming myself with that information isn’t helping matters. You will never be able to truly be off-the-grid but attempting to not be on your phone or on social media will give allow you to talk to people face-to-face, to take in your environment, and overall be more present. At the end of the day, it won’t matter how many followers you have, but about how well you lived your life.