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White Parent Shouts ‘Why Didn’t You Stay In Mexico?” At Father During School Meeting To Address Racist Incidents

Far too often we talk of stories about racist White people caught on video berating people of color or calling police on them for mundane, everyday tasks. Unfortunately, this is another one of those stories but one with a level of irony that seems like it was completely lost on the man who hurled the racist insult.

Racism in the United States continues to tear apart communities – and, as this story shows, even in communities that are working to try and address the concerns of people most affected.

A viral video shows a Michigan dad asking a Latino man why he didn’t ‘stay in Mexico’ during a school meeting about racism.

A community meeting meant to address concerns over racism in a Michigan school district appeared to become proof of the problem after a white parent suggested to a Latino father that he shouldn’t have immigrated to the United States.

Adrian Iraola, who came to the U.S. from Mexico and whose now-grown children went through the schools in Saline, recalled his son’s experience of racism in the district.

“I went to his bedroom to say good night, and he was crying because of the abuse that he was enduring in this school system,” Iraola said at the school board meeting Monday in the largely-white district south of Ann Arbor.

Iraola was interrupted by a white parent, Tom Burtell, who said, “So why didn’t you stay in Mexico?”

Reactions from other parents in the room were mostly of shock and disgust.

The comment drew loud gasps and threw the February 3 meeting into pandemonium, with multiple parents yelling at the father to leave the meeting, some standing up, and one shouting, “That is disgusting.”

“That’s indicative of what our kids are experiencing: comments like that,” another father said.

However, at least one person seemed to come to Burtell’s defense saying that the meeting was a “platform for discussion,” to which Burtell responses, “That’s right.”

“Then explain yourself,” an audience member said to Burtell. “You interrupted [Iraola]. Take the mic.”

Iraola, still with mic in hand, then said, “He asked me a question, ‘Why didn’t I stay in Mexico?’ Because this is the greatest country in the world.”

But Burrell wasn’t done yet.

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During the meeting, Burtell also complained about discrimination being faced by white people.

“You think that … whites are the oppressors,” he said. “Here’s the evidence. You’ve got black racism all the time… try to be white and walk in a black neighborhood and see what happens.”

Even Burtell’s own son took to Facebook to call his father out for his racist comment.

Today my father asked a deliberately racist question at the Saline Area Schools diversity and inclusion meeting.His…

Posted by Matt Burtell on Monday, February 3, 2020

His comments were so provocative that Burtell’s son, Matt, condemned him in a Facebook post.

“Today my father asked a deliberately racist question at the Saline Area Schools diversity and inclusion meeting. His views of hate in no way represent my own,” Matt Burtell wrote. “I stand in solidarity with the refugees and immigrants of the world.”

The meeting was originally called to address racist bullying and taunts experienced by children at the school.

Credit: Nicole Hester / AP

The meeting had originally been organized to address instances of racism at high schools in the town of Saline, and a Latino father had taken the microphone to discuss how his son suffered from racist taunts in school.

SNL Did A Segment On How The Big Oscar Nominated Films Are About White Male Rage And It’s Surprisingly Spot On

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SNL Did A Segment On How The Big Oscar Nominated Films Are About White Male Rage And It’s Surprisingly Spot On

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Saturday Night Live’s Melissa Villaseñor enraged white males by singing a song about white male rage on the show. With the Oscars around the corner, SNL offered its own little analysis of the nominees during their ‘Weekend Update’ segment. In the skit Villaseñor discusses the biggest Oscar nominees and sings songs about how all the plots are based around, or sparked by (you guessed it) while male rage —and tbh, it’s kind of on point.

Villaseñor was brought on to discuss the big Oscar nominees and began by singing a song about Todd Phillips’ Joker.

In a visit to Colin Jost’s Weekend Update desk, cast member Melissa Villaseñor educated Jost on the Best Picture nominees, singing a silly and kind of accurate song about “Joker” and “The Irishman.” The song started off simply outlining the plot of the film until it took a turn; “But the thing that this movie is really about is white male rage, white male rage, white male rage.” The comedian then proceeded to sing a ditty about The Irishman and the tune ended with the observation that, in fact, the picture is also, actually all about white male rage.

Jost plays the straight man who disagrees.

Playing the straight man, Jost said of Villaseñor’s song: “It seemed like it was just a description of the movie, and then it took a weird turn into social commentary.” You can guess what happens when she moves onto Martin Scorsese’s Netflix masterpiece “The Irishman.”

When Jost asked how many more songs there were, Villaseñor said she had “a whole bunch”…

But said she would “combine them all,” rattling through nominated films that shared the narrative of “white male rage” such as “Once Upon A Time … In Hollywood,” “Jojo Rabbit” and “1917” — while adding that “Little Women” director Greta Gerwig, whose film was not about “white male rage,” was snubbed for a best director nomination.

#WhiteMaleRage became a trending topic on Twitter.

The words, which were written by Villaseñor and SNL writers Dan Bulla and Steven Castillostruck a chord on Twitter, where the #WhiteMaleRage hashtag began trending and had over 14,000 tweets by Sunday afternoon.

As you might have predicted, the white men of the internet reacted, well, angrily.

As they tend to do, white men were busy being upset about people pointing out the obvious. #WhiteMaleRage wasn’t a suggestion up for debate. It was merely a fact. Take a look at the Oscar noms for Best Picture this year and tell us Melissa is wrong?

The irony was clearly lost on these people.

But some just couldn’t let go…

Other Twitter users found the skit pretty funny, and even agreed with the message.

This isn’t the first skit or celebrity to talk about the issues the Oscars continue to face. Just two years ago #OscarsSoWhite was trending across social media and it seems like the Academy has totally forgotten that controversy this year.

This tweet perfectly summed up what many were thinking…

Airing on January 25, last week’s “Saturday Night Live” was the 11th episode of the NBC sketch show’s 45th season. Oscar nominee Adam Driver was the host with the musical performance by Halsey. (Driver is nominated for Best Actor for his turn as a father fighting for custody of his son during a contentious divorce in Noah Baumbach’s “Marriage Story.”)

Boyfriend Proposes To His Girlfriend By Hacking Her Favorite Disney Movie And Making Them The Lead Characters

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Boyfriend Proposes To His Girlfriend By Hacking Her Favorite Disney Movie And Making Them The Lead Characters

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Lee Loechler wanted to make his proposal extra special. Loechler was hoping to give his high school sweetheart, Sthuthi David, something truly catered to her. As it turns out, her favorite film is the animated feature Sleeping Beauty. Loechler came up with a plan to alter the film so that she was a character in it. 

“It’s not every day you get to propose to your High School sweetheart. For the past six months, I’ve been working with an illustrator to animate my girlfriend and myself into her favorite movie, Sleeping Beauty. On 12/30/19 I popped the question in a theater filled with our friends and family,” he wrote on the Youtube caption. 

The legendary proposal

The theater was filled with the couple’s family and friends but somehow David had no idea. Suddenly, at the end of the film Aurora has beautiful brown skin and the handsome prince looks a lot like Loechler. At first, David was confused but when the cartoon prince whipped out an engagement ring and Loechler stood up in the theater, what was really happening became completely clear. 

“It’s not every day you get to propose to your high school sweetheart. So I just wanna take my time, savor this moment,” Loechler says getting down on one knee. 

“Oh my god, these poor people,” David says tearfully. 

“They’re all in on it,” Loechler revealed. At this moment David turns around and realizes that the theater is filled with their loved ones. 

“I love you with my whole heart including all of its ventricles, atriums, valves — she’s a cardiologist. Sthuthi David, MD, will you live happily ever after with me?” Loechler says. 

“Yes,” David exclaims before joking. “I thought there was something wrong with the movie!” 

Loechler and David seem to share a wicked sense of humor. After the proposal airs, an alternative ending where David rejects his proposal closes out the movie. 

“The only thing better than seeing the smartest person I know completely dumbfounded was knowing we’d get to live happily ever after together. Enjoy,” Loechler wrote on Instagram. 

The artist behind the proposal.

Loechler worked with Australian scientist turned illustrator and animator Kayla Combs for six months to get the proposal just right. 

“SURPRISE!!! For the last 6 months I’ve been working with the incredible [Loechler] to execute the Sleeping Beauty proposal of his high school sweetheart’s dreams,” Combs wrote on Instagram. “After many late nights sketching and coloring I might be even more excited that [David] said yes than he is! Lee, thank you so much for trusting me with your vision. It’s truly been an honor to be a part of this. Wishing you both the happiest of Happy Ever Afters.”

Combs worked as an analytical chemist for two years before pursuing her dream of becoming an illustrator. Now she creates cartoon characters featuring a diverse array of women and is donating 100 percent of profits from her children’s book What Can We Be? to raise money for the Australian Bushfire Disaster Appeal to support Australian firefighters. 

The reaction

The video which has garnered almost 3 million views on YouTube, and has received widespread media coverage, since yesterday is certainly a hit. People simply had no choice but to stan such a thoughtful proposal. 

“I have no clue to logistical magic that had to be done to animate yourself & your girlfriend into sleeping beauty, rent out a movie theatre, & get all your family & friends into the theatre w/o her noticing anyone),” one Twitter user wrote.

Some men on Reddit felt like the video made their proposals pale in comparison to the amount of effort that went into Loechler’s.

“I thought I was smooth with my bridge and lilyponds on a black sand beach in Hawaii….. this guy just went and rewrote theatrical history, broke the fourth wall, made a 4th-dimensional joke and timed it perfectly, made a highbrow doctor’s joke, conspired with the internet, and filled a theater with family and friends,” one Reddit user said.  

Loechler has set a very high bar for himself, but it is pretty clear he believes David deserves nothing but the best.