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A Reddit User Asked Men In Longterm Relationships What It Is They Miss About The Honeymoon Phase And Here’s What They Had To Say

In a recent post to Reddit, one user posed the question to men “what little things do you miss from your SO from the honeymoon phase?” The Redditor behind the question explained that she had noticed that she’d become so comfortable with her boyfriend that she found themselves kissing less than they had been in the first few months of the start of their relationship. Ultimately the question highlights a pretty big issue: sometimes when it comes to relationships we get so comfortable, we end up being neglectful. If you’re in a long term relationship with your S/O check out these responses to help keep the flame alive.

Spontaneous kisses 

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“I realized I wasn’t spontaneously kissing my boyfriend as much as I did in the first few months of our relationship and now I am trying to ensure that brief (or long) surprise make out sessions don’t fade from our interactions. Stuff like that.

What little things did your SO do in the beginning of the relationship that stopped once you became comfortable (and that you miss)?”

Jabs that were playful and not so personal

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“The flirty texts from him is what I miss the most. I pointed it out and said he doesn’t seem as smitten with me and he said its just that, now that he’s ‘caught’ me, I have to deal with his snarky side more. I don’t mind his snark because I fire it right back but sometimes its like… can’t we have both?” —Warriorette12

Those long-ass cuddle sessions.

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“Cuddling. She couldn’t get enough of it, we would waste days cuddled up together in bed. Nowadays, 6 years in, she mostly likes to spread out on her own and basically build a rats nest of pillows and blankets with which she also places her candy stash and will read or watch t.v on her phone. I try to snuggle but if I try it’s treated like an annoyance or I’m bothering her.” – NWcoffeeaddict

The excitement of it all

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“Not much but I miss the thumping in my heart whenever I was near her. I still love her the same if not more but I miss the excitement of it all, especially since it’s both our first relationship.”– elizacandle  

Texts that weren’t about groceries 

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“Married for going on 5 years. I really miss the super flirty texts. We still text each other flirty but not near as intense and sexual. Also, I wish we had as much sex as in the beginning. We still have sex like at least once a week but damn, I miss the daily hardcore banging.” – kentuckyloglady

That R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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“When she appreciated the things I do and respected my intelligence and opinion.”- Good_Dad_Mike

Date nights

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“Going out pretty much everyday (dates and stuff) nowadays due to work and studying we barely have time to watch a movie tho, still i wouldn’t change all the time i had with her in the past.” – vertuchi02

Making out and nothing else

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Making out. We used to make out for hours. I miss that.”Kits_and_Kats

Wanting to hold hands

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“We used to hold hands more, just because we could. And he would often just lift the back of my hand up and kiss it like it was a precious thing to hold it. I know its old fashioned a bit but i loved that little gesture. Now we seldom hold hands and i miss it” – RetailandPuppies

The rapid-fire texts

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  The instant text reply. Sweet talk. Quality time together.” momo-skee

The anticipation and spontaneity of it all

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“There is less anticipation and butterflies during sex, but I’m way more comfortable than I have ever been before. That’s the trade off, you don’t have the thrill as much but you don’t have the anxiety either. And you know eachother so well that you know how to please eachother to the greatest extent. Plus you can explore all your fantasies without hesitation because you trust and love eachother. Just because you lose that initial thrill does not make it any less satisfying. Honestly, everything else from the “honeymoon” phase has carried on. The flirting, the spontaneous making out, the long talks, the cuddling, the dates, and everything else, will carry on as long as you decide to carry it on. There is absolutely no reason that you have to let it die, it takes conscious effort sometimes from both parties, but it is your choice, it is not simply a consequence of long term dating.” -Reddit user

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