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9 Ways My Dad Challenges Machismo Without Even Knowing It

Latino men are overwhelmingly stereotyped as machistas. Thankfully my dad was never phased by these societal expectations nor does he feel pressured to act like a “real hombre.” Here are a few machista stereotypes my dad continuously breaks – and I can’t love him more for this.

He’s all about la limpieza, more so than my mom.

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Shocking, right?! Well, my dad has his limpieza routine down to a tee and early morning mopping to “Suavemente” is his favorite Saturday ritual. And rather than expecting his two daughters to wake up early and clean, he knows we work hard during the week, so he lets us sleep in to conserve our energy in order to take over the world.

He makes me breakfast… and lunch and dinner like a total pro.


He doesn’t wake me up to clean, but the smell of huevos con chorizo y frijolitos gets me out of bed like nothing else. Even though people say women belong in the kitchen (which is total BS), my dad loves to cook! He’s even developed a science to the way he packs my lunch! But seriously, have you ever seen anyone take such great care of a piece of lettuce? He learned at an early age from chopping onions and cilantro for his dad’s taco stand in Mexico that food is the way to everyone’s heart, especially mine.

People say “que los hombres no deben llorar,” but my dad isn’t afraid to shed a few tears.

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I never have to guess how my dad feels because he wears his heart on his sleeve and he’s definitely not afraid to cry in front of anyone. I mean, if Chente cries in movies my dad shouldn’t be ashamed to do so IRL.

He’s also a low-key chismoso.

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My dad is shameless and he’s always the first one out the door whenever drama goes down in my neighborhood. He always wants to know what Fulano did to Panchita and como Panchita se las pagó. I’m always the last one he spills the beans to, but once he starts, it’s hard to get him to wrap up the story.

We normally don’t see older men bodyroll, but my dad tears it up on the dancefloor.


Celia Cruz anything is his jam and he’s not afraid to shake his hips no matter who’s watching! Thanks to his many hours of patience, I’m proud to say I have some lit salsa moves of my own. And if it weren’t for him, I’d still be an awkward penguin with two left feet. I used to be pretty bad, but trust me the glo up has been real.

He’s not afraid of learning something new from his little girls.

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I have a lot of opinions. And much like other fathers, my dad can be very attached to his ways. But I know he’s soaking it all in when my sister and I start ranting about universal solidarity, tree hugging, human rights, animal rights, capitalism, feminism, and the all the other -isms in the book (to name a few).

He never comments on what I’m wearing when I go out with my girl friends.

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He knows that what I wear is my own personal decision. Instead of freaking out because I’m in a skirt, he’s more of the type to say, “Do you, girl.”

He tells me que me ponga las pilas because he believes I can do anything.

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My dad knows that my future isn’t limited because I’m a woman. He wants me to achieve my dreams, whatever they may be. When I want to give up, he reminds me that I can take the world by storm con que le heche las ganas.

He’s not afraid to use the L-word.

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I already know my dad loves me. He tells me every time he wakes me up with breakfast, or lectures me to try harder, or lets me sleep in when I’m tired, but it’s also important for me to hear him say it – and he has no problem doing so.


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Thank you to all the Latino daddies out there challenging sexist institutions for their daughters – whether they know it or not. Comment below on other ways your dad challenges machismo!

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UPS Delivery Man Is Fired After Video Surfaces of His Anti-Latino Racist Rant

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UPS Delivery Man Is Fired After Video Surfaces of His Anti-Latino Racist Rant

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An unnamed UPS delivery driver has been fired after being caught using racist language when delivering a package to a Latino household. The incident occurred on December 17th.

The video, which was caught on a doorbell camera’s security footage, shows a white UPS driver appearing to be angry when delivering a package.

“Now you don’t get f—–g nothing…You can’t read and write and speak the f—–g English language,” he says while writing a “failed to deliver” notice and pasting it on the house’s front door.

The Aviles family says that the footage shows that the UPS worker never even attempted to deliver the package in the first place. He never rang the doorbell or knocked on the door. Based on that, the family has come to the conclusion that the driver intentionally withheld the package from the family out of prejudice and spite

They believe that the only way the driver could’ve known that the family was Latino was by making assumptions based off the name on the package.

“The only information this driver had that could serve as a trigger for this deep-seated hate was the name on the package,” said Forward Latino President Darryl Morin at a press conference addressing the incident.

“So what we have here is a very intentional act to ruin Christmas for somebody, for someone to spew this hateful rhetoric, and quite honestly to deceive their employer,” Morin continued.

Per UPS, the employee has now been fired. “There is no place in any community for racism, bigotry or hate. This is very serious and we promptly took action, terminating the driver’s employment. UPS is wholeheartedly committed to diversity, equity and inclusion,” UPS said in a statement. They also said they contacted the family to apologize.

But the Aviles family is still rattled that such bigoted people are out and about, letting their petty prejudices effect other people’s lives.

“The package was a Christmas gift that we eventually received after Christmas Day, but what if it happened to have time-sensitive content like an epipen or a book I needed to take a final,” said Shirley Aviles, the mother of the man who lives at the address, told NBC News. “I don’t get it. It’s just sad.”

Aviles seemed disturbed about what this incident says about human nature. “This is about the things people do when they think no one is watching them. That’s important because that’s when you see people’s true colors and that’s what’s scary,”

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Here Are Some Christmas Traditions From Around Latin America

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Here Are Some Christmas Traditions From Around Latin America

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Christmas is a special time of year. Families have their traditions to mark the festive year and some of those traditions are rooted in culture. Here are some of the ways various countries in Latin America celebrate Christmas.

El Pase Del Niño Viajero – Ecuador

El Pase del Niño Viajero is a pageant that happens in Ecuador that lasts weeks. The parade is meant to represent the journey of Mary and Joseph. The parade highlights the religious importance of Christmas in Ecuador and is most common in the Andean region of the country.

The biggest and most important parade is in Cuenca, a deeply religious city. Citizens near the city have all day to see the parade as it starts in the early morning and runs through the late afternoon. This gives people a lot of time to make it to the city to witness the parade.

La Gritería – Nicaragua

La Gritería comes after La Purisma. La Purisma is celebrated at the end of November and is meant to celebrate the Immaculate Conception of the Virgin Mary. La Gritería is celebrated in early December and involves literal yelling. Someone would shout “Que causa tanta alegria?” (“What causes so much happiness?”) People respond “La Concepción de María.” (“Mary’s Conception.”)

Las Posadas – Mexico

Mexican posadas are the most recognizable. Posadas take place in Mexico from Dec. 16-24, though this year they are most likely to be virtual. The posada begins with a procession in the neighborhood filled with people singing and sometimes led by two people dressed as Mary and Joseph.

Another part is the posada party. Before guests can enter, there is a song exchange with the people outside playing Joseph looking for shelter. The hosts sing the side of the innkeeper saying there is no room. Eventually, the guests are welcomed into the home to celebrate Christmas.

Aguinaldos – Colombia

Aguinaldos are a series of games played by people in Colombia leading up to Christmas. There are certain games that are common among people in Colombia. One is pajita en boca, which requires holding a straw in your mouth the entire time of a social event. Another is dar y no recibir, which is about getting people to take something you are giving to score a point.

El Quema Del Diablo – Guatemala

El quema del diablo is celebrated in early December and is a way of letting go of the previous year. People burn piñatas and effigies of the devil to let go of all negative feelings and moments from the previous year. If there was every to try a new tradition, this would be the year. Burn an effigy and banish 2020 to the past, where it belongs.

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