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She Drank and Smoked Weed at 12; Now She’s Finally Comfortable in Her Curves

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“You Can Fly Your Liberal Equal Flag, But Sh*t Isn’t Equal”

Paloma Elsesser, a writer, model, and student candidly shares her struggles with racial identity, body image, as well as alcohol and drug abuse as part of the “What’s Underneath Project” series by StyleLikeU. Oh, and she strips down to her chonies as part of the interview process, but don’t let that distract you.

At a young age Elsesser was diagnosed with ADD and began suffering from depression and anxiety. “I felt like a failure,” she admits. “My older brother passed away when I was 10 years old.  I grew up in a duplex with my grandmother…but it was always hard for me to focus even in my own environment because of my anxiety. I’m a perfectionist. I started drinking and smoking weed when I was 12 years old, I was still a kid. So, when you continue to do that up until the age of 19, you don’t really know who you really are.”

Today, she proudly boasts about her sobriety, and embraces her edgy fashion style from crop tops to short shorts. She admits that clothing is just a form of expression and hopes that young girls realize they don’t need to be a stick figure to be beautiful.

WATCH: The Power in Loving Your Naked Body

Video: A Young Woman Being Verbally Attacked And Called Fat By A Church Leader Is Going Viral On Twitter

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Video: A Young Woman Being Verbally Attacked And Called Fat By A Church Leader Is Going Viral On Twitter

The sense of entitlement that many people hold and believe they can use to shame and police women’s bodies is ceaseless. From airlines kicking women of color off of planes for what they wear to school teachers shaming their students for wearing clothing that might affect boys, it seems women cannot get a break in even the most unassuming spheres of their lives.

Even when it comes to safe spaces like places of worship.

Recently, one woman took to Twitter to share a video she’d captured of another woman who had followed her into a bathroom to tell her she was too fat to wear shorts to a church event.

The video captured by a Twitter user who goes by the name of Jenna, depicts her discomfort and humiliation as a woman berates her in their church bathroom for wearing shorts.

“This [woman] followed me into the bathroom and attacked me calling me ‘fat’ and that I couldn’t wear jean shorts because I was too fat,” Jenna wrote in a post about the incident which also shared the video.

In the video, the woman can be heard telling Jenna that she is “chubby” and needs to wear clothing that covers her legs. “So you’re sitting here calling me fat?” Jenna asks the woman while filming. “Oh, you don’t think you are?” the woman responds

Through tears, Jenna tells the woman “I [redacted] love who I am. Get the [redacted] out of my face.” 

Jenna also shared photos of herself in the outfit she had been wearing when she was verbally attacked.

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Jenna later explained that the woman also approached her at a time when she was already affected by something upseting.

Jenna, who also explained that she deals with depression and anxiety, said that if the woman had approached her two years before when she was younger she might have committed an act of self-harm.

Fortunately, what started out as a horrific moment caught in the bathroom, launched a parade of plus-sized people sharing love and pictures of themselves loving their bodies on Twitter.

Women on Twitter reached out to Jenna with pictures of themselves wearing shorts and it was the sweetest thing.

Now THIS is just the kind of bathroom behavior we need from women.

Seriously more of this.

Thankfully, Jenna’s church did not let the woman go unpunished for targeting her.

Hopefully, this church leader takes this as a learning lesson. We have the right to free speech in this country and we should use that privilege to say things that are profound, enlightening and uplifting. Punto.

This Popular Models Was Often Rejected From Swimsuit Jobs Because Of A Lunar On Her Hip But She Put Her Foot Down In Hopes Of Improving Mental Health In The Industry

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This Popular Models Was Often Rejected From Swimsuit Jobs Because Of A Lunar On Her Hip But She Put Her Foot Down In Hopes Of Improving Mental Health In The Industry

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The beauty and fashion world can be cruel. Muriel Villera would know. The swimsuit model has been in the industry for 10 years and has repeatedly been turned away from opportunities because of a birthmark on her thigh. But in one of her latest shoots, she didn’t just snag a major gig — the brand also fully embraced her body and skin — sans Photoshop.

“This entire shoot was a dream, but the fact that my birthmark wasn’t photoshopped out of any of the images just made it 10000000 times more incredible,” Villera, 28, wrote of her recent shoot for UK-based fashion retailer PrettyLittleThing on her Instagram.

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In the photo, the stunning Colombian model is donning a diamond- and rhinestone -gilded orange two-piece bathing suit that bares her slight dark pigmentation on her upper right thigh.

According to the Los Angeles-based beauty, the birthmark has cost her several gigs over the years. For the ones she landed, Villera said her skin was often edited.

“Booking a swimsuit job wasn’t the easiest and when it did happen, my birthmark would be completely edited out,” she told the Daily Mail.

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Rejections occurred so often that her team sometimes suggested her to take dangerous measures to remove the birthmark.

“My agents would ask me to buy any sort of make-up or bleaching creams to ‘fix’ it,” she said.

Regardless of being a beautiful model with tens of thousands of followers, the industry’s negative response to her skin made her “feel like it was such a curse.” That’s why she was so thrilled to work with PrettyLittleThings, which recently announced it would stop editing out all stretch marks, birthmarks, and scars from its models.

“Working with brands like PLT has given me hope, though, for the future of modeling and the mental health of those who work in the industry,” she said.

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While adoring her skin fully was a yearslong challenge, she said her birthmark is hers and she has grown to love it.

On her instagram, she left followers with a message she hopes will inspire them to similarly appreciate the parts of themselves that society has deemed less than perfect.

“Embrace everything about yourself. It’s kinda magical when you do,” she wrote.

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