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Latino Families Are Trailblazing A New Culture For Deaf Latinos And This Documentary Is Highlighting Their Work

For some deaf Latinos, being a part of the deaf community can mean losing the Latino part of their identity.

In the United States, the deaf community signs using American Sign Language (ASL), which is based on American English. It’s rare for deaf schools to teach Spanish and rarer still to teach a Spanish-based sign system like Mexican Sign Language. So for deaf students from families like ours, the one place they are least understood is in their own home.

For one Latina mom, this just wasn’t acceptable.

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After giving birth to three deaf children, Irma was convinced that she had done something wrong in life. Often in our culture, women are taught to believe that if a child is born differently it’s because she, the mom, is being punished for something she did wrong in the past. Irma knew this just wasn’t true.

Even though she saw her children as beautiful gifts, she struggled to cope with the difficulty of raising her three deaf sons: Felix, Hector, and Enrique.

Language plays a major role in defining communities. Therefore, language can be a bridge or a barrier among cultures, and it can also be a source of cultural identity.

For Irma, one of the greatest worries was not being able to visualize a future for her children. It was hard to see her own kids in these Deaf white role models whose lives were fundamentally very different.

So then Deaf Latinos Y Familias was born.[

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Irma, who had been struggling to find Deaf Latino role models for her three boys, made it her mission to bring light not only into her boys’ lives, but for all deaf Latinos. In 2010, she founded the organization Deaf Latinos as a resource for people like her children and their families.

Irma’s three sons are all supportive of their mother’s newfound mission in life, saying they saw many parents struggling to connect with their children and that his mom wanted to bridge the connection between them regardless of how much they can hear.

Some parents struggle to communicate with their own children.

Another mother, Saira, came into Deaf Latinos after struggling to connect with her own deaf child, Jose. Saira refused to believe he’d forever be deaf and came to the U.S. from El Salvador hoping to find a ‘cure.’

Communication became super difficult and at times Saira would become so upset she’d sit outside of her home to cry. She felt alone and lost as if she was the only one with a deaf Latino child.

Discovering Deaf Latinos y Familias was a miracle in her eyes. Since joining the organization, she’s started learning new signs and new ways to communicate with Jose. But most importantly, she’s meeting other Latino families and realizing she’s not alone.

A family learns to grow together after challenging times.

Evelyn and Wilson have three children: Richie was born deaf, Darlin is disabled and requires therapy and wheelchair assistance, while Heaven was born prematurely at just six months old. Yet despite these struggles, they have persevered as a family and found new meaning in their lives.

After years of struggling to communicate, together they’ve started learning sign language with Deaf Latinos and feel closer as a family.

Fierce moms will do anything for their babies and these three fearless women show how powerful a family can be.

Saira, who is now pregnant with a girl, wonders if her little daughter will be born deaf. Her son Jose has asked the question which would she prefer and Saira responds: “It doesn’t matter, either way, she’ll learn to sign.”

While Irma, reflecting on her life and family, proudly proclaims that she wouldn’t change a thing about her life nor her journey. She’s grateful for her opportunities and vows to continue so long as she still has breath in her.

Now please excuse me while I go get a box of tissues to wipe away these happy tears.

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She Thought She Would Build Her Dream In The United States, But After Being Deported Tijuana Is Giving Her The Opportunity Of A Lifetime

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She Thought She Would Build Her Dream In The United States, But After Being Deported Tijuana Is Giving Her The Opportunity Of A Lifetime

For those who migrate to the United States,  a chance to start over and to pursue the legend of the American Dream is vital to the years of hard work they will put into adjust and assimilate. Sometimes that dream is the grantee of safety. Other times is the ability to provide for one’s family. Whatever that dream is, it’s something that is promised to the people who come to the United States and it’s often what motivates them.

However, for migrants, the American Dream isn’t always so easily attained. Unfortunately, one’s status oftentimes impacts whether that dream is even accessible at all.

That’s what happened to one mother who was deported before she was able to achieve her dream of opening a Mexican restaurant in the States.

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However, that didn’t stop her from chasing her goal and making it happen.

Back in April, Twitter user, Sergio Peraza shared a post on Twitter celebrating his mother for finally fulfilling her dream, now encouragement over the restaurant is making the rounds. Peraza’s mother always wanted to open her own restaurant but was deported to Mexico before she was able to make that happen. Instead of being discouraged, she pushed through the disappointment and made her dream a reality in her new home of Tijuana. Called Mi Lindo Nayarit, the restaurant specializes in Mexican cuisine.

Peraza even posted pics to hype up his mom’s cooking and they are all too tempting.

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The restaurant’s menu offers such treats as huevos el Nayar, Caldo, tortas, empanadas, posole and all the other Mexican delicacies that we love to eat. The dishes Mi Lindo Nayarit serves are perfect for both tourists looking for a taste of authenticity and for locals who just want a yummy meal.

Peraza’s post about his mother’s restaurant quickly went viral, attracting over 5,000 retweets and twice as many likes. Of course, this resulted in lots of comments celebrating Mom and drooling over her food.

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Some Twitter users wished the new restaurant prosperity and success in their business. The success doesn’t just impact Peraza’s mom. All the people working at the restaurant depend on it to thrive. Supporting small Latinx businesses are what the Latinidad is all about so we love this show of solidarity and appreciate its greater impact.

Others planned trips to visit the restaurant in order to support it.

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The beauty of Mi Lindo Nayarit being in a resort town is that supporters can plan a vacay and support the restaurant during the same trip. Sounds like the perfect idea for any upcoming three day weekends we might have on our calendars.

The overall consensuses was that Mom’s culinary aesthetic can’t be beat.

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If the old saying that we eat with our eyes first is true, then Peraza’s mom has us feasting for days on just these images. The helpings are huge, the food looks fresh and we can feel the love coming through from these tweets. It’s exactly what Mexican food should be.

Ultimately, it’s so wonderful to see this woman preserve through her deportation and see her dream come true.

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With all the terrible news coming from the border and ignorance and hate that is consistently aimed towards migrants, we hope to see more stories of success like this one. Let’s support each other in our dreams. It’s only through that support that we can all prosper and grow. Sometimes all the love and validation we have given will manifest into some bomb Mexican food.

Daughter Shows What It’s Like To Live With A Mother That Is A Hoarder And Verbally Abusive

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Daughter Shows What It’s Like To Live With A Mother That Is A Hoarder And Verbally Abusive

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Dealing with aging parents is a struggle that is real and all too painful. Many children of parents who suffer from mental disorders, or can’t move around as quickly because of their age, have the challenging task of either caring for them at home or placing them into a convalescent home.

For Latinos, however, the struggle of aging parents has its unique challenges which are often related to cultures that demand children taking on the role of their parents’ caretakers in their later years.

Recently, one Latina learned that taking care of her mother is not what she expected.

A Mexican woman shared on Facebook the struggles of living with a mom that horde just about everything.

The woman posted her feelings on a Facebook group titled “Awful roommates: roommates from hell” and said that she arrived at her mom’s house only to find items all over the place. From bags to rotten food, the mom’s house was cluttered with junk.

The woman said that she had just been to her mom’s house to clean four days prior only to find it an utter mess.

According to the Daily Mail, the woman said, “Most of my money goes to rent and bills, and I’m saving the residual to move out hopefully soon.” It looks like the stress of taking care of her mom has become too much of a problem for her, and now she’s seeking to leave her mom and take care of herself.

It also seems as if the mom is mentally abusing her daughter as well.

The woman claims her mom became verbally volatile after she messed up one of her pans while she was cleaning.

“After all this, my mom came into the kitchen and threatened to release my pet bird outside because I scratched her pan when I was cleaning it so I can learn to take care of things better.”

The people in the group were on her side and expressed comments of concern and well wishes.

“This is exactly why I haven’t lived at home since I was 14,” one person wrote. “Moms like this are awful. We love them, but they’re toxic.”

The publication reports that a commenter said, “I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope it works out in your favor soon.”

“Mommy dearest! I hope you can cope, this sounds so very hard on you,” a commentator said.

It will be interesting to see how this situation plays out, but we can certainly say it won’t be easy.