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9 Ways My Dad Challenges Machismo Without Even Knowing It

Latino men are overwhelmingly stereotyped as machistas. Thankfully my dad was never phased by these societal expectations nor does he feel pressured to act like a “real hombre.” Here are a few machista stereotypes my dad continuously breaks – and I can’t love him more for this.

He’s all about la limpieza, more so than my mom.

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Shocking, right?! Well, my dad has his limpieza routine down to a tee and early morning mopping to “Suavemente” is his favorite Saturday ritual. And rather than expecting his two daughters to wake up early and clean, he knows we work hard during the week, so he lets us sleep in to conserve our energy in order to take over the world.

He makes me breakfast… and lunch and dinner like a total pro.


He doesn’t wake me up to clean, but the smell of huevos con chorizo y frijolitos gets me out of bed like nothing else. Even though people say women belong in the kitchen (which is total BS), my dad loves to cook! He’s even developed a science to the way he packs my lunch! But seriously, have you ever seen anyone take such great care of a piece of lettuce? He learned at an early age from chopping onions and cilantro for his dad’s taco stand in Mexico that food is the way to everyone’s heart, especially mine.

People say “que los hombres no deben llorar,” but my dad isn’t afraid to shed a few tears.

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I never have to guess how my dad feels because he wears his heart on his sleeve and he’s definitely not afraid to cry in front of anyone. I mean, if Chente cries in movies my dad shouldn’t be ashamed to do so IRL.

He’s also a low-key chismoso.

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My dad is shameless and he’s always the first one out the door whenever drama goes down in my neighborhood. He always wants to know what Fulano did to Panchita and como Panchita se las pagó. I’m always the last one he spills the beans to, but once he starts, it’s hard to get him to wrap up the story.

We normally don’t see older men bodyroll, but my dad tears it up on the dancefloor.


Celia Cruz anything is his jam and he’s not afraid to shake his hips no matter who’s watching! Thanks to his many hours of patience, I’m proud to say I have some lit salsa moves of my own. And if it weren’t for him, I’d still be an awkward penguin with two left feet. I used to be pretty bad, but trust me the glo up has been real.

He’s not afraid of learning something new from his little girls.

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I have a lot of opinions. And much like other fathers, my dad can be very attached to his ways. But I know he’s soaking it all in when my sister and I start ranting about universal solidarity, tree hugging, human rights, animal rights, capitalism, feminism, and the all the other -isms in the book (to name a few).

He never comments on what I’m wearing when I go out with my girl friends.

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He knows that what I wear is my own personal decision. Instead of freaking out because I’m in a skirt, he’s more of the type to say, “Do you, girl.”

He tells me que me ponga las pilas because he believes I can do anything.

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My dad knows that my future isn’t limited because I’m a woman. He wants me to achieve my dreams, whatever they may be. When I want to give up, he reminds me that I can take the world by storm con que le heche las ganas.

He’s not afraid to use the L-word.

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I already know my dad loves me. He tells me every time he wakes me up with breakfast, or lectures me to try harder, or lets me sleep in when I’m tired, but it’s also important for me to hear him say it – and he has no problem doing so.


READ: 9 Father-Daughter Dances That Prove Latino Dads Don’t Two Step

Thank you to all the Latino daddies out there challenging sexist institutions for their daughters – whether they know it or not. Comment below on other ways your dad challenges machismo!

Netflix’s ‘Gentefied’ Renewed For Season 2, Fans Overjoyed

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Netflix’s ‘Gentefied’ Renewed For Season 2, Fans Overjoyed

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Any and all news is welcomed right now and Netflix came through this week. “Gentefied” is coming back for a second season and this is absolutely not a drill. Soon we will be back in Boyle Heights with Ana, Chris, Erik, and the rest of the cast we have come to love so much.

Netflix has confirmed “Gentefied” for a second season.

The show is a fan favorite for Netflix with praise and love pouring in for the groundbreaking show. “Gentefied” is set in Boyle Heights and it is all about the fight against gentrification. The show premiered this year to big fanfare and excitement from Latino Netflix users. The show, created by Marvin Lemus and Linda Yvette Chávez, was picked up for an eight-episode run of the 30-minute show.

The show is one of the most relevant portrayals of the Latino experience in the 21st century.

The show highlights the plight of gentrification on communities across the U.S. Boyle Heights in Los Angeles has been the center of growing tension as the neighborhood slowly gentrifies. Rising rents have forced some residents and businesses to close and leave because of the changing demographic in the neighborhood.

Hearts are full as everyone celebrates the news of a whole new season.

The show originally premiered at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival as a digital series. Lemus and Chávez debuted the show and it was an instant hit with festival-goers. After three years of waiting, the show was released by Netflix and became a national hit. The show has shone a light on the cost of gentrification for more Americans than knew about it before the show aired.

Low key, it has made for perfect binge-watching during this quarantine.

There isn’t a whole lot any of us can do at the moment. Most of us are at home because of self-isolation and social distancing guidelines designed to save lives during the pandemic. Might as well us some of your time to watch and support and very important moment in our community. This kind of representation is something that Latinos have been asking for.

While excited, some fans want more, like a cross-over with Starz’s “Vida.”

Now, just to be clear, we are not concerned with what it takes to make this happen. Netflix and Starz can come up with the actual plan. We are just going to be here waiting to be heard so we can all have the kind of cross-over the world deserves. Just imagine a chance for those two shows to collide in Latino excellence.

Now we wait for an air date.

We are patient. We will be here when you are ready. All you have to do is let us know when to tune in and you know we are coming through.

READ: I Watched ‘Gentefied’ On Netflix And These Are My Brutally Honest Thoughts

Latino Bookstore In North Carolina Faces Very Uncertain Future Just 6 Months After Opening

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Latino Bookstore In North Carolina Faces Very Uncertain Future Just 6 Months After Opening

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Epilogue Books Chocolate Brews is a relatively new bookstore in Chapel Hill, North Carolina that is facing a very uncertain future. The Latino-owned bookstore opened its doors to the Chapel Hill community six months ago and now COVID-19 is putting their future at risk.

Epilogue Books Chocolate Brews is a Latino-owned bookstore in North Carolina that is fighting to survive COVID-19.

Epilogue Books Chocolate Brews came from a need that the owners saw in downtown Chapel Hill. A bookshop had recently closed in the area so Jamie and Miranda Sanchez knew that it was time for them to help fill that sudden loss.

“We felt like there was a big hole in downtown,” Jaime told The Daily Tar Heel. “A bookshop creates this whole sense of community for the town so we decided to go forward and try to open our own bookstore.”

The bookstore was serving a community that needed a place to gather and discuss ideas after a former bookstore closed its doors.

“The core of our idea began years ago as the union of Jaime’s heritage and Miranda’s passion for writing and the transportive nature of reading. Wanderers and wonderers, our idea continued to grow in the plazuelas of Mexico and the chocolaterías of Spain, in the plazas of every country where such spaces form quasi-families for both the briefest of moments and the longest stretches of time,” reads the bookstore’s website. “In these spaces, people share everything from decadent chocolate to fried street food, to myth-like tales, to the memories of our own childhood selves chasing pigeons and sucking the sticky droplets from paletas off our hands.”

While the bookstore was well received by the community, the COVID-19 pandemic had other plans.

COVID-19 has swept through the U.S. and the number of cases continues to climb. While New York might be seeing fewer cases, the rest of the U.S. is in an uptick. The virus has forced businesses across the country to close or retool to be online only. That is what Epilogue Books Chocolate Brews did to make sure they can weather the storm.

The owners of the bookstore realized they needed to retool their business strategy when students stopped coming back from Spring Break.

“We started adjusting our plans in early March to accommodate for the new lack of traffic,” Jaime told NBC News. “Students weren’t coming back from spring break, so we had originally thought the locals would come out like they did during winter break to take advantage of the lack of downtown traffic, but that obviously didn’t happen because of coronavirus, so we started getting ready to adjust and pivot online for when we’d no longer be able to sustain brick and mortar operations.”

The Sanchezes are keeping their literary dream alive through the pandemic.

“Jaime’s always wanted to open a business and bring a piece of home to it,” Miranda, who is originally from Tijuana, told NBC News. “We felt that continuing that tradition of having a bookstore in the area would be a good mesh, not just of who we are as people but how we want to engage with our community. A community that works to sustain an independent bookshop has certain values.”

Independent bookstores are one of the hardest-hit businesses since readings and events in the spaces have been canceled.

Bookshop started to help struggling independent bookstores weather the storm. COVID-19 has left millions of people without jobs and businesses are having to close permanently because of the virus. Bookshop is giving independent bookstores a chance to survive the closures and social distancing.

Bookstores serve a vital role in communities. They give people a place to gather and share ideas. The easy access to literature can change the lives of children in underprivileged communities but allowing them to see themselves reflected in new lights. They also serve as a place to explore the world around you by flipping open a book cover.

If you have time on your hands and enjoy reading, check out Bookshop and build up that 2020 reading list.

READ: Celebrities Are Reading Children’s Books To Help Parents And Children Cope With COVID-19