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The Average Cost Of Dating In The U.S. Is Out Of Control And People Have Some Thoughts

As a happily married person, please let me pass on a few words of advice for those looking for love. If you’re looking for love or at least a relationship of some sort, please do not let the status of your wallet hold you back. In other words, if you are poor, you can still date! You can I promise, and I will show you how in a minute. But first, the reason for my encouraging words comes after reading a finance report that may make you think twice about asking someone out. 

Dating in the U.S. can be rather expensive, depending on where you live.

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Match.com, one of the largest dating websites, released a report that shows the average cost of a date. So if you take someone out for a movie and dinner, it might set you back a couple of hundred bucks. Before you think I’m exaggerating think about it: dinner for two, a bottle of wine, and two movie tickets.  Oh, were you thinking of only getting one drink and going to McDonald’s? Come on now. Dating is a serious business, and we’re not talking about average slackers looking just to hook up. We’re talking dating like what real people do. 

The most expensive city in America for a date is probably where you guessed it, New York. 

New York came in at No. 1 on the list for the highest average cost for one date night at $297.27. New Jersey came in at second with $259.60, then Hawaii and Connecticut. California came in at No. 5 with $226.35. We actually found that quite surprising because we thought it would be more expensive in California than other states. 

The least expensive city to go out on a date is…South Dakota!

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Anyone up for moving to middle America? Because it’s not just South Dakota where the cost of living is low, but so is North Dakota, Nebraska, and Iowa. The average price for a date in South Dakota is just $38.27. That is some bargain, and don’t think for a second that they’re not going out in style. There’s some incredible 5-star dining in these states. 

Here is their official break down state-by-state. 

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How does your home state stack up next to the others? Good, or bad?

People on social media weren’t too pleased with these results. Here’s how they responded to these dating costs.

California came in fifth place, but it’s still too expensive for some. In fact, another report by Match shows that some people aren’t dating at all because they can’t afford it. The report, according to the New York Post, shows that “30 percent of adults between the ages of 22 to 37 feel their financial instability is hampering their dating game. And 21 percent of the millennials think they don’t even deserve love until they’ve reached a certain level of income, according to the study, which analyzed the dating habits of more than 5,000 U.S. adults.” That is so depressing! 

Others are finding alternatives to going out, but not giving up dating.  

Dating when you’re married is still very important. 

This person is just rude and gross. 

I bet you a million bucks this person isn’t married, and if they are, they’re not happy. 

Times have changed, and inflation changes everything. 

Millennials are in more debt than in generations past, which means they just don’t have the spending capabilities as others once did.  

This person doesn’t have to pay for a date, because he’s dating his hand. 

I’m happy to know that at least no one is wasting their time on this guy. 

So here’s my dating advice for people living on a small budget.

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First off, do some research. You don’t need to go to the most expensive place and you don’t need to go to a drive-through. Find a well-reviewed hole-in-the-wall eatery, perhaps that is BYOB, and instead of seeing a movie, go to a movie in the park or see an independent movie. Sometimes theater tickets are less expensive than a movie ticket, especially if it’s an independent play. 

Or take your date for a sundae! Or a walk in the park! The point is being spontaneous and adventurous is so much better than spending the evening at a stuffy restaurant. I’ve dated in all parts of the country (sorry, not sorry) and some of the best dates weren’t at a restaurant or a movie. They were spent walking around the Lower East Side or Chinatown in New York, or the mercardos of Los Angeles. Be creative and you’ll get that second date without a doubt. Good luck!

READ: Fed Up With Tinder And Instagram DM Slide-Ins This Latina Decided It Was Time To Give Up On Dating And Marry Herself

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Cardi B And Sister Sued Over Video Claiming To Show ‘Racist MAGA Supporters’

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Cardi B And Sister Sued Over Video Claiming To Show ‘Racist MAGA Supporters’

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Cardi B and her sister are being sued for defamation of character after a viral video taken by Hennessy Carolina Almánzar. The video shows two men, one wearing a MAGA hat, and one woman telling Hennessy to move her car, which is parked on the beach.

Earlier this month, Cardi B shared a video taken by her sister showing a confrontation over where a car was parked.

Cardi B, who is notorious for having widely broadcast Twitter feuds with people, posted the video in response to a tweet from Candace Owens. Owens is a controversial conservative figure whose brand is all about shock and awe. Owens famously said she thinks it would be okay if “Hitler just wanted to make Germany great and have things run well.”

Immediately, there was skepticism about the incident since the video starts during the confrontation.

Responding to nay-sayers, Cardi B shared a video of her sisters voice messages sent to her IG DMs. Hennessy claims in the messages that the white men were the aggressors against her and her girlfriend while they were on the beach.

The videos did not convince some people that her sister wasn’t in the wrong.

Cardi B’s tweet is filled with responses questioning the video and denying its authenticity. The argument immediately turned political because of the mention of Trump and Trump supporters. The conversation on Twitter is divided among people who believe Cardi B and her sister and those who don’t.

Now, Cardi B and Hennessy are being sued by the beachgoers in the video.

“These peaceful Suffolk County residents were quietly enjoying a Sunday at the Smith Point beach with their families, when rap celebrity Hennessy Carolina suddenly approached them, raging, spitting, insulting, assaulting, defaming and threatening them, all the while videotaping them because one of them wore a MAGA hat,” beachgoers’ Miller Place attorney John Ray said, according to ABC7NYC.

The lawsuit claims defamation of character because of the language used in the video against them.

According to Billboard, plaintiffs Peter Caliendo, Pauline Caliendo, and Manuel Alarcon claim that they had approached Hennessy and her girlfriend, Michelle Diaz, blocked them in with how she parked her car. The lawsuit states that the men asked for Diaz to move her car and that’s when Hennessy started to record the video and hurl names and insults at them.

This story is developing and mitú will be updating as the story unfolds.

READ: Cardi B Is, Once Again, Fed Up With Trolls Trying to Body Shame Her With Edited Photos

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Latinas Talk About Love At First Sight

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Latinas Talk About Love At First Sight

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In an infamous scene in the 1992 book Like Water for Chocolate, the novel’s main characters Tita and Pedro swear their undying love for each other within minutes of first meeting. Just like that, they experienced love at first sight. Stories all throughout history have detailed the romantic personal experience of an instant and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger upon first sight. But how practical— or even true is that really?

We turned to our FIERCE readers to see just how prevalent this phenomenon is.

In a post to our Instagram page we asked Latinas for their love at first love stories.

And scavenged around Reddit for good measure. Check out what we discovered below!

“Yes. I had briefly met him before but it was the first time I ever really noticed him. We had a whirlwind romance and then he left to take a job in Europe. We kept in touch for a few years but never saw each other again. He is the gold standard I judge men by.” –
adorableadelita

“YES with my dog the second I saw him I knew he was the one!! I’ve had him for 17years now and we are happily ever after.”- virgok1

“Yes but I’m just not brave enough to tell them they’re beautiful tho, most incredible smile I’ve ever seen the most captivating set of eyes I’ve ever looked into. But well love from afar right?” –ta_ta1009

“Yes. And it was delicious, I’ll never forget those Tacos dorados. My one and only.”- funkycold___medina

“Yes! I never knew love could fill your heart like that so instantly and so completely! It was the first time I ever saw my niece! Best feeling in the world!”- yesi_lo

“Not in love but in strong lust.” – magnetic67

“Yes! And we just got married during the pandemic (very interesting way how we got married).”-21djenne

“Just when I first laid eyes 👀 on the paletero in my neighborhood. Jokes aside I love that man, he’s so sweet.”- dreathunder

“Yup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together.” –elizabeth_pearl

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“We were both 18 going on 19. He was a second year science student, I was a fresh faced firstie at a brand new University. I was also 95% sure I was lesbian. I saw this goofy ginger at the outdoor movie theatre, he had Styrofoam strapped to his head and declared himself Julius Ceasar, and gave me the biggest and most genuine smile. When he asked my name, it was a genuine want not just a question you ask to fill time. My heart squeezed a bit, and we kept eye contact for a bit too long before we both turned back to the screen. The next day we ended up sitting across from eachother in the cafeteria, and as soon as I saw him sitting there with a grin on his gorgeous face I knew I could love him. We were attached at the hip for at least 8 hours every day for a month, it was like a need to be around eachother, a magnetic pull and attraction. We started dating after a few weeks. We both fell in love quickly. I never believed in love at first sight, but we fit together perfectly in every way and every day, even now as we’re 20 with a lot of growth and ‘relationship strainers’ under our belts there hasn’t been a day that’s gone by where I don’t think of him and fall further in love. We’ve fought a bit, met eachothers families, he’s held my hand in the hospital and I’ve held his. We’ve had the kids talk, marriage talk, finances talk, and we’re moving in together this summer. It’s also pretty great that we have the same taste in women. I have never been happier, and he tells me the same.”-HelloSchrodi

“We met at work, when we both locked eyes we were drawn to each other. After a week of flirting with each other and staring into her beautiful blue eyes, she actually asked ME out. We dated for 8 years and got engaged; being madly in love is perfection. She walked down the aisle about 13 months after she accepted my proposal. She gave birth to her first child 10 months later, and had her second 2 years after that. She’s very happy in her life. Kind of wished she married me instead of the dickhead she met a month after leaving me.” –UrMomLikesMine

“It was a whirlwind. Can’t really explain it. Distance and heavy workloads on both our parts (we couldn’t see each other at all one year) made us end it. Still best friends, still in a sort of a platonic bond. We’ve both seen other people since then (I’ve just had a bad experience), but I don’t think I’ve ever felt that kind of… ease around someone until months have passed. When she moves here in a few years, who knows? She never will, but if she asked me to wait. I’d say yes in a heasrtbeat.” –ionised

“Yes… now married 10 years.” – juju_bees_mommy

“Well for me it wasn’t at first sight. But for him it was. Within the first week he knew I would be the one he was going to marry and spend his life with. My feelings grew quickly also and we knew we had met our soul mate very quickly. We are doing great. He’s saving up for an engagement ring, both support eachother in our respective fields (me in tattoo artistry and him in filmmaking). Once our financial situation is in order we plan to move to Seattle. I have never been so in love and I don’t regret it for a second.”- BigHeroDicks

elizabeth_pearlYup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together ❤️❤️❤️ @fiercebymitu

elizabeth_pearlYup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together ❤️❤️❤️ @fiercebymitu

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