Growing up with a single mom, la jefa de jefas, is a pretty unique experience. On the one hand, you learn to appreciate and value her strength and determination. On the other hand, you’ve gotta seek out your own father figures in life. A blend of struggles and perks, this is what growing up with a woman head of the household was like for me:
1. We had to make do with one income.
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One parent. Two kids. Do the math.
2. I only needed mom’s permission.
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Watching my friends bounce between mom and dad like a ping-pong ball while trying to get permiso to go to a party made me glad I only had mom. No “go ask your dad” happening here.
3. You don’t stress over wondering whether women can do it all.
Because you know they can adapt to any situation. For instance, my Mami finished school, held down a job and raised two kinds all on her own. She stopped at nothing to give herself and us the best life she could.
4. We didn’t spend much time together.
There was often no one else to supervise when she was busy, which means you gotta learn how to be self-sufficient.
5. And, thus, independence was the norm and a necessity.
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I had to learn to do many things on my own, without depending on others.
6. Which means my homemaking skills are A+.
Doing my own laundry, cooking dinner and sewing buttons were among the things I knew how to do since I was pequeña.
7. I learned to count my blessings.
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Because we had to work hard for everything, including time with each other, we learned to really value it.
8. My friends, and their families, became my extended familia.
I learned often times love IS thicker than blood.
9. I developed an incredible sense of loyalty.
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We were a small familia and looked out for each other fearlessly. (Even though there were times when we couldn’t stand one another!)
Did you grow up with a single mom or dad? Are you currently one yourself? Let us know your story in the comments, if you wanna.