Turning 15 is both a huge deal and… also kind of not? Obviously, if you’re a huge party person, celebrating your 15th birthday in a sparkling gown with choreographed group dances can sound like heaven. But if it’s not your thing, hey. Don’t stress.
Here’s why it’s perfectly OK to not want a big, fancy quiceañera:
1. They can get expen$ive as hell.
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Venue space, photography, table rentals, a DJ, food, cake, drinks, a dress, a second outfit, dance instructors, a sparkling tiara made of frozen puppy tears… it all adds up!
2. If you hate being the center of attention, they can feel super awkward.
Not all of us love dancing or posing for photos in front of everyone we’ve ever met. (Not to mention all those strangers parents invite without telling you.)
3. If you can’t dance, you gon’ cry.
Practicing a vals for six weeks and still looking like an inflatable tube dancer is not cute.
4. …And having to practice dance routines WILL take up a huge chunk of your time.
“Can’t I ‘become a woman’ while putting my own shoes on? And while we’re at it, what’s wrong with sneakers?”
12. It can get so busy that you don’t find time to eat.
Ignore the hordes of tías! Side-swipe abuelo! Jump over that person who everyone says is your cousin, but you’re not quite sure! Just grab that macaroni salad and hang on for dear life, girl!!!
13. Not everyone feels “grown up” at the same time.
There’s no real point when a person “becomes” an adult. It’s a process! Some of us might be forced to grow up a little faster because of responsibilities, sure, and some of us don’t quite feel like adults until age 172. So do you. We won’t judge.
There seems to be no end to the horrifying stories we’ve been hearing that illustrate the fallout of the Trump Administration’s “zero tolerance” immigration policy one which has been the hallmark of his presidency since he took office. Among the headlines that describe the effects of the immigration policy are those highlighting the sub-human conditions at the migrant-holding facilities at the border, or the those telling the terrifying stories of students being taken into ICE custody right before their high school graduation.
And the sad news doesn’t stop there.
Recently, a Latina’s Twitter post went viral when she shared the story of her niece being forced to dance el valz at her Quinceañera with her brother after her father was “taken” by immigration.
so my uncle which is her dad ,was taken by immigration a week before her 15 and sadly he wasn’t able to be there.Her brother had to take his place in the father / daughter dance. It just broke my heart🥺💔 pic.twitter.com/c6u3jSCHoW
Twitter user @prisesaks took to Twitter on Monday to share a video of her young cousin dancing what is traditionally the father-daughter dance while holding her brother and crying. “So my uncle which is her dad was taken by immigration a week before her 15 and sadly he wasn’t able to be there,” @prisesaks said. “Her brother had to take his place in the father/daughter dance. It just broke my heart”.
The heart-tugging video shows the 15-year-old girl holding her brother while slow dancing with him. Her hand covers her mouth as she tries to hold back sobs. Her brother also looks visibly emotional.
The video and Tweet quickly went viral, racking up almost 3.5 million views, over 60,000 retweets, and almost 1,500 comments.
no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land. no one is illegal on stolen land.
The traditional father/daughter dance at a Quinceañera is one of the most important parts of the birthday celebration and also a moment that many young Latinas look back on as a defining moment of transition from youth to adulthood. The fact that this Latina’s father could not be there to celebrate it with her is understandably upsetting for many people.
Twitter users responded to the video with a spectrum of emotions ranging from pity to outrage.
It’s understandable that such an emotionally-charged video can bring up a lot of feelings in people. Quinceañeras are supposed to be a day of celebration–a time in a Latina’s life when she gets to be “Queen for a Day” and she officially begins the transition from a child to a young woman. Unfortunately, this young woman’s entry into adulthood was much sadder than she had anticipated.
This Twitter user brought up a valid point about the difference between flashy headlines and the fact that people’s lives are actually being affected:
With all of the political tactics and clickbait articles that go around online, it’s easy to forget that there are humans beings involved in the immigration debate.
This Latina was heartbroken over the separation of a family:
After hearing stories of the appalling behavior of border control agents mocking migrant deaths and making fun of their pain, it’s easy to feel jaded towards immigration officials.
This Latina gave props to where props were due for the younger brother for stepping up for his sister:
The burden of family separation should not have to be placed on the shoulders of young ones.
Even the birthday girl’s older sister took to Twitter to express her appreciation that their story was being told:
Although their family’s situation is a tragedy, it’s a blessing that they have a platform to educate the world on the everyday realities of family separation.
This man educated the public on how important the father/daughter dance is to many young Latinas:
We can’t imagine how the young girl was feeling at the moment.
The video is just more evidence of how Trump’s policy of family separation has a real, lasting impact on Latino families. While statistics and news article tell a part of the story, the numbers and abstract policy discussion don’t illustrate the full picture like these small, intimate glimpses into the lives of Latinx families whose lives are forever changed by the Trump administration. Moments like these are formative in young adults’ lives, and this girl will forever have to look back on what was supposed to be a special day with bittersweet feelings.
It has been almost 24 years since the tragic death of our queen Selena on March 31, 1995. At the time of her untimely death, she was only 23 years old. During her short but eventful life, she became an icon for Mexican-Americans and Latinos all throughout the globe. She also helped bring genres such as tejano, cumbia, and grupero to mainstream American popular culture. Today, she is still an eternal icon and the epitome of what it means to be a contemporary Latina power player: generous, fearless and proud of her roots.
Let’s leave sad memories behind and witness one of the ways in which Selena Quintanilla continues to be a source of inspiration and joy for millions. What better way to do it than showing you the lengths that Selena fans go through to honor their beloved singer in birthday parties! Yes, Selena-themed parties are still in and will never go out.
This birthday cake that looks like more like an altar to la reina del Texas.
We love the elegant arrangement in this cake. Selena looks ravishing in that picture, and the roses give an extra touch of nostalgia to the piece. It looks too pretty to eat, but we are sure it was delicioso.
What about this fantastic recreation of one of Selena’s most iconic looks?
Selena could rock basically any style, from grupero outfits to more rock-n-roll classics like leather jackets. This Insta user copied Selena’s look for the 1994 Tejano Music Awards and she did a great job. More on her party below.
Como la flor. Now, that is one chingón party desserts spread!
This desserts table is a true homage to the late Grammy Award winner. Como la flor… one of the phrases most tightly attached to the great Miss Quintanilla.
This woman has the best friends ever. They all played along with her Selena-themed cumple!
Does she look familiar? A woman called Arienne had an amazing party. Her friends dressed all in white, letting her shine in the stunning black outfit.
Seriously, look at her smile… good for you, Arienne!
She even looks a bit like Selena. It verges on the uncanny and a little unsettling. She should probably play Selena in the upcoming Netflix show.
Lipstick, purple sexiness and cookies. What better way to celebrate Latina power?
We are all over these sweet treats with the iconic purple outfit and the red lipstick. We are sure Selena would have approved. A que no puedes comer solo una.
Ay Dios! These Selenitas son la onda.
OMG! These tiny Selenas are so cute and amazing. Good to know that these young Latinitas have such a great and empowering role model 🙂
Little Aubrey is having the time of her life and it’s tots adorbs.
Look at this birthday girl. Seriously, she is so lucky her family has put so much effort into making her birthday dreams come true.
We can’t even. This is so amazing and empowering.
One of Selena Quintanilla’s beliefs was that anyone can achieve their dreams, regardless of their particular skills. This birthday party just nos pone la piel chinita and reminds us that music is what brings us all together and that being different is amazing. Uniqueness is our most precious treasure.
These centerpieces are magnificent, the little girl’s friends will all be ready to cumbia all morning.
Honestly, these centerpieces would look amazing at a wedding… if the bride is a Selena fan, why not? La novia manda.
Pastelinos de Selena… para chuparse los dedos.
Purple glitter and a Selena cartoon that is cute as hell? Yes, please. Tbh, we are all feeling like we got cheated since we never had our own Selena-themed parties.
Or if you want something a bit more sophisticated, what about these?
But well, to be honest, these cupcakes are a bit more stylish and creative. They use the iconic belt, bra, red lips and red car that made Selena a brand of transcultural appeal.
Eliana and her Selena bestie will make you jealous.
When you find a friend that shares your love for Selena and is willing to help you explore your fandom, you have struck friendship gold.
Aw, bien tierno! This 7-year-old has a magnetic smile that reminds us of our fave Latina diva
What an amazing smile on this little diva so happy and sweet. We all know that feeling because we have all been that girl at our own birthday parties.
This rose is as big as her. *searches Pinterest for instructions on how to make it*
Roses will always remind us of Selena. This little chiquita de seis añitos is just loving her huge rose. Can we take home one of those gift bags, pretty please? Sing with us:
Como la flor (como la flor), con tanto amor (con tanto amor) Me diste tu, se marchito Me marcho hoy, yo se perder Pero, Aaaayyy! Como me duele Aaaayyy! Como me duele
OK, then… this is… interesting…
Ay, santo Cristo! This is as funny as it it a bit disturbing. But we are sure these two were the talk of the party. What size is that bra anyway? ZZ? This couple must enjoy a fantastic amor, even if it is prohibido for any reason.
Estamos muy excited about these balloons. Seriously.
Muy excited is one of Selena’s iconic phrases. These globitos look elegant and cute at the same time. If you are planning a Selena-themed party after reading this post, these can’t be missed.
A Selena-themes party wouldn’t really be complete without a Selena piñata, o no?
Some stereotypes are true: us Latinos do love a good old-fashioned piñata, o no? This community party at Los Feliz had a great one with the now eternal purple conjuntito coqueto.
We like this meticulous creation a bit better, though.
But to be honest we think this one is much better. Look at all the details, like those huge earrings and the belt. It takes real craftsmanship to pull that off! Little Vali must have been over the moon.
But let’s talk about the elephant in the room. The one we really wanna use as a piñata is evil Yolanda.
But if we wanna sacar nuestra ira against someone, it is against Yolanda Saldivar… Dale dale dale, no pierdas el tino!
Last but not least, a good Selena-themed party requires some sequin bra shopping
Want to organize a Selena-themed hen’s night? Well, take all your amigochas shopping and get sparkly bras to dance the tecnocumbia and just let yourselves loose in honor of our reina por siempre. Ready to partayyy? Sing with us.