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The Average Cost Of Dating In The U.S. Is Out Of Control And People Have Some Thoughts

As a happily married person, please let me pass on a few words of advice for those looking for love. If you’re looking for love or at least a relationship of some sort, please do not let the status of your wallet hold you back. In other words, if you are poor, you can still date! You can I promise, and I will show you how in a minute. But first, the reason for my encouraging words comes after reading a finance report that may make you think twice about asking someone out. 

Dating in the U.S. can be rather expensive, depending on where you live.

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Match.com, one of the largest dating websites, released a report that shows the average cost of a date. So if you take someone out for a movie and dinner, it might set you back a couple of hundred bucks. Before you think I’m exaggerating think about it: dinner for two, a bottle of wine, and two movie tickets.  Oh, were you thinking of only getting one drink and going to McDonald’s? Come on now. Dating is a serious business, and we’re not talking about average slackers looking just to hook up. We’re talking dating like what real people do. 

The most expensive city in America for a date is probably where you guessed it, New York. 

New York came in at No. 1 on the list for the highest average cost for one date night at $297.27. New Jersey came in at second with $259.60, then Hawaii and Connecticut. California came in at No. 5 with $226.35. We actually found that quite surprising because we thought it would be more expensive in California than other states. 

The least expensive city to go out on a date is…South Dakota!

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Anyone up for moving to middle America? Because it’s not just South Dakota where the cost of living is low, but so is North Dakota, Nebraska, and Iowa. The average price for a date in South Dakota is just $38.27. That is some bargain, and don’t think for a second that they’re not going out in style. There’s some incredible 5-star dining in these states. 

Here is their official break down state-by-state. 

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How does your home state stack up next to the others? Good, or bad?

People on social media weren’t too pleased with these results. Here’s how they responded to these dating costs.

California came in fifth place, but it’s still too expensive for some. In fact, another report by Match shows that some people aren’t dating at all because they can’t afford it. The report, according to the New York Post, shows that “30 percent of adults between the ages of 22 to 37 feel their financial instability is hampering their dating game. And 21 percent of the millennials think they don’t even deserve love until they’ve reached a certain level of income, according to the study, which analyzed the dating habits of more than 5,000 U.S. adults.” That is so depressing! 

Others are finding alternatives to going out, but not giving up dating.  

Dating when you’re married is still very important. 

This person is just rude and gross. 

I bet you a million bucks this person isn’t married, and if they are, they’re not happy. 

Times have changed, and inflation changes everything. 

Millennials are in more debt than in generations past, which means they just don’t have the spending capabilities as others once did.  

This person doesn’t have to pay for a date, because he’s dating his hand. 

I’m happy to know that at least no one is wasting their time on this guy. 

So here’s my dating advice for people living on a small budget.

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First off, do some research. You don’t need to go to the most expensive place and you don’t need to go to a drive-through. Find a well-reviewed hole-in-the-wall eatery, perhaps that is BYOB, and instead of seeing a movie, go to a movie in the park or see an independent movie. Sometimes theater tickets are less expensive than a movie ticket, especially if it’s an independent play. 

Or take your date for a sundae! Or a walk in the park! The point is being spontaneous and adventurous is so much better than spending the evening at a stuffy restaurant. I’ve dated in all parts of the country (sorry, not sorry) and some of the best dates weren’t at a restaurant or a movie. They were spent walking around the Lower East Side or Chinatown in New York, or the mercardos of Los Angeles. Be creative and you’ll get that second date without a doubt. Good luck!

READ: Fed Up With Tinder And Instagram DM Slide-Ins This Latina Decided It Was Time To Give Up On Dating And Marry Herself

Watch This Little Dude Repeat His Adorable Self-Affirmations While Walking To School

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Watch This Little Dude Repeat His Adorable Self-Affirmations While Walking To School

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We all know what self-affirmations are. They are simple phrases we repeat to ourselves to undo negative thoughts or self-doubt that cna plague us or undermine our own goals. Self-affirmations can set us on a path that sets us up for success by keeping us accountable and positive through the ups and downs of life. One little boy seems to already know this and has gotten an early start on his own self-affirmations.

A young boy is going viral on Twitter for repeating his self-affirmations while walking to school.

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“I am smart. I am blessed. I can do anything,” the little boy repeated as he walked to school. The simple, yet effective, practice of self-affirmations is scientifically proven to have a lasting, positive impact on a person’s mental well-being. So, it is safe to say that this little one is already off to a stronger start in life than most adults.

The video is encouraging people to start their own self-affirmation routines.

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According to PositivePsychology.com, the act of self-affirmation is proven to manifest in a positive mental outlook on life. Self-affirmations let us take control of the global narrative we tell of ourselves and lets us be flexible and moral as we adapt to the ever-changing environment we are constantly in.

The video is striking an emotional chord with adults and children alike.

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It is never too early to start children on their path to positive thinking. There is a lot of stuff in the world that can hurt you and stunt your development. It is never a bad idea to get your own little ones started with positive self-affirmations and start the habit.

The overall cuteness level of the video is enough for some people to just celebrate.

One of the most important parts of the self-affirmation practice is the ability to create a more flexible and adapting self-identity. By creating this self-identity, it will keep you from thinking of yourself as one kind of person, such as a “writer” or “wife.” Being able to grow within yourself offers a freedom that can set you on whatever path you choose.

Some people on Twitter are even cosigning the little dude’s words to encourage him to keep going.

Keep it going, Ayaan. There is nothing that can stand in your way, little man. It is clear that you know that you are capable of doing anything you set yor mind to and that is one of life’s most valuable lessons. There are few things in this world more empowering than knowing you can do anything and letting yourself know that you can do anything.

Some people are even wanting to have their own kids now.

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While there is a movement in the millennial generation not to have children, Ayaan might be changing minds. Who doesn’t want a little dude who can show the world the power of self-affirmation? Maybe his own idea that he can do anything means he grows up to solve some of the world’s most pressing problems.

His positivity is inspiring other people to be more positive in their own lives.

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It’s exciting what someone else’s own enthusiasm can do for other people. Some people are really into listening to little dude celebrate his own pathway to positive thinking.

Some people are not being fooled by the little boy.

Kids are not for everyone. That is okay. However, it is easy to see how this video would make some people want to have a little self-affirming dude of their own.

Basically, some people are just falling in love with the kid.

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It’s hard not to fall in love with this little one. His words and attitude are so inspiring.

Way to go, Ayaan!

Keep up those self-affirmations. They will take you far.

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Readers Share Adorable Stories of How Their Parents and Abuelos Met

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Readers Share Adorable Stories of How Their Parents and Abuelos Met

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In the era of hookup culture and online swiping, it’s comforting to look back on the days when dating was a straight-forward affair: boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy marries girl. End of story. But, times have changed and finding your other half can feel more impossible than every Luckily, we can always look to older generations to give us hope. Their romantic stories of days past are always inspiring.

Readers of FIERCE by mitu shared their cute stories of how their parents and abuelos met. Check out some of our favorite ones below!

1. The old bait-and-switch

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“My abuelos met eachother while they were living in Cuba. Abuelo pretended to be 5 years older than her to get her attention but was actually 2 years younger. He asked her out for ice-cream on their first date.”

2. The Cinderella Story

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“My Dad was rich & Mom poor, he chose her and was disowned by his family and lost his inheritance. They lived happily ever after working their asses off once they came to the United States. Love my parents”. -@mrs.jaypeeonenine

3. Love Letters Gone Wrong

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“My dad was playing basketball at my moms high school. He saw my mom and asked her if he could write her. 1953. Mom told dad to write his address on the locker that he was using for the basketball game ( girls lockers). He did. On Monday morning the principal of moms school called to complain to the principal of my dads high school and was angry his basketball team had written all over the lockers. My dad and his team were punished and had to go back to my moms school to clean up the lockers. I still have the first letter my dad sent my mom. Mom passed away 10 years ago. I’m 64 and will never forget their love story”. – @dollycardenas50

4. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach

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“My mom and dad both immigrated here from Argentina when they were kids. My dad was 9 and my mom was 2. My dad ended up going to high school with my mom’s little brother and they got super drunk one night together when they were 16. They were scared to go back to their houses (the wrath of a Latin mother!!) so they tried to sleep in a park. It got too cold, so they went back to my uncle’s place and decided to wake my mom up by throwing rocks at her window. At 3am, my mom let her hermanito and my dad crawl through her window. My dad and uncle set up camp in my uncle’s room to sleep everything off, but they were starving. My uncle sent my dad to knock on my mom’s door and ask if she could make pancakes (bc they’re legendary). She thought he was so cute, that she made them pancakes at 3am. They’ve been together ever since (they’re 52 now).” -@bryduca

5. A Tale of Two Heights

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“My grandparents went to school together. He asked her to be his partner for a dance performance once. Grandpa says he would have asked her sooner but didn’t see her. He’s 6ft she’s 4’10.” -@danhely

6. Love at first sight

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“My abuelos met each other on a bus in Chicago while Guelo was studying to be a priest. He was a light skinned, fiery haired Mexican man with a friendly smile. Guela’s golden brown Puerto Rican glow was accented by her elegant black ringlets and graceful summer dress. He was smitten the moment he saw her! They conversed about spirituality, faith, and love for something greater than self.Less than one year later, Guelo traded one sacrament for another so that we, our family, could be born.” -@e.m.castro

7. Flirting By Throwing Rocks?

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“My abuela would fill up her cantaro with water & whenever she walked by, my abuelo would through small rocks. She hated him for making her dump the water & he loved how beautiful she looked angry”. -@mija_por_favor

8. Life-long dance partners

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“My abuelos ran into each other multiple times in one day. They had gotten onto the same bus two different times. Later that night when my abuelo saw my abuela at a dance he decided seeing her a third time that day was a sign and asked her to dance. And they were dancing partners the rest of her life”. -@thetiffanyandco

9. The Bashful Beginning

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“My dad was friends with my mom’s brothers but he never met her despite always being around. One day, my mom was cleaning the floor outside her house & saw my dad walking from a distance towards the house. She dropped the broom & ran inside. The rest, is history”. -@lifeasingrid

10. The Whirlwind Romance

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“My grandma and grandpa met while being migrant workers. Grandma was 15 and he was 18. My grandma’s sisters were trying to get with my grandpa but grandma wasn’t having it. Their time at that location was almost over and they were going to be separated so after two weeks of knowing each other, they decided to marry. They were married 62 years before my grandma passed.” – @amorettenoel

11. A Military Marriage

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“My grandfather was in the marines and was stationed in the Dominican Rep. training the Dominican Air Force. At a party he meet my abuelita and fell in love. He had to asked his superiors for permission to see her, then my great grandfather to court her. They both passed away one right after each other after being 50 years together” -@claudia_teresa1

12. A Meeting of Cultures

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“Mi abuela, Soledad, or Chole, was a very attractive and creative woman. Soon after high school she was dancing in a women’s Mexican folklorico troup at the 1933 Chicago World’s Fair. Mi abuelo Modesto, was selling Cuban cigars as a traveling salesman. They met at the Fair, fell in love and eventually had my mom, Rosalia.” -@fridadina

13. An arranged marriage with a happy ending…

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“In my dad’s side of the family my grandma had to marry my grandpa because a chismosa saw her talking to him outside the grocery story, so my great-grandparents arranged the marriage to restore their honor. In my moms side of the family my grandma had to marry my grandpa to pay off a debt of his family take care of hers after my grandmas parents passed away when she was young. They loved each other and lived happily ever after.#arrangedmarriages” -@iris_herndz

14. An Irresistible Passion

@daiciamestas

“My parents met at a dance in Durango, Colorado. Durango is a college town perfectly located in the middle of my parent’s hometowns. My mother was promised to someone else through engagement, but my father won her heart before leaving for the Navy.” -@daiciamestas