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What To Expect If You’re Introducing Your Novio To The Fam

Things must be getting very serious if you’re deciding to introduce your boyfriend to the fam… Oh and your family is Latino? GOOD LUCK because here’s how it goes down…

It starts with the awkwardness of not knowing whether to greet everyone with a wave, handshake, hug or kiss on the cheek.

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Make sure he greets eeeeeevery single person when he arrives. If he leaves anybody out, there will be a problem.

Make sure he’s ready for the question, ¿Y de dónde son tus padres?

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As many Latinos have lots of pride about where they’re from, your parents will want to know where your boyfriend’s family is from. So make sure he’s ready to present his family history.

They’ll also ask him, “¿Y dónde trabajas?

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Y si no tiene trabajo and also isn’t in school, he will never be good enough for you according to your family.

Your dad or tíos will press him about what soccer team he roots for.


They need to check if there is a Chivas versus America conflict. And if your boyfriend doesn’t watch sports at all, major negative points.

Your primos will want to check out what kind of whip he drives.

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Your abuela will probably also go check out his ride in order to make sure that he has a rosario on his rear view mirror.

If there’s music, they’ll be watching his dance moves.


If he doesn’t have rhythm he can expect side comments being made about him.

Make sure he dresses nice in case your tías chismosas decide to be the fashion police.

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He better not be sagging or your abuela will go cray.

He also has to arrive with a big appetite, because they will feed him. A LOT.

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Denying your family’s food will be the biggest insult, so he better GRUB.

Overall your family will be very tough on your boyfriend, but it’s because they want to protect you.

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Maybe they’ll threaten him a couple times or give him the side eye, but if your boyfriend is able to stick through it, then he’s a keeper.


READ: 16 GIFs That Totally Capture A Latino Family Dinner

Hit the share button below and give all of the novios a fair warning! 

A Video Of A Woman Singing ‘Fallaste Corazón’ To Her Abuelo With Dementia Is Going Viral After He Remembered The Lyrics

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A Video Of A Woman Singing ‘Fallaste Corazón’ To Her Abuelo With Dementia Is Going Viral After He Remembered The Lyrics

We all know that growing old is inevitable in this life and that our days on Earth are numbered. Regardless of that truth, it’s human nature to either feel afraid of growing old or to feel melancholy when it comes to thinking of growing old. What can be even more painful is seeing our parents, our aunts and uncles, or our grandparents growing old and imagining a life without them in it. 

Last week, one woman on Twitter shared a video of her grandfather who has dementia singing along with her to “Fallaste Corazón” by Pedro Infante in a fleeting moment of lucidness. 

In the video, you can see the woman singing with such passion to her grandfather who is attentively watching her sing and who later begins to sing along to the lyrics as well.

 Dayis, on Twitter, shared that her “tata” doesn’t remember a lot of things due to his dementia but in an effort to help him with his dementia, she sings to him every day. 

“Today he remembered the song fallaste corazón and I swear I was trying so hard not to cry,” she writes. “This many is my life.”

According to Alzheimers.net, there are many reasons as to why music boosts brain activity.

According to the site, “musical aptitude and appreciation” are two of the last remaining abilities in dementia patients, music can bring emotional and physical closeness, music can shift moods and stimulate positive interactions, and it evokes emotions that bring back memories.

Since musical aptitude and appreciation are the last remaining abilities in patients with Alzheimer’s and dementia, “music is an excellent way to reach beyond the disease and reach the person.” In later stages of dementia, patients are also prone to losing the ability to share emotions with their caregivers or family members but through music, they can still reach that emotional and physical closeness they once had. Further, singing to and with dementia patients is engaging and it leads to patients “exercising more mind power than usual.” 

People who saw the touching video on social media were not only quick to share their reactions after watching it but they also shared their own personal experiences with family members and loved ones who had dementia. 

One Twitter user replied to @Dayannagmusic03 and shared that they couldn’t stop watching the video. 

The Twitter user went on to say that their grandfather also has dementia but notices sometimes that “something around him has triggered a memory” and to see that, they said, is the best feeling in the world. 

The woman who initially posted the video shared that her “tata” is currently on “stage 6” of dementia and although it’s been a long and rough battle, “he always seems to remember certain songs.”

“When he does, it warms my heart with joy,” she continued to write on Twitter. 

It’s safe to say the video had a lot of people in their feels and rightfully so.

We love to see raw and touching moments like these. 

The 0:50 mark made us ugly cry too.

This is right when her grandfather starts to faintly sing along with her and man, she sings with so much emotion too. 

Other folks on Twitter sent their blessings to her family and her grandfather.

We hope her grandfather continues to have more moments like this. 

People on Twitter also compared the heartwarming video to the movie Coco.

Remember the scene toward the end of the film when Miguel sings to Mamá Coco and she begins to remember? I’m not crying, YOU’RE CRYING. 

Others said what we’re all thinking… just thinking about our parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents getting old hurts a little bit more as we keep getting older ourselves. 

We’d like to keep believing their invincible and will live forever. 

Another Twitter user @missmalindakat tweeted that she had never seen anyone sing with more “heart and passion” than in that video.

One Twitter user shared her own video of her grandfather in a similar situation who also seemed to remember the lyrics to “El Rey” by Vicente Fernández when her great aunt sang it to him.

It’s touching to see other folks sharing their similar experiences and videos in an effort to support one another. This video has also amassed over 47,000 views on Twitter. 

Listen to “Fallaste Corazón” in full on YouTube below:

Primas Are Sharing What Makes Their Bonds Just As Special As A Sisterhood

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Primas Are Sharing What Makes Their Bonds Just As Special As A Sisterhood

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Family is very important to the Latinidad. It isn’t just our immediate blood connections that hold powerful meaning to us, it’s also our family that has become close to us through shared experiences. Besides friends and found family, our primas can definitely be put into this group. Whether they’re related by blood or just by proximity, our primas mean so much to us. Our co-conspiritors, our best friends and the women who will always have our backs, the bond we have with our primas makes us stronger. It’s worth celebrating that.

We asked our FIERCE readers to tell us what their primas mean to them and what we got was a comments section full of a whole lot of love and heart emojis. Combined with some of our favorite internet posts, these comments remind us just how precious that bond with our primas our. This is sure to make you want to send a text to the family group chat to tell your primas how much you love them.

1. Primas equal sisterhood

Instagram / @coisasdemaaria

“In Mexico we call primas Primas-Hermanas (sister-cousin) to the ones who’s parents are siblings with our parents . In a sense an extension of sisterhood. We grew up closer than most.” — @killacarm

2. That one person who will always have your back.

Instagram / @luz_altamirano_18

“My primas were my sisters growing up and still are. We may not see each other every day or see eye to eye on everything but we have each others’ backs. ❤️”  — @its__peaches 

3. The one you can always vent to.

Instagram / @carlamariacarreiro

“Our at home therapy session. I miss those.” — @lizvaldillez

4. Primas eventually become tias.

Instagram / @priscila_henriique

“I’m an only child…not by choice. My parents were hit by a drunk driver while my mom was pregnant with my brother. My parents were saved but had complications. Like you, I am so blessed to have many cousins and Tias who added me to the pack of kids. Now as a mom myself ( 2 children) we still reach out to one another. My primas have kids in college and they are at out place all the time.Im officially mom when mom is miles away. I know they would they too would be there for my kids! The love and support continue. ❤️❤️” — @ryonmichelle

5. Your prosperity is their prosperity.

Twitter / @mayasouhaid

“My prima always helped me get jobs when I needed money to get stuff for my daughter. ❤️❤️❤️ ” — @nerdalous.13

6. They’re there for the good times and the bad.

Instagram / @babyqueilane

“Some of my cousins have been my best friends for sure! They were ride or die!” — @pryz

7. Your personal secret keeper.

Instagram / @stedejesus

“Over the years it was like having that one sis you can confide in.” — @la.dayysii

8. The ultimate Squad Goals.

Twitter / @Jufroees

Before Squad goals was a thing, our first clique was our primas. They’re always be live-long members of the crew.

9. Our permanent dance partner.

Instagram / @latinaapproved

It’s not a party without our primas. Whether it’s a quince or just a family BBQ, the party doesn’t start until we are reunited with these girls.

10. The only one who can joke with us like this.

Instagram / @wearemitu

Coming from anyone else, these would be fighting words but our primas know us that way so it’s all good.

Ultimately, our primas are everything to us.

Instagram / @biancafoliveiral

“My prima is my fuckin’ everything. Mi hermana, my best friend, my advisor, my shoulder to cry on…TODO.” — @oriettareadmai

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