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11 Real Life Wedding Cancellations And Why You Should Never, Ever Judge Women For Pulling The Plug

Some people seem to forget what weddings really are. Weddings are not about the canapés, the first dance or the ties the groomsmen wear, but about the beginning of a long life together. Yes, that means morning dragon breath, sickness, laundry, bills and maybe snotty bundles of smelly cuteness called babies. The wedding goes by fast and the laughs, drama, and hangovers are soon forgotten. What remains is the discovery of oneself and of the other. So unless you are 100% sure you want to take on that joyous but often rocky path of discovery, you have the right to change your mind right up to the last minute. Sometimes women are forced into marriage, either through violent means or by partners who are passive aggressive and basically guilt their girlfriends into marriage.

However, popular culture and la pinche sociedad machista have demonized those who cancel a wedding, particularly if the one who took the brave but uncomfortable choice is a woman. From romcoms (which stink of heteronormativity by the way) like Julia Roberts’ Runaway Bride to crappy reality shows, the groom is often seen as the victim and the bride as a coward runaway. Why not change the discourse, question choices and think that perhaps it was a bad relationship that needed to end? An engagement ring is not a death sentence and even if you have sent out the invitations, it is your life, your future, your corazón and your body that need to matter the most.

Here are stories of eleven wedding cancellations (for tips on what to expect if you do this, read here). If you wanna keep reading just make a vow: I shall not judge. If you feel the urge to judge these women, and men, who decided to take back their lives instead of committing to a marriage that would not have been a happy one, then please piensa bien en tus ideales en la vida.

1. This queen who lay the rules right from the start: no te metas en lo que no te importa.

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This woman has a very clear message. You never know what is going on in a person’s life. If you felt offended because you had already bought a gift and an outfit for the canceled wedding and need to vent out andando de chismosa, well, dude, just stop. Good on you @paidcable!

2. This chap who no perdió el estilo and who has some amazing friends

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This guy is totally right: when you cancel a wedding, emotions run high, and some people actually take it as an act that affects THEM! As if… @gunnerss knows that real friends are there in sickness and in health until death do us part.

3. Now repeat after us: #justsayno #noshame

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We love it when women stick together and just say “it is all OK, your life will go on” and, most importantly, “NO SHAME”. Yes, there is no shame in canceling a night, but there is shame in not being true to yourself and getting into a marriage that might be doomed from the start. You might not really love the dude, y se permite, no pasa nada. The hardest word to say is sometimes a simple “no”, but saying it can be life-defining.

4. This lady and her life partner who decided to press the PAUSE button

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We love this post about a couple who canceled the wedding and decided to seek help, get counseling and be at a better place before tying the knot. Sometimes it is not about the person not being right for you, but about the relationship needing more work before the ultimate “I do”.

5. This woman who was rescued by her boyfriend’s female friend

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This woman basically dodged a womanizer. A Twitter user who had been wooed by the groom contacted the bride, telling her that she had been receiving texts of a not-so-innocent nature from him. The rest, as they say, is history. The bodorrio was cancelled and the bride even ended up at the hospital. Her life with this jijodesu would have been even worse though, so she made the brave, wise choice.

6. But the infidelidad can be even worse when it involves the bride’s family

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We hate the manera burlona in which this story is presented, but we decided to include it as it shows how vicious men can be about stories of failed weddings, what toxic masculinity looks like (if you are a dude reading this, take not on what NOT to do). It is no laughing matter: the groom cheated on the bride with her cousin. A relationship and a family relationship shattered. The matrimonio would have been a house of deceit, though.

7. A good end to a failed wedding

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We love what a woman from Indiana, whose $30,000 wedding was canceled, didn’t want it all to go to waste… so she decided to host a grand banquet for the homeless. What a great action. This is a lot of good karma and brownie points in her future life as a strong, independent, single woman. Te amamos.

8. This woman who experienced the most awkward moment of all time

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Do yourself a favor and read this woman’s story. She likes trying on wedding dresses ever since she was bound to get married. She was doing this with her current BF and surprise… she bumps into her ex-suegros. Ouch! What a way to go down memory lane… or rather, highway to hell!

9. This lady who wants to wear that gorge smile and not that wedding dress

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The hashtags say it all: #almostabride #dodgedabullet #cancelledwedding #happilyeverafterthebreakup. She knew deep in her heart that she would be better off without the dude. In her own words, she dodged a bullet. We hope she treated herself with the $450 she sold the dress for!

10. Wow, this story of self-care and inspiration

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We love this success story: it is bittersweet because of the breakup and the fact her mother is no longer here, but it is inspiring in that she took the life-changing event of a canceled wedding as the first step towards discovery and personal betterment. We can only say “te mereces eso y todo lo bueno que venga, reina”. 

11. This tale of deceit and a brave woman who faced the truth


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A common mistake for people who are about to get married is overlooking the evident flaws that a partner can have. Nadie es perfecto and we can all be better, but sometimes you don’t want to put up with certain things. And that is fair and you have the right to say no. If you are in a similar situation, read the story by Julia Park Tracey in which she accepts being blown away by the sparkles. She writes in her essay” Why I Cancelled My Wedding At The Last Second”: “I didn’t notice the drinking and overlooked the drugs, which he said he didn’t do anymore and went ahead with plans for a big wedding; it was part of the fantasy of marrying Prince Charming”. As we said, the wedding is not the most important part of that night, but the actual “ever after” that follows.

 
 
 
 

From Taurus To Cancer, These Are The Most Compatible Signs With Virgo

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From Taurus To Cancer, These Are The Most Compatible Signs With Virgo

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Who are we kidding: one of the major reasons all of us check our horoscope is to find out what the future has in store for us when it comes to love and lust. After all, you know that if you’re really meant to be together, then it’ll be written in the stars. 

So Virgo, in honor of your birthday, we’ve put together a quick guide to point you in the direction of your soulmate.

Virgo with an Aries (March 21 – April 19) creates an explosively fiery passion.

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Part of what attracts you to Aries is the fact that they do everything with so much passion. You can’t help but be attracted to the fire in their soul. But Virgo, you can only function on their level for so long until you burn out. For you, a relationship with Aries takes work.

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Taurus (April 20 – May 20) is a matchmaker’s pick!

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Taurus are known for being super grounded and down to earth, and that’s exactly the kind of person you need in your life, Virgo. Your drive for perfectionism means that your Taurus can put things into perspective for you – they’re the yin to your yang, so to speak.

Compatibility: High

Virgo with a Gemini (May 21 – June 20) sees opposites attract.

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If one of your brutally honest friends had to describe you, Virgo, they’d say you’re a bit of a square. And, they wouldn’t exactly be wrong. That’s why Gemini can get on your nerves a bit … they’ve always got their heads up in the clouds when you’re trying to be realistic!

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Cancer (June 21 – July 22) means both love and lust.

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While on the surface it would seem like Cancer is a bit too emotional for you, Virgo, it turns out that they’re exactly the sort of person you need in your life – and they need you, too. Your pragmatism in the face of their emotional swings is what keeps them sane. And they remind you to stay in touch with your softer side. So you know what this means? You guys have fabulous, fulfilling sex. Noice.

Compatibility: High

Virgo with a Leo (July 23 – August 22) is one hell of a rollercoaster!

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Leo can definitely test your patience, Virgo. You’re a quiet achiever, whereas Leo likes to get all of the attention, wherever they can get it. Leo’s got a massive ego that needs stroking … and you’re more critical. As you can imagine, it’s pretty much the perfect environment for lots of silly bickering. Then again, every couple has those moments, right?

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Virgo (August 23 – September 22) asks the question: can you ever have too much of a good thing?

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You’d think that being with someone who functions on the same vibe as you would be a match made in heaven. But, that’s only true to a certain extent. Given that the two of you are perfectionists and workaholics, you’d make a great power couple … that has almost zero romantic and sexual chemistry. If you want it to work, you’ve gotta work at it, Virgo.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Libra (September 23 – October 22) meshes realism with idealism.

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When people think Libra, they think social butterfly. When people think Virgo, they think shy. Virgo, you’re a realist, whereas Libras are an idealist. They say that opposites attract, but in your case, you’d probably find that the differences between you and Libra would eventually drag you away from each other. The both of you would really have to put in an effort to find your way back.

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) sees things heat up in the bedroom.

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While Scorpio and Virgo can build a really secure and safe relationship, you kids can come unstuck when it comes to your attitudes towards the bedroom. Scorpio tends to be all about the real carnal side of the beast with two backs, whereas Virgo is more about connecting emotionally through sex.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21) mixes fun and stability.

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It’s nice when you meet someone who’s as adaptable as you are. But in the case of Sagittarius, Virgo, you might find that they’re a little too spontaneous for your liking. That being said, they might get you to loosen up a little, which is never a bad thing in your case!

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Capricorn (December 22 – January 20) is a match made in heaven!

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Capricorn’s brand of perfectionism fits pretty well with your brand of perfectionism, Virgo. The difference is that you strive for better because you want to do good, whereas Capricorn wants to be good – at everything they do. And that makes you good together!

Compatibility: High

Virgo with an Aquarius (January 21 – February 18) is a hella smart match.

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Because both you and Aquarius are intellectual sorts, you’d find that you’d have what Alanis Morissette called, “intellectual intercourse.” But since the pair of you have such different approaches to life, you’d probably find it a lot easier to work on a friendship together, rather than a real steamy, romantic relationship.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Pisces (February 19 – March 20) means sweetness in spades.

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There’s no denying it, there’s definitely an attraction between you two. You’re both devoted, thoughtful and detail-oriented souls – but where Pisces is a dreamer, you’re much more realistic. If you’re both able to navigate your differences, then there’s no stopping you! Chances are, though, you’d find that your relationship will always be an ongoing project.

Compatibility: Medium

Does this explain a lot about your current relationship? Or, maybe more about what went wrong in your last romance? Let us know your thoughts on our Facebook page by clicking the icon at the top of the page!

Latinas Are Sharing Their Most Ridiculous Dating Horror Stories And Someone Hold My Drink, I’m Choking

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Latinas Are Sharing Their Most Ridiculous Dating Horror Stories And Someone Hold My Drink, I’m Choking

Dating is a minefield. You have to maneuver around all kinds of potential disasters in the hopes of finding that one special person. For every soulmate out there, there are dozens of bombs ready to explode in your face. While dating apps are meant to make the process a little bit easier, they don’t always work that way. From users being dishonest about who they are to unwelcome pictures sliding into your DM’s a lot can go wrong. Basically, whether you use an app or go old school, dating is hard.

Still, when we asked for our readers to share their experiences with dating, we were surprised by some of the outrageous horror stories that they had to tell. In fact, reading these might just make you delete Bumble right off of your smartphone and take a break from looking for love.

1. Just say no to self-hating Latinos.

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I meet this dude who was working at my bank, he asked me out and while we were out he told me he didn’t like bad bunny because he was too flamboyant (already knew fuck this guy) and follows it up by [saying] he normally only dates white chicks but I intrigued him that’s why he asked me out …. he’s Latino so much self loathing smh.” @carrachichi

2. At least you got to go to Disney.

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“Met a guy he looked really cute in his pics and his voice on the phone Was omg!!! I think I was at least 20-21 when this happened. He worked at Disneyland so he said he’d get me and a friend in for free. Well, when we met Oh wow…he was a short guy nothing like his pics. Poor guy, he was so embarrassed that he had lied….i tried to talk to him but he was always on his phone and he had a girls pic on his phone wallpaper claimed it was his sister 😂😂 awkward. Oh well, we ditched him and roamed Disney for free.” @aryannuh

3. Politics and dating never mix.

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“I went out with a white guy who called me ignorant for being [a] Democrat. I threw my drink on him and left.” @lowhlowh_lodge

4. Yikes!

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“Met up with some guy from tinder at an arcade bar. Once we met, he asked for money and to order him an Uber so he could go pick up. I left to the bathroom, deleted the app, and went home.” @effin_melly

5. Those are fighting words.

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“I went on a dinner date with a guy and he asked me what inspired me, and I said my epilepsy condition has inspired me to be a better mom & an advocate to spread awareness to my rare brain condition. Anyways, the night went on and he offered to “drive me home” since my condition didn’t allow me to drive, so I offered gas. Once we got in the car he looks at me point-blank in the face and said “you’d be the perfect woman if you didn’t have your health condition, but if you’re still down we can fuck” then I punched his tooth out & broke his window and said he can fuck himself 🤷🏻‍♀️” @mrschabelifrancis_

6. You dodged a bullet with this one.

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“Went on a couple of dates with this cute wrestler and one night invited him over for dinner (code for 🍆💦). When he shows up he has band-aids on his face, I asked him what they were for and he said he got ringworm from wrestling mats🤮🤢🥴 When I refused to make out with him etc he left and proceeded to text me calling me a b*tch 🤔😳 Needless to say, never saw him again.” @bizzz_wilzzzz

7. Who does that!?

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“Met a guy who was into fitness and was a fitness model online. When we got to the restaurant he opened the door and said I didn’t say thank you to him. I brushed it off thinking he was joking. While ordering he kept substituting everything on his meal which was annoying because he was taking forever. When I ordered he asked if I was really going to get that because it was fattening. 😑 When we were leaving the restaurant he again stated that I didn’t say thank you when he opened the door for me. Clearly annoyed, I told him that I had barely crossed the threshold before he even let me do it. I wasn’t feeling him at all and told him if he could take me home because I had things to do. While on the ride back, I asked if he had ever dated any fitness models. He replied that he did but they were very superficial and too into their looks so that’s why he now dated girls that looked like me now. 😤 I wanted to punch him! 😡Clearly done with him I just sat there and couldn’t wait to go home. After some silence, he stated that he was going to take his leftovers for lunch tomorrow and I agreed. He then clearly said, “YOUR leftovers? I bought dinner. That food is mine.” I couldn’t believe him! When we got to my house he leaned in and proceeded to take my leftovers from my lap and put them in his back seat. Who does that!?!?! 🤬🤬🤬” @nattie922

8. Some things are unforgivable. This is one of them.

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“Was asked out on a date by some guy that was in a band. When he picked me up we started talking and I was looking out the window and when I turned to look at him he had his Vienna sausage out and wanted me to touch it . I said no and he stopped the car and made me walk . 😡. Then had the balls to call me up a few weeks later to ask me out again. Like he thought I would forget.” @twistedmixedchica

9. Dating while Latina is brutal.

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I went out with a guy who was VERY concerned if I was undocumented. He was ESPECIALLY concerned if I was from Venezuela since the U.S didn’t have great ties with them. I went out with this other guy who the entire date bashed his family, single parents, and wanted me to know that children in single-parent households would never succeed. I informed him I was a child of a single-parent household and I was pretty successful, in my eyes and my friends and families eyes. Dating as a Latina in 2019…”   @verher89