I Might Be Single But I Still Love Valentine’s Day And The Love I Show Myself
It’s February and soon restaurants will be filled with couples eating pasta by candlelight and florists in a frenzy delivering bouquets to offices around the country in celebration of Valentine’s Day.
As a single person who has been single for quite some time, the heart-decorated holiday should fill me with dread if life was portrayed as a romantic comedy. Like, I haven’t had a date on Valentine’s Day since Enrique Iglesias’ ‘Bailando’ was regularly played on the radio. However, I love Valentine’s Day.
My love for Valentine’s Day started when I was still in elementary school.
Growing up, I waited excitedly for the holiday every year. Really, it was only so I could check out which new cartoon designs came out on Valentine’s Day cards. I made sure to meticulously plan out which Valentine’s Day cards I would give my classmates so that I wasn’t repeating from the year before.
My mom and I made it a tradition throughout elementary and middle school to pick out little rose plants or flower pots to give to my teachers and coaches. Once, my coach even brought me the very first rose bud that grew as a thank you gift. All the feels.
In college, I still made it a point to wear some type of pink or red clothing item on Valentine’s Day, even on the year when Apple came to campus and filmed my multimedia class for a commercial. True story—I appeared in a spot for Apple wearing a rose boho headband because well, Valentine’s Day!
My sentiment on this holiday as a single person falls in line with that of the Latin American countries who celebrate February 14 as el Día del Amor y la Amistad (day of love and friendship.)
I find it as the perfect opportunity to celebrate love in its many forms and eat some sweets with those that have given me reasons to laugh and smile on a daily basis.
Valentine’s Day can be a holiday that you enjoy all the same whether you’re single or not.
Practice some amor eterno this year!
From writing down things I’m grateful for to adding some tones of blush or red in my wardrobe for the day, here are five ways in which I practice Valentine’s Day as a day of love AND friendship without wanting to chuck my co-workers’ rose arrangements in the trash just because I’m single.
1. Give you mama, abuelita and familia a call to tell them Happy Valentine’s Day
As someone who has lived in multiple states for school and work, nothing beats picking up the phone to wish them a day full of amor and happiness on Valentine’s Day. Love can be spread through the miles through some good old-fashioned communication.
If you don’t have a current main squeeze, don’t flip out. You got this! There are plenty of people in your life who would appreciate a warm text message, phone call, or card via snail-mail to tell them how much they are loved.
2. Write down 14 things you’re grateful for.
Keeping a gratitude journal every day of five blessings you’re grateful for might get forgotten in between finishing your meal prep and reviewing your work presentation for the next morning. However, making a list for one day seems like a much more doable task you can squeeze into your routine.
Write down 14 things that light you up and spark joy, Marie Kondo-style.
They can be as small as seeing your dog wag its tail each time you come home to as big as being thankful you have a job you are growing and building a career in.
3. Incorporate some hearts, red or pink hues in your wardrobe.
You might think that wearing red and pink together makes you look like a walking Kate Spade ad. I’m here to tell you the colors are welcome in your office or school setting on Valentine’s Day.
Pick out a small accessory to dip your toe in the trend: wear some pink sunglasses a la Bad Bunny, bundle up in a blush pink coat or wear a red enamel heart pin.
This year, wear your heart on your sleeve!
4. Host a Galentine’s party.
It’s not a typo. Galentine’s is a thing!
I’ve been hosting an annual Galentine’s Day party for a few years now and invite all my single friends and friends whose baes are long distance.
One year we all dressed up and went out for drinks at a rooftop patio. Last year the party took a funny turn by going around the room and telling each other our worst date stories while we ate pizza and munched on brownies.
A festive party can help your friends shake off the stigma of being single on this couple-ed up holiday.
5. Practice some self-care
After a long day, sit back and relax with some facial masks and a lush bubble bath. If you don’t want to wear any pink clothing on Valentine’s Day, cheat a little and put on some pink grapefruit mask to give you some zen before you shut your eyes.
Valentine’s Day can be a day you look forward to whether you have someone to give you a besito to or not.