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Selena Answers that Same Old Question, It Tears Us Up

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As she posed for the camera in a Downtown L.A. motel that charges by the hour, Selena Gomez says she never intended for her life to become a tabloid.

The photoshoot was for InStyle UK and in the interview she revealed — or repeated — that she was tired of talking about Justin Bieber. We get it. We’re tired of Justin Bieber, too.

READ: Sorry Justin, Selena Gomez is Definitely Over You

In fact, she’s dating someone else — and she won’t say much more. “It’s hard and I’m weirded out by the idea that a guy has googled me before we meet, and that has happened.” She adds: “I feel like I look 16 sometimes, which is a bummer because I would love to date older guys.” We’re sure older guys would love to date her too, but we’re not going to make it weird.

She also talked about her bestie Taylor Swift and how their typical girls night is not about PJs and pillow fights, but mostly talking about boys and regrets. Wait… isn’t THAT a typical girls night?

Read more about what Selena has to say about her body, boys and her family here.

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Selena Gomez Is Fighting To Make Sure That Everyone Can Speak Openly And Honestly About Getting Help For Their Mental Health

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Selena Gomez Is Fighting To Make Sure That Everyone Can Speak Openly And Honestly About Getting Help For Their Mental Health

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Selena Marie Gomez (born in Texas in 1992) has been in the public eye for as long as she can remember. She has been a role model for young girls as a singer and an actress and now is involved in more risqué films such as Spring Breakers, a delirious film by indie filmmaker Harmony Korine. Besides having a strong onscreen persona, Gomez has been in relationships with the likes of Justin Bieber, which of course turned the paparazzi attention and cameras to her. Suddenly, when she was barely a teenager her every move was being followed. Her life was sort of predestined to be great when she was named after the great late Selena Quintanilla. However, she has had to deal with divorce (her parents separated when she was five-years-old) and with weak health, as she was diagnosed with lupus, an auto-immune disease, which ultimately forced her to get a kidney transplant. She found strength in her mom. Gomez has said that her mother “was really strong around me. Having me at 16 had to have been a big responsibility. She gave up everything for me, had three jobs, supported me, sacrificed her life for me.” That must provide so much strength for a woman of barely 26 but who has gone through more in her lifetime than many 50-year-olds.

This must not be easy for anyone, even more so for a Latino woman. Gomez knows that she has a microphone and that she can get to other girls and women. “The older I get, the prouder I am to be a woman in the industry. When I was younger and running around all the time on tour, I don’t think I took the time to notice how being a woman in my position is really a gift. I want to make sure I utilize all that power,” the young Latina star told Into the GlossShe has used this position of privilege to raise awareness on mental health issues, including suicide prevention, both as a celebrity and as a producer. She is also a supporter of associations such as Make A Wish (which grants children diagnosed with life-threatening conditions), the Alliance for Children’s Rights and the Ryan Seacrest Foundation. 

Selena Gomez fights for friendships above anything else: girl power.

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Gomez values friendship and spreads the word. She has such loyal friends that one even donated a kidney when Gomez needed a transplant. She says: “People are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach you lessons”: Selena, we couldn’t agree more.

She gets politically enraged when it matters.

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Gomez knows that a lot of mental health issues concerning young women are related to the policing of their sexuality and reproductive rights. She gets political when she feels the need to, particularly with issues concerning the mental health and general wellbeing of young women like herself. 

She asks her fans to be strong, but to also look for help when needed.

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Her advice: “I’ve learned there’s power deep down inside yourself, and you can find it when you don’t give up on yourself and when you ask for help.” This is so real it hurts: even someone like her, who in the eyes of her fans might seem to have it all, needs to be humble and honest in reaching out to others when the world seems bleak. There is always someone who cares if you are OK. 

She stands up for migrants.

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Gomez doesn’t get political often, but when she does she always stands up for the minority communities. She has been a vocal advocate for migrant rights and the rights of women. She even wore a 1973 necklace as one of very few Latina celebs speaking up for abortion rights.

She even takes a stand from DACA recipients and Dreamers.

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She has used her social media accounts, which have followers in the millions, to call her fans to action. She is clearly showing the world that she does care and she is paying attention. 

She delivers a message of self-acceptance, which led her to produce 13 Reasons Why.

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Gomez’s mother, Amanda, had her when she was just 16, and then raised her by herself. She was also the one that gave Gomez the book on which the Netflix show 13 Reasons Why is based. The show was controversial because it spoke about mental health issues and suicide, topics that are fundamental to discuss with young vulnerable populations but that remain a taboo. However, Gomez’s message is optimistic. She has said: “I promise you that each and every one of you is made to be who you are and that’s what’s so attractive and beautiful.” Preach! 

13 Reasons Why put mental health issues at the forefront of public media debate.

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“I get it all day, every day, that I’m not sexy enough, or I’m not cool enough, or if I did this I would be accepted… I promise you that each and every one of you is made to be who you are and that’s what’s so attractive and beautiful. Please don’t forget that, even when it gets hard,” she said in an interview for the Huffington PostAnd this is exactly the message that she conveys in her project. Taking on Jay Asher’s literary world, she and the series creative team were able to show mental health and suicide from all possible angles. 

She takes fame with a grain of salt.

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She has been famous for a big portion of her life, but she knows that todo es pasajero, and that at the end who you are does not depend merely on adulation: “You are not defined by an Instagram photo, by a ‘Like,’ by a comment. That does not define you.”

Body positivity is her mantra.

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“I feel very empowered and confident and comfortable with where I am. And I think it took me a long time to get there because, you know, the past year was so interesting because I’ve never been body-shamed before… I did gain weight, but I don’t care,” she said at On Air with Ryan SeacrestThis is a great, positive message for someone who is followed by millions of young women throughout the world, particularly in a day and age when standards of beauty are twisted and self-love is hard to achieve. 

She is an active advocate of girl power.

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Perhaps following the example of her mother, who basically raised her alone while holding down as many jobs as necessary to make ends meet, Gomez says: “I don’t want to become little or hurt or a victim. I want to be strong for girls…I just want them to know that there is an option of standing up for yourself.” Additionally, she was named a United Nations Ambassador in 2009, and in this role, she has worked particularly in empowering vulnerable children by helping provide clean water, education, and medical services. 

You learn from your mistakes.

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Perhaps most importantly, she knows that many see her as a role model and that this brings a huge deal of responsibility. “I’m human, I’m not perfect. I make mistakes all the time, but I guess my job is to keep those mistakes to myself, which I’m already fine doing and just try to be the best I can be for those kids,” she told E! Online.

READ: “13 Reasons Why” Does Much More Than Glorify Suicide, Selena Gomez Explained

The Queen Of Rap Shows Love For The Queen Of Pop And We Are All Freaking Out

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The Queen Of Rap Shows Love For The Queen Of Pop And We Are All Freaking Out

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If you follow the online chatter, it’s no surprise that Cardi B is a megafan when it comes to Britney Spears. So it should be even less of a surprise that Cardi B has come to the defense of Britney during her most recent personal struggles. The Queen of Pop was recently in a care facility for her mental health and it set off a firestorm of comparisons to the 2007 Britney Spears we all remember. Here’s how Cardi B reacted when asked about the recent news about one of America’s greatest icons.

In a recent ET interview, Cardi B came out swinging for Britney and, well, check it out.

Cardi B touched on her admiration for the pop star and even said she loves the idea of a possible Cardi B x Britney Spears collaboration in the future. [gasps in gaytino]

However, things got serious when the topic of Spears’s recent personal struggles came up – including a restraining order against her ex-manager and a stay at a mental health facility.

“I love you and I totally understand,” Cardi B said in a heartfelt message to Spears. “Fame will really drive you insane. Not only will fame drive you insane, but it’s like, once you have money, and everybody just wants to take it from you, or sometimes you just have, like, your own personal problems.”

Both Cardi B and Britney fans were living for this show of genuine support.

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It is one of the most succinct ways to explain why celebrities some times snap. The pressures of being famous is a lot for some people to handle. Cardi B understands and even sees hoe it can cause someone to snap and lose all control of themselves.

People were losing it over the Queen of Rap giving the Queen of Pop some much-needed love.

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How often do we get to see celebs having one another’s back? Especially with something so sensitive. People are so grateful that a fellow celeb, someone who has experienced the pressures of fame, is speaking up on these issues.

Cardi B then went on to lament the lack of privacy for celebrities and said she sympathizes with Spears. Cardi B also understands that the length of time Spears has been in the public eye is even more of an obstacle.

“When you’re a celebrity, everyone wants to sue you, everyone wants a piece of the money that you work for,” Cardi B continued. “It’s very frustrating.”

The singer also had a fangirl moment when she saw Spears working out to her hit song “I Like It.”

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“It’s so dope because I’m a very big Britney Spears fan,” Cardi told ET, before launching into a little bit of Britney’s 2007 hit, “Piece of Me.”

Meanwhile, the Mississippi native checked out of the California facility after she completed her 30-day treatment on April 25.

Spears herself has also tried setting the record straight on some of the gossip that was going on around her. In a recent Instagram post, she says “I just wanted to say hi because things that are being sad have just gotten out of control!!! Wow!!! There’s rumors, death threats to my family and my team and just so many things crazy things being said. I am trying to take a moment for myself, but everything that’s happening is just making it harder for me. Don’t believe everything you read and hear.”

This all adds more drama to the #FreeBritney movement.

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Even Spears asked the judge for certain adjustments to her conservatorship but didn’t get them. This must make the support from a fellow star that much more special.

We’re rooting for you Britney and truly hope that Cardi B x Britney collab happens soon.

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