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I Might Be Single But I Still Love Valentine’s Day And The Love I Show Myself

It’s February and soon restaurants will be filled with couples eating pasta by candlelight and florists in a frenzy delivering bouquets to offices around the country in celebration of Valentine’s Day.

As a single person who has been single for quite some time, the heart-decorated holiday should fill me with dread if life was portrayed as a romantic comedy. Like, I haven’t had a date on Valentine’s Day since Enrique Iglesias’ ‘Bailando’ was regularly played on the radio. However, I love Valentine’s Day.

My love for Valentine’s Day started when I was still in elementary school.

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Growing up, I waited excitedly for the holiday every year. Really, it was only so I could check out which new cartoon designs came out on Valentine’s Day cards. I made sure to meticulously plan out which Valentine’s Day cards I would give my classmates so that I wasn’t repeating from the year before.

My mom and I made it a tradition throughout elementary and middle school to pick out little rose plants or flower pots to give to my teachers and coaches. Once, my coach even brought me the very first rose bud that grew as a thank you gift. All the feels.

In college, I still made it a point to wear some type of pink or red clothing item on Valentine’s Day, even on the year when Apple came to campus and filmed my multimedia class for a commercial. True story—I appeared in a spot for Apple wearing a rose boho headband because well, Valentine’s Day!

My sentiment on this holiday as a single person falls in line with that of the Latin American countries who celebrate February 14 as el Día del Amor y la Amistad (day of love and friendship.)

I find it as the perfect opportunity to celebrate love in its many forms and eat some sweets with those that have given me reasons to laugh and smile on a daily basis.

Valentine’s Day can be a holiday that you enjoy all the same whether you’re single or not.

Practice some amor eterno this year!

From writing down things I’m grateful for to adding some tones of blush or red in my wardrobe for the day, here are five ways in which I practice Valentine’s Day as a day of love AND friendship without wanting to chuck my co-workers’ rose arrangements in the trash just because I’m single.

1. Give you mama, abuelita and familia a call to tell them Happy Valentine’s Day

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As someone who has lived in multiple states for school and work, nothing beats picking up the phone to wish them a day full of amor and happiness on Valentine’s Day. Love can be spread through the miles through some good old-fashioned communication.

If you don’t have a current main squeeze, don’t flip out. You got this! There are plenty of people in your life who would appreciate a warm text message, phone call, or card via snail-mail to tell them how much they are loved.

2. Write down 14 things you’re grateful for.

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Keeping a gratitude journal every day of five blessings you’re grateful for might get forgotten in between finishing your meal prep and reviewing your work presentation for the next morning. However, making a list for one day seems like a much more doable task you can squeeze into your routine.

Write down 14 things that light you up and spark joy, Marie Kondo-style.

They can be as small as seeing your dog wag its tail each time you come home to as big as being thankful you have a job you are growing and building a career in.

3. Incorporate some hearts, red or pink hues in your wardrobe.

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You might think that wearing red and pink together makes you look like a walking Kate Spade ad. I’m here to tell you the colors are welcome in your office or school setting on Valentine’s Day.

Pick out a small accessory to dip your toe in the trend: wear some pink sunglasses a la Bad Bunny, bundle up in a blush pink coat or wear a red enamel heart pin.

This year, wear your heart on your sleeve!

4. Host a Galentine’s party.

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It’s not a typo. Galentine’s is a thing!

I’ve been hosting an annual Galentine’s Day party for a few years now and invite all my single friends and friends whose baes are long distance.

One year we all dressed up and went out for drinks at a rooftop patio. Last year the party took a funny turn by going around the room and telling each other our worst date stories while we ate pizza and munched on brownies.

A festive party can help your friends shake off the stigma of being single on this couple-ed up holiday.

5. Practice some self-care

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After a long day, sit back and relax with some facial masks and a lush bubble bath. If you don’t want to wear any pink clothing on Valentine’s Day, cheat a little and put on some pink grapefruit mask to give you some zen before you shut your eyes.

Valentine’s Day can be a day you look forward to whether you have someone to give you a besito to or not.


READ: Get In The Valentine’s Day Mood With This Playlist Of Spanish-Language Love Songs

How are you celebrating Valentine’s Day this year as a single person? Let us know in the comments!

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Here are Some Fun and Creative Date Ideas for a Quarantine Valentine’s Day At-Home

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Here are Some Fun and Creative Date Ideas for a Quarantine Valentine’s Day At-Home

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To say 2021 won’t be your typical Valentine’s Day would be an understatement. Almost a year after COVID-19 shutdown pretty much every romantic destination outside of the house, couples everywhere are now being forced to come up with creative ideas to celebrate their love for one another at home.

But just because we’re stuck inside, doesn’t mean this year’s V-Day won’t be special. Sure, the old Netflix-and-chill recipe might be a little tired at this point of quarantine (nine months and counting…), but there are a million other fun dates to take part in at home. Take a peak below at our list of fun and creative at-home date ideas for Quaran-tine’s Day (see what we did there?)

1. Game Night

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Make Valentine’s Day an opportunity to bring out you and your partner’s fun side. Break out some tried-and-true games that work for two people like Twister, Jenga, Code Names or Guess Who. But if you want to keep the good vibes going, avoid ultra-competitive games like Risk or–god forbid–Monopoly

2. Wine & Paint Date

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Going to your city’s local Paint & Sip studio might not be an option this year, but you can always bring the studio into your own home. Prepare for your at-home wine and paint night by heading to a nearby craft’s store to stock up on canvas, paint, and paint brushes. Then, hit up a wine & spirits shop to pick out a few high-quality vintages for you and your Valentine.

3. At-Home Spa Night

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If the COVID life is stressing you out, think about unwinding with your amor with a spa night. Prepare a night of candles, mud masks, bubble baths, and of course, massages for you two to enjoy together. Relaxing never felt so sexy.

4. Rom-Com Movie Marathon

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Sure, not everyone is into rom-coms (apparently some people think they’re cheesy?), but if you and your lover are both fans of the feel-good genre, create a list of your favorite movies to watch together. Don’t forget the popcorn and the milk duds.

5. Bake-at-home Date

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What’s sweeter than sugar? Literally nothing. Bond with your novio/a by making a delicious creation together. If you two are both novice pastry chefs, try out some simple cookie or cupcake recipes. If you both are up for a challenge, think about making traditional Latin pasteles like alfajores, milhojas, or pastafrola.

6. Fondue Fun

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If you and your amor are both the type of people who like their dates to revolve around food (and look, we can relate), consider having a fondue night. With fondue, the possibilities are endless. You can go the savory route, dipping veggies, meats, and bread in queso or hot oil. You can also end your meal with a dessert fondue of chocolate y fruta.

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Dating 101: The Expert’s Guide on How to Find Love in 2021

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Dating 101: The Expert’s Guide on How to Find Love in 2021

Valentine’s Day is just a few days away, which means that if you’re single, you might be taking a good, hard look at the state of your love life. If, like many of us, you’ve spent the past year focusing on your own growth and self-development, then you might be ready to jump back into the dating pool. 

But if you feel off your game or unsure of how to proceed in this brand new, post-COVID world of dating, fear not! We’ve employed the help of Jorge Lozano H. to give us the do’s and don’ts of finding love in 2021.

Jorge Lozano H. is a best-selling author, speaker, and dating expert who knows exactly how challenging this new dating scene is–but he also knows how fun it can be. Lozano shared his tips and tricks with us on how to attract “the one” in 2021. Check out his advice below!

1. Spend More Time on Dating Apps

We know, we know. There are about a million-and-one dating apps out there. But it’s a simple fact that you can’t find something if you’re not looking for it. Download one or two dating apps and commit to spending time and effort on finding a viable match (so, no mindless swiping).

If you feel like the sheer number of options is too overwhelming, try out a dating app that narrows down the dating pool by common interests–like Chispa, the dating app specifically made for millenial Latinos. 

2. Confidence is Key

It’s tempting to approach every date with a pessimistic mindset. Sure, there’s “plenty of fish in the sea,” but there’s also plenty of duds in the sea as well. Lozano suggest looking on the bright side by trying out positive affirmations.

“Go into every virtual date with a positive mindset by repeating these eight words when you need a confidence boost: ‘I want, I can, and I deserve it,'” he says.

3. Build meaningful connections

Lozano suggests creating “emotional anchors” during your conversation with you date in order to make meaningful, memorable connections. Lozano suggests bonding over common interests like similar tastes in music or the favorite Banderas you have in common.

4. Don’t be a “bad texter”

Even if a potential partner is head-over-heels for you, that doesn’t give you an excuse to be a bad texter (i.e. giving low-effort, one-word responses). “Elaborate, ask questions and show interest so your potential novio/a will keep you in mind at all times,” says Lozano.

5. Flirt with finesse

If you’re wondering why none of your matches are graduating to the next step, like a FaceTime date or a virtual date, it might be because you’re not giving them much to work with. “Coquetear adds an extra spice to any conversation,” says Lozano. He suggests using three universally-beloved topics to keep the convo going: food, pets, and (pre-Covid) travel of course.

Now that you’re armed with Lozano’s great advice, you’re ready to take on the 2021 dating scene with renewed confidence. Now head out there and find your soulmate!

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