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Hold the Diamond Ring – Here’s Why I’d Never Marry in My 20s

Why in the world would anyone get married while in their 20s? Our 20s are a time for self-exploration and self-discovery; not a time to get hitched and get dragged by someone who isn’t on the same page. Next time your nosey tía asks you why you aren’t married yet, just let her know…

Traditions were mead to be broken.

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We’re no longer considered a cotorro/a if we’re not married with three kids by 23. What’s the rush anyway?

Marriage? I don’t even know what I want for dinner, much less who I want to marry.

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Some of us don’t know what we’re doing after college – and that’s totally cool. It takes time to figure out what we want to do the rest of our life and marriage is the same. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person? Let me think about it…

I’m not a DNB. I want my Bachelors, Masters, PhD and a bunch of other things.

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I mean, we just graduated and we’re thirsty to learn more. Who has time for an s/o AND 25-page papers?

Also, I’m trying to build my empire here.

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We aren’t gold-diggers, we’re waiting until we can fully support ourselves first.


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I’m using this time to become the badass I was meant to be.

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Now is the time to try that new hair style. Maybe start a new diet or plan how we’re going to rule the world? Doesn’t matter. This is our time.

Oh and I need to put my ❤️ first.

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Well said, Demi.

The time to experiment is n o w.

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Sexually, career-wise, hair color, all of it. We will experiment and own it. We’re going to live it up, baby.

It’s also time to be selfish and do us, boo!

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Before having a spouse and children demanding all our attention and help, I’m going to do me.


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I want to see the world, damnit.

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All that money it would cost to have a wedding can be better used exploring this rock we all live on. Cancun, anyone?

I haven’t recovered from the last breakup. Can I get a break?

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Let’s be honest, very few people are emotionally stable in their 20s. That’s why waiting to get married is probably best.

I’m still trying to figure out life, let alone in-laws.

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We all know the stories of terrifying in-laws making life hell. Yeah, let’s wait on that.


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The Dominican Republic Finally Outlaws Child Marriage After Years of Campaigning by Girls’ Rights Activists

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The Dominican Republic Finally Outlaws Child Marriage After Years of Campaigning by Girls’ Rights Activists

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Outside of the U.S., some good news has occurred amidst a week that has otherwise been full of mayhem and chaos.

On Wednesday, the Dominican Republic’s Executive Branch approved a law that unilaterally bans child marriage in its country.

In the past, children younger than 18 were allowed to marry with a special exemption from a judge. These exemptions happened often. Now, no woman or man under the age of 18 are allowed to marry under any circumstances in the Dominican Republic.

This move is significant because the Dominican Republic has the highest rates of child marriage in Latin America and the Caribbean. Official government figures show that 36% of Dominican girls and adolescents marry or enter into “unions” before the age of 18. In 12% of these relationships, the female partner was less than 15 years old.

More informal “unions” where a girl simply moves into an older man’s household are also common in the DR. These are very common in higher poverty communities where many girls are considered a financial burden on their families. Unions like these will be harder to penalize because there is no formal documentation of their partnership.

There are multiple factors that play into the Dominican Republic’s high child marriage rate.

One of the main factors is the culture of machismo that informs the way that young men and women approach relationships.

According to research conducted by Plan International, 81% of Dominican girls said they preferred men that were five years older than them. This statistic is in stark contrest to 39% of Dominican men who prefer their partners 18 or younger because they found them more “obedient” and “adaptable”.

Not only that, but there is also a strong cultural expectation for girls and women to become mothers and wives. These cultural beliefs have simply stoked the practice of child marriage.

“Child marriage and early unions are seen as normal in society. It is driven by machismo that sees the role of a woman to be just a mother and wife,” said Rosa Elcarte, UNICEF’s representative in the Dominican Republic, to the Thomson Reuters Foundation. “Ending early unions will require years of work to change cultural norms.”

Feminists and human rights activists consider this law a win after many years campaigning to put an end to this practice.

But on a bittersweet note, many advocates realize that one law doesn’t dismantle the patriarchal structure of their culture that enabled this practice for so long. There is still a lot of work to be done.

“Our girls and adolescents will be protected … and cannot be forced into marriage in their childhood or adolescence, which in the past was often carried out by parents and legally allowed,” said Sonia Hernandez, an associate director of the International Justice Mission, in a statement to NBC News.

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Barack Obama Opened Up About How The White House Strained His Marriage To Michelle— “my heart would suddenly tighten”

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Barack Obama Opened Up About How The White House Strained His Marriage To Michelle— “my heart would suddenly tighten”

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In Barack Obama’s newest 768 page memoir, A Promised Land, the former president sheds some light on his covetable marriage to his wife Michelle Obama. In the honest memoir, the former president recalls the moments that threatened the strength of his marriage to the former first lady recalling how he consulted with his wife about running for president when it was already too late; he’d already done quite a bit of work without telling her.

“She gave me a hard look and got up from the couch. ‘God, Barack…When is it going to be enough?'” Obama explained in the memoir. “Before I could answer, she’d gone into the bedroom and closed the door.”

Speaking about their marriage in the memoir and with People Magazine for a new interview, Obama explains how his role as president created a rift in their relationship that he thought was once impossible to repair.

Obama explains that his time in the White House was wracked with marital tension.

“Michelle very much believed in the work I did but was less optimistic about what I could get done. … She’s more skeptical about politics and more mindful of the sacrifices to the family,” he revealed.

Still, Obama says “I think we came out of it whole… There were great joys in the White House. There was never a time where we didn’t recognize what an extraordinary privilege it was to be there. Most importantly, our children emerged intact and they are wonderful, kind, thoughtful, creative — and not entitled — young women. So that’s a big sigh of relief.”

In an interview with People, Obama opened up about the part his role as president had on affecting the happiness of his wife and the former first lady.

People describes politics as “a blood sport” which Michelle Obama always hated and how Obama’s “preternatural ease” contributed to the feelings of loneliness she felt while in the White House.

“There were times where I think she was frustrated or sad or angry but knew that I had Afghanistan or the financial crisis to worry about,” Obama explaned, “so she would tamp it down.”

Addressing a passage in his latest memoir, Obama recalled “There were nights when lying next to Michelle in the dark, I’d think about those days when everything between us felt lighter when her smile was more constant and our love less encumbered,” he writes, “and my heart would suddenly tighten at the thought that those days might not return.”

Fortunately, People asked if they ever found their way back to those days.

“We did,” Obama told the magazine. “It was like a big exhale right after we left office… It took some time to talk about how she had felt… Once [the presidency] was done, there was possibility of her opening up … but more importantly, just her being able to let out a breath and relax.”

Obama shared that these days the former First Lady is “more relaxed and more joyful since we left office.” The resulting effect has been that it has allowed the Obamas “to just enjoy the deep love that comes with a marriage this long. But also to be friends again.”

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