#mitúVOICE

If You Haven’t Dated One Of These Latino Boyfriends You Don’t Know What Amor Is

We’ve all come across these guys in our lifetime…

Mama’s Boy AKA El Chiqueado

10562614_297505640444772_5862108001706069451_o
Credit: Dan Leonardo / Facebook 

He always dropped hints that he wanted you to do things more like his mom. “Mi mamá lo cocina diferente.” He wanted you to be more so much like her, it was low-key Norman Bates kind of creepy.

El Celoso

He invited himself to girls’ night out because he didn’t trust you, much less your friends. He thought having your Facebook password was romantic. On top of that, you caught him looking at your phone more than twice. He claimed he was checking the time ?.

El Machista

#machomexicano #nowjade #entertainment #team

A photo posted by Armando Mandujano Perez (@armandosteeler) on

Credit: @armandosteeler / Instagram

He expected a home-cooked meal every single night. When he was around his friends he’d say things to try to prove he wore the pants, when he knew damn well that wasn’t the case. He talked to his friends about how he was a beast in bed when you both knew damn well he was a one-minute man.

El Presumido

#Casual #EstrenandoCarro ????

A photo posted by Edgar Cruz Mdc (@eeleazarcruz) on

Credit: @eelazacruz / Instagram

He always talked about money or what he just bought. His car era del año. He was also oddly obsessed with how many Instagram followers he had and expected you to you look a certain way all the time so he could show you off like his trophy.

The Metro

His image was immaculate; eyebrows always done, he waxed his entire body and his outfits were worthy of a GQ cover. He complimented you a lot, but rarely initiated intimacy. Also, his man crush for Cristiano Ronaldo was a little too strong. He might’ve been gay…

The Pushover

1F4
Credit: Maria la del Barrio / Televisa

He never took charge. Waited for you to plan every date, every meal, every movie. You thought it was sweet at first, but you got tired he didn’t take charge at all. He also never stood up to your sassiness, which was respectful, but kind of petty at the same time. You need a team player, not a cheerleader.

The Good Boy

He went to church every Sunday without fail and the only show he watched was La Rosa de Guadalupe. He didn’t like to party, but went with you once in a while – to count your liquor. He never went past first-base because he wanted to respect you, AKA save himself for marriage. Hello! You gotta test drive the car before you buy it ??.

READ: That Moment When You’re Miraculously Blessed By el Airecito de la Rosa de Guadalupe

The Gym-Obsessed

10430449_154648211544854_8002277774282102761_n
Credit: Jorge Garcia / Facebook

You never saw him during the week because he was at the gym pumping iron. You had to say good-bye to all the tacos, tortas, cake, everything you liked, but  gained weight because all you ate was protein. And low-key, you got sick of him wearing muscle shirts all the time and it was annoying dating someone who watched their figure more than you.

El Ranchero

Screen Shot 2015-10-20 at 6.35.43 PM
Credit: Annie Leal

He was very in touch with nature – like his family’s ranch animals. He followed tradition to the extreme which was comforting at first, but you couldn’t handle no wi-fi, no social media, no Instagram – which meant you never would’ve been his #WCW – and that’s not something you were willing to settle with.

El Cholo

tumblr_mt24hmyC5a1seg3yno1_500
Credit: next-friday-gif / Tumblr

You were attracted at first because he was so tough and cool looking, and you wanted to rebel against your parents. You quickly realized dating him was too thrilling for you to handle.

The Sweetheart

tumblr_myxm27wf0S1rlkke2o1_400
Credit: rbdimages / Tumblr

You fell for him because he had a heart of gold, but then you realized it was bittersweet. He cried more than you and was overly sensitive. He might’ve said I love you at the end of your second date – you should’ve known it wasn’t a good sign.

READ: Expectations Guys Have of Their Latina GFs

Soccer Fanatic

tumblr_nd3cl4VBN01thdqhoo1_500
Credit: whatsthemata8 / Instagram

Every gift he got you involved a soccer jersey or tickets to a game – when he knew you didn’t even like soccer. You knew you were going to have a bad date when his Chivas lost. You suspected he loved your team more than he claimed to love you.

Telenovela Galán

tumblr_n80jypHuUV1tdb0lao1_500
Credit: zanesaddicted / Tumblr

Everything was over-the-top: dramatic, romantic, passionate. He said the cheesiest things, but you couldn’t help but swoon every time you heard them. You loved hard and fought even harder, everything was so dramatic. He celebrated every month anniversary with a gift or special dinner even after 8 years of dating. Too much.

The perfect guy is a combination of all of these. Is that too much to ask?

Salice Rose’s Ex Is On YouTube Right Now Attacking The Social Media Star Just Days After Announcing Her New Girlfriend

Entertainment

Salice Rose’s Ex Is On YouTube Right Now Attacking The Social Media Star Just Days After Announcing Her New Girlfriend

YouTuber Salice Rose has been notoriously private about her love life… up until last week when she introduced us all to her new bae. The Rose Family has erupted with joy for Salice in finding, if not love, then at least baeship with Brilynn. We’ve never seen another face that Salice has dated.

Then, one of Salice’s exes launched a YouTube channel of her own to explicitly talk about her relationship with Salice. In the video, Chas vents all her frustrations with the relationship and publicly airs out her side of the story. According to Chas, Salice was verbally and emotionally abusive, didn’t want her to have friends, and even donated her father’s ashes to Goodwill after one day’s notice to remove her stuff from Salice’s apartment.

Chas F’s channel already has 47k subscribers, and all her videos are about Salice Rose.

Credit: Chas F / YouTube

She created the channel about a week ago, just after Salice introduced her followers to her new girlfriend, Brilynn. According to Chas, it was hard to watch the video because just two weeks prior, they were “in each other’s phones” and talking about marriage, but Salice wanted to focus on her music.

Salice Rose has responded with a nearly hour and a half long retaliation video.

Credit: @salicerose / Instagram

“A message to my ex: I hope lying on my name all over social media made you happy,” Salice tweeted. “I hope you got all the fame you wanted. Because of YOU I’m in waves of depression. You spoke, my turn.”

In the video, she goes point by point to respond to each of Chas’s allegations.

Credit: Salice Rose / YouTube

Salice actually made the point of writing down each point that Chas made and tells her fans that the video would be the first and the last time she talks about that relationship again. 

Chas’ story is that Salice didn’t let her have any other jobs because she didn’t want her to be too far from her. Salice’s side, corroborated by her friends commenting in the background, is that Chas quit all her jobs of her own volition. According to Salice, she would absolutely tell her to “come home,” but didn’t expect her to actually quit her jobs.

According to Chas, Salice had the idea to hire her and their relationship started to fall apart from there.

Credit: @_andreasoto / Twitter

Chas shared that she had a feeling that taking the job would take away time from their relationship. They were spending all day together, and Salice takes her job very seriously. According to Chas, that made it difficult to spend time together without tension. Chas also said that she wasn’t getting paid enough to support anything other than her car bills. They started fighting, and Chas says that she didn’t have the opportunity to make any new friends.

The Rose Family is largely very sus of Chas’ accusations.

Credit: @ashliagius_ / Twitter

Chas said that she asked Salice to take on more responsibilities because she felt degraded by being paid to pick up dog poop. Salice had two dogs and Chas also had two dogs. According to Chas, the moment that she talked about getting other jobs, Salice started to treat her with disrespect and gaslit her.

Salice Rose opened her retaliation video by calling several Goodwills to ask if they accept human remains. They all said ‘no.’

Credit: @SaliceRose / Twitter

Chas says that Salice was going to mail her stuff out to Florida after they separated. Chas said she was calling and leaving voicemails to a mutual friend to arrange for Chas’s dad’s stuff to be mailed back to Florida. Through tears, Chas shares that two months after she moved out, she received an email with the subject line, “Notice of Right to Reclaim Abandoned Property” on June 7th.

One fan did some deep diving on Chas’ Instagram back to the day after that email, June 8th.

Credit: @nvmexme / Twitter

“I saw your ex’s vids and for a sec she made me think that you were the bad guy here,” tweeted @nvmexme. “But i mean everyone make mistakes yk? Anyways i kinda stalked her ig account and noticed that the same day say said that her things were going to be ‘donated’ Which was on june 8.”

Salice shared the email with her fans which clearly states that she gave Chas a month and a day from the receipt of the email to reclaim her property, which had already been in her apartment for two months.

There has been an outpour of support for Salice Rose after she responded to her ex-girlfriend’s video.

Credit: @salice_roseee / Twitter

Salice laid out her counterargument in an hour and twenty-minute video and went point by point off of Chas F’s video. She made a real point of taking on Chas F’s statement that Salice didn’t want her to have friends. As Salice lays out, she values friendships and argues that it is better for the relationship if both people have friends to hang out with outside of the relationship.

In other news, Salice’s debut R&B track became an overnight bop.

Salice has been teasing an entrance into a music career, and fans are shooketh that it’s actually here. Salice’s new bae, Brilynn commented, “Congratulations babe.”

Relationships are messy, but “Lullaby” is as smooth as can be.

Fans already can’t get enough of her new song.

Some are calling it the new summer bop. It does seem like fans have long been waiting for something like this from Salice Rose and they are letting everyone know that they need to check out this new song.

Watch Salice Rose’s response to her ex-girlfriend’s videos below!

READ: Salice Rose Just Awkwardly Introduced Us To Her Girlfriend And It’s Obviously Love

Fed Up With Tinder And Instagram DM Slide-Ins This Latina Decided It Was Time To Give Up On Dating And Marry Herself

Entertainment

Fed Up With Tinder And Instagram DM Slide-Ins This Latina Decided It Was Time To Give Up On Dating And Marry Herself

@janispvaldez / Instagram

Our recent social platforms have made it certain that dating in today’s era is tough. Talk to your abuela about dating in her age, and she’ll probably tell you a story of waiting by a phone for a call and meeting up with a suitor at the local sock hop. She didn’t have to: swipe right and left on her Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid profiles. Or, check her DMs on Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat to find out if someone she was interested in was down to “hang out” on a Friday night. Nope. Not like we have to. 

One woman in Los Angeles became so fed up with the dating game and committing herself to the chase of apps that she decided it was time to commit to herself. So she did just that. On her 25th birthday.  Over the weekend, 25-year-old Janis Valdez said, “yes” to a life of putting herself first.

In a recent post to her Instagram page, the Mexican-American revealed to family and friends that she’d gotten married. To herself. 

“Sometimes you just gotta vow to love yourself cause no one else will do it for you. Nothing more I could of wanted from this birthday 👰🏻💕💍 #MarriedToMyself,” she captioned her post. 

This woman also isn’t the only one to have gone this route in recent years. It’s beginning to become a trend that experts have coined “sologamy” –– but heck, call it whatever you want. 

Last year, on Valentine’s Day an Australian woman married herself in a beach ceremony in front of her three close friends. In 2017, another Italian woman put on a white veil and walked down the aisle to marry herself. And so on. 

When asked about what led her to make the choice to give up on the dating scene – for now – and marry herself, Valdez told FIERCE by mitú: “After many ghosts, booty calls you thought were serious, and [people playing] catfish, you can only take so much. So I decided, I’m turning 25. It’s time for a quarter-life crisis moment.” (She’s only half-joking, y’all). 

Valdez said her decision to say “I do” to herself was in an effort to change her perspective and approach to life.

“It’s for a life change,” Valdez explained. “It’s time I actually love myself because clearly… looking for someone else to love you in a city of complete vapidness and ego, no one’s going to love you for you.” 

Speaking about her decision to marry herself, Valdez told us that she decided to have the ceremony on her birthday because “what’s a better way to bring in 25 than to fucking marry yourself? I thought it was pretty badass.” 

But remember, Valdez’s decision to mary herself is about commitment to herself, not necessarily about committing to a life without a partner.

 Writer Lea Rose Emery explained to Brides Magazine in the article Sologamy: Why More and More Women Are Marrying…Themselves that “some self-marriage proponents are bound to keep flying solo, many who choose to self-marry by no means plan on being alone. It’s not about replacing or preventing a potential partner. It’s not about being alone—it’s about being enough.”

Valdez  says she told her family a few years ago that she was “probably going to end up marrying herself because dating was not working out.” She says she sort of made a pact with her sister, that if they reached their thirties without being married they would marry themselves but still throw an extravagant and fabulous ceremony together so their parents could have that to look forward to. Of course, since then both sisters have been in relationships. Valdez’s sister is currently in a committed one and Valdez was in one that she describes as “a very serious long term relationship” for some time until things ended. Pursuing relationships after the breakup proved to be rough, however, as Valdez explains “dating since my break-up has been horrible.”

Valdez isn’t letting that experience completely take over her life and she seems to be taking matters into her own hands – prioritizing herself and learning to love herself first and foremost.

Valdez also creates videos on YouTube where she not only chronicles her life in the city with her friends but also has a series called, “Dating in L.A.” 

If you watch, she says, you’ll get a glimpse into how horrible dating in L.A. really is.

And she’s not the only one who feels this way about dating in L.A. or other huge cities for that matter. Los Angeles Magazine published an article earlier this year titled, “Dating in L.A. Sucks. We Did the Math.” 

In it, the writer states: “Relationships are hard. Relationships in Los Angeles are harder. Maybe the 405 is to blame for canceled dates? Perhaps Peter Pan Syndrome prevents substantive connections? No matter the cause, single Angelenos are approaching the dating game with apathy rather than intent, and that’s unpleasant.” You can say that again. 

Dating in L.A. can be a downer for many reasons. We’ve got a list longer than CVS receipts.

For Valdez, she says she isn’t much into the bar or clubbing scene and she’s a homebody. “I’m so closely tied to my friends that it’s honestly a hard position I put myself in to meet new people,” she explains. “So of course, I turned to apps. But [many times] people never looked like their pictures. [Other times] people are just looking for matches and validation.”

And the list goes on. She also says her experiences with dating apps meant that people were simply “matching with her” but not reaching out or just ghosting her straight up. She was fed up with those experiences that left a bad taste in her mouth. She says it was also harder for her to date around as a bisexual woman. 

To other bisexual women in the dating, she would say, “Be picky with the guys you date and when and how you tell them you’re bi. I’m sure I’m not the only one to get ‘threesome?’ A lot of the time, too, I’ll tell a guy that I’m bi and that immediately sexualizes me [in their eyes] and they can’t see me in any other light.”

So she advises other women in similar situations to “just do what feels right to you at the moment. So if you don’t have a feel for this person right off the bat, maybe try to get to know them a little more and make sure it’s not someone who’s going to be ignorant [about you and your feelings. But also be yourself.” 

But despite her experience with dating in L.A., Valdez isn’t letting that make her completely close off. 

If Valdez meets someone and there’s a genuine connection, she says she’s not going to turn that down just because she’s married. 

“I put myself first. That’s what’s different after marriage. I’m someone who maybe prioritized my significant others too much, or above myself. And marrying myself was the first step in really changing that behavior,” she explains. “I am the most important. I will do right by me and if I’m right by me then I can do right by others. All that stuff. But I’m done with the meaningless casualties of dating. I don’t feel like putting effort into people who couldn’t care less about me. I just feel empty when I do that. So if something genuine and deep and real and meaningful comes, I won’t shut it down.” 

Cheers to that! 

Paid Promoted Stories