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7 Things Many Latina Moms Think Take Your Virginity

Look, we know our moms just want what’s best for us. But too often, that means trying to protect us from reality (and, you know, SEX) instead of really informing us about it. Moms, dime la verdad: Wouldn’t you rather we learn this stuff from you than from TV or some pimple-faced Fulano down the road?

One thing our moms seem all too fond of is warning us that everything and anything can take our virginity before The Big Wedding Night. (I mean… LOLOLOLOLOLOL, ok.)

For example…

Riding Bikes

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Now you have to legally marry your bicicleta, mijita. Que pena.

Horseback Riding

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? ? ?  ? ? ?

Using Tampons

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And just wait until your mom finds out about cups.

Participating In Most Sports

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Because being healthy and active is bad for you. Obviously.

Performing Splits

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*rrrrriiiip*

And Going To The Gynecologist

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This one is doubly annoying. Why create fear around the person responsible for your reproductive health?

And then there’s the biggest myth about virginity that moms seem to perpetuate:

That it exists.

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Virginity itself is a social construct. And the state of your hymen isn’t actually a great indicator of whether or not you’ve had sex. Seriously, click that link and watch Laci Green’s video — it clears up a lot of misconceptions about hymens. Also, it includes this moment:

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Plus, placing a ton of value on virginity can cause damaging (and often culturally specific) expectations:

Virginity is typically the most important for women to keep and for men to get rid of. Men are praised for losing their virginity young, and women are supposed to stay “pure” until a socially acceptable moment (old enough, besides a legal sense, in a committed relationship where one is “in love” and for the sole purpose of pledging your love and devotion to one’s partner). Women are labeled as easy, desperate or damaged if they lose it any way other than that socially acceptable moment. In some cultures, women who aren’t virgins when they marry can be exiled or even killed, particularly for shaming their families. Virginity is a sign of purity. And not being pure when you marry in many societies brings shame and dishonor to your family, even if you were raped.

So moms’ (and dads’ and abuelas’) panic over “maintaining” virginity ends up causing more harm than good, because it spreads misinformation and treats virginity as a state of being pure that must be maintained at all costs.

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Instead of placing virginity (and an intact hymen) above all else, let’s start encouraging one another to talk more openly about sexual health, consensual sex and how to have sex safely and pleasurably.

Maybe it’s time we sat down with our moms and had The Talk.


READ: Not To Be Dramatic, Pero Like, Cubans Need To Have More Sex Or We’ll Go Extinct

What other sex myths did you grow up with? Did you ever tell your mom, like, “hey, you’re wrong”?

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Former ‘Teen Wolf’ Star Tyler Posey Admits That He Has Gone to ‘Sex Parties’ During the Pandemic

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Former ‘Teen Wolf’ Star Tyler Posey Admits That He Has Gone to ‘Sex Parties’ During the Pandemic

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Sounds like Tyler Posey isn’t taking social distancing too seriously! The actor recently revealed that he attended a “sex party” in recent weeks–smack dab in the middle of a global pandemic.

The “Teen Wolf” star talked about his sex party experience while being interviewed by Sirius XM’s “The Jason Ellis Show”.

The Mexican-American actor started the interview by being candid about his sobriety journey, saying he hadn’t been as social recently because he “went through a rough patch”. But, he has since changed his ways. “I’m sober now,” he revealed. “I’m 71 days sober.”

Posey then gave an example of how deeply uninterested he is in doing drugs now. “I was at a party the other night where they had a table of cocaine, just a table,” he said. “And they had Holy water, which was shots with Molly in it, and mushroom chocolate. And I didn’t give a s— at all.”

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When Ellis asked him what kind of party this was, the “Jane the Virgin” actor admitted that it was a “sex party” where “people were hired to perform”.

Yes, Posey attended a sex party in the middle of a pandemic. Doesn’t exactly scream “safe”. Posey went on to explain that, although he did not have sex with any of the guests at the party this time, he had done so before.

“I have been to other sex parties, one other one, where it was like, uh….and I was like…” at this point, he broke into giggles before continuing. “I wasn’t part of the people who work there, but I was doing it.”

Tyler Posey has been making headlines recently for a myriad of reasons. In August, he came out on his Instagram page while condemning violence against trans women.

“I’ve been with trans women before. I’m confident with my sexuality,” he said in a wide-ranging series of Instagram stories. “I love everybody. I don’t give a s— what anyone thinks about me.”

Not only that, but Posey joined OnlyFans in September, where he has been further opening up about his sexuality and showing off his body for his fans.

While we’re all about being sex-positive and we’re happy that Posey is finding himself, any types of large gatherings right now are risky to public safety. And the likelihood that people were wearing masks at a sex party is…low. Let’s just hope they were safe in other ways!

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Users Shared The Best Sex Advice They Ever Got And Get Ready For Some Fun!

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Users Shared The Best Sex Advice They Ever Got And Get Ready For Some Fun!

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So you’re in quarantine, holed up at home all day, and the sex (either with your partner or quarantine buddy) is getting tedious. Likely this has nothing to do with your mate but a whole heck of a lot do with your current pandemic stress. And we get it, having sex under pressure (particularly when every day is uncertain) can be kind of a hard thing to do.

Fortunately, we came across a few threads on Reddit with some helpful tips not only on how to spice things up, but also how to do things the right way.

Check out some of the best pieces of sex advice Reddit users have received below.

“Sister in-law told us to ditch the PJs and sleep naked. Frequency of sex increased almost immediately.” – Smartyandfarty

“There was a story on reddit where this guy said a girl his dad pointed out was out of his league abd the dad said something like ‘Son, let her decide if she won’t fuck you.’ Pretty good advice.” – Pakyul

“Cut your finger nails.”- Reddit user=

“Making it fun is usually the answer to whatever happens in bed.” – TalkingFromTheToilet

“70-year-old give-no-fucks biology teacher at a Catholic High School: ‘Ladies never trust the man. Use a diaphragm.'” –kalechipsyes

“I tell my kids, “If you think getting a condom ruins the mood, imagine what a crying baby will do for it.” – AFuddyDuddy

“Tell him exactly what you want him to do – a guy I was casually seeing. After two long term relationships (3 Years & 4 years) with 0 orgasms, this little tip made orgasms regular with my current BF. Seems obvious, but I know lots of other women who have experienced something similar.” – FluffyRadcliffe

“Always use a condom, otherwise you have an accident and have to name it.” –Drulock

“Stop trying to **** **** like they do in porn. Find your own style and comfort level and it’s a win/win. I used to be so awkward and now I actually enjoy doing it. Also enjoying it is half the battle. Men like it much more when there’s some enthusiasm!”- Daisy716

“No teeth, lots of slobber, make it look really fun, and do it for him regularly.” – Girlwhofliesoften

“Don’t be afraid to discuss what you like and don’t like in bed, including weird kinks. Never gonna live that fantasy out of your partner doesn’t even know about it.” – EpicBlinkstrike187

“Strap on. Get one.” – pancakemixes

“Yo, imma let you finish, but the spiderman finger position is the best fingering position of all time!” –FlowersOfSin

“I suggest looking at the lyrics to the song “lick it” by God-des and She. Have fun.” – sugartea

“I’m a woman and I recognize this might seem self explanatory to others but to me it took some talking out. Move! Literally just move! Friction feels good and a lot of men will be very surprised and impressed if you actively participate in the sexing, by moving your hips back and forth, touching them, etc. Surprise! Men like a partner that doesn’t lay there like a fish! I regrettably used to lay very still and let him “have his way with me”. While sexy in theory, no one wants to fuck a dead fish. My ex-boyfriend gave me this advice while we were fucking.” – ExoticNoodle

“Start very slowly and look at her the whole time.”- IngridDruslan

“You have to feel it out. There is no tutorial for sex. It’s practice. The best thing that you can do is to do what you might want done to you, at the same time take in how she’s enjoying it. The no.1 thing that’s horny about sex is the getting to know each other. I’ve been in situations where I had no clue what I was doing when I was young but my energy was enough to make them cum, if not my skill. Just feel it out.”- gemaliasthe1st

“My only tip is to not take it so seriously. If you fumble or feel awkward, just laugh about it. Have fun and take it easy. Even if neither of you orgasm, the important part is that you both enjoy it.” – astroboletos

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