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Latino Relationship Goals vs. Reality

It’s a sad reality.

Expectation: You have a fancy night on the town.

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Reality: You make a pitstop at Leo’s Taco Truck. Really though, could a five-star meal beat that al pastor?

Expectation: You have a romantic night watching novelas.

#friends #novelanight #huelesmal

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Reality: You fall asleep while he watches his favorite futból team.

READ: Expectations Guys Have of Their Latina GFs

Expectation: You totally get each other all the time.

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Reality: He doesn’t get Instagram, therefore he doesn’t get you.

Expectation: He proposes on your anniversary!

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Reality: He doesn’t know what day it is.

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READ: These Latino Boyfriends are the Best Thing We Never Had

Expectation: You take a romantic getaway.

#love#liebe#halfyear#vacacionesconminovio#wantback#bestholiday#greattime#040314#danke#ichliebedich ??

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Reality: You end up just sleeping at his mom’s for the weekend. “¡Mira, staycations son populares!”

Expectation: You talk out all your issues.

#muchachaitalianavieneacasarse #joseron (@joseron3) #liviabrito (@liviabritopes)

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Reality: You accidentally-on-purpose threw a book at him (which he obviously deserved).

Expectation: You go jogging together every morning.

Us for our afternoon jog ? #nike #joggingcouple

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Reality: Occasionally you run…after the elotero. “¡Esperate!

Expectation: You diet as a couple.

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Reality: Chipotle burritos. Again. (On the upside, having kale as a common enemy has really brought you closer).

Expectation: You go to a party and burn up the dance floor, stunning all with your mad skills!

#lovethem #DanielyDesiree #bachata #nohayimposibles ???? @syziuromina

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Reality: You skip the party and dance tipsy alone in your apartment. Way more fun, anyway!

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Latinos On Twitter Share Their Most Brutal Tales Of Rejection And Some Of The Stories Will Shock You

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Latinos On Twitter Share Their Most Brutal Tales Of Rejection And Some Of The Stories Will Shock You

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If there’s a universal human experience that unites all of humanity, it’s that we’ve all had to deal with rejection at some point or another. It’s impossible to live your life without shooting your shot when the time comes, whatever your shot may be. 

But unfortunately, not everyone can be successful 100% of the time. From contests to job opportunities, to romantic endeavors, all of us have been subject to discovering that not everyone thinks we’re as great as we think we are. Rejection, unfortunately, is a necessary part of life.

On Saturday, Twitter user @Eden_Eats asked her followers to share the stories of their “harshest rejection”.

Quickly, @Eden_Eats’s tweet about being epically friend-zoned got almost 4,000 retweets and almost 65,000 likes. All sorts of people responded to her post with stories one-upping each other on the various humiliating ways they’d been rejected. As people continued to share all the ways they’ve been let down, the tweet quickly started trending.

As usual, Twitter users jumped at the chance of publicly roasting themselves.

But, in all honesty, there’s something cathartic in sharing your emotional scars with the public. Misery loves company, right?

What was possibly most surprising about these tweets is all of the creative ways people came up with to tell others they’re not interested. Why couldn’t a simple “no, thanks” suffice?

The stories Twitter users shared ranged from the bad…

Ouch. It’s one thing to be rejected once. It’s an entirely different story to be rejected 14 times. 

To the ugly…

The upside to many of these stories is that the posters obviously dodged a bullet by getting out of these relationships. Even if this woman’s fiance didn’t buy a house without telling her, he was obviously not very skilled in the communication department in the first place.

To the downright horrifying.

Unfortunately, the rejections that are the most painful and linger for the longest time are the ones that happen during your childhood. When you’re young, you’re already impressionable. When you add a giant dose of rejection to the mix during your formative years, the experience can stick with you. 

Naturally, Latinos of Twitter hopped on the bandwagon to share their harshest stories of rejection.

Sometimes, sharing your painful memories makes you feel less alone. Reading stories about how everyone goes through the same crappy experiences and how so many of them overcame their previous pain is a beacon of light to many people. When you’re rejected, it can be easy to feel like you’re the most unwanted person in the world. The popularity of this topic on Twitter proved that this couldn’t be less true.

This Latino felt rejected after his online love interest ghosted him for being honest about his mental health journey.

Being vulnerable and honest upfront is the best way to weed out the people in your life who don’t belong there. 

This Latina was left confused after she acted on what ended up being mixed signals

Haven’t we all been in that situation where we were sure someone liked us and we ended up getting it all wrong? This girl is not alone. 

This Latina shared the saga of her boyfriend who left her for another woman with “bigger boobs”

We wish we could feel bad for all of these people, but some of them so obviously dodged a bullet that we’re happy for them. 

This Latina’s boyfriend moved her out of his place while she was SLEEPING.

The craziest thing about some of these stories is that the person doing the rejection is often too cowardly to tell the other person to their face.

This girl’s crush rejected her without even having to look at her.

Leave it to a middle school boy to do something like this. This boy joins the long list of men who have chosen a video game over a girl. 

Of course, some people have had their harshest rejection experiences from their career paths:

Dedicating your life to creative work is a surefire way to experience more rejection than the average person. But the beauty of rejection is, there’s always something better for you waiting on the other side. Nothing and no one should be in your life if it doesn’t want to be there. 

Isabela Merced Is Making a Seamless Transition From Child Star to Pop Star with Her New Single “Papi”

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Isabela Merced Is Making a Seamless Transition From Child Star to Pop Star with Her New Single “Papi”

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Say goodbye to Dora the Explorer–at least for now. Isabela Merced, formerly known as Isabela Moner, has reinvented herself from child star to bonafide pop singer. On Wednesday, Merced debuted the music video for her new single “Papi”, a girl-power anthem that’s inspired by “salsa, reggaeton, cumbia, and bachata”. According to Merced, she hopes the song will get the message across to womanizing men that they should “treat ladies with the respect they deserve”.

The new music video is impressive not only because it shows a more grown-up version of Merced (who we’ve seen since her Nickelodeon days) but also because it celebrates her Peruvian culture. In the video, we see Merced dressed in both American and Peruvian-style clothes, dancing to choreography that is reminiscent of stand American hip-hop moves as well as the traditional Peruvian dance known as the Marinera. Merced, for her part, is proud of the aesthetic her newest music video embodies: “I want to introduce everyone to the rich culture of my family’s heritage,” she said in a recent interview with Teen Vogue.

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The transformation from Nickelodeon actor to superstar in the making was arguably kickstarted with Isabela’s decision to change her last name from “Moner” to “Merced”.

After all, 2019 has been a very big year for Merced. Not only did she star in the blockbuster film “Dora and the Lost City of Gold”, but she also revealed that her mother has been  privately battling breast cancer. According to Merced, the decision to change her last name came from the desire to honor family–especially her Peruvian heritage. The name Merced comes from her late grandmother, Yolanda Merced Salazar Pittman. “I believe some force, throughout all these years, has been giving my mom the strength and determination to guide me,” she told Refinery29. “I feel as though if that guardian angel would be anyone, it would be my grandma.”

So, while some child actors struggle to make the transition from child entertainer to serious adult actor, Merced makes the entire process look easy. While the music video for “Papi” has its sultry moments, it doesn’t seem to be trying too hard to prove anything. Yes, there’s a love interest who makes an appearance in the video–but the entire song isn’t just devoted to a man. “’Papi’ is empowering to girls. [It] has sass and confidence,” she says. With lyrics like “Or did I forget to mention?/Don’t like frivolous affection/I don’t want it on the first date or third date…I’m never gonna call you papi/Even if it makes you happy,” the song celebrates to independent women of the world who refuse to change themselves to make a man happy. 

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According to Merced, the bilingual bop is just the beginning of her exploring the world of Spanish-language music. 

Merced, who was born to a Peruvian mother and a white American father, has previously been candid about growing up bilingual in a multicultural household. “I want my music to represent who I am…I grew up with a white dad and a Latinx mom, who was an immigrant. That is who I am. It’s okay to be a mix…Us mixed kids have a place in this society, and Spanglish songs do as well,” she told Refinery29.

It’s refreshing to see such representation for multicultural Latinos who grew up in a multi-racial family. The reality is, many Latinos feel equally comfortable speaking two languages, especially if one parent is non-Latino. According to the Pew Center for research, almost 7% of Americans identify as mixed-race, and that number will continue to grow. In other words: Isabela Merced is definitely onto something.

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Of course, Merced’s fans have been going crazy on Twitter over her Latina-and-proud music video.

Like Christina Aguilera before her, this child star is embracing all aspects of her identity and people are pumped.

Peruvians are 100% here for Merced showing some love for their country:

It’s always exciting to see your culture recognized in the media.

This Peruvian sees the music video as a beautiful “tribute”:

You can definitely feel the love that went into the making of this music video purely from its attention to detail. 

Many people are praising “Papi” for supporting bilingual and multiracial representation:

A lot of people don’t recognize that there’s no one “right” way to be Latinx. For many Latinos in America, Spanglish is a way of life. 

Of course, there are also the stans who are just in awe of Isabela Merced’s raw talent:

Seriously, is there anything this girl can’t do? We’ll wait.