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What To Expect If You’re Introducing Your Novio To The Fam

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Things must be getting very serious if you’re deciding to introduce your boyfriend to the fam… Oh and your family is Latino? GOOD LUCK because here’s how it goes down…

It starts with the awkwardness of not knowing whether to greet everyone with a wave, handshake, hug or kiss on the cheek.

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Make sure he greets eeeeeevery single person when he arrives. If he leaves anybody out, there will be a problem.

Make sure he’s ready for the question, ¿Y de dónde son tus padres?

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As many Latinos have lots of pride about where they’re from, your parents will want to know where your boyfriend’s family is from. So make sure he’s ready to present his family history.

They’ll also ask him, “¿Y dónde trabajas?

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Y si no tiene trabajo and also isn’t in school, he will never be good enough for you according to your family.

Your dad or tíos will press him about what soccer team he roots for.


They need to check if there is a Chivas versus America conflict. And if your boyfriend doesn’t watch sports at all, major negative points.

Your primos will want to check out what kind of whip he drives.

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Your abuela will probably also go check out his ride in order to make sure that he has a rosario on his rear view mirror.

If there’s music, they’ll be watching his dance moves.


If he doesn’t have rhythm he can expect side comments being made about him.

Make sure he dresses nice in case your tías chismosas decide to be the fashion police.

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He better not be sagging or your abuela will go cray.

He also has to arrive with a big appetite, because they will feed him. A LOT.

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Denying your family’s food will be the biggest insult, so he better GRUB.

Overall your family will be very tough on your boyfriend, but it’s because they want to protect you.

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Maybe they’ll threaten him a couple times or give him the side eye, but if your boyfriend is able to stick through it, then he’s a keeper.


READ: 16 GIFs That Totally Capture A Latino Family Dinner

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When His Dad Died He Was Left With A Few Shirts, He Wore One To A Date With His Mom And Her Reaction Is Everything

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When His Dad Died He Was Left With A Few Shirts, He Wore One To A Date With His Mom And Her Reaction Is Everything

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In Latino families, a love between a mother and son is solid as a rock. Sometimes a little too much. The term mama’s boy transcends all cultures, but either way, their bond is always genuine and from the heart. If you’d like a beautiful and heartfelt example of what this kind of relationship between a mother and son, look no further than this viral tweet from Texas. 

Clayton Walker shared on Twitter that his dad died when he was just one year old. Now that he’s a grown man, he was finally big enough to fit into his dad’s shirt. 

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The young man from Fort Worth, Texas was clearly excited to wear his dad’s shirt for the first time as a grown man. He was so proud and excited to be able to fit in it completely, and he looks good in it, don’t you think? He said in his tweet that has since gone viral, “My father passed away when I was one and I only have a few shirts of his so I wore one for date night with my momma.”

Clayton knew one other person that would be just as proud to see him in his dad’s shirt, and, of course, that was his mother. He surprised her and her reaction was so touching!

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“My father passed away when I was one and I only have a few shirts of his so I wore one for date night with my momma.”

“Aww,” his mom said with a huge grin. “What do you think?” he asked her.  

“You look good,” she said but she was clearly getting emotional so Clayton hugged his mom to give her comfort. 

Clayton’s tweet has been retweeted almost 200,000 times and like by more than 900,000 people.

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Clayton addressed the massive attention — both good and bad — that he’s received and said on Twitter, “Just wanna say thank you to all the ones showing love fr fr and to the ones hating and claiming I’m chasing “clout” you don’t know me you WEIRDOS🤣 but regardless big blessings for everyone forever and good vibes por vida🤞🏽💕 God bless.”

Yes, true to form, there were trolls on Twitter that displayed such hate and ignorance toward Clayton and his mom. They actually accused him of using his dad’s death as a way to get his tweet to viral.

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“Just wanna say thank you to all the ones showing love…and to the ones hating and claiming I’m chasing ‘clout’ you don’t know me you WEIRDOS,” he added on Twitter. 

Clayton went on to say that his mom’s his best friend and there’s nothing wrong with that.

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And there isn’t! Imagine what it must like for his mom to lose her husband right when their family was becoming a family. It’s so sad, but some people on Twitter just have no love in their life, clearly. 

Some women even shared on Twitter that a man like Clayton that is close to his mom is marriage material.

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We totally agree with that. If a man is good to his mama, he will be good to his wife! One young woman didn’t even hide her thirst. She tweeted, “Can I go on a date with you?” 

Some people shared their own stories about losing their fathers at a young age as well.

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Nicole tweeted, “I can’t say it gets easier and you never forget, but you think of all the good things and it makes it a little better.”

If you want even more proof that Clayton is completely dedicated to the love of his father and mother, check this out.

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We are impressed by the honesty and purity of this guy. He’s so sweet! Clayton tweeted that he didn’t care about all the negativity he got, because at the end of the day he knows his truth and that’s all that matters.

“There is always gonna be hate because some people are ugly and that’s okay but I’ve had so many beautiful comments full of love and my heart is full. Thank you, you beautiful people.”

READ: This Photo Of A Dad Showing Up To Pride Even Though His Daughter Had Moved Away Is The Sweetest Thing I’ve Seen In My Life

In My Own, I’ve Learned That Interracial Relationships Won’t Work If You Run From The Hard Stuff

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In My Own, I’ve Learned That Interracial Relationships Won’t Work If You Run From The Hard Stuff

In a sea of olive skin and dark eyes, there’s a tuft of blonde hair with baby blues. That guy with blue eyes is my person. At every christening, wedding, or birthday party, where there’s me, there’s my boyfriend. We go together without thinking, and I feel fortunate that I’m at a point in my life where bringing my boyfriend to family events is a given.

Throughout my dating life I’ve been asked “What you don’t like Latinos?” and “Will you ever date someone who isn’t white?” by friends and family alike.

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For those asking: I do, and I have, but not with the frequency that the people asking those questions would like.

My grandparents came to the mainland in the 1950s and my great-grandfather, though born in Puerto Rico, was still considered a citizen of Spain. In comparison, his family lineage in the U.S. goes so far back that you can trace it to the Mayflower.

Often, I get called an “Oreo,” too white-minded to be Latina, and too dark-skinned to be white. I’m conscious of our differences, but I don’t date my boyfriend to be a living educational exhibit. I refuse to be fetishized or exoticized. I am who I am.

Even so, I have a lot to learn in terms of how I project some old cultural customs, be they sexist or racist, onto people I love.

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My boyfriend and I aren’t afraid to talk about it as a couple or as friends.

The upbringing I have had, as traditional as it is, has led me to be judgmental, private, and less open. Meanwhile, he is open to my family and my culture. Where he jumps head-first, I’m hesitant to do the same because I’m afraid to lose sight of who I am.

Comments on my being one half of an interracial couple have always made me feel like my romantic relationships aren’t my own, and that to be in one, it had to please the people around me.

Yes, I do believe that your friends and family ultimately want the best for you. And yes, Latino families are sometimes so on our cases we don’t know where we end and they begin. It’s the positive danger of coming from a culture that’s close-knit, regardless of whether or not you want it to be. But, you learn to work with and around it.

I’m sure that when my loved ones ask me these questions, they do so less out of malice, and more of concern. Maybe to them, by being with someone who doesn’t share my cultural upbringing, I’m missing out on the best parts of my heritage.

In this relationship, I do see color.

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We are two completely different people. Racially, and in turn socioeconomically. These two things play a key role in our relationship. Our interactions consist in “we don’t do that” or “you can’t say that,” and “when you say that, you sound like,” fill in the blank.

I call him out when he says something culturally insensitive or racially charged. I tell him when his privilege is showing. He lets me know when my upbringing doesn’t allow me to express thoughts and ideas I have due to fear or being shut out by others in my Latino community.

My boyfriend was never a dance partner at a quinceanera, he has never seen a quenepa up-close, and bendiciones to the elders was a foreign concept that he’s continually being introduced to. But although he’s new to all of those things, he embraces them.

When I say that, I don’t mean that he works to be or act Latino.

I do mean that he works to see the value in these things that are foreign to him, but non-negotiable as part of my life, and in turn, our partnership.

He seeks out this understanding. He asks questions about what he can’t relate to through personal experience and admits that there’s more to the Latino community than he realizes.

Together, we are on a journey to unlearn the bad and embrace the good in both of us. It’s hard, it’s messy, and there are fights. But this is the future, one of color-conscious love that, as a result, allows the best of us to shine through.

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