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Next Time Someone Says Your Name Is Hard To Pronounce, Clap Back With One Of These Lines

We’ve all had people struggle to pronounce our names. We apologize for being too difficult and allow people to make their own pronunciations, but now poet Zachary Caballero is saying enough is enough. Enough with letting people butcher one of the few things in this world that is totally ours: our name.

So many of us have been too apologetic about having a “hard-to-pronounce” name.

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“I guess that it had to do with the fact that all of my friends were white. No, maybe that’s unfair,” Zachary Caballero says. “Okay. No. Actually, it’s because all of my friends were white!”

And, like many, Caballero was afraid to stand out at a young age, so he just went with it.

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“So I drowned out the voices; watched my honor stumble and be slain,” Caballero says. “Every time my name got dropped on its head I told myself, I told myself that was funny.”

He even shared the relatable story of trying to join in at the joke at your name’s expense.

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“Yes. It is all over the Taco Cabana bathrooms,” Caballero jokes sarcastically. “No. It doesn’t mean bathroom. You can just say Cab-A-Lero instead…if it’s easier.”

But Caballero argues that by doing that, we are disrespecting those who have come before us.

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“When he gave this name to my father to give to his son,” Caballero continued. “Pops! I apologize for all the times that I did not think twice, for all the times I refused to speak up, for all the times I did not protect what grandpa gave to you to give to me. Daddy, I am so sorry for being so selfish.”

And then, he offers up a little advice.

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“Let it scrape across your tongue like you are paving an ancient highway to take you somewhere you’ve never been,” Caballero tells the crowd.

Watch Caballero’s full poem below!


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Gender Is So Last Year And These Celebrities Know How To Expertly Play With Gender

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Gender Is So Last Year And These Celebrities Know How To Expertly Play With Gender

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Non-binary individuals, also known as genderqueer, encompasses a spectrum of gender identities that escape the traditional definitions of masculine and feminine. In short, their gender identity falls outside the man/woman gender binary, outside cisgender paradigms (cisgender refers to a person whose personal identity and gender both correspond to their birth sex). For years, genderqueer folks were forced to live in the shadows, either due to conservative social norms or due to lack of awareness of this identity.

Recently, a group of celebs have come out as non-binary and we think that’s fabulous. We can think, for example, of Australian model Ruby Rose (remember their steamy affair with Piper in “Orange is the New Black”? Just this month “Queer Eye”hairstylist extraordinaire Jonathan Van Ness came out as non-binary. He told OUT magazine: “The older I get, the more I think that I’m nonbinary — I’m gender nonconforming. Like, some days I feel like a man, but then other days I feel like a woman. I don’t really — I think my energies are really all over the place. Any opportunity I have to break down stereotypes of the binary, I am down for it, I’m here for it. I think that a lot of times gender is used to separate and divide. It’s this social construct that I don’t really feel like I fit into the way I used to. I always used to think ‘Oh, I’m like a gay man,’ but I think any way I can let little boys and little girls know that they can express themselves and they can like be.” This pretty much sums up what genderqueer identity is all about.

Because we celebrate identities of all forms, here are some genderqueer POC stars that make us proud and happy! Some of them have identified as genderqueer while others have broken the paradigms of cisnormativity. Bien por ellos, muy bien!

Rico Dalasam, the Brazilian rap dynamo

This Brazilian rap artist and former hairdresser has taken his genderqueer identity to powerful lyrics of political resistance. He told Vice: “All the marginal communities I’m a part of—young, black, gay—all of these identities are forced to be ashamed by the oppressor. But I’m the potential of resistance.” With a career that started in 2014, Rico Dalasam has achieved success thanks to his high couture looks and remorseless combative attitude.

Bad Bunny, the boricua marvel

Bad Bunny wears long nails and jewelry that would commonly be associated with a feminine aesthetic. As we have reported, he is unbothered by those who criticize his non-binary moda. He identifies as a straight man but finds inspiration in the queer community. He has talked about his fashion choices in a GQ interview: “There’s people that appreciate what I do; there’s people that criticize it,. There’s people who say, ‘Thank you for sticking up [for us], thank you for defending [this].’ There’s others that say I’m an opportunist.” Be what it may, Bad Bunny is challenging the role of masculinity in urban culture and in a musical genre, reggaeton, that is often criticized for its often sexist lyrics.

Valentina, global drag phenomenon

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“I identify as nonbinary,” Valentina told Out in an interview. “I don’t completely feel like a man, I don’t completely feel like a woman. I feel like a goddess. I feel like I’m my own gender.”

The “RuPaul’s Drag Race” superstar is one of the most recognizable faces in the drag world. We are so proud of the Latino representation Valentina has been able to bring to the drag world.

Aja, bruja extravaganza

Aja’s experience coming to terms with her gender identity was a long one.

“When I was 18, I actually lived as a trans woman for almost a year,” Aja told Them. “I thought I was trans, and then I learned through the education of the queer community about being non-binary, genderqueer, and all these different [identities]. I realized that I do feel like a woman, but I feel comfortable in my body. I don’t feel the need to change anything. I don’t feel the need to appear more feminine to society’s standards.”

Amandla Stenberg, from “The Hunger Games” to queer advocate

This amazing African-American young actress openly uses they/them as pronouns. She came out as non-binary on Tumblr (before she came out to her family!), by writing: “I honestly don’t know… I mean they/them makes me feel comfortable but I know that the media and the general populace that follows me will critique it/not understand which makes me feel sad and almost more uncomfortable. So I guess she/her for now”. Not in the cisgender closet anymore, dear Amandla! 

Liniker Barros, the Brazilian soul star

Samba and Latin rhythms find a nice home in the tender voice of this musical prodigy. Liniker is the lead singer if the band Liniker and the Caramelows, and many of their lyrics focus on the joy and tribulations of those who are not cisgender. They told the Spanish newspaper El Pais: “Why should I wear jeans and a T-shirt and present myself as just a voice? My body is political. I need to show my audience what I’m living.” Liniker is well aware of the fact that they represent a wider community. They told Now: “[My] visibility as a singer helps me occupy spaces that aren’t the usual ones for trans women. That representation is so important. Brazil remains a very transphobic, chauvinist, racist country, with a lot of hate speech. When a trans woman takes the stage, that alone is political.”

Angel Haze, rapping for freedom

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Born Raykeea Raeen-Roes Wilson, this rap artist identifies as pansexual and agender. Angel Haza has said: “I sound like four people when I get written about as ‘they.’ It drives me crazy. If you call me ‘him’ or ‘her’ it doesn’t matter to me. I don’t consider myself of any sex. I consider myself an experience.” Quite an interesting and revolutionary approach! Angel Haze used to date Ireland Baldwin, the daughter of Kim Basinger and Alec Baldwin. 

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Beauty Buys That Will Help You Support Pride

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Beauty Buys That Will Help You Support Pride

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It’s Pride Month, mi gente which means that if you’ve been slacking on your support of the LGBTQ+ community its time to whip out your wallets and support! This year, we searched for beauty brands that are supporting beauty brands, not just with pretty packaging but actual action.

To celebrate Pride, check out brands that are using your buys to support Pride Month.

Marc Jacobs Beauty

Marc Jacobs Beauty Enamored (with Pride) line includes six new shades of its bestselling Enamored Lip Lacquer. The new line includes fun shades like Coming Out, Dancing Sheen, Hips Don’t Lie, Pink-Kiki, and Wet Your Lips.

Each gloss is available in Marc Jacob’s limited-edition rainbow packaging. For each purchase made, proceeds will be donated to the LGBTQ organization SAGE which works to support older members of the LGBT community

Check it out here.

Glamnetic Power Lash

Glamnetic is dedicating 30% of all proceeds from its new Power Lash set donated to the Los Angeles LGBT Center. The rainbow lashes are made for easy wear and feature a magnetic band that attaches to the brand’s magnetic liner.

Check it out here.

Vaseline

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Superdrug, had pared up with Vaseline’s parent company Unilever to produce Pride versions of their beloved iconic products including your lips’ beloved Vaseline!

Check it out here.

Algenist Genius Liquid Collagen Lip

This vegan favorite comes packaged with a rainbow-decorated box to celebrate Pride. What’s more, Alegenist has pledged to support Pride by donating to organizations like The Marsha P. Johnson Institute and LGBTQ+ Freedom Fund.

Check it out here.

Bliss Makeup Melt Wipes

Stay glam while wiping off your makeup with Blizz wipes that are loaded with amazing skin products like chamomile, cucumber, and aloe. The brand is donating 100% of the proceeds of their melt wipes to The Trevor Project.

Check it out here.

Bouclème

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For every one of Bouclème’s Curl Defining Gel bottle bought, the brand is donating 10% the money to AKT, an organization that works with young people who are having to endure hostile homes.

Check it out here.

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