A Chinese-Peruvian Latina stepped in after hearing harassment being hurled on a crowded New York City subway, reported Huffington Post after a video of the incident went viral on Mic.
The attacker, who said she was “from here” and when nudged a bit further, said she was born in Puerto Rico, was audibly angry in the video. You can hear her saying “Why are you here? Why are you in this country if you’re not with us?” to two people she presumed were together. It all played out to me like an action movie:
To me, it all played out like an action movie:
Not unlike Doomsday, this lady was spitting some hot garbage.
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One brave subway rider asked her to stop, but was confronted herself as the harasser shouted, “You don’t understand, you’re not even from here!”
If you’re a young person and catch your family saying stuff that makes your eyes roll, it’s time to start having conversations with them. Don’t wait until they’re on the subway embarrassing you and themselves.
Sexual harassment and assault of women is rampant across every country, culture, workplace, and industry. Sadly, it’s common for women to have to endure harassment and for comfort sake’s or a desire to remain safe, stay quiet. Recently, women on Twitter shared what it’s like to have to be quiet in uncomfortable situations they realize are harmful or unsafe.
*Trigger Warning: the stories in this piece deal with sexual harassment and assault.*
They’re also sharing their personal, horrifying stories.
Check them out below.
“This is a terrible feeling. A couple years ago I went into a neurologist’s office for an EEG, which involved attaching dozens of electrodes to my scalp. The tech who was attaching them told me how silky my hair was. Began asking me questions about whether I was single, if I ever planned to have kids. Later, he asked me my weight. Told me I was too thin (I had a BMI of 22-23) and that men liked women with more weight on them. I was 33 years old, and for the first time in my life—after growing up in a highly abusive, silencing household—I spoke up. Told him how unprofessional he was being, and that I would file a complaint. He said, ‘Do what you need to do.’ And then I did. I filed that goddamn complaint with shaking hands. It felt awful and uncomfortable and I have no regrets about doing it. I hope it made a difference.” –ennovahs
“This is the worst part of being a victim. The urge to make it go away, you want to believe if you move on, you can’t be upset by it. But it doesn’t work like that, it just hits the snooze button. Enough shitty moments like that and your jenga tower comes down and you turn into a salty bitter person that loses faith in humanity and it’s so much harder to heal from later than if you do something and process it now, enforce your boundaries now. It also like, primes you to let it happen again the next time. You let this one slide, and then someone else does something else inappropriate later and it’s like “where do I draw the line? I didn’t say something that other time”. And then when you finally reach the limit, all the other times you let people violate your boundaries without saying something haunt you and you can’t tell if it’s your fault or theirs Take care of yourself by honoring and enforcing your own boundaries. Don’t create additional pain you’ll have to heal from later with your own self-betrayal. You are worth the effort it takes to file a report, even when it’s exhausting. Is there a way you could offer to help her file? Like figuring out how to do it and helping her fill it out? If she says no, that’s her right. But I feel like so often we get betrayed twice, once by others and once by ourselves.” –valicat
“I got felt up by my masseuse and then he asked for my phone number. I just froze said I have a boyfriend and went to pay. Later I was telling my friend about it in a haha can you believe that happened and my friend looked at me all serious and said, so you were sexually assaulted, tipped him for it then want to laugh about it. I started crying and then went through the hell of having to report him and getting his license revoked.” –pulchritudinousss
“We should complain, though. For our sisters. My company offered an in-house massage therapist. Nothing like saving up coffee breaks for a proper massage! But he was … personal without being sleezy, like, “Nice breasts for a woman your age” said in a neutral tone of voice. He also liked to be rough when massaging. I like a hard massage, but the other stuff wasn’t right. When he offered to give me massages as his private office (elsewhere in town), my gut instinct kicked in and I said no, and I also stopped seeing him at work. A month later, he was gone. Somebody else had complained. I was disappointed in myself for not speaking up. I hadn’t overreacted about him and it wasn’t just me.”-ThinkbigShrinktofit
“As a woman who kept quiet when people did or said things to me that made me uncomfortable until I was in my 40s (all in the name of avoiding confrontation, not upsetting the other person, wanting to be liked, etc.), it took one really bad experience to finally realize that enough was enough. People are going to be shitty and there isn’t anything I can do that will change how shitty of a person they are. But, I can actually start telling them how unacceptable their behavior is and if it continues to happen, remove them from my life. It’s been rough, trying to speak up when warranted. Sometimes, I come off as pretty harsh. But, people are starting to realize that I’m not going to allow that type of behavior anymore. It has cost me some ‘friendships’ but my life is actually much better off without them in it.” –idreamofgin
“Speaking from experience, I can understand your friend not wanting to do anything. I was getting a physical for the military. The last person I see is this old guy. We are told to strip down to our underwear. This guy is asking all these medical questions, poking and touching. Turn your head and cough stuff. I can’t remember how, but at some point he called me cutie. I later said something to the military person running the facility and it turned into an investigation into me. After being repeatedly told my entry would be delayed, but if I withdrew my “comment” I could ship for basic training. My experience is nothing compared with what a lot of what women go through in similar situations. Every time I hear of a rape, I think about how much more horrible it would be. Any woman that comes forward and presses charges is braver than I ever could be.” –Barbuckles
“Went to take my husband to work and the man at the check station pointed out my tongue ring and made vaguely sexual statements about it like how I ‘must be fun.’ Insanely inappropriate. I was a little bitch so I cried when I got home. I did report him but he still worked there through the season.”-hattallb1tch
“I had a similar experience. I’d been having intense lower abdominal/pelvis pains and went to get an ultrasound because my doctor was concerned. Went to the place and the guy was being super rough with the thing, and it hurt. I let out a gasp of pain because it had been painful even without someone mashing an ultrasound thingy right in the painful spot, like it felt like someone just stabbed me; and he just laughed and said ‘Don’t get so excited, I haven’t gone that low down yet.’ and winked. Turned my stomach. Like, okay I am no longer comfortable being in a room alone with you, with your hands at hip level. But he seemed so comfortable making such an inappropriate joke that it’s like… this shithead probably gets away with doing it all the time. My boyfriend was furious and just couldn’t understand why I was apathetic about it. It’s something you get used to. Those casual threatening sexual jokes.”- cinnamonbrook
Actress Francia Raisa posted a video to her Instagram on Sunday where she described being “blocked in” on the highway by a motorcade of Trump supporters.
Raisa, an actress of Mexican and Honduran descent who stars in the Freefrom series “Grown-ish” and famously donated a kidney to Selena Gomez, documented her distress via Instagram.
In a video posted to her Instagram stories, Raisa was visibly upset, crying, her voice shaking while she described the experience.
“I was just on the 405 and I got stuck in that stupid Trump rally and they f—-g boxed me in and they’re pointing at me and laughing at me, saying, ‘Ha ha,'” she said as she wiped tears from her face. “And literally, I almost crashed because they wouldn’t let me out and I was trying to go around it.”
“They were all stopping and going. They boxed me in on the f—–g freeway, all I wanted to do was go around. And they were just being so violent. I could’ve crashed. It was so dangerous.”
She appeared to become more distressed as the video continued: “And I just don’t understand why that’s the country that y’all are supposedly wanting right now. Really? That’s what makes America great? That’s f—-d up. I could’ve f—–g died right now. That was so f—–g dangerous,” Raisa said. “Pointing at me and laughing at a Mexican. Oh God, that was really f—–g scary.”
The “Trump rally” that Raisa was referring to was the rally that President Trump held on Sunday in Newport Beach, California.
President Donald Trump has rarely visited California on the campaign trail, as the state is not considered a battleground state–it almost always votes blue. The rally brought hundreds of Trump supporters who were excited to catch a glimpse of a President who doesn’t come to California very often. The Los Angeles Times described the rally as “raucous” and “confrontational”.
“I’ve never seen this side of Orange County,” said a 63-year-old community organizer named Lizanne Witte to the LA Times. “Even in protests about women’s rights and detained children, the reception had been respective differences in opinion. This is just nasty.”
Many of his supporters appeared in the unofficial motorcade on the I-405 freeway that Raisia says she was stuck in. The cars were decked out in MAGA merch, American flags–one car even appeared to be a military vehicle.
Shortly after Raisa’s post, her friends took to social media to defend her.
“Francia face-timed me freaking the f— out today,” said Glee actress Amber Riley on her Instagram stories. “The little Trump rally on the 405 decided to box her in the car! A woman driving by herself. But, they saw a Mexican in a car and they decided to f— with her. I was on the phone and I saw this myself.”
Let’s hope that all political gatherings from now on are always safe, civil affairs.