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If You Haven’t Dated One Of These Latino Boyfriends You Don’t Know What Amor Is

We’ve all come across these guys in our lifetime…

Mama’s Boy AKA El Chiqueado

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He always dropped hints that he wanted you to do things more like his mom. “Mi mamá lo cocina diferente.” He wanted you to be more so much like her, it was low-key Norman Bates kind of creepy.

El Celoso

He invited himself to girls’ night out because he didn’t trust you, much less your friends. He thought having your Facebook password was romantic. On top of that, you caught him looking at your phone more than twice. He claimed he was checking the time ?.

El Machista

#machomexicano #nowjade #entertainment #team

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He expected a home-cooked meal every single night. When he was around his friends he’d say things to try to prove he wore the pants, when he knew damn well that wasn’t the case. He talked to his friends about how he was a beast in bed when you both knew damn well he was a one-minute man.

El Presumido

#Casual #EstrenandoCarro ????

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He always talked about money or what he just bought. His car era del año. He was also oddly obsessed with how many Instagram followers he had and expected you to you look a certain way all the time so he could show you off like his trophy.

The Metro

His image was immaculate; eyebrows always done, he waxed his entire body and his outfits were worthy of a GQ cover. He complimented you a lot, but rarely initiated intimacy. Also, his man crush for Cristiano Ronaldo was a little too strong. He might’ve been gay…

The Pushover

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He never took charge. Waited for you to plan every date, every meal, every movie. You thought it was sweet at first, but you got tired he didn’t take charge at all. He also never stood up to your sassiness, which was respectful, but kind of petty at the same time. You need a team player, not a cheerleader.

The Good Boy

He went to church every Sunday without fail and the only show he watched was La Rosa de Guadalupe. He didn’t like to party, but went with you once in a while – to count your liquor. He never went past first-base because he wanted to respect you, AKA save himself for marriage. Hello! You gotta test drive the car before you buy it ??.

READ: That Moment When You’re Miraculously Blessed By el Airecito de la Rosa de Guadalupe

The Gym-Obsessed

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You never saw him during the week because he was at the gym pumping iron. You had to say good-bye to all the tacos, tortas, cake, everything you liked, but  gained weight because all you ate was protein. And low-key, you got sick of him wearing muscle shirts all the time and it was annoying dating someone who watched their figure more than you.

El Ranchero

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He was very in touch with nature – like his family’s ranch animals. He followed tradition to the extreme which was comforting at first, but you couldn’t handle no wi-fi, no social media, no Instagram – which meant you never would’ve been his #WCW – and that’s not something you were willing to settle with.

El Cholo

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You were attracted at first because he was so tough and cool looking, and you wanted to rebel against your parents. You quickly realized dating him was too thrilling for you to handle.

The Sweetheart

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You fell for him because he had a heart of gold, but then you realized it was bittersweet. He cried more than you and was overly sensitive. He might’ve said I love you at the end of your second date – you should’ve known it wasn’t a good sign.

READ: Expectations Guys Have of Their Latina GFs

Soccer Fanatic

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Every gift he got you involved a soccer jersey or tickets to a game – when he knew you didn’t even like soccer. You knew you were going to have a bad date when his Chivas lost. You suspected he loved your team more than he claimed to love you.

Telenovela Galán

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Everything was over-the-top: dramatic, romantic, passionate. He said the cheesiest things, but you couldn’t help but swoon every time you heard them. You loved hard and fought even harder, everything was so dramatic. He celebrated every month anniversary with a gift or special dinner even after 8 years of dating. Too much.

The perfect guy is a combination of all of these. Is that too much to ask?

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Latinas Shared The Movies And Shows That Made Them Feel Seen

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Latinas Shared The Movies And Shows That Made Them Feel Seen

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It’s no secret that over the past few decades, people of color worked to fight for equal representation on screens both big and small. While, of course, there have been great POC and LGTBQ relationships on television there’s really been a spike in the spectrum of representation since our early years watching television and learning about relationships.

Recently, we asked Latinas on Instagram what shows and movies featured their favorite most diverse couples.

And the answers threw us for a time loop!

Check them out below!


“Maria and Luis on Sesame Street.”- melissa_phillips71


“Whitney Houston and Kevin Costner is The Bodyguard, they reminded me of my parents and they loved to play the soundtrack.” –millenialmarta


“The leads in Someone Great, Jane and Michael the virgin and the lesbian relationship Gentrified. It’s been 30 years and I finally found characters I can relate to.” –allyss_abyss_

“Most definitely, “Brooklyn 99”: two female Hispanics as regulars and a white person playing a Hispanic (Andy Samberg’s character’s last name is Peralta, which is a Spanish surname).” – seadra2011

“Holt and Kevin(and Rosa Diaz) have changed the way people have perceived gay couples and gay people. Nine Nine!” –chaoticbiguy


“The first on-screen presence that made me feel seen/represented period was @justinamachado ‘s character on One Day At A Time. A Latina veteran struggling with her mental health while trying to juggle school, work, love, and family? And as a main character? Whew….“-vieja.metiche

“Taína! It was on Disney if I remember correctly?? Then @americaferrera in sisterhood of the traveling pants as Carmen. 😭❤️ her life was like mine. Growing up in suburbs but never really having a place culturally.. but my girlfriends still had my back no matter our background.” –chessy__a

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People Are Sharing Their Personal Experiences Of Feeling Shame Over Their Bisexuality And It’s Pretty Heartbreaking

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People Are Sharing Their Personal Experiences Of Feeling Shame Over Their Bisexuality And It’s Pretty Heartbreaking

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It’s no secret that more than most sexualities, the bisexual experience is often invalidated and largely stigmatized. Often times, people who are bisexual are forced to shoulder the social stigmas from partners, friends, and family who believe that they are hiding their homosexuality, are sexually promiscuous, and or more likely to spread sexually transmitted diseases.

Curious about the effects of the stereotypes, we scoured Reddit for personal experiences with the sense of shame some people feel attached to their bisexual identity.

Check out what we found in one thread below.

https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/4r4ha4/does_anyone_else_feel_shame/

So, I’m bi and finding some videos on the youtubes about bisexuality and started watching videos of people saying being bi doesn’t exist. I also noticed on some apps like grindr and a few others who seemed to have a ‘problem’ with my being bi for some reason. Which makes me feel bad about being bi :c

“I was really insecure about my sexuality for a long time… I still kinda am but I’m mostly ok with it Now. Sometimes I even love it. I’m not really ashamed of it anymore, I’m just incredibly introverted and very private so I’m not open to most people about it. It took me several years to come to terms with my sexuality and accept myself and I still struggle with it sometimes. I used to wish I could just be straight. But now I feel like if there was something I could do to make myself straight, I wouldn’t do it.”-Strawbeerylemonade

“No I don’t feel bad about who I am. If someone doesn’t like me for who I am, I don’t want to date them.”- EnLaSxranko

“There is a lot of misconceptions about us in the gay and straight community. I don’t feel shame but I feel awkward. No matter who I choose to be with I feel I need to explain. I’m currently in an amazing opposite gender relationship with a queer woman who I adore and we encounter bi-phobia. Today I kissed her at Pride. We are in love and queer.
I hold my relationships with my male partners in high regard and will never be ashamed that I loved them (because of their gender). So like it or not, as queer people my love for my girlfriend will be political. oh well. I’m used to it and so is she.”- torontomammasboy

“Kinda. I find it embarrassing for some reason, kinda like if I had a skin condition or something. I actually came out to my parents yesterday and they haven’t disapproved or anything but I feel really weird that they know now. Kinda exposed feeling. It’s weird. I also get the whole shame part. I don’t want to be public about my same sex attractions in the sense that they are almost purely sexual in nature. I would probably not date a guy. I’m ashamed I have sexual feelings for men but really wouldn’t date them (I could do a BFF with benefits thing but it wouldn’t be romantic at all and I don’t think I’d ‘fall in love’).”- CompartmentalizeMyBi

“I’m 25 and am currently having my homophobic mother staying with me until she finds her own place. I’ve came out to her a couple of years ago, but she dismissed it as “foolishness” and has basically been in denial about it ever since. I basically have to tip-toe around her if I want to have another guy in my own apartment. That combined with my own internalized homophobia and biphobia makes it hard not to feel ashamed of my own attractions.” – acethunder21

“No I do not feel any shame. Mostly because I actually don’t give myself any label at all. And why I don’t give myself one is because honestly, I hate labels. For jobs, for relationships, for sexuality. It all is just not something I want to deal with. Now I’m not saying that any of the the labels you give yourself aren’t any real to you. You’re reality is just as personal to you, as mine is to me. And I don’t want to get in the way of how you want to live. And that’s how everyone should really treat each other about their sexuality. I’m nearly 17, (6 days from now) and male. I’m in love with my first, and 7-month boyfriend. A lot of my friends and family know this, and I didn’t feel any different coming out about it to them than when they did not know. When wondering about your sexuality, learn it like you would playing an rpg game. Go out and explore, and find what you like, and make it yours. Hopefully my tired 1:30 am rant meant something. Have a happy night and 4th if your in the good ol’ U.S. Of A like me.”-PopsOnTheRox

“I stopped giving a f*** about what people think eons ago. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has them. Yours is the only one that should matter to you. Make yourself proud and you’ll find people respect and admire it.”-StroppyMantra

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