“You Can Fly Your Liberal Equal Flag, But Sh*t Isn’t Equal”
Paloma Elsesser, a writer, model, and student candidly shares her struggles with racial identity, body image, as well as alcohol and drug abuse as part of the “What’s Underneath Project”series by StyleLikeU. Oh, and she strips down to her chonies as part of the interview process, but don’t let that distract you.
At a young age Elsesser was diagnosed with ADD and began suffering from depression and anxiety. “I felt like a failure,” she admits. “My older brother passed away when I was 10 years old. I grew up in a duplex with my grandmother…but it was always hard for me to focus even in my own environment because of my anxiety. I’m a perfectionist. I started drinking and smoking weed when I was 12 years old, I was still a kid. So, when you continue to do that up until the age of 19, you don’t really know who you really are.”
Today, she proudly boasts about her sobriety, and embraces her edgy fashion style from crop tops to short shorts. She admits that clothing is just a form of expression and hopes that young girls realize they don’t need to be a stick figure to be beautiful.
People are always going to have something to say, especially when it comes to celebrities and what they choose to post on social media or how they choose to live their lives. But what’s worse is when internet trolls decide to project their own insecurities onto female celebrities, in particular, in destructive ways.
People who would otherwise never make nasty comments about a women’s body or appearance in person and to their face, use the comments section on social media platforms to hide behind the keyboard and spread negativity. Singer, songwriter, and actor Demi Lovato has always had a complicated relationship with the public when it comes to unsolicited advice about her life choices and her body.
But it looks like she’s finally learning to be comfortable in her skin no matter what others say.
Last night, Lovato shared a gorgeous unedited photo of herself in a two-piece leopard print bathing suit.
However, it has people talking for other reasons. In the photo, Lovato can be seen looking over her shoulder walking out of a pool, and the cellulite on her legs visible. “This is my biggest fear,” Lovato said in her caption. “A photo of me in a bikini unedited. And guess what, it’s CELULLIT!!!”
Take notes, everybody. It’s no longer called “cellulite” — Lovato is helping us women reclaim that word and call it CELULLIT.
But Lovato’s message went deeper. She went on to write that she was so tired of being “ashamed” of her body and that she was done with editing photos of her body as well. She went on to state that she’s working on no longer caring about someone else’s idea of what beautiful means other than her own.
“I want this new chapter in my life to be about being authentic to who I am rather than trying to meet someone else’s standards,” Lovato wrote in her Instagram caption.
“So here’s me, unashamed, unafraid and proud to town a body that has fought through so much and will continue to amaze me when I hopefully give birth one day.” While she’s struggled with mental health issues, eating disorders, and addiction, Lovato has seemingly always been open with her fans about her journey through it all.
In July of 2018, the 27-year-old singer was hospitalized after an apparent overdose and went on a social media hiatus until she returned to Twitter to give fans a health update. “All my fans need to know is I’m working hard on myself, I’m happy and clean and I’m SO grateful for their support,” she wrote on Twitter on December 2018.
Lovato’s latest act of empowerment also comes two months after she clapped back at a troll who told her to go on a “diet” after paparazzi photos of her surfaced.
According to Pop Crush, back in July, an Instagram user posted a paparazzi shot of Lovato getting into a car after a workout and captioned it, “hey demi dm me so we can discuss a diet plan for you.”
Lovato wasn’t having it and replied to the unnecessary and rude comments that were made toward her. “I actually am choosing not to diet and fall back into unhealthy behaviors at the risk of losing my sanity or mental health but thank you for the offer! Super sweet,” she replied according to Pop Crush.
This incident, however, caused Lovato to take another break from social media.
But now she’s back and it looks like she’s taking a more positive approach and not paying any mind to the trolls — as it should be. Lovato went on to write in her caption that she feels great about being back in television and film while “not stressing myself with a strenuous workout schedule before 14 hour days, or depriving myself from a real birthday cake rather than opting for watermelon & whip cream with candles because I was terrified of REAL cake and was miserable on some crazy diet shit.”
We’re so glad she’s feeling better about not just her career, but her self and her body. If there’s anyone who deserves to feel their very best, it’s Lovato. At such a young age, she’s gone through so many life-altering experiences that we’re rooting for to finally find peace and feel the most comfortable in her own skin.
It’s also great to see the amount of support she received from fans and other celebrities sharing nothing but positive things on her photo.
Lovato ended her caption by saying that she hopes to inspire someone to appreciate their body today too. There’s no doubt that’s inspired us all.
The sense of entitlement that many people hold and believe they can use to shame and police women’s bodies is ceaseless. From airlines kicking women of color off of planes for what they wear to school teachers shaming their students for wearing clothing that might affect boys, it seems women cannot get a break in even the most unassuming spheres of their lives.
Even when it comes to safe spaces like places of worship.
Recently, one woman took to Twitter to share a video she’d captured of another woman who had followed her into a bathroom to tell her she was too fat to wear shorts to a church event.
The video captured by a Twitter user who goes by the name of Jenna, depicts her discomfort and humiliation as a woman berates her in their church bathroom for wearing shorts.
“This [woman] followed me into the bathroom and attacked me calling me ‘fat’ and that I couldn’t wear jean shorts because I was too fat,” Jenna wrote in a post about the incident which also shared the video.
In the video, the woman can be heard telling Jenna that she is “chubby” and needs to wear clothing that covers her legs. “So you’re sitting here calling me fat?” Jenna asks the woman while filming. “Oh, you don’t think you are?” the woman responds
Through tears, Jenna tells the woman “I [redacted] love who I am. Get the [redacted] out of my face.”
Jenna also shared photos of herself in the outfit she had been wearing when she was verbally attacked.
Jenna later explained that the woman also approached her at a time when she was already affected by something upseting.
Jenna, who also explained that she deals with depression and anxiety, said that if the woman had approached her two years before when she was younger she might have committed an act of self-harm.
Fortunately, what started out as a horrific moment caught in the bathroom, launched a parade of plus-sized people sharing love and pictures of themselves loving their bodies on Twitter.
Women on Twitter reached out to Jenna with pictures of themselves wearing shorts and it was the sweetest thing.
Now THIS is just the kind of bathroom behavior we need from women.
Seriously more of this.
Thankfully, Jenna’s church did not let the woman go unpunished for targeting her.
Hopefully, this church leader takes this as a learning lesson. We have the right to free speech in this country and we should use that privilege to say things that are profound, enlightening and uplifting. Punto.
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