As you grow older and your friends and family begin to have children, there’s a chance you might be chosen to be the godparent, which would make you la comadre or el compadre. But are you prepared for the responsibilities? Here are a few things you can expect…
When your godchild is born, you’re expected to hook up the baby with their first name tag piece of jewelry.
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And he or she better have it ready to wear the day they leave the hospital.
If it weren’t for the baptism, you probably wouldn’t become a comadre / compadre… So you better pitch in for the fiesta.
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Con el bolo. It’s the only time you’ll see kids diving for coins instead of candy.
Religious ceremonies aside, la comadre is looked to to bring food for parties or to help cook.
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So if your comadre is ever mad at you, it’s because you didn’t help with the food.
And el compa usually handles las cervezas.
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You have to take at leeeeast a six pack. But the more cerveza you take, the happier your compadre will be.
When it comes to bigger parties, los compadres are expected to pitch in some $$ para la banda.
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Because what would your godchild’s first birthday party without a banda?
From then on, you goddaughter/godson better receive the best gift from you.
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Don’t disappoint with cheap gifts.
Comadres *have* to keep each other updated on the latest chisme.
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There really isn’t a better type of bonding for comadres than a good chisme exchange.
And party together.
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And it’s always a blast. #SALUDCOMPA
Las comadres y compadres have each others’ backs.
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You have to be there to catch them and help lift them when they’re at their lowest.
And always support each other.
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Because what’s a comadre or compadre without a helping hand?
More importantly, las comadres y los compadres have to love each other the most through thick and thin.
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But above all, this is a promise to guide this little one through life.
Family is everything, but having a BFF you can tell anything to, who understands the social complexities of having a huge family, being first gen, and trying to make it in this world is something everyone deserves.
These comadres keep you grounded. They shower you with love, apoyo and laughs year round. So what do you give your besties who’ve always been there for you? Here are a few gifts that’ll remind them how much you appreciate them.
CHISMOSAS 4 EVER PIN PACK $14.99
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Mujeres who chismean together stay together. Send this to your better half and let her know how much you appreciate your talks with this Chismosas 4 Life pin set.
A sturdy and warm sweatshirt bound to keep you warm in the colder months. A pre-shrunk, classic fit sweater that’s made with air-jet spun yarn for a soft feel.
3Doodler Create+ Pen | $80
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It’s a steep gift, but it’ll feel like a kid’s Christmas for your non-stop doodling BFF. Yes, it’s a glorified hot glue gun, but a very dreamy gift for the Frida Kahlo-to-be in your life.
“Tesoro” by Yesika Salgado | $13.50
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If you’ve already absorbed the poderosa of Salgado’s first anthology, “Corazón,” you know that her second born is set to ignite a generation of mujeres uprising. Nourish your BFF’s heart and Latinidad in a way only Salgado can.
Mazapan Phone Case | $25
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Por la mujer in your life that won’t take anything from no pendejo but whose ready to fall to pieces when the right one gets close. Tell her you’re just helping out with a portable disclaimer.
For the Mexicana whose not afraid to be proud of her conchas, this camiseta es perfecto. Exclusive to we are mitú.
P.F. Candle Co. Geranium Terra | $48
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For the BFF that you know will one day have a yard full of terra cotta plants and terra cotta mujeres. It’s her aesthetic. Go with it.
MojiPower Avocado Portable Power Bank | $28
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Get it? For the BFF powered by guac. Make that a reality for her internet persona támbien.
Kahlo By Andrea Kettenmann | $15
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For the BFF you know is ready to pour over this comprehensive collection of Kahlo’s work, the significance of her work as a feminist, Latinx, gender-bending queer icon. Observe the tears spill. You did that.
For la chismosa: give her something to spill that tea with. She will love the “Mean Girls” reference and totally be grateful for another way to sip that tea.
This is the perfect gift for that friend who lives somewhere warm enough to enjoy it on Christmas day. Believe it or not, there are so many of us in warm, tropical climates for Christmas.
Cheeky Stamp Blendable Blush | $24
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For the Makeup Guru amiga who already has Fenty Beauty’s entire line, and then some. I think America might be ready for this future age goodness, or your friend can just blend that blush right in.
Decolonize Your Diet: Plant-Based Mexican-American Recipes for Health and Healing by Luz Calvo and Catriona Rueda Esquibel | $18
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For your newly vegan comadre who you know will scream to find out what doesn’t taste like grass. These authors look back hundreds of year before Spain colonized Mesoamerica. They found that the healing properties of plant-based traditional diet is more important than ever. Read it and feast.
Selena Gomez Cookie Cutter | $34
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Because, guapa, we’re making more than just sugar cookies this year. It’s the Eucharist of our generation.
Preciosa Camiseta | $30
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You already know exactly who to get this for because you know she’s going to wear that ish proud in the club. Support your local Latina Etsy artist and your local loca all at the same time.
Bruja Beanie $15
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She’s bad y bruja and she needs everyone to know it. It’s the kind of crown you don’t buy for yourself. Crown her.
