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If You Haven’t Dated One Of These Latino Boyfriends You Don’t Know What Amor Is

We’ve all come across these guys in our lifetime…

Mama’s Boy AKA El Chiqueado

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He always dropped hints that he wanted you to do things more like his mom. “Mi mamá lo cocina diferente.” He wanted you to be more so much like her, it was low-key Norman Bates kind of creepy.

El Celoso

He invited himself to girls’ night out because he didn’t trust you, much less your friends. He thought having your Facebook password was romantic. On top of that, you caught him looking at your phone more than twice. He claimed he was checking the time ?.

El Machista

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He expected a home-cooked meal every single night. When he was around his friends he’d say things to try to prove he wore the pants, when he knew damn well that wasn’t the case. He talked to his friends about how he was a beast in bed when you both knew damn well he was a one-minute man.

El Presumido

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He always talked about money or what he just bought. His car era del año. He was also oddly obsessed with how many Instagram followers he had and expected you to you look a certain way all the time so he could show you off like his trophy.

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His image was immaculate; eyebrows always done, he waxed his entire body and his outfits were worthy of a GQ cover. He complimented you a lot, but rarely initiated intimacy. Also, his man crush for Cristiano Ronaldo was a little too strong. He might’ve been gay…

The Pushover

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He never took charge. Waited for you to plan every date, every meal, every movie. You thought it was sweet at first, but you got tired he didn’t take charge at all. He also never stood up to your sassiness, which was respectful, but kind of petty at the same time. You need a team player, not a cheerleader.

The Good Boy

He went to church every Sunday without fail and the only show he watched was La Rosa de Guadalupe. He didn’t like to party, but went with you once in a while – to count your liquor. He never went past first-base because he wanted to respect you, AKA save himself for marriage. Hello! You gotta test drive the car before you buy it ??.

READ: That Moment When You’re Miraculously Blessed By el Airecito de la Rosa de Guadalupe

The Gym-Obsessed

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You never saw him during the week because he was at the gym pumping iron. You had to say good-bye to all the tacos, tortas, cake, everything you liked, but  gained weight because all you ate was protein. And low-key, you got sick of him wearing muscle shirts all the time and it was annoying dating someone who watched their figure more than you.

El Ranchero

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He was very in touch with nature – like his family’s ranch animals. He followed tradition to the extreme which was comforting at first, but you couldn’t handle no wi-fi, no social media, no Instagram – which meant you never would’ve been his #WCW – and that’s not something you were willing to settle with.

El Cholo

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You were attracted at first because he was so tough and cool looking, and you wanted to rebel against your parents. You quickly realized dating him was too thrilling for you to handle.

The Sweetheart

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You fell for him because he had a heart of gold, but then you realized it was bittersweet. He cried more than you and was overly sensitive. He might’ve said I love you at the end of your second date – you should’ve known it wasn’t a good sign.

READ: Expectations Guys Have of Their Latina GFs

Soccer Fanatic

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Every gift he got you involved a soccer jersey or tickets to a game – when he knew you didn’t even like soccer. You knew you were going to have a bad date when his Chivas lost. You suspected he loved your team more than he claimed to love you.

Telenovela Galán

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Everything was over-the-top: dramatic, romantic, passionate. He said the cheesiest things, but you couldn’t help but swoon every time you heard them. You loved hard and fought even harder, everything was so dramatic. He celebrated every month anniversary with a gift or special dinner even after 8 years of dating. Too much.

The perfect guy is a combination of all of these. Is that too much to ask?

Latinos On Twitter Share Their Most Brutal Tales Of Rejection And Some Of The Stories Will Shock You

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Latinos On Twitter Share Their Most Brutal Tales Of Rejection And Some Of The Stories Will Shock You

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If there’s a universal human experience that unites all of humanity, it’s that we’ve all had to deal with rejection at some point or another. It’s impossible to live your life without shooting your shot when the time comes, whatever your shot may be. 

But unfortunately, not everyone can be successful 100% of the time. From contests to job opportunities, to romantic endeavors, all of us have been subject to discovering that not everyone thinks we’re as great as we think we are. Rejection, unfortunately, is a necessary part of life.

On Saturday, Twitter user @Eden_Eats asked her followers to share the stories of their “harshest rejection”.

Quickly, @Eden_Eats’s tweet about being epically friend-zoned got almost 4,000 retweets and almost 65,000 likes. All sorts of people responded to her post with stories one-upping each other on the various humiliating ways they’d been rejected. As people continued to share all the ways they’ve been let down, the tweet quickly started trending.

As usual, Twitter users jumped at the chance of publicly roasting themselves.

But, in all honesty, there’s something cathartic in sharing your emotional scars with the public. Misery loves company, right?

What was possibly most surprising about these tweets is all of the creative ways people came up with to tell others they’re not interested. Why couldn’t a simple “no, thanks” suffice?

The stories Twitter users shared ranged from the bad…

Ouch. It’s one thing to be rejected once. It’s an entirely different story to be rejected 14 times. 

To the ugly…

The upside to many of these stories is that the posters obviously dodged a bullet by getting out of these relationships. Even if this woman’s fiance didn’t buy a house without telling her, he was obviously not very skilled in the communication department in the first place.

To the downright horrifying.

Unfortunately, the rejections that are the most painful and linger for the longest time are the ones that happen during your childhood. When you’re young, you’re already impressionable. When you add a giant dose of rejection to the mix during your formative years, the experience can stick with you. 

Naturally, Latinos of Twitter hopped on the bandwagon to share their harshest stories of rejection.

Sometimes, sharing your painful memories makes you feel less alone. Reading stories about how everyone goes through the same crappy experiences and how so many of them overcame their previous pain is a beacon of light to many people. When you’re rejected, it can be easy to feel like you’re the most unwanted person in the world. The popularity of this topic on Twitter proved that this couldn’t be less true.

This Latino felt rejected after his online love interest ghosted him for being honest about his mental health journey.

Being vulnerable and honest upfront is the best way to weed out the people in your life who don’t belong there. 

This Latina was left confused after she acted on what ended up being mixed signals

Haven’t we all been in that situation where we were sure someone liked us and we ended up getting it all wrong? This girl is not alone. 

This Latina shared the saga of her boyfriend who left her for another woman with “bigger boobs”

We wish we could feel bad for all of these people, but some of them so obviously dodged a bullet that we’re happy for them. 

This Latina’s boyfriend moved her out of his place while she was SLEEPING.

The craziest thing about some of these stories is that the person doing the rejection is often too cowardly to tell the other person to their face.

This girl’s crush rejected her without even having to look at her.

Leave it to a middle school boy to do something like this. This boy joins the long list of men who have chosen a video game over a girl. 

Of course, some people have had their harshest rejection experiences from their career paths:

Dedicating your life to creative work is a surefire way to experience more rejection than the average person. But the beauty of rejection is, there’s always something better for you waiting on the other side. Nothing and no one should be in your life if it doesn’t want to be there. 

From Strained Family Ties To Outright Abuse, These Women Opened Up About Interracial Dating

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From Strained Family Ties To Outright Abuse, These Women Opened Up About Interracial Dating

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Many of us date people from different cultures and backgrounds. We asked our FIERCE community if they had stories related to the issues they had dating someone of a different ethnicity and the responses were enlightening, hopeful and sometimes even a bit heartbreaking.

Differences can be overwhelming but interest is super key.

“For me was so difficult. I’m Mexican, raise and born in Mexico and I was dating with a Xicano man, but he never was into the Mexican culture… long story short, we broke up. Some differences were overwhelming.”

Expressing excitement over exchanging cultures goes a long way.

“My husband of 13 years is a white American while I’m Mexican American, first born generation of immigrants. He loves my heritage and appreciates my family. He gravitates toward our culture because his family doesn’t really have anything like that except being American, which is kind of boring to him. They know they are a big mix of English, Irish, and Scottish with some Dutch and German but that’s really the extent of it… he’s also learned Spanish and went with me to live in Cuernavaca for a month to study.”

The sad truth is that fear of being judged or mistreated sometimes keeps us from such fulfilling relationships.

“We don’t. We get dirty looks everywhere we go. I’m either a traitor or a thief.”

Previous interactions with other races and proper communication are vital

“I think both of us being bi-racial (myself being Ecuadorian and Irish, my bf being Black and Polish) has shown us that there are many different ways to do the same thing and that not all things are as they appear. When we run into those cultural differences, it helps to try to see the duality of the situation. Communication and respect are [key].”

You can both learn about your cultures together.

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“I play him the Mexican survival guide videos. Very accurate, also lots of communication!”

Talk about the shared struggles of your cultures.

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” I’m really passionate about this topic. I’m Mexican-American & my husband is South African. Like my parents, he’s an immigrant. A white immigrant. While the differences of being a white immigrant and a Mexican one are obvious, it’s the shared struggles & similar perspectives that are worth highlighting.
One perspective that has struck me is when my husband said, “I noticed Americans don’t make eye contact. In South Africa we at least acknowledge a person by doing so….” then I sarcastically thought to myself, ‘wow, what an idea. People recognizing the existence of other human beings.” Though I am guilty of this! BUT. Why am I guilty of this? Could it be that I was raised to acknowledge others even if it meant hugging every tia & tio in the room? Or my favorite, less intimidating way of respectfully recognizing that your fellow humans are present while also respecting your boundaries: greeting a room full of strangers with a smile & a “buenos días,” as you sit quietly in an open chair at the doctors office? But we don’t do this in America, at least not where I’m from. Most of us tend to do the opposite of acknowledge each other.
So back to the point:
we navigate our cultural differences by having these kinds of dialogues; connecting the dots. Mapping out how different humans attempt to figure out this crazy world we live where a wild fascination with the color of skin & borders exist. Who are we when we let go of our country & our skin?”

Speak up but also listen and learn.

“I’m Mexican and my bf is black/puerto rican my family has knew about him before when I talked to him in high school but they never really liked the fact that we were together so they separated me from him and made me switch high schools my senior year it was hard I talked to other people the two years we lost contact but realized he’s my happiness and now I gave us another chance without my family knowing I’m still figuring out how I’m going to let everyone know Ik that some of my family will shut me out because they are really old school/ traditional Mexicans and what me to be with someone of my race and my beliefs but we love each other so we are gonna make this work.”

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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“Respect, appreciation and being open to conversation. He still thinks I’m a little crazy for wanting to one day pierce our future daughter’s ears.”

When you have kids, be sure keep your families involved.

“Been in a 10 year relationship. My husband is Asian and it’s been so hard even til now. His family has a hard time dealing with the fact that he is with a Mexican woman. We have two kids and I can count with one hand how many times they have seen my kids. I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. My son looks completely Asian and my daughter looks mixed. Just a few days ago he asked me why me and his dad look so different and I told him we are from two different ethnicities, different parts of the world. He said he wished he was only Mexican and looked like mommy  it’s hard because my family is all he’s ever had. We try to visit his family but they always say they are busy. Being in a interracial relationship has been so hard for me. It’s been so draining they even encouraged him to cheat in the beginning of our marriage. I’m drained, don’t know how much longer I can do this for. I know this is not the case for all interracial relationships but it’s been hell for me.”