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The Average Cost Of Dating In The U.S. Is Out Of Control And People Have Some Thoughts

As a happily married person, please let me pass on a few words of advice for those looking for love. If you’re looking for love or at least a relationship of some sort, please do not let the status of your wallet hold you back. In other words, if you are poor, you can still date! You can I promise, and I will show you how in a minute. But first, the reason for my encouraging words comes after reading a finance report that may make you think twice about asking someone out. 

Dating in the U.S. can be rather expensive, depending on where you live.

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Match.com, one of the largest dating websites, released a report that shows the average cost of a date. So if you take someone out for a movie and dinner, it might set you back a couple of hundred bucks. Before you think I’m exaggerating think about it: dinner for two, a bottle of wine, and two movie tickets.  Oh, were you thinking of only getting one drink and going to McDonald’s? Come on now. Dating is a serious business, and we’re not talking about average slackers looking just to hook up. We’re talking dating like what real people do. 

The most expensive city in America for a date is probably where you guessed it, New York. 

New York came in at No. 1 on the list for the highest average cost for one date night at $297.27. New Jersey came in at second with $259.60, then Hawaii and Connecticut. California came in at No. 5 with $226.35. We actually found that quite surprising because we thought it would be more expensive in California than other states. 

The least expensive city to go out on a date is…South Dakota!

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Anyone up for moving to middle America? Because it’s not just South Dakota where the cost of living is low, but so is North Dakota, Nebraska, and Iowa. The average price for a date in South Dakota is just $38.27. That is some bargain, and don’t think for a second that they’re not going out in style. There’s some incredible 5-star dining in these states. 

Here is their official break down state-by-state. 

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How does your home state stack up next to the others? Good, or bad?

People on social media weren’t too pleased with these results. Here’s how they responded to these dating costs.

California came in fifth place, but it’s still too expensive for some. In fact, another report by Match shows that some people aren’t dating at all because they can’t afford it. The report, according to the New York Post, shows that “30 percent of adults between the ages of 22 to 37 feel their financial instability is hampering their dating game. And 21 percent of the millennials think they don’t even deserve love until they’ve reached a certain level of income, according to the study, which analyzed the dating habits of more than 5,000 U.S. adults.” That is so depressing! 

Others are finding alternatives to going out, but not giving up dating.  

Dating when you’re married is still very important. 

This person is just rude and gross. 

I bet you a million bucks this person isn’t married, and if they are, they’re not happy. 

Times have changed, and inflation changes everything. 

Millennials are in more debt than in generations past, which means they just don’t have the spending capabilities as others once did.  

This person doesn’t have to pay for a date, because he’s dating his hand. 

I’m happy to know that at least no one is wasting their time on this guy. 

So here’s my dating advice for people living on a small budget.

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First off, do some research. You don’t need to go to the most expensive place and you don’t need to go to a drive-through. Find a well-reviewed hole-in-the-wall eatery, perhaps that is BYOB, and instead of seeing a movie, go to a movie in the park or see an independent movie. Sometimes theater tickets are less expensive than a movie ticket, especially if it’s an independent play. 

Or take your date for a sundae! Or a walk in the park! The point is being spontaneous and adventurous is so much better than spending the evening at a stuffy restaurant. I’ve dated in all parts of the country (sorry, not sorry) and some of the best dates weren’t at a restaurant or a movie. They were spent walking around the Lower East Side or Chinatown in New York, or the mercardos of Los Angeles. Be creative and you’ll get that second date without a doubt. Good luck!

READ: Fed Up With Tinder And Instagram DM Slide-Ins This Latina Decided It Was Time To Give Up On Dating And Marry Herself

This Kid Is Going Viral In Mexico For Using His $70 Peso Winning Lottery To Buy Tacos For A Man In Need

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This Kid Is Going Viral In Mexico For Using His $70 Peso Winning Lottery To Buy Tacos For A Man In Need

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As 2019 comes to a close there are few things to be optimistic about when it comes to the path that humanity as a whole has taken. It seems that all the wars and cruel processes of colonization and dispossession taught us very little about how awful we can be to each other. At the same time, we are damaging our planet at a fast pace and we are rendering it practically inhabitable for future generations. And no, we are not being dramatic, these are cold facts. 

Let’s be absolutely honest, shall we? The world is a pretty nasty place to live in right now.

Just look at this little blue planet, hard to imagine that so much goes on in it. And for all the good that many people in the world do on an everyday basis, as a species we seem to be in red numbers when it comes to basic human compassion. Just look at Mexico and the US there, sitting side by side, from space no one could imagine that so much suffering is happening at the border when the two countries meet. 

Extremism and discrimination is running rampant.

There is an ideological battle being held between those who believe that some humans deserve more than others based in the color of their skin, and those who advocate for inclusion. It is hard to believe that hate symbols such as the Nazi flag are making an appearance in Global North countries. 

Climate change is rendering even the nicest places in the world unbearable… and cheap labor is still a thing.

This is a picture of Sydney, allegedly one of the best cities in the world to live. But is is now being covered in smoke as a result of bushfires that are likely related to climate change, even if politicians and the coal lobby say the opposite. This year we saw other terrible fires ravage the Amazon while the Brazilian president blamed Leonardo Di Caprio of all people! 

Forced migration has left millions of people without a home.

So people from all sorts of places including war-torn Central America are being forced to flight or die as gangs and cartels take over their country. And they start a perilous trip through Mexico and then towards the United States. They are treated as third class citizens and as criminals, and have to face further suffering even if their journey is, in most cases, nothing short of heroic. So we would think that compassion and generosity is gone forever, right? Well, think again! 🙂 

But you won’t believe what this 8-year-old boy did even if the world kinda sucks at the moment: this is human nature at its best.

This scene might seem as something not totally out of the ordinary. But the story behind it melts our hearts: this Mexican little hero from Uruapan, Michoacán. His proud mom posted on Facebook that Adalid, this tiny champ, won $70 pesos at a lottery. Instead of spending it on candy and toys, he approached an old man who sells candy to survive. The old man looked tired, sad and hungry.

So what did Adalid do? He bought him a nice round of tacos! He told newspaper El Universal: “I saw the viejito arrive to sell [lollipops] but nobody bought from him. He looked very sad and hungry. When I gave him the money, I saw that he only bought one taco so I asked my mom if we could buy him more so that he could eat well”. Are you crying already? Mom couldn’t be prouder and she wrote on her Facebook post: “sometimes as a mom I ask myself if I’m doing my job well . . . but actions like this provide answers to all my doubts.”

This boy’s generosity warms our hearts.

And Adalid, overcome with emotion, started to cry. The chiquito hermoso told El Universal: “I cried because I saw him cry, I saw him wiping away his tears. When he finished [eating] he thanked me and gave me a hug”. Now imagine if we all acted with the same type of compassion towards each other, ourselves and our little blue dot in space. 

RIP To The $120,000 Art Basel Banana, Man Eats It To Make A Statement

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RIP To The $120,000 Art Basel Banana, Man Eats It To Make A Statement

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You read that correctly: a banana duct-taped to a wall sold for $120,000 to a French art collector at Art Basel in Miami Beach and then a man walked right up to it and ate it. Now, we don’t have a $15 minimum wage and the United States’ poorest people paid more in taxes than its billionaires last year, but no need to worry everything is fine. 

The artwork was entitled “Comedian” by Italian artist Maurizo Cattelan. Cattelan is also responsible for creating an 18-karat gold toilet called “America” that was shown in the Guggenheim’s public restroom in 2016. 

Rest assured, this work of art is not about the banana, it’s about the concept — something you don’t need a material object to understand so why buy it, but OK. 

An artist eats the banana and turns the piece into performance art.

Performance artist David Datuna took the duct-taped banana off the wall and ate it on camera. He called the piece “Hungry Artist.” I don’t know which person we should resent more in this scenario, the person who sold the banana, the person who ate the banana, or the person who bought it? Probably, the person who bought it. 

“It’s not about the piece. It’s an art performance. Maurizio Cattelan, I love him. One artist eats another artist. It’s fun,” Datuna said.

It’s always great when rich people can remind us that everything we need like water and agriculture already belongs to us and is being sold back to us at completely arbitrary prices and there’s nothing we can do about it (just kidding vote for a Democrat, that’s something you can do).  

The gallery truly did not care that someone ate his banana. 

Lucien Terras told the New York Post the artwork was still intact because the Certificate of Authenticity that came with the work of art said owners may replace the banana as needed. Not only do you have to $120,000 for this banana, but you also have to keep replacing it for the rest of your life. 

“He did not destroy the artwork. The banana is the idea,” Terras said. “This has brought a lot of tension and attention to the booth and we’re not into spectacles. But the response has been great. It brings a smile to a lot of people’s faces.”

I am not smiling. 

The piece is from Emmanuel Perrotin’s outer gallery wall art at Art Basel and Perrotin was not pleased that his perishable item immediately perished in someone’s belly. According to the New York Post, when he heard the banana had been eaten Perrotin, who was on his way to the airport turned back in fury. An attendee gave him a banana to cheer him up. These are adults. 

People can’t stop talking about how dumb this whole banana thing which just keeps increasing its power. The banana is our king. 

“That banana has been more photographed than the Mona Lisa,” Terras told the Miami Herald in jest.

There were so many people clamoring to take a photo of an ugly banana with duct tape on at Art Basel that police had to come in to do crowd control. 

“This has been interesting,” said Miami Beach police Capt. Steven Feldman. “The gallery is OK with people taking pictures of the banana. It is a delicate balancing act. We just want to make sure the area is secure.”

According to the Miami Herald for $120,000, Cattelan can buy 631,579 bananas at Trader Joe’s. That’s exactly what I would do if I had that money. I’d just buy more bananas, bring them to Art Basel, sell ’em for $120,000 each, boom – it’s called flipping the package, fam. 

On a more serious note, some folks believe the banana does the entire art community a disservice, while other experts wondered if it was a money-laundering scheme (which is not uncommon in the art world according to the New York Times). 

I think we can all agree that whether the art industry is a joke or not is irrelevant to the fact that the joke is always on poor people.