Demi Lovato has long been outspoken about what it’s like living with addiction, bulimia and bipolar disorder, particularly in the wake of her time in rehab. Now the singer/actress is doing even more to give others the resources to become healthy by becoming a co-owner of CAST Centers, the same group of rehabilitation centers she turned to for help.
Demi told CBS’s “Sunday Morning” correspondent Tracy Smith that, even though she wasn’t exactly the most receptive patient to ever walk through the facility’s doors (“Yeah, I was a nightmare,” she said.), she ultimately benefitted from the experience and now wants to now do her part to help others find that same peace:
“It sounds ridiculous but, like, I kind of made a pact with God. And I don’t even think you’re supposed to do that, but I was, like, I promised, ‘If you make me a singer one day, I’m going to use my voice for so much more than singing, and I’m going to help people with it.”
No matter how old you are, you’ll always remember what it was like to get your first period. Of course, we all have different experiences with them. For some, our first periods were kind of a bit traumatizing. For others, it was was one of the most empowering moments of our lives.
To celebrate our first periods, we asked FIERCE Latinas to share their experiences and the stories were both sweet and hilarious.
Check out some of the stories below!
This gift from god period.
“I got mine on Christmas when I was 12, and my aunt was like “it’s a gift from God!” – 444nates
This one that sparked tears.
“I was 11 and it was Valentine’s Day in sixth grade. I was wearing black pants but I was so scared to tell anyone so when I got home I tried to cover it up like nothing happened. The next morning when I woke up for school my sister was the one who noticed because there was blood on my shorts. She called my mom and my mom came home from work and cried because “I was a woman now” so then I started crying cause I was scared 😂 my mom let me stay home from school for the week and my dad told her she should stay with me so I’m comfortable.” – lichensnfronds
This one that came to church.
“I got mine during morning Sunday mass. I felt wet and I went to bathroom and when I looked down I was like, “oh god it’s happening awww man. I shouldn’t have made fun of yesenia for getting her’s last week.” – angiemhrndz
What is it with periods on holy days, seriously?
“Easter Sunday. 10 years old almost 11, I freaked out in the bathroom of the church.” – dearmelrose
This one that gives Remember the Alamo a different sentiment.
“It was Summertime and our parents always had different activities planned for us. This particular day, we were visiting The Alamo. I was 10 and right before leaving I made that last minute bathroom trip when I realized I got my period. I called my mom and she immediately gave me a pep talk & the stuff I needed, I already knew about it but was surprised. I was like “We’re STILL going to The Alamo?!” Needless to say “Remember The Alamo” has an entirely different meaning for me!!” – tish1972
This one that took some time to share with her mom.
“I was 16 when I got my period… and I was scared didn’t told my mom until late that day. I was using two chones meanwhile.” – tatiana.r92
And this one that came at a really bad time.
“I got mine on Father’s Day with my brother and dad at the movie theaters I went to the bathroom and didn’t know what to do because I had nothing with me and my dad knocked on the door and told me to hurry up and what was taking so long so I put a lot of paper and waited till I got home.” – _jessica_silva17
This one that traumatized.
“11 at home, I think!? I had an older sister and classes were they gave us free pads and educated us on the subject. Still traumatizing lol.” – k.cuzco
This one that came a bit early and at a hard time.
“I was a little over a month shy of 10 years old. My mom was in prison and I was living with my dad and his new wife. (Who 20+ years later is still not a mom to her own children so she def wasn’t tryin to be mine) My friend had stayed the night and we were just waking up. I was crying in the bathroom so she got my dad, who got his wife, who said “it’s okay, you’re fine. ” Then handed me a pad she received from the hospital after giving birth to my brother a week or so prior. When my mom called that day she started crying and apologizing for not being there for me. I swore to my girls I’d be there for them always. When my almost 12 year old called me a few Saturday mornings ago from her dad’s house and let me know she had gotten hers, I jumped outta bed and went straight to her. I can’t do anything about the way I grew up, I can only make sure my daughters have a better go of it.” – xicana_402
This one that made her think she was dying.
“11 and the bus ride home from school. I thought I was dying.” – reinders.v
“Started one morning that I had basketball practice before school in 8th grade. Mom couldn’t drive me so I had to walk myself to school, got in trouble for being late, and I remember wanting to cry cause I was both shook and pissed off for being punished by mother nature AND my coach.” – cynthia_a7
When a baby came the same day as her period.
“My mom had just given birth to my brother (I was 10) and I was at the hospital. My grandma ran out and said,”it happened! A baby and a period in the same day!” – ashleylynne92
This one that came with a super sweet gift.
“I was 9 & at the apple store bc my uncle was kind enough to buy me an ipod and i geniuenly thought i had peed myself or something and i told my mom but she got confused and told me to hold it till we got home. then i went to the bathroom when i got home and panicked so i told my mom and she had to just do a mini explanation.” – crystalramirezx
This one that ruined a pair of super cute shorts.
“12 was ecstatic to wear my new all white glitter shorts. Summer vacation, I step out my room feeling my myself passed my dad he nearly fainted (didn’t say a word) went to my mom a floor down and I was about to sit in the white sofas we had before I twirled for my mom to show her my outfit when she stopped gasped and told me to shower. The rest I don’t remember what happened, I do know we threw my shirts away. Wore them for maybe 30 mins.” – gu.pita
This one that was poorly timed because of an RBD announcement
‘Back when RBD announced they were splitting up 🥺 worst week ever tbh.” – josiiiee__
This super sad story that ended with being bullied.
“oh boy do i remember. So I was in private school with 75 students. And out of all the students I was the last one to get it. I was 14 years old everyone in my school was considered a woman and I was always made fun of because I was still a child (their words not mine) so the day I got mine somehow Everyone in my school found out. And some asshole’s decided to put condoms in my backpack I didn’t know they put him there so when I went to open my backpack day fell out and I was sent to the principals office and I had to explain to her that I was being bullied because I was the last one to get my. At that school. middle school dont ever want to do that again.” – memylerena
And this story that proves no shorts are safe when it comes to first periods!
“I was about 11 years old. I was playing outside with my primas and I remember feeling my biker shorts (it’s was the 90’s lol) get wet. I ran to the bathroom and I was bleeding. I called for my mom and my prima @d_quiin came to the bathroom and explained to me what I should do. I remember her telling me, not to eat lemon and other things meanwhile on it. Lol!” – esperanza_and_friends
For all of the societal issues and pressures that Latinas are currently dealing with today, no doubt it’s important for us to have access to mental health tools. Seeing a psychiatrist or therapist can help with managing the strange times we are currently experiencing or, at the very least, help us to cope with them. But diving deep into personal traumas and issues can have different effects for different people. For some, the period after a session can be brutal, like a therapy hangover. For others, it can be insightful and empowering.
Recently, in an effort to normalize therapy, we asked Latinas how they typically feel right after a session and the responses were pretty insightful.
Check them out below.
The period after the session can be emotional.
“Once a week! There is always work to be done on myself and navigating that with the right therapist makes a huge difference. As someone with depression and anxiety, I have to protect myself in these emotional times while also have a space to heal from past traumas.” – carina.s.cruz
It can make some people feel on top of the world.
“I don’t talk to a therapist anymore but I remember feeling so good after my sessions, my therapist was amazing and some days I miss having those sessions.” – lxandreaa
Sometimes it can feel like its the best part of the week.
“I used to do biweekly, but now I switched it to weekly. It’s honestly the best part of my week. I can let me guard down and I don’t have to pretend that everything is ok. It’s nice to have an hour to openly process my grief and get valuable insight that leaves me feeling stronger and empowered.” – alexis.eileennn
So helpful that sometimes it’s worth doubling up on sessions.
“Weekly! And if she plans a two-week vacation, two times a week! 😆 I’ve been going to her for five years. I can’t imagine my life without her rn.” – likekatiebutwithanh
But ultimately for many Latinas, the period after a session can be empowering.
“Every two weeks! I feel empowered. I feel lighter. I feel like I have a solid compass in hand helping me on my journey. It helped to find someone who understood BIPOC trauma and generational racism so that I didn’t have to validate my experiences at the onset. My only regret is that I didn’t do therapy earlier in my life.” – feliciagonzalezbrown