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A Gay Latina Came Out to Her Family and Took Photos of the Moment She Broke the News

Paola Paredes is an Ecuadorian photographer who kept her sexuality hidden from her parents for years. Fed up with keeping her sexuality a secret, Paredes decided to come out to her family in a way only a photographer could: by documenting the whole experience. Paredes set up three cameras in a room and broke the news to her parents and two sisters. The results are gripping.

It was a tough conversation to start.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

Paredes wrote on her blog that starting the conversation was hard. She stared at the table for a while before she was able to muster up the courage to tell her parents two words: “I’m gay.”

Which is natural because coming out to your parents is terrifying.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

And being in a Latino family can make the fear of coming out much more intense, due to the strong religious influences in Latino culture.

There were three angles that captured Paredes’s coming out.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“When I sat down to edit the photographs, there were thousands of frames; nonetheless, I found only one in which one person – one of my sisters – looks straight at the camera. The rest of us didn’t even flinch at the cameras. That gives you an idea of how their presence was not felt that much,” Paredes told Fotografia.

READ: Latino, Gay, and Undocumented in the Rural South

After years of hiding her true self, her family got to meet the real Paola Paredes.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“Upon researching an idea I wanted to work on I found a book called Stolen Glances: Lesbians Take PhotographsI was taken by the many lovely pictures done by various female artists, expressing their sexuality through photography. I knew then and there that I wanted to do a project similar to that, one that would be close to my heart,” Paredes told Huffington Post.

Paredes’s parents did not respond immediately.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

They sat there as they listened to their daughter talk about the hurt and struggle she had coming to terms with her sexuality.

When her parents spoke, it was with love.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“We don’t care. We love you,” Paredes recalls her parents saying on her project Unveiled.

The emotional conversation lasted for hours.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“I had a chance to tell my family what I had gone through as a teenager, how hard it had been to accept myself for who I was. They listened intently,”  wrote Paredes on her site.

Her family loves and accepts her but dealing with Ecuador’s conservative culture is challenging.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“As far as their acceptance goes, they are going through a process of their own. The most challenging part for them is living in a place as conservative and Catholic as Ecuador, where being gay is still disapproved. I can tell that’s hard on them,” Paredes told Fotografia.

The emotional rollercoaster ended with a family smoke session.

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Credit: Paoloa Paredes / Unveiled

“At one point Mum got up to get a carton of cigarettes, placing it on the table when she returned. We all reached for one in unison. None of us were really big smokers, and we rarely smoked together,” Paredes wrote.

What do you think about Paolo Paredes’s coming out experience? Did you have a similar experience? mitú wants to know. Tell us in the comments below!

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Band-Aids Won't Fix Bullet Holes but these Latinas Will Always Have Your Back

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Band-Aids Won’t Fix Bullet Holes but these Latinas Will Always Have Your Back

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Selena Gomez, aka Taylor Swift BFF, has stuck by the country-turned-pop singer through breakups, makeups and awkward dancing. Selena is only about 10% of Taylor’s squad that drove teens to label her group as the ultimate in #SquadGoals. And while Zendaya and Lili Aldrige are cool, what Taylor really needs are more faster-to-have-your-back, save-you-before-you-step-out-looking-a-mess, salsa-groovin’ chicas in her squad.  This is how Tay can go from #SquadGoals to #UltimateSquadGoals…

The Touring Partner: Becky G

Taylor, we know how much you love having special guests at your concert, but with Becky G you wouldn’t need to invite half a dozen artists on stage. She’s got enough fire to keep the party going all night.

The Shopping Buddy with Impeccable Taste: Camila Cabello

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This one should be easy, Tay Tay. You already know her. In fact, you threw her an 18th birthday party to remember. So, how about asking the Fifth Harmony songstress about a little fashion advice?

Because… ?

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Just a text to Cabello could help you avoid being compared to other cartoon characters.

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thank you for the best 18th birthday ever @taylorswift 🙂 you are a real life fairy princess for many reasons. you are magical and rare. #2 you sprinkle fairy dust on others and make them feel loved and special and safe. #3 you are also a rare species, you are caring and well meaning and kind without expecting anything in return. #4 you sparkle like a New York skyline. and #5 you love Elf like all fairies should. i wish i could shout from the rooftops how fun last night was for me and how much love i felt. i am so grateful to call someone like you my friend. thank you for bringing everyone together and making last night so special!!!!!!!! PS DISCLAIMER: CHICKEN AND WAFFLES TASTE EVEN BETTER WHEN YOURE 18!!!

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Plus, you guys look great together in photos, especially when you match.

READ: Could You Do What Camila Cabello Did to Become a Star?

The Travel Companion: Jackie Cruz

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It is always good to have a bad b*tch with you when you travel. Someone who will have your back at the drop of a hat and still look good when she puts it back on.

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Both of you even like Paris. It’s the perfect fit!

The Ride-Or-Die Amiga: Diane Guerrero

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Hi Wich… 🙋

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This is definitely the girl you want in your corner to help you kick ass if needed. And unlike your so-called friends in your Bad Blood video, Diane will never betray you.

The Low-Key Girlfriend: Gina Rodriguez

No one can play casual better than Gina Rodriguez. Next time you are craving a girls night in Taylor, give Gina a call. Grab some cards, throw on your favorite sweats, enjoy girl talk and crack a few jokes with the Jane the Virgin star.

READ: Kourtney’s Ultimate Revenge: Bringing Jackie Back

The Mentor Mastermind: J.Lo

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#Besitos 💋

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Everybody needs a mentor and who better than queen Jennifer Lopez? The boricua has roots in your favorite city, New York, and has killed every industry she’s touched. Plus, she knows a thing or two about dating.

The Work-Out Buddy: Michelle Rodriguez

Who better for the job than MRod? TSwizzle, you already look great in a bikini, but imagine how much more fun workouts are with this action star.

READ: Mrod’s Secret To A Killer Bod

The Much-Needed Dance Instructor: Shakira

OK, Taylor. We need to talk about your dance moves. It was cute at first but why hasn’t anyone tried teaching you to dance. Selena Gomez has failed you in that regard. Why not try calling Shakira?

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Her hips are not only famous, but they don’t lie…something you should look for in friends.

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Seriously. Get Shakira’s dancing advice.

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The Relationship Therapist: Naya Rivera

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Naya Rivera really knows how to get back at a cheating boyfriend. We’re not saying go key and egg his car, but she’ll teach you how to hit him where it hurts.

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Actions hurt more than words lyrics.

The Drink: Horchata

Horchata for the win. Forget the Starbucks runs. This drink is refreshing, totally delicioso and perfect to share with your chicas.

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We know you’re addicted to Starbucks, but please stop.

Who’s in your dream squad? mitú wants to know. Tell us in the comments below.

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