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I Might Be Single But I Still Love Valentine’s Day And The Love I Show Myself

It’s February and soon restaurants will be filled with couples eating pasta by candlelight and florists in a frenzy delivering bouquets to offices around the country in celebration of Valentine’s Day.

As a single person who has been single for quite some time, the heart-decorated holiday should fill me with dread if life was portrayed as a romantic comedy. Like, I haven’t had a date on Valentine’s Day since Enrique Iglesias’ ‘Bailando’ was regularly played on the radio. However, I love Valentine’s Day.

My love for Valentine’s Day started when I was still in elementary school.

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Growing up, I waited excitedly for the holiday every year. Really, it was only so I could check out which new cartoon designs came out on Valentine’s Day cards. I made sure to meticulously plan out which Valentine’s Day cards I would give my classmates so that I wasn’t repeating from the year before.

My mom and I made it a tradition throughout elementary and middle school to pick out little rose plants or flower pots to give to my teachers and coaches. Once, my coach even brought me the very first rose bud that grew as a thank you gift. All the feels.

In college, I still made it a point to wear some type of pink or red clothing item on Valentine’s Day, even on the year when Apple came to campus and filmed my multimedia class for a commercial. True story—I appeared in a spot for Apple wearing a rose boho headband because well, Valentine’s Day!

My sentiment on this holiday as a single person falls in line with that of the Latin American countries who celebrate February 14 as el Día del Amor y la Amistad (day of love and friendship.)

I find it as the perfect opportunity to celebrate love in its many forms and eat some sweets with those that have given me reasons to laugh and smile on a daily basis.

Valentine’s Day can be a holiday that you enjoy all the same whether you’re single or not.

Practice some amor eterno this year!

From writing down things I’m grateful for to adding some tones of blush or red in my wardrobe for the day, here are five ways in which I practice Valentine’s Day as a day of love AND friendship without wanting to chuck my co-workers’ rose arrangements in the trash just because I’m single.

1. Give you mama, abuelita and familia a call to tell them Happy Valentine’s Day

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As someone who has lived in multiple states for school and work, nothing beats picking up the phone to wish them a day full of amor and happiness on Valentine’s Day. Love can be spread through the miles through some good old-fashioned communication.

If you don’t have a current main squeeze, don’t flip out. You got this! There are plenty of people in your life who would appreciate a warm text message, phone call, or card via snail-mail to tell them how much they are loved.

2. Write down 14 things you’re grateful for.

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Keeping a gratitude journal every day of five blessings you’re grateful for might get forgotten in between finishing your meal prep and reviewing your work presentation for the next morning. However, making a list for one day seems like a much more doable task you can squeeze into your routine.

Write down 14 things that light you up and spark joy, Marie Kondo-style.

They can be as small as seeing your dog wag its tail each time you come home to as big as being thankful you have a job you are growing and building a career in.

3. Incorporate some hearts, red or pink hues in your wardrobe.

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You might think that wearing red and pink together makes you look like a walking Kate Spade ad. I’m here to tell you the colors are welcome in your office or school setting on Valentine’s Day.

Pick out a small accessory to dip your toe in the trend: wear some pink sunglasses a la Bad Bunny, bundle up in a blush pink coat or wear a red enamel heart pin.

This year, wear your heart on your sleeve!

4. Host a Galentine’s party.

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It’s not a typo. Galentine’s is a thing!

I’ve been hosting an annual Galentine’s Day party for a few years now and invite all my single friends and friends whose baes are long distance.

One year we all dressed up and went out for drinks at a rooftop patio. Last year the party took a funny turn by going around the room and telling each other our worst date stories while we ate pizza and munched on brownies.

A festive party can help your friends shake off the stigma of being single on this couple-ed up holiday.

5. Practice some self-care

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After a long day, sit back and relax with some facial masks and a lush bubble bath. If you don’t want to wear any pink clothing on Valentine’s Day, cheat a little and put on some pink grapefruit mask to give you some zen before you shut your eyes.

Valentine’s Day can be a day you look forward to whether you have someone to give you a besito to or not.


READ: Get In The Valentine’s Day Mood With This Playlist Of Spanish-Language Love Songs

How are you celebrating Valentine’s Day this year as a single person? Let us know in the comments!

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20 Sexy Questions To Reignite Your Bond With Your Girlfriend

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20 Sexy Questions To Reignite Your Bond With Your Girlfriend

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Falling in love with the right person and learning everything you can about her is easy and natural. But although you might think you know everything you can about your special lady, we bet that there are still questions that are left unanswered in your life. For one, do you know everything you can about her sexuality? Probably not. But don’t worry because learning about her in a more intimate setting is something that can help you two get closer and strengthen your relationship in the long run.

That’s where these 20 sexual questions come in. These sexy questions are all things that you can ask your girlfriend tonight, tomorrow and the next day. And they are all guaranteed to bring further intimacy and continue to build your bond. So, get to cuddling and share some details of your sexy past and even sexier future — and get ready to hear hers.

1. Have you ever skinny dipped?

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This kind of question is sexy in and of itself because it forces you to talk about two things that are very alluring: Nakedness and being daring. It’s a question that can definitely create a lot more conversation and you can talk about where you’ve skinny dipped or, even better, where you want to skinny dip in the future, together.

2. Where would you love to have sex?

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People can have a lot of different answers to this question, so it’s definitely one that you want to ask your girlfriend earlier on in the relationship or when you are feeling that things are getting a bit stale. It’s the kind of question that can lead to a lot of really interesting conversations, honestly. And plans. Don’t forget to make the plans.

3. What is the sexiest thing about women to you?

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Women are sexy, period. And you probably already knew that since you find your girlfriend pretty darn sexy, too, but have you ever stopped to think what exactly makes her sexy to you? Ask this question of her and you both might end up surprising each other with what the conversation brings.

4. Do you like to be dominant or passive?

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Every relationship is complicated and everyone’s sexual desires are complicated but you can really delve deep into your girlfriend’s desires by asking her this question. It might even spark a fuller conversation where you talk about your own preferences, too.

5. What’s the ultimate role play for you?

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Role-playing is something that can take your relationship to the next level or get you out of a rut. It’s also something that can simply inspire some interesting conversations, which is why this is definitely a question that you should ask your sweetie. Maybe just wait until you’re in a really intimate moment first, though.

6. Who is your secret celebrity crush?

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Talking about your celebrity crushes is a sure-fire way to invite some fun conversation and intimacy into your relationship. Of course, the key here is to ask your girlfriend about her secret crush. You know, there’s always somebody that she may name that is unexpected and will solicit more sexy questions.

7. Are you more rough or passionate?

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Passion is an excelleny thing to have in a relationship but it’s definitely not the only thing. And when it comes to having sex, people tend to have a style. Some like it really rough and dirty while others like it passionate and sensual. Although neither is right or wrong, it’s good to know what your girlfriend prefers by asking her this question.

8. What kind of talk do you like, if any, in bed?

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Some people like sexy talk. Some people do not. Some people like it super dirty. Some do not. You may not know exactly what your girlfriend prefers just yet because it can be an awkward subject to just bring up out of the blue, so why not ask her? This way, you’ll have something new and totally sexy to talk about in bed.

9. What’s the sexiest thing someone has done to you?

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You can definitely make this a really interesting question if you ask what someone has done “to” her and “for” her. It will definitely mean two different responses, but I bet both of them will be surprising and interesting. Just don’t be afraid to share your own answer to this question, too.

10. What’s your favorite body type?

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One way to talk about the things that you each find sexy is to talk about the type of bodies that you find most attractive. This can be an interesting thing to bring up but definitely make sure to only bring it up if you are comfortable in your body and relationship, since you don’t want to get jealous over what she says.

11. What’s your view on “50 shades”?

50 Shades of Grey is a book and movie franchise that changed the world or, at least, the way women behave sexually. All of a sudden, it became okay (and even encouraged!) to be kinky. But how much do you know about your girlfriend’s opinion on the books and the sexy topic? Now’s the time to ask!

12. Have you ever had sex more than once in a day?

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No matter how good your sex life is, there is always room for improvement. When you are getting more intimate with your partner, you might want to know what their “record” is in terms of the most times they have ever had sex. And then, I suggest, you improve upon that number.

13. Where do you like being touched the most?

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Some of us fully admit that our breasts are the most sensitive place while others love gentle little kisses behind the ears. And some of us still find something else so erotic that it makes sex even better. This is a great question to ask earlier in your relationship so that you can make sure to touch that part more and more.

14. Have you ever had sex in a public place?

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Sex in public is still a taboo subject but it’s one that we should be discussing more because, for some people, it’s the pinnacle of sexuality. Whether or not you are turned on by it, it’s something that you should think about and consider with your partner. That’s why you should find out if she’s ever done it in a public place.

15. What is your favorite sexual position?

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Everyone has a favorite sex position and anyone who claims not to is clearly lying. This is definitely a daring question to ask your sweetie but it’s one that can lead to greater sexual satisfaction. If you know what they like (and know what you like), then you can do a lot more in the bedroom to bring pleasure to each other.

16. Have you ever been so horny that you couldn’t control yourself?

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This is definitely a sexy picture and an even sexier image to have of your girlfriend, though you’ll probably want to make sure that you’re fairly secure in your relationship before bringing this one up. It’s also best to talk about this when you are having a particularly intimate moment, perhaps laying in bed at the end of the day.

17. Have you ever been to a strip club? 

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Who says that men are the only ones that get to enjoy strip clubs? Us ladies can love them too, and perhaps you’re even the kind of couple who has ventured out to one together. But even if you’re not, this is a fun topic to bring up with your special lady and hear about her experience.

18. Have you ever gotten with someone you weren’t allowed to?

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One way to talk about taboo subjects in your relationship is to do it out in the open. That’s why you should definitely bring up whether your girlfriend has ever been with someone she wasn’t supposed to. Sure, it can lead to some interesting conversation… But it can also lead to some interesting revelations.

19. What kind of outfit would look best on me?

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This is the kind of question that you’ll want to ask your girlfriend when you are feeling particularly comfortable with her. But, when it comes right down to it, it would be a good idea to know what your partner likes for you to wear… and visa versa. That way, you can both always look great for each other.

20. Have you ever tried tantric sex?

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If you didn’t know this, tantric sex is about having a really intense, connected experience during sex (either by yourself or with a partner). It’s something really enjoyable that couples can enjoy together but, before you try that, you should definitely talk to your partner about whether or not she has tried it before… and what her experience was. And if not, perhaps it’s an experience you can have together.

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Don’t Fret. Here Are Some Perfect Galentine’s Day Gifts Created By Latina Entrepreneurs

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Don’t Fret. Here Are Some Perfect Galentine’s Day Gifts Created By Latina Entrepreneurs

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This Valentine’s Day, let’s celebrate all the strong, fierce, and beautiful Galentines in your life. You can celebrate by gifting them items made by some equally strong and beautiful Latina entrepreneurs. You could even host a major dinner for all of your besties to celebrate the love. Whatever way you celebrate, here are a few wonderful gifts to show them how much you love them and their friendship.

Say it with a Spanish Valentine’s Day card.

Sometimes things just sound better in Spanish, like this card from Magic Mood Art. You might not be rolling in the dough, but you can brighten up your Valentine’s day with a funny greeting card for less than the cost of a latte.

Show them how much you appreciate them with a Viva La Mujer shirt.

Give the MUA in your life something to add to their collection with a Melt Cosmetics Metal Gloss.

Kiss nude lips goodbye this Valentine’s Day. Your friends can thank you when they coat their lips with this glossy pink finish from Latina-owned Melt Cosmetics.

How about a Latino-inspired greeting card in English?

Your squad knows you love them pero like food comes first sometimes before morning hiking workouts. These cute cards are just some of the fresh sayings Martha Valdes. She is the owner of the boutique Martha of Miami.

Give them a wardrobe boost with some Valentine’s-Hued clothing from Eye Candy Boutique.

Owner Elsa Fernandes wants you and your bffs to know that love comes in all shapes and sizes. That’s why she’s celebrating plus size girls with adorable clothing and accessories from her Eye Candy Boutique. Grab some purple, pink or red items that will make your Galentine’s Day attire pop!

Show that you want to hold these friendships tight by way of a hair clasp.

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For your ArtSy best friends, get them a pearl-studded barrette from Miami-based Style Mafia, owned by fashion blogger Simonett Pereira. Her avant-garde style mixes fresh and feminine finds with some minimalism.

Josefina by Vero Solis is always a good choice.

Give a Galentine’s Day gift your friends can wear with pride—they can show off their Mexican roots. These chic and colorful pieces from Mexican designer Vero Solis are a must-have. This ‘Mexicanita’ shirt can be your friends’ dose of required red on Valentine’s Day. ♥️

Mapache Jewelry will make anyone shine.

Give your girls the right crystals to heal and #bless their life with pieces from Rochelle Martin’s jewelry line. Trinkets include little crystal charms that can be incorporated into accessories for their everyday errands.

HoneyBGold Hoops because hoops are a girl’s best friend.

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Hey cutie! starburst Hoops droppin this Friday ????

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Help your friends take on the world this Valentine’s Day with or without a honey by their side. All they need is some rockin’ pairs of hoops by Latina jewelry designer HoneyBGold!

READ: Best Valentine’s Day Gifts And Activities For the Love of Your Life That Aren’t Just A Dinner

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