Ramirez-Bodley’s aunt had taught her how to crochet when she was 4 years old. She did research on the Internet and found other dresses to give her all the inspiration she needed to go through with her plan.
Her husband was skeptical when Ramirez-Bodley first had the idea.
When it comes to wedding taboos, actual ceremonies can be a minefield for disaster. From appropriate colors to wear, types of headgear (never wear a tiara if it’s not your day!), and dance floor gags and wedding toasts, it seems that when it comes to W-day anything can go wrong.
Especially when guests with free-minds are attending.
Likely no one has a keener understanding of wedding day madness than Twitter user Amy Pennza who recently shared a post to Twitter of possibly the worst wedding faux pas occurrence ever. Turns out it also happened at her very own wedding in 2004.
Pennza’s own mother-in-law showed up to her ceremony wearing a long, white gown ― AKA, a wedding dress.
Fortunately, Pennza explained the incident in a thread to her account and as it turns out the nightmarish moment and the MIL are much more redeemable than we’d ever thought. According to Pennza, the MIL, who continues to struggle with letting go of her early years as a child in poverty, could not pass up on a sale at Dillard’s.
Fortunately, Pennza’s post unleashed a series of more tweets about similarly nightmarish stories.
Such as this bride’s madre y suegra match.
Can anyone say “twinning”?
And this novia’s big flop moment in front of a camera.
This bride says that in an innocent attempt to reinvent the Pinterest classic, she ended up eating it.
This officiant’s super odd replacement for communion.
BUT tbh this Boricua’s officiant gets it ride. Dunkin’ truly is the bread of life.
This Latina who got tricked and broke off the engagement.
Oof. Actually this horrific story sounds like a nightmare. Here’s hoping the groom grew up right quick after this.
This mujer whose mother literally LOST her wedding dress.
My girl. How does a wedding dress fly off of an actual car?? Can’t imagine how this poor girl’s mother felt after this happened. Fortunately, the thrift bride was able to find a replacement dress on time!
A destination wedding that has already been abandoned before it took off.
Okay but for real… doesn’t everyone low-key assume that a destination wedding is supposed to exclude?
This story of abuela serving the ultimate mal de ojo.
Ay yay yay. This story of a Latina who had previously been married being shamed just before she walked down the aisle could have been the worst, fortunately she served her own snap back.
This poor bride who was called a racial slur.
Unfortunately, stupid is as stupid does and stupid does exist in the world. Even at weddings. Fortunately this bride who was called a “dirty Mexican” during a drunken toast took things in stride.
And finally a sweet story to beat them all.
This one might definitely make you rethink how you pick out your groom’s men and flower girls but it’s still pretty cute.
Some people seem to forget what weddings really are. Weddings are not about the canapés, the first dance or the ties the groomsmen wear, but about the beginning of a long life together. Yes, that means morning dragon breath, sickness, laundry, bills and maybe snotty bundles of smelly cuteness called babies. The wedding goes by fast and the laughs, drama, and hangovers are soon forgotten. What remains is the discovery of oneself and of the other. So unless you are 100% sure you want to take on that joyous but often rocky path of discovery, you have the right to change your mind right up to the last minute. Sometimes women are forced into marriage, either through violent means or by partners who are passive aggressive and basically guilt their girlfriends into marriage.
However, popular culture and la pinche sociedad machista have demonized those who cancel a wedding, particularly if the one who took the brave but uncomfortable choice is a woman. From romcoms (which stink of heteronormativity by the way) like Julia Roberts’ Runaway Bride to crappy reality shows, the groom is often seen as the victim and the bride as a coward runaway. Why not change the discourse, question choices and think that perhaps it was a bad relationship that needed to end? An engagement ring is not a death sentence and even if you have sent out the invitations, it is your life, your future, your corazón and your body that need to matter the most.
Here are stories of eleven wedding cancellations (for tips on what to expect if you do this, read here). If you wanna keep reading just make a vow: I shall not judge. If you feel the urge to judge these women, and men, who decided to take back their lives instead of committing to a marriage that would not have been a happy one, then please piensa bien en tus ideales en la vida.
1. This queen who lay the rules right from the start: no te metas en lo que no te importa.
Credit: Instagram. @paidcable
This woman has a very clear message. You never know what is going on in a person’s life. If you felt offended because you had already bought a gift and an outfit for the canceled wedding and need to vent out andando de chismosa, well, dude, just stop. Good on you @paidcable!
2. This chap who no perdió el estilo and who has some amazing friends
Credit: Instagram. @gunnerss
This guy is totally right: when you cancel a wedding, emotions run high, and some people actually take it as an act that affects THEM! As if… @gunnerss knows that real friends are there in sickness and in health until death do us part.
3. Now repeat after us: #justsayno #noshame
Credit: Instagram. @evesturges
We love it when women stick together and just say “it is all OK, your life will go on” and, most importantly, “NO SHAME”. Yes, there is no shame in canceling a night, but there is shame in not being true to yourself and getting into a marriage that might be doomed from the start. You might not really love the dude, y se permite, no pasa nada. The hardest word to say is sometimes a simple “no”, but saying it can be life-defining.
4. This lady and her life partner who decided to press the PAUSE button
Credit: Instagram. @misspilsner
We love this post about a couple who canceled the wedding and decided to seek help, get counseling and be at a better place before tying the knot. Sometimes it is not about the person not being right for you, but about the relationship needing more work before the ultimate “I do”.
5. This woman who was rescued by her boyfriend’s female friend
Credit: Twitter. @SanMar0714
This woman basically dodged a womanizer. A Twitter user who had been wooed by the groom contacted the bride, telling her that she had been receiving texts of a not-so-innocent nature from him. The rest, as they say, is history. The bodorrio was cancelled and the bride even ended up at the hospital. Her life with this jijodesu would have been even worse though, so she made the brave, wise choice.
6. But the infidelidad can be even worse when it involves the bride’s family
Credit: Twitter. @pedromurillojr
We hate the manera burlona in which this story is presented, but we decided to include it as it shows how vicious men can be about stories of failed weddings, what toxic masculinity looks like (if you are a dude reading this, take not on what NOT to do). It is no laughing matter: the groom cheated on the bride with her cousin. A relationship and a family relationship shattered. The matrimonio would have been a house of deceit, though.
7. A good end to a failed wedding
Credit: Twitter. @aciprensa
We love what a woman from Indiana, whose $30,000 wedding was canceled, didn’t want it all to go to waste… so she decided to host a grand banquet for the homeless. What a great action. This is a lot of good karma and brownie points in her future life as a strong, independent, single woman. Te amamos.
8. This woman who experienced the most awkward moment of all time
Credit: Instagram. @thespacenymph
Do yourself a favor and read this woman’s story. She likes trying on wedding dresses ever since she was bound to get married. She was doing this with her current BF and surprise… she bumps into her ex-suegros. Ouch! What a way to go down memory lane… or rather, highway to hell!
9. This lady who wants to wear that gorge smile and not that wedding dress
Credit: Instagram. @mecmcgie
The hashtags say it all: #almostabride #dodgedabullet #cancelledwedding #happilyeverafterthebreakup. She knew deep in her heart that she would be better off without the dude. In her own words, she dodged a bullet. We hope she treated herself with the $450 she sold the dress for!
10. Wow, this story of self-care and inspiration
Credit: Instagram. @melbay86
We love this success story: it is bittersweet because of the breakup and the fact her mother is no longer here, but it is inspiring in that she took the life-changing event of a canceled wedding as the first step towards discovery and personal betterment. We can only say “te mereces eso y todo lo bueno que venga, reina”.
11. This tale of deceit and a brave woman who faced the truth
Credit: image. Digital Image. She Said.
A common mistake for people who are about to get married is overlooking the evident flaws that a partner can have. Nadie es perfecto and we can all be better, but sometimes you don’t want to put up with certain things. And that is fair and you have the right to say no. If you are in a similar situation, read the story by Julia Park Tracey in which she accepts being blown away by the sparkles. She writes in her essay” Why I Cancelled My Wedding At The Last Second”: “I didn’t notice the drinking and overlooked the drugs, which he said he didn’t do anymore and went ahead with plans for a big wedding; it was part of the fantasy of marrying Prince Charming”. As we said, the wedding is not the most important part of that night, but the actual “ever after” that follows.
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