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Zoe Saldana And Her Husband Are Creating The Most Beautiful, Gender Fluid Atmospheres For Their Kids

Zoe Saldana-Perego, born Zoe Yadira Saldaña Nazario, is the Dominicana we’ve loved to love since her film debut in “Center Stage” (2000), where she played a Latinx ballet dancer, whose culture defied that of the fictional American Ballet Academy. Since then she’s gone one to star in “Star Trek,” “Avatar,” “Guardians of the Galaxy,” and “Colombiana.”

One of her most stunningly beautiful personal accomplishments is how she chooses to raise her kids–without gender norms. Meet Bowie, Cy and Zen.

1. Saldana is married to Italian artist Marco Perego.

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Perego is also a rugby player whose nickname is The Pirate because of his long locks, and some interesting art pieces. He actually created a massive gum ball sculpture where instead of gum balls, there were human skulls inside.

2. They secretly got married in June 2013 in London.

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Going against traditions, Perego took Saldana’s last name, making him Marco Perego-Saldana, and her Zoe Saldana-Perego. Their kids’ names will be Perego-Saldana.

3. All their kids are bilingual in Spanish and English.

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Hubby learned to speak Spanish so that they, as a family, can all speak the language together. Good husband. ????

Caption: “Seeds of our Great Tree. Mi manchi tanto ???? @finnjk”

4. Bowie and Cy are twins.

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They were both (obviously) born in 2014. The Perego-Saldanas are a private family, that’s for sure, and Zoe kept her first pregnancy under wraps for the first three months. We’re glad we get to see her beautiful family grow via Instagram.

5. Basically, Zoe is the only woman in the house.

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She is surrounded by dudes of all shapes and ages. In an interview with US Magazine, Zoe confessed, “I’m learning a lot about male biology. Boys are insane…but they’re sensitive, too.”

6. There is no male or female role in the house.

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Zoe does a lot of the repair work, like setting up the TV, and Marco does some household chores, making for a gender-fluid environment. We could all use a lot more of that.

7. “We’re so of a very gender fluid household. I think it’s important to raise boys in that environment and girls as well.”

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Amen, mami. I love that these niños are bringing their wisdom to their schools, and growing up to be people who respect women just as equally as men. We imagine that they’re probably also getting every opportunity to define their own gender since there is no prescription.

8. The only thing prescribed in their household? Fun.

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Zoe says her kids have taught her a lot, too. “We’re caught raising and teaching and disciplining and cooking and cleaning and not enough time to play. I think that my kids always remind me when I’m being too boring. They go, ‘Mama, be nice, sit down and play with me.’ That’s what they’re teaching me.”

9. Being a mom can be hella sucio though.

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When asked what her grossest moment was Zoe responded, “Oh, you know, when you’re talking to a total stranger and you smell something and look down and are covered in sh*t.”

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10. And a working mom is a whole other ballgame.

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Caption: “You do what you have to do to be there…. Haces lo que tienes que hacer para estar ahí. #workingmom#madresquetrabajan”

11. With artists for parents, these kids are already getting down to business.

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The Latino household I grew up in was all about following the rules, cleaning up after yourself, and never doing anything that might make the floors dirty, including walking on them on Saturdays.

12. La Cultura is very alive in these ones.

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We have a feeling that Bowie and Cy didn’t color these Día de los Muertos masks in, but they’re definitely confused about where their mom went. Same. #BringBackZoe

13. And la abuelita is always your #wcw.

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For Zoe at least. Si tengo un elote por cada vez Zoe se pone una #wcw de su mami, I’d be fat af.

14. Oh, and the Saldana-Perego’s also work to end child poverty.

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Caption: “We’ve got our #NosesOn… help end child poverty for @RedNoseDayUSA by visiting RedNoseDay.org to learn more + find out how you can help. You can also snag your own Red Nose shirt designed by @victoriabeckham! ????????????”

15. What is an ideal day in the life of Zoe Saldana-Perego?

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She told US Magazine, “An ideal day is when the kids wake up happy, they eat all their breakfast, take a nap, everybody poops and pees, they drink water and they go to sleep on time so I can at least have an evening with my husband.”

16. But fame doesn’t make you immune to blowouts.

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“Blowouts always happen in the most inconvenient time. I’ve had all of those. I’ve checked every box. Airport, public places, in the car, sitting and talking to people that you barely know.” 

17. Her proudest moment as a mother is when her kids’ first communicated.

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Whether that was with a word, or baby sign language, the moment she was able to communicate with each of her sons was a treasure moment of many to come.

18. All we know, is that these babies are growing up in a mystical new cultura.

CREDIT: @zoesaldana / Instagram

And we’re here for it.

Caption: “I thought the earth remembered me, / She took me back so tenderly / Arranging her skirts / Her pockets full of lichens and seeds. / I slept as never before / A stone on the riverbed, / Nothing between me and the white fire of the stars, / But my thoughts. / And they floated light as moths / Among the branches of the perfect trees. / All night I heard the small kingdoms / Breathing around me. / The insects and the birds / Who do their work in darkness. / All night I rose and fell, / As if water, grappling with luminous doom. / By morning I had vanished at least a dozen times / Into something better. / SLEEPING IN THE FOREST By Mary Oliver”


READ: Leave It To Zoe Saldana To Take Something As Dark As Her Character’s Baggage And Turn It Into A Message Of Strength And Redemption

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Women Are Opening Up On How To Address Postpartum Depression During The Lockdown

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Women Are Opening Up On How To Address Postpartum Depression During The Lockdown

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At some time or another everyone struggles with their mental health. These days, with the world in lockdown and so many of our human interactions limited, things can feel at best bleak and at worst a complete nightmare. This truth can be doubly true for women who are in the throes of a postpartum.

New mothers are facing a different type of difficulty when it comes to the after-effects of giving birth. Postpartum or postnatal depression affects one out of every 10 new mothers. According to the PANDAS (Pre and Post-Natal Depression Advice and Support organization, during the first week of the pandemic, there was a 75% increase in calls to its helpline, underlining the fact that new mothers need support more than ever.

We asked women for advice on how to cope with Postnatal depression and found some enlightening answers. Check them out below!

“We must be more open to being supportive instead of telling us things like “querías niños no??”. ” This is what u signed up for”. I never received the support from family and when shit finally hit the fan I was judged for my extreme actions. My attempts and self harm were seen as attention seeking.” –flor___venenosa

“This is so cultural. I am so sorry you went through this. It’s no wonder we don’t seek help, we are ridiculed for it.”- mrs_tori_rose@flor___venenosa 

“I think I had PPD when I talked to my mom about it she brushed it off and til this when she brings it up in front of others saying, “I thought she didn’t love her daughter. She kept crying and saying how hard it was. It’s not hard I really thought you didn’t want your daughter.” It is so hurtful every time she makes those comments and really makes me angry. Because it’s not that I didn’t love my baby I was having a hard time adjusting to motherhood. I need to figure out a way to tell to stop saying or making those comments because they aren’t helpful. For me it lasted for about a year. It got better as time went on. I was scared to talk to my doctor about it and was never on medication or anything.” –poncigue

“Did you know even when women finally speak up and say I THINK I HAVE POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION THAT THERES IS NO REAL HELP? You can google all you want and call all the hotlines you want but if you don’t have insurance- you are getting much help.” –90dayfrump

“I did after my daughter was born. I couldn’t figure out why I was so angry & sad when it should’ve been one of the happiest times in my life. This lasted for about a year & half for me.” –dee_mahree

“It would have been so helpful to have known this. My first year of motherhood was so challenging; I had no idea how depressed I was until I went to therapy.” –gg_luv

“I had PPD after my three pregnancies. During the third one I also had perinatal depression which is even less talked about. Like a lot of mental health issues I think it’s hard for people to understand especially when you are expected to be happy all the time because you have a bebé.” –piraguadeframbuesa

“I can believe this because I had postpartum depression with my first pregnancy for 9 months.” –mjtobeone

“Generational healing together.” –cynthiarey_jefa

“More post like this please!”- stephreyesfig

“I was just talking about this last night on how I didn’t get any help from anyone around me I still had to do everything! And I would forget to eat! To feed my new born baby I was detached and I would scream and I hit my 3yr old and still crying right now because my family still tries to throw it in my face that I was a bad mom! I said with people like you around me yes now I regret not leaving when I could I probably would of been better off for my kids and especially for my self I hardly smile now, I’m bitter, I try to make things better but I can’t take back what I did.” –ambelly11212

“I think I had both.” –claudia_renee@rrsls10 

“do you follow this page? If not, you should.. and get yourself highlighted here!” –nicleff@lescarbajalxo 

“*nuestro poder*” – florycantoacademy@fiercebymitu

“I ‘m still surprise on how I made so much profit after seeing many people complains of being scammed this is just amazing am still shocked thanks.” –investor_with_johnw22

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This 12-Year-Old MENSA Member Is Starting His Sophomore Year of College But Stays Humble— ‘I Just Grasp Information Quickly’

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This 12-Year-Old MENSA Member Is Starting His Sophomore Year of College But Stays Humble— ‘I Just Grasp Information Quickly’

CBS

Twelve-year-old Caleb Anderson has a head on his shoulder that’s steering him towards a bright and brilliant future. Most kids Anderson’s age are diving headfirst into their 7th-grade year, he on the other hand is headed to college.

Back to college that is.

Anderson is currently enrolled at Chattahoochee Technical College as a sophomore.

From Marietta, Georgia, he’s on track to graduate with his bachelor’s degree in aerospace engineering in two years. Speaking to CBS News for an interview the pre-treen remains humble and chalks up his success to being quick.

“I’m not really smart,” Caleb explained in his interview with the outlet. “I just grasp information quickly. So, if I learn quicker, then I get ahead faster.”

When it comes to pursuing his education, Anderson has his eyes set on a greater prize than just earning his bachelor’s degree. The 12-year-old is intent on heading off to Georgia Institute of Technology or the Massachusetts Institute for Technology. He’s hoping to eventually wind up with an internship at Tesla working for SpaceX founder Elon Musk.

“When I was like 1, I always wanted to go to space,” Anderson said in a separate interview with USA Today. “I figured that aerospace engineering would be the best path.”

Just twelve and Anderson has made quite a few other accomplishments.

At just 9 months old he learned how to do American Sign Language began reading just a few months later. “I have this distinct memory of going to a first-grade class and learning there, and everyone was way taller than me, because, you know, I was 2,” he explained to USA Today. “I could barely walk!”

According to his interviews, Anderson began solving math equations by the time he reached his second birthday and qualified for MENSA at just 3 years old. MENSA is the largest and oldest high IQ society across the globe. The non-profit organization is open to people who score at the 98th percentile or higher on a standardized intelligence test. Members have included the likes of Geena Davis, Nolan Gould of “Modern Family,” and Joyce Carol Oates.

Explaining what it is like to raise a genius, Anderson’s father Kobi WKYC that he realized his kid was special when he began to speak to other parents.

“As we started to interact with other parents, and had other children, then we started to realize how exceptional this experience was because we had no other frame of reference,” Kobi explained. “He has far surpassed me in math, so I can’t help him anymore. Seriously! He’s in calculus two now!”

When it comes to her son, Anderson’s mother says that she hopes other parents see him as an example and that he inspires other Black children.

“I think people have a negative perspective when it comes to African-American boys,” she explained. “There are many other Calebs out there… African-American boys like him. From being a teacher — I really believe that. But they don’t have the opportunity or the resources.”

Check out Anderson’s interview below!

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